Are You A Bad Wife? 10 Ways to Know

Summary

This video script addresses behaviors that may indicate being a 'bad wife,' offering self-awareness for improvement. It lists ten behaviors, including controlling tendencies, the need to be right, dominance in relationships, avoidance of conflict, moodiness, criticism, double standards, gossiping, lack of sexual interest, and undermining the husband in front of children. The script encourages change for a healthier, loving marriage, suggesting that good men are patient, understanding, and supportive, waiting for their wives to evolve.

Takeaways

• 🚫 Avoiding Control: The script emphasizes that being overly controlling can negatively impact a marriage, and good men are typically easygoing and flexible.
• 🙅‍♀️ Letting Go of Being Right: The need to always be right is a behavior that can be harmful in a relationship; good men are willing to admit their mistakes and be wrong.
• 👖 Not Wearing the Pants: Dominating the relationship by having the final say in all matters can be detrimental; good men are more cooperative and seek mutual agreement.
• 🏃‍♀️ Facing Pain: Avoiding conflict and difficult conversations is a sign of a bad wife; good men are problem solvers and seek resolutions.
• 🌊 Mood Stability: Being moody and temperamental can create an unstable environment for a marriage; good men are consistent, stable, and pragmatic.
• 👎 Criticism and Judgment: Constantly focusing on the negative aspects of one's spouse is unhealthy; good men focus on the positive and good things.
• 📏 Double Standards: Having different rules for oneself than for one's spouse is unfair; good men are straightforward and honest in their actions.
• 🗣️ Respectful Communication: Talking negatively about one's husband behind his back is disrespectful; good men handle marital issues privately.
• 💏 Sexual Interest: A lack of interest in sex or viewing it as an obligation can harm a marriage; good men see sex as a healthy and enjoyable part of marriage.
• 👨‍👧‍👦 Parental Respect: Undermining one's husband in front of children is damaging; good men believe in teaching children to respect both parents.

Q & A

What is the first behavior that suggests a woman might be a bad wife according to the script?

The first behavior is being controlling, which means micromanaging every aspect of life, including the marriage and relationship with the husband, and insisting that things go one's way.

How does the script describe 'good men' in relation to being controlling?

Good men are described as easygoing and flexible by nature, not controlling, and not needing to micromanage their lives or relationships.

What is the second behavior that indicates a woman might be a bad wife, as mentioned in the script?

The second behavior is the need to always be right, which stems from a fear of being wrong and the perception that being wrong equates to being fundamentally flawed.

How do good men handle the concept of being wrong, according to the script?

Good men are willing to admit their mistakes and when they are wrong, showing they do not have an inherent need to always be right.

What is the third behavior that the script suggests is indicative of a bad wife?

The third behavior is 'wearing the pants in the relationship,' meaning that the woman must approve and give permission for everything that happens.

In contrast to the behavior of 'wearing the pants,' how do good men approach decision-making in a marriage?

Good men are described as going along to get along, being agreeable and wanting their wives to be happy, rather than needing to control or approve every decision.

The fourth behavior mentioned in the script is being a pain avoider. How does this behavior manifest in women?

Being a pain avoider means doing everything to avoid conflict and difficult conversations, often using emotions as a protective mechanism to avoid accountability for one's part in problems.

How do good men differ from the behavior of being a pain avoider?

Good men are problem solvers who seek solutions and are willing to have tough conversations and deal with conflict, rather than avoiding it.

What is the fifth behavior that the script associates with being a bad wife?

The fifth behavior is being moody, temperamental, and emotional, causing the husband to walk on eggshells and not knowing when the mood might change.

How are good men described in terms of their emotional stability?

Good men are described as consistent, stable, and pragmatic, meaning they are unemotional, can see things for what they really are, and do not wear their emotions on their sleeves.

The sixth behavior discussed in the script is being critical and judgmental. What does this entail?

Being critical and judgmental means focusing on the negative aspects, flaws, and shortcomings of one's husband, often overlooking the positive things they do.

How do good men approach the positive aspects of their relationship, contrasting the behavior of being critical and judgmental?

Good men focus on the good things and the positive, often overlooking the negative or mistakes, and appreciate the overall good in their partners.

What is the seventh behavior that suggests a woman might be a bad wife, as per the script?

The seventh behavior is having double standards, where a woman may make and break rules as she pleases but expects her husband to adhere to strict rules.

How do good men handle rules and expectations in a marriage, contrasting the behavior of having double standards?

Good men are straightforward, saying and doing exactly what they mean, and are honest and genuine, not applying different rules for themselves and their partners.

The eighth behavior mentioned in the script is talking negatively about one's husband. What is the implication of this behavior?

Talking negatively about one's husband can involve building a case against them, seeking validation from others, and potentially undermining the relationship.

How do good men approach respect and communication regarding their wives and marital issues?

Good men are respectful of their wives and marital issues, believing that such matters should be kept private and not aired in public, maintaining dignity and respect.

What is the ninth behavior that the script identifies as indicative of a bad wife?

The ninth behavior is not being interested in sex, or viewing it merely as an obligation without genuine engagement or enjoyment.

How do good men view sex within a marriage, contrasting the behavior of disinterest or obligation?

Good men view sex as a normal, healthy activity that married couples share as part of their love and connection, valuing it as a benefit of marriage.

The final behavior discussed in the script is undermining one's husband in front of children. What is the impact of this behavior?

Undermining a husband in front of children can damage the respect children have for their father, using them as pawns in marital conflicts, and modeling poor conflict resolution.

How do good men approach parenting and maintaining respect within the family, contrasting the behavior of undermining in front of children?

Good men believe in teaching children to respect their mother and handle adult arguments privately, not in front of children, ensuring a respectful and responsible environment.