Thoughts on Becoming a Proper Kind of Man
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Duane from Dry Creek Wrangler School shares his insights on the first day of fall classes and the importance of being a good man. With nearly 100,000 subscribers, he plans a special video with his mother. Duane discusses a unique cigar with pipe tobacco, emphasizing its quality. He offers five pieces of advice for young men to become 'men among men': be a good man, be dangerous (in a protective sense), be educated, be calm, and be wise. He stresses the importance of proactive goodness, self-education, maintaining calmness, and applying wisdom judiciously. Duane's message is a call to action for personal growth and societal contribution.
Takeaways
- 🌳 The video is set on the first day of fall classes at Dry Creek Wrangler School, indicating the start of a new educational session.
- 🌧️ Duane mentions moving indoors due to rain, highlighting the unpredictable nature of weather and the need for adaptability.
- 📈 The channel is nearing 100,000 subscribers, showing steady growth and engagement with the audience.
- 👨👩👧👦 Duane's mother will participate in a future video when they reach the milestone, emphasizing family involvement and community.
- 🎉 The community is encouraged to submit questions for Duane's mother, fostering interaction and a sense of inclusion.
- 🚬 Duane discusses a unique cigar that blends pipe tobacco with cigar tobacco, indicating an appreciation for quality and variety.
- 🧠 He emphasizes the importance of being a good man, defining it as proactive kindness and care towards others.
- 💪 The concept of being a 'dangerous man' is introduced, meaning being capable of protection, not being a threat.
- 📚 Duane advises becoming educated by reading and learning from influential figures like Jocko Willink and Jordan Peterson.
- 😐 He stresses the importance of calmness, suggesting it leads to clearer thinking and better conflict resolution.
- 👍 Lastly, Duane encourages viewers to be wise, applying knowledge appropriately and choosing when to speak to maximize impact.
Q & A
What is the occasion Duane is referring to at the beginning of the script?
-The occasion is the first day of classes for the fall session at Dry Creek Wrangler School.
Why did Duane decide to move the video recording to the barn?
-Duane moved the video recording to the barn because it started raining again, and they needed a dry location to record.
What milestone is Duane's channel approaching, and what is his plan for celebrating it?
-Duane's channel is approaching 100,000 subscribers. His plan to celebrate is to do a video together with his mother, who will join him and they will answer questions from the audience.
What unique cigar is Duane smoking in the video, and what makes it special?
-Duane is smoking a unique cigar called 'Steel Well, Navy Number 1056'. It is special because it contains pipe tobacco incorporated into the cigar tobacco, giving it hints and notes of pipe tobacco flavor.
Who developed the cigar that Duane is smoking, and what is significant about its creation?
-The cigar was developed by Steve Saka of Dunbarton, along with another individual. It is significant because it successfully combines pipe tobacco with cigar tobacco without the issues typically found in such hybrids, like excessive sweetness or poor quality tobacco.
What advice does Duane give for young men to become a man among men?
-Duane gives five pieces of advice: 1) Work on being a good man by being proactive and caring for others. 2) Be a dangerous man, meaning capable of protecting those around you without being a threat. 3) Become educated by constantly learning and reading. 4) Be calm by eliminating stressors and maintaining a peaceful demeanor. 5) Be wise by knowing how to apply knowledge and speaking when it is beneficial.
How does Duane define a 'good man', and what is the difference between being good and just not being evil?
-Duane defines a 'good man' as someone who is proactive in doing good, not just someone who avoids evil. He emphasizes that the absence of evil does not automatically indicate goodness; one must actively do positive things to be considered good.
What does Duane mean by being a 'dangerous man', and how does it relate to being a good man?
-Duane means that being a 'dangerous man' is about having the capability and willingness to protect others, not being a threat. It relates to being a good man because to do good, one may sometimes need to protect people, which requires being dangerous in the sense of being capable of defense.
What role does education play in Duane's advice for personal development?
-Education plays a significant role as Duane advises to continuously learn and read, emphasizing that the brain is a muscle that grows stronger with use. He suggests following and learning from knowledgeable figures like Jocko Willink and Jordan Peterson.
How does Duane suggest achieving and maintaining calmness in one's life?
-Duane suggests achieving calmness by eliminating stressors such as negative news, toxic relationships, and excessive caffeine and sugar intake. He also recommends finding calming activities and being mindful of how one approaches conflict, entering it with a calm and logical mindset.
What does Duane mean by 'be wise', and how does it apply to daily life?
-Duane means that wisdom is not just about knowledge, but knowing how to apply it appropriately. In daily life, this means speaking when it is beneficial, not just for the sake of speaking, and being a quiet, observant person who contributes positively and at the right time.
Outlines
🌳 Starting the Fall Session at Dry Creek Wrangler School
The video begins with Duane from Dry Creek Wrangler School greeting viewers on September 4th, the first day of fall classes. Initially, they planned to film outside but moved to a barn due to rain. Duane mentions the school's growing online presence, nearing 100,000 subscribers, and plans to celebrate this milestone with a video featuring his mother. He invites viewers to ask questions for her in the comments. Duane also discusses a unique cigar he's smoking, which contains pipe tobacco, and shares his appreciation for it. He then transitions into giving advice to young men, emphasizing the importance of being a good man and providing five key points for personal development.
🛡️ Becoming a Good and Dangerous Man
Duane elaborates on his advice for young men, focusing on the importance of being a good man. He clarifies that being good is not just the absence of evil but involves proactive kindness and care for others. He uses examples such as helping neighbors and showing concern for those in need. Duane then discusses the concept of being a 'dangerous man,' which he defines as being capable of protecting those around you, rather than being a threat. He shares a story about a Great Pyrenees dog guarding sheep to illustrate the idea of quiet strength and protection. He encourages viewers to develop both a good heart and the ability to protect, referencing Jordan Peterson for further insights.
📚 The Importance of Education and Calmness
Continuing his advice, Duane stresses the importance of education, suggesting that men should learn from figures like Jocko Willink and Jordan Peterson. He advocates for continuous learning and intellectual growth. Duane also talks about the virtue of calmness, sharing his personal journey from being hot-headed to achieving a more tranquil demeanor. He offers practical tips for maintaining calm, such as avoiding unnecessary stressors and finding calming activities. He emphasizes the importance of being calm during conflicts to maintain logical thinking.
🧘♂️ Achieving Wisdom and Inner Peace
In the final paragraph, Duane discusses the concept of wisdom, which he describes as the application of knowledge. He uses the example of knowing that a tomato is technically a fruit but choosing not to put it in a fruit salad to illustrate the point. He encourages viewers to be discerning with their words and actions, suggesting that wisdom involves knowing when to speak and when to remain silent. Duane advises finding inner peace and calm, and making deliberate choices to improve one's character. He concludes by urging viewers to strive to be the kind of man who leaves a significant impact on the world.
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Keywords
💡Good Man
💡Dangerous Man
💡Education
💡Calmness
💡Wisdom
💡Rustic
💡Pipe Tobacco
💡Subscribing
💡Multitasking
💡Stress
Highlights
Introduction to the video on the first day of fall classes at Dry Creek Wrangler School.
Mention of the need for rain and the decision to film in the barn due to weather conditions.
Announcement of approaching 100,000 subscribers and a plan for a special video with 'mama'.
Invitation for viewers to submit questions for 'mama' in the upcoming special video.
Discussion of a unique cigar with pipe tobacco, developed by Steve Saka of Dunbarton.
Description of the cigar's blend, including Virginia, Burley, and Oriental tobaccos.
Advice for young men on personal development, starting with being a good man.
Explanation of the difference between being good and merely not being evil.
Importance of being proactive in doing good and caring for others.
The concept of being a 'dangerous man' in a protective sense, not a threat.
The necessity of being educated and the value of learning from figures like Jocko Willink and Jordan Peterson.
Emphasis on the importance of calmness and strategies for achieving it.
Advice on being wise, knowing when to speak and when to remain quiet.
Encouragement to 'fake it till you make it' in terms of embodying the qualities of a good man.
Final thoughts on becoming a man who leaves a significant impact on the world.
Transcripts
good morning
duane here dry creek wrangler school
it's uh september 4th
uh the first day of
classes for this fall session
and
so we wanted to make a video
before we got too busy
and
make sure we keep content up we started
to make one out under the tree this
morning but
we uh they started raining again which
we are not complaining we've needed rain
so bad
um
and uh it rained all night last night
and it's raining this morning so we
moved into the barn in here this morning
mama says it's okay it's rustic and
so
uh speaking of mama we got
a we are almost to a hundred thousand
subscribers we're at 91
600 something right now
and at the rate that it's climbing in
just a few days here by time it's time
to do the next video
uh we'll be at a hundred thousand so
mama came up with the idea that for that
video she's gonna sit with me and we'll
do a video together and i'm gonna hold
her to it i'm not gonna let her get out
of this one she's got to do it now
and uh so
in between now and then in the comments
is is there anything you'd like to know
is there anything in particular you'd
like to ask mama uh you'd like to know
mama's side of things
or or anything else and and if there's
much there then we'll we'll sort through
it and
and come up with some subjects
some questions and
ask them for you or answer them for you
cigar this morning is a different cigar
and it's kind of a unique cigar uh got
the band here off the foot on my finger
steel well
on navy number 1056. now i've had a
couple of these before and i really like
them and somebody sent me a gift they
sent me a box
and now these i don't know if you know
who steve saka is steve saka of
dunbarton
he and another fella got together and
developed these
and they have
pipe tobacco in them
now these are not
black and mild okay
it's not
it's not unusual i mean there's over the
years there have been cigars that have
tried to incorporate pipe tobacco uh in
but they've always been a mess in my
opinion um they've always used
cheaper tobaccos
and
and usually it's they're so sweet
you can't you can't even and
they're just
they don't even taste like cigars that's
not what this this is cigar it's it's
got
guard tobacco made up with cigar tobacco
but they've added
some high quality small amounts
of uh pipe tobacco in there and so it's
it tastes like a cigar like a cigar
should but there's hints and notes
of uh of pipe tobacco and now i'm
talking about
i think it there's some virginia burley
um and uh
some virginia's and some burley's and
and i know there's some orientals like
some latakia which just gives it just a
little bit of that spice
like for you pipe smokers like your
english tobaccos like your
um
peterson morning blend or something like
that it's got some of that oriental just
back there but it's still a cigar um
i think you ought to try it uh it's
pretty unique so
um
wanna do this video there's been
a kajillion comments on the channel
and uh i'm positive positive across the
line
and
there's a lot of young people on there
that are getting on and commenting and
they're just lost
i just they're just lost
and a lot of young men are
are realizing that they've been sold a
bill of goods and they haven't
they haven't been prepared for life and
some not so young men are waking up too
and you know i've been asked a number of
times
what some advice
you know i could give for young men
and so this morning i just wanna
i wanna give five things
that you can start developing in your
life
to become a man among men
to become that man
uh
that you need to be and that the world
around you needs you to be okay
um and i'm gonna start out now this
first one is going to sound so
vanilla
all right so tapioca so light so nothing
on the surface
um
but it's not
you need to work on being a good man
now
before you throw your hands up
there are a lot of people out there that
don't know what it means to be a good
man
especially
i'm gonna kick over a hornet's nest here
especially in the deeply religious world
they don't know what it means to be a
good person
listen to me the absence of evil
is not an automatic indication
of the presence of good
all right
we'll say that again the absence of evil
is not an automatic indication of the
presence of good
you've got negative you have positive
and you have neutral
neutral is there's no negative but
there's no positive either which means
it's a big zero
remember studying in school negative and
positive numbers all right picture that
graph you looked at on the page there's
negative 5 negative 4 negative 3
negative 2
negative 1
0
1 2 3 4 5. and we say
down there on the negatives duane i
i don't do drugs
and i don't abuse women
and i don't steal
from people
and and i don't do this and i don't do
that
and so they do away with all the
negatives but they don't
do anything positive congratulations
that person's a big zero
all right
being good
being good is proactive
it's doing something
it's it's
and you don't have to go and
volunteer
in india at an orphanage
or or haul bags of rice to africa
it's just caring about people
all right that
poor
beleaguered cashier at walmart with the
tired eyes and the swollen ankles
just look at him and ask her how are you
doing today
just somebody actually cares
you know we talk about holding the door
well
somebody stops on the side of the road
your neighbor down the road is in a
difficult place and they can't get to
yard mode
the old lady across the street the old
gentleman across the street it snows
just take your shovel and go over and
shovel their sidewalk
just somebody at work you
you watch and you look and people at
work they're going through a hard time
just hey are you all right
anything i do to help
just in your life in your life
be an agent for good
it's kind of like people say i support
the troops
i support the troops what do you do for
the troops do you send them care
packages
no do you walk up to them when you see
them in a restaurant airport in uniform
and do you stick your hand out and say
thank you for your service
no i don't do anything but i support the
troops no that just means you're not
against the troops
and going through life
become a good
man or woman all right
now there's there's that's a lifetime
right there of study okay but start
start working on that second
be a dangerous man
now being dangerous is not being a
threat there are two different things
all right and it's not about going out
and lifting weights and getting a bunch
of tattoos and wearing leather jackets
and walking around
with your chest and shoulders up hulking
around saying i'm dangerous that's very
rarely is that a dangerous man
often the most dangerous man in the room
is the quietest man in the room
when we were in wyoming um
last trip i was talking to the neighbor
behind me he the manager of all this
uh grazing land ranch land and across
the road he had just he and his wife had
just a few head of sheep not not very
many 10 or 12. and we were talking about
and he was talking about this is here
and this is over here and he said now i
don't i don't recommend you go over
and uh check out the sheep
he had one of those he has one of those
great pyrenees dogs
over there he said that that dog doesn't
know you and and he might
he might eat you up
uh protecting those sheep now
sat there for a couple days and watched
that dog was dangerous
all right but that dog did not sit on
the hillside up with his head up
and his hair flowing in the wind like
some kind of lion telling the whole
world i'm dangerous
he wasn't down at the road down there
barking at everything come by says i'm
dangerous
he was just with the sheep and he was
not a danger to the sheep the lambs and
the ewes and everything come around
and going around amongst him and
everything and they were perfectly 100
safe
and when they were all down in there and
in
down in the middle of the day and kind
of gathered up and resting he's not
under a shade tree out there somewhere
he's resting too
he's not telling everybody how dangerous
he is
in fact from a distance if you look down
there
he looked like the sheep about same size
big old white wooly you couldn't tell
him from the sheep
but you go down there and he thinks
you're trying to harm one of the sheep
uh it's a different story he's dangerous
listen this you you cannot if we tie
this into the the earlier point be a
good man you can't be a good man
a fully good man if you're not a
dangerous man
all right
to be good is to do good to people and
sometimes doing good to people is
protecting those people
it's protecting those people protecting
those around us all right i'm a
these days i'm i'm a laid-back mellow
middle-aged fella and
and i kind of talk
slow and easy and i move slow and easy
all right
but you say one
one disrespectful thing
to my wife and my presence or i get a
phone call from one of my daughters
crying
i am
not only willing
but i am able to inflict great bodily
damage
and i will do so
i'm not a danger to those around me
i'm not a danger to the sheep
but you need to be a dangerous man look
up there's a guy on the internet
and he's on youtube and he discusses
this he's much smarter than i am he
discusses this much better
jordan peterson
um and he talks about this a whole lot
more eloquently than i can all right
uh but
you need to first off you need to
get it a mindset look
i'm not a sheep
i'm taking care of those
it's a willingness and a mindset and
then you work on the physical side of it
all right start losing some weight start
going to the gym start learning some
things
and
fellas
if you are not willing
and able
to some degree
to protect the family that you have
started you don't have a right to have a
family that's that's my opinion that's
doing ism okay
you don't have a right to have that
family
so
study these are things i'm just giving
you to start and you you research okay
be dangerous third be educated
listen you want to know how to be a man
among men you start following and
reading and listening to guys like jocko
willett
jordan peterson
these guys
and start learning
and start learning start reading
and
just the brain is a muscle and like any
muscle the more you work it
the stronger it becomes
i've talked about reading on here before
it's hard
my mama laughs at me all the time i
cannot multitask i get to talk and i
completely forget about my cigar i only
do one thing at a time all right become
educated
all right and i don't mean going to
college i'm not knocking college
all right
um but become educated
learn to do things
learn what's going on around you
but go through life learning
learning learn something new okay uh
become educated and become educated and
better with your with your vehicles uh
educated of course in our line of work
what we're doing educated with horses
you're always learning uh you're always
growing you're always reading we've got
two young men here
um apprentices we've got here and one of
these young men he's always reading he's
always
um
duane do you know do you recommend a
book on this do you know of a book on
this and he asked me the other day and i
said well there's i recommend this book
here by this fella he says i already
have that one
and i have the the sequel that he wrote
to it after that and these weren't
novels
um
and but he's just always learning always
growing
all right just just become educated
um
thirdly be calm
be calm
all right
now mama's greeting behind the behind
the phone um a lot of people talk on the
channel about how
calm and level i am look this is not the
me that used to be
and it's we we looking at these comments
and talking about how lucky your
children were to be raised by you my
children were not raised
by the me that is today
it's a journey all right
i was a
hot-headed
scratchy old fella i just didn't know
any better all right had a lot of stuff
outside of family in my life that was
causing tremendous amounts of stress
and i was bringing it home
and i was not calm
you need to just
be calm
just
be calm dwayne how do i be calm get rid
of the things that don't let you be calm
all right if you come in and you watch
the news every night and just agitate
you turn the dang news off they're lying
to you anyhow
it's inevitable nothing you can do about
it turn it off
you got people in your life
that are just people of constant
conflict people of melodrama just people
that are always stirring the pot they're
not happy unless the pot is stirred
just walk away
i have
friends
friends old friends family
i just
walked away
and i guard my calmness we have a deal
here we have sunday night
everybody comes in and so we lay out the
rules rule number one
rule number one every class do not
disturb dwayne's calm
all right
just calm
find things that will make you calm
cigar
okay
calm music listen if you got a stressful
job that you don't like that you're not
proud of doing
and you are
slamming mountain dews and dr peppers
and sweet teas or whatever jacked up on
sugar jacked i used to drink i used to
drink a six pack of dr pepper and two
big tall glasses of sweet tea every day
and then go to heavy
heavy um
stress construction jobs and stuff
and along the other things in my life
i stayed jacked up i stayed
just quit cut that stuff down cut it out
all right
and if you do that and then you've got
cranking driving music on your radio to
work that stuff just gets your heart
rate going and gets you going so you
wake up over morning you got a job you
hate you don't like you don't want to go
to
um
you slam some sugar breakfast down you
grab you a mountain dew or a coke or dr
pepper on the way to work and then you
crank up some hard driving music and you
come screeching and roaring into your
job
and you get out and go in and and it's
it's machines and everything else going
and people are not happy and people
don't want to be there and what not
goodness gracious it's no wonder you're
about to blow a gasket
make some major changes in your life
change that music
you say you listen to
[Music]
country music well there's a lot of
country music these days that to me is
not very country but instead of
listening
to
you know brantley gilbert
learn to appreciate some emmy lou harris
okay
find beauty
and calm
and kind of tone down on the drums and
the screaming guitars a little bit cut
down on the sugar and the caffeine and
there's people in your life that just
just draw away just draw away
you need to be calm and then when an
inevitable conflict comes up and it will
because this is life
go into it calm
go into your conflict
calm
because if you're calm
you're thinking
you're logical you're level-headed
when you get mad all logic and reason
goes out the window
okay
so
be calm
learn to read
books that are just put you in a
a um
a perspective state of mind all right so
be calm and lastly be wise
now wisdom it's a lifetime of study
wisdom is
and wisdom is not what you know
wisdom is knowing how to apply what you
know you know the saying is wisdom is
knowing
that tomato
is officially classified as a fruit
that's knowledge
knowledge is knowing that wisdom is
officially
let me try again
knowledge is knowing that a tomato is
classified as a fruit
wisdom is knowing not to put it in a
fruit salad
you don't have to open your mouth
and dump out everything
that's going on in your brain
you don't have to tell people everything
you know
you know there's two sides of that calm
thing there's the people who stir things
up around you
but there's times we go around we
we tell tales
and we agitate hey i heard this
i heard this did you hear this and
they're stirring stuff up be that quiet
man
be that quiet man in the corner
all right you got something to say
that's good beneficial helpful or
properly corrective at the proper mind
proper time
then say it otherwise
be wise
all right
talking
all the time
about everything to everybody that's not
an indication of the
wise all right
so now these are just
these are just some some things
just to think about and to help
and it's a journey
it's a journey
all right you start where you are today
and you say i wish i was that man right
there
but i'm not and i don't mean that
particular person i mean that kind of
man i wish
that is the kind of man that i was
well it might be a long journey to get
to that man but start
work at it all the time make sacrifices
and the other thing is
you've heard the saying fake it till you
make it
you see
that man right there
and you want to be that man right there
pretend to be that man right there
listen to me
pretend to be that man right there
inside you say you know i'm not really
that man
i'm gonna act calm i'm gonna pretend
like i'm that calm man but i don't feel
like i am that calm man but i'm gonna
act calm and i'm gonna pretend to be
calm
then are you not calm
do you not become calm through that
process
all right
act like but see and picture listen if
you don't have a destination
how do you know when you've arrived
and how do you know
how to get there if you don't know where
you're going
sit down
and figure out what kind of man do i
want to be
and then begin the journey
but
just
this country
and the people around you need good men
good effective men
we have enough neutrals
we have enough
people running around out there that i
let's be completely honest
let's let's be completely honest if you
were to leave this world tomorrow would
you leave a hole
if you were to leave this world tomorrow
would you leave a hole
become the man that leaves a big hole
when you leave this world
all right
hope it helps
and
i'm gonna stop right there and we'll
catch you guys next time
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