5 steps to designing the life you want | Bill Burnett | TEDxStanford

Summary

Ce discours introduit la pensée de design pour aménager sa vie, une approche innovante développée par l'école d'ingénierie de Stanford. Le concept repose sur la curiosité, le repositionnement de problèmes, la collaboration, la conscience du processus et l'action biaisée. Il aborde également les 'croyances dysfonctionnelles' qui entravent le développement personnel, et propose cinq idées clés du design thinking pour créer une vie significative et heureuse, en se concentrant sur la connexion entre identité, croyances et actions, en évitant les problèmes insurmontables et en multipliant les plans pour une meilleure prise de décision.

Takeaways

• 🤔 Le design thinking est une méthode d'innovation utilisée pour résoudre des problèmes complexes, y compris ceux liés à la conception de sa propre vie.
• 📚 Les auteurs du livre et fondateurs du Life Design Lab enseignent comment utiliser le design thinking pour déterminer ce que l'on veut devenir et grandir.
• 👶 La curiosité enfantine est un état d'esprit précieux qui devrait être préservé tout au long de la vie, car elle est un moteur de l'innovation et de la créativité.
• 🔄 Il est important de repenser les problèmes car souvent on travaille sur le mauvais problème avec une solution inutile.
• 🤝 La collaboration radicale est essentielle, car les réponses se trouvent dans le monde avec les autres et leur expérience.
• 💡 Le processus de design doit être conscient et inclure des moments pour générer des idées et d'autres pour converger et tester des hypothèses.
• 🛠 L'action biaisée est une approche proactive qui consiste à essayer des choses plutôt que de rester bloqué par la peur de l'échec.
• 🔮 Les croyances dysfonctionnelles, comme la notion d'une seule passion ou d'être en retard dans la vie, peuvent entraver la progression personnelle.
• 🌟 La recherche de la meilleure version de soi est trompeuse, car il existe de nombreuses versions possibles d'une vie bien conçue.
• 🔗 La vie doit être vue comme un ensemble cohérent de ce que l'on est, ce que l'on croit et ce que l'on fait dans le monde pour être perçue comme significative.
• 🚀 L'idée d'éviter les problèmes de gravité, qui sont immuables, et de se concentrer sur ce que l'on peut changer, est cruciale pour avancer.

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Outlines

00:00

🤔 Introduction à la pensée de conception pour la vie

Le paragraphe introduit la technique de la pensée de conception, élaborée au d.School et à l'École de Génie de Stanford pendant plus de 50 ans. Cette méthode d'innovation applicable aux produits et services est utilisée pour aborder le plus intéressant des problèmes de conception : la vie de chacun. Le narrateur et son co-auteur, Dave Evans, ont fondé le Life Design Lab à Stanford pour enseigner aux étudiants comment déterminer ce qu'ils veulent devenir. Le narrateur propose un premier cadre de réflexion sur la curiosité enfantine et la volonté de ne pas grandir, en utilisant la pensée de conception pour 'grandir dans la vie' plutôt que pour devenir adulte. Il souligne également les mentalités des concepteurs, notamment le recours à la curiosité, la reformulation de problèmes et la collaboration.

05:01

🔄 La restructuration des problèmes et la collaboration

Dans ce paragraphe, l'auteur insiste sur l'importance de reformuler les problèmes pour éviter de travailler sur des solutions inappropriées. Il mentionne également la nécessité de la collaboration 'radicale', car les réponses se trouvent souvent au-delà de soi-même, dans le monde et avec les autres. Il souligne l'importance d'être conscients de notre processus, de savoir quand générer des idées et quand les tester et les affiner. Il conclut en disant que tout plan de vie sera modifié par la réalité, et il encourage à entreprendre des actions biaisées pour expérimenter et s'adapter.

10:02

🚫 Dépasser les croyances dysfonctionnelles

Le narrateur identifie et critique trois croyances 'dysfonctionnelles' qui entravent le développement personnel : la quête d'une passion unique, la pression de 'savoir où l'on va' à un âge donné, et la poursuite d'une version 'la meilleure possible' de soi-même. Il argumente que ces croyances sont souvent infondées et proposent de les remplacer par une compréhension plus nuancée et flexible de la vie et du développement personnel.

15:03

🌟 Explorer les multiples vies possibles

Dans ce paragraphe, l'auteur encourage à explorer les multiples vies que l'on pourrait mener, en utilisant la métaphore d'un 'multiverse' où chaque vie parallèle représente un choix différent. Il suggère de concevoir trois 'vies' différentes, en commençant par l'actuelle, en envisageant un scénario où son métier disparaît, et en créant un plan où l'argent et les opinions des autres ne sont pas des préoccupations. Cette approche permet de découvrir de nouvelles facettes et de potentielles directions pour la vie actuelle.

20:04

🛠️ Prototyper et tester des idées de vie

L'auteur insiste sur l'importance de prototyper des idées de vie pour éviter de faire des sauts imprudents dans de nouvelles directions. Il propose deux types de prototypes : les conversations avec des personnes qui vivent déjà le futur que l'on envisage, et les expériences concrètes pour tester les hypothèses. Ces prototypes sont essentiels pour valider ou invalider des suppositions et pour s'approcher du futur de manière progressive et informée.

25:06

🎯 Faire de bons choix et apprendre à l'être heureux

Dans ce paragraphe, l'auteur présente un processus pour faire de bons choix et apprendre à être heureux, basé sur les travaux de psychologues comme Dan Gilbert et Daniel Goleman. Il suggère de rassembler et de créer des options, de réduire le nombre de choix à un nombre gérable, de décider en utilisant aussi des 'sentiments du ventre', et de savoir lâcher prise et passer à autre chose après la décision. Il souligne que la capacité à générer des options et à prototyper rassure face à l'incertitude et à la peur de rater quelque chose.

🌈 Conclusion : Curiousité, échanges et essais

Le narrateur conclut en résumant les cinq idées clés du design de vie : la recherche de sens en connectant le travail et la vie, l'évitement des problèmes gravitationnels, la création de trois plans pour chaque situation, la prototypation de chaque aspect de la vie avant de s'y engager, et l'art d'élaborer des choix éclairés. Il encourage à rester curieux, à discuter avec les autres et à essayer de nouvelles choses pour concevoir une vie bien remplie et joyeuse.

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Keywords

💡Design thinking

Design thinking est une méthode d'innovation qui a été utilisée dans le développement de produits et de services. Dans le contexte de cette vidéo, c'est une approche utilisée pour concevoir sa vie personnelle. Elle est caractérisée par un ensemble de mentalités qui encouragent la curiosité, le reformatage de problèmes et la collaboration. L'un des principes clés est d'aborder les défis avec une attitude de curiosité et d'expérimentation plutôt que de se concentrer uniquement sur la réalisation de plans parfaits.

💡Réamenae

Le terme 'réamenae' fait référence au processus de repenser ou de reformuler un problème afin de mieux comprendre sa nature et d'identifier de nouvelles solutions. Dans le script, cela est illustré par l'idée de se concentrer sur les problèmes qui sont essentiels et de se débarrasser de ceux qui sont inutiles ou qui n'ont pas de solution viable.

💡Curiosité

La curiosité est soulignée comme un état d'esprit clé pour le design thinking. Elle est la base de l'approche exploratoire qui permet de découvrir de nouvelles perspectives et de générer des idées. Dans le script, l'appel à la curiosité est un moyen d'encourager les gens à s'engager activement dans le processus de conception de leur vie.

💡Collaboration radicale

La 'collaboration radicale' est le concept selon lequel les meilleures solutions sont souvent trouvées en travaillant avec d'autres personnes et en échangeant des idées. Le script insiste sur l'importance de cette approche pour la conception de la vie, en reconnaissant que les réponses se trouvent souvent au-delà de notre sphère immédiate.

💡Biais de l'action

Le 'biais de l'action' fait référence à l'importance de la prise de décision et de l'action proactive plutôt que de rester passif face à la réalité. Le script utilise ce terme pour souligner la nécessité d'essayer des choses et de s'adapter aux imprévus, plutôt que de suivre un plan rigide.

💡Problèmes de gravité

Les 'problèmes de gravité' sont des situations que l'on ne peut pas changer. Dans le script, l'orateur explique qu'il est important de reconnaître ces problèmes et d'apprendre à les accepter, car ils peuvent être obstinés et perturbateurs si l'on essaie de les résoudre de manière conventionnelle.

💡Déconnexion des points

La 'déconnexion des points' est liée à l'idée de créer une vie significative en reliant qui nous sommes, ce que nous croyons et ce que nous faisons dans le monde. Le script utilise ce concept pour dire que la cohérence entre ces éléments est essentielle pour une vie bien conçue.

💡Odyssée

L' 'odyssée' est utilisée pour décrire le voyage exploratoire que l'on entreprend pour découvrir les différentes vies possibles qu'on pourrait mener. Dans le script, cela est illustré par l'exercice de créer trois plans différents pour l'avenir, en s'appuyant sur des idées et des aspirations variées.

💡Prototype

Le 'prototype' est un outil utilisé pour tester des idées de manière à évaluer leur viabilité avant de les mettre en œuvre complètement. Dans le contexte du script, il est question de créer des prototypes de vie pour explorer des options potentielles et de s'assurer qu'elles correspondent bien aux désirs et aux besoins personnels.

💡Choix bien fait

Le 'choix bien fait' se réfère au processus de prendre une décision éclairée et satisfaisante. Le script insiste sur l'importance de la réflexion, de l'évaluation des options et de l'acceptation de ses décisions comme étapes clés pour la réalisation d'une vie épanouissante.

💡Confiance créative

La 'confiance créative' est l'assurance en soi de pouvoir apporter des changements et de trouver des solutions innovantes. Le script mentionne que ce sentiment peut être développé à travers le design thinking, permettant aux individus de se voir comme créatifs même s'ils ne se considéraient pas comme tels auparavant.

Highlights

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Transcripts

Transcriber: Leonardo Silva Reviewer: Cristina Bufi Poecksteiner, M.A.

Hello, everyone.

I'm here to help you design your life.

We're going to use the technique of design thinking.

Design thinking is something we've been working on at the d.School

and in the School of Engineering for over 50 years,

and it's an innovation methodology, works on products, works on services.

But I think the most interesting design problem is your life!

So that's what we're going to talk about.

I want to just make sure everybody knows: this is my buddy Dave Evans, his face.

Dave and I are the co-authors of the book,

and he is the guy who helped me co-found the Life Design Lab at Stanford.

So what do we do in the Life Design Lab?

Well, we teach the class that helps to figure out

what you want to be when you grow up.

Now, I'm going to give you the first reframe.

Designers love reframes.

How many of you hope you never grow up and lose that child-like curiosity

that drives everything you do?

Raise your hand. Right! Who wants to grow up?

I mean, we've been talking about curiosity in almost every one of these talks.

And so I'd like to reframe this as:

we say we teach the class that helps you figure out

what you want to grow into next,

as this life of yours, this amazing design of yours, unfolds.

So, design thinking is what we teach

and it's a set of mindsets, it's how designers think.

You know, we've been taught probably in the university

to be so skeptical realists, rationalists,

but that's not very useful as a mindset when you're trying to do something new,

something no one's ever done before.

So we say you start with curiosity and you lean into what you're curious about.

We say you reframe problems because most of the time

we find people are working on the wrong problems

and they have a wonderful solution to something that doesn't work anyway.

So, what's the point of working on the wrong thing?

We say radical collaboration

because the answer's out in the world with other people.

That's where your experience of your life will be.

We want to be mindful of our process.

There are times in the design process when you want lots of ideas,

and there are times when you really want to converge test some things,

prototype some things, you want to be good at that.

And the other is biased action.

Now, you know, I'll say that we think

no plan for your life will survive first contact with reality.

(Laughter)

Reality has the tendency to throw little things at us that we weren't expecting,

sometimes good things, sometimes bad.

So we say: just have a biased action, try stuff.

Why? Why did we start this class?

I've been in office hours for a long, long time with my students.

I've been teaching here for a while. Dave as well.

He was teaching over that community college, in Berkeley, for a while.

(Laughter)

And -

I'm sorry, I'm sorry, it's a Stanford TEDx.

But we notice that people get stuck.

People really get stuck and then they don't know what to do

and they don't seem to have any tools for getting unstuck.

Designers get stuck all the time.

I signed up to be a designer,

which means I'm going to work on something I've never done, every day,

and I get stuck and unstuck, stuck and unstuck, all the time.

We also noticed as we went out and talked to folks who are not just our students,

but people in mid-career and encore careers,

that people have a bunch of beliefs

which psychologists label "dysfunctional beliefs,"

things they believe that are true that actually aren't true,

and it holds them back.

I'll give you three.

First one is: "What's your passion?

Tell me your passion and I'll tell you what you need to do."

Now, if you actually have one of these things, these passions -

you knew at two you wanted to be a doctor,

you knew at seven you wanted to be a clown at Cirque du Soleil,

and now you are one, that's awesome.

But we're a sort of research space here at Stanford,

so we went over to the Center for the Study of Adolescence,

which by the way now goes up to 27 -

(Laughter)

and met with Bill Damon, one of our colleagues, a fantastic guy.

He studied this question and it turns out less than 20% of the people

have any one single identifiable passion in their lives.

We hate a methodology which says, "OK, come to the front of the line.

You have a passion? Oh, you don't? Oh, I'm sorry.

When you have one, come on back and we'll help you with that."

It's terrible, eight out of 10 people say, "I have lots of things I'm interested in."

So this is not an organizing principle for your search or your design.

The second one is, "Well, you should know by now, right?

Don't you know where you're going?

If you don't know, you're late."

(Laughter)

Now, what are you late for, exactly?

I'm not quite sure.

But you know, there's a meta-narrative in the culture and when I was growing up:

by 25, you're supposed to maybe have a relationship,

maybe have gotten married and started to get the family together.

When I talk to my millennial students, they'll say,

"Oh, that's got to be like 30 or something,"

because they can't imagine, anything past, like, 22,

but 30 is a long way out.

But we know that now these people are forming their lives much more fluidly,

they are staying in a lot more dynamic motion between about 22 and 35,

and so this notion that you're late is really kind of like,

"Well, you should have figured this out by now."

Dave and I don't "should" on anybody.

In the book or in the class, we don't believe in "should."

We just think, "Alright, you are whatever you are.

Let's start from where you are. You're not late for anything."

But the one we really don't like is:

"Are you being the best possible version of you?"

(Laughter)

"I mean, because you're not settling

for something that's less than the best, because this is Stanford.

Obviously we all are going to be the best."

Well, this implies that, one, there's a singular best;

two, that it's a linear thing, and life is anything but linear;

and three, it kind of comes from this business notion,

there's an old business saying,

"Good is the enemy of better, better is the enemy of best,"

and you always want to do your best in business.

But if there isn't one singular best, then our reframe is,

"The unattainable best is the enemy of all the available betters,

because there are many, many versions of you that you could play out,

all of which would result in a well-designed life."

So I'm going to give you three ideas from design thinking -

five ideas, excuse me - That says five, doesn't it? Yeah.

Five ideas from design thinking.

And people who've read the book or taken the class

have written back to us and said,

"Hey, these were the most useful, these were the most doable,

they were the most helpful."

And we're human-centered designers, so we want to be helpful.

The first one is this notion of connecting the dots.

The number one reason people take our class and we hear read the book

is they say, "You know, I want my life to be meaningful,

I want it to be purposeful, I want it to add up to something."

So, we looked in the positive psychology literature and in the design literature,

and it turns out

that there's who you are, there's what you believe

and there's what you do in the world,

and if you can make a connection between these three things,

if you can make that a coherent story,

you will experience your life as meaningful.

The increase in meaning-making comes from connecting the dots.

So we do two things.

We ask people: "Write a work view. What's your theory of work?

Not the job you want, but why do you work? What's it for?

What's work in service of?"

Once you have that, 250 words, then - this one's a little harder to get short,

"What's the meaning of life? What's the big picture? Why are you here?

What is your faith or your view of the world?"

When you can connect your life view and your work view together,

in a coherent way,

you start to experience your life as meaningful.

That's the idea number one.

Idea number two: people get stuck

and you've got to be careful because we can reframe almost anything,

but there's a class of problems that people get stuck on

that are really, really bad problems.

We call them gravity problems.

Essentially, they're something you cannot change.

Now, I know you have a friend

and you've been having coffee with this friend for a while,

and they're stuck.

They don't like their boss, their partner, their job,

there's something that they don't like.

But nothing's happening, right? Nothing's happening with them.

If Dave were here he'd say, "Look,

you can't solve a problem you're not willing to have."

You can't solve a problem you're not willing to have,

so if you've got a gravity problem

and you're simply not willing to work on it,

then it's just a circumstance in your life.

And the only thing we know to do with gravity problems is to accept.

In the design thinking chart, you start with empathy,

then you redefine the problem, you come up with lots of ideas,

then you prototype and test things,

but that only works if it's a problem you're willing to work on.

The first thing to do is accept and once you've accepted this as gravity problem -

"I can't change it.

You know, this is a company,

the company is a family-run company and the name of the founder is on the door

and if you're not in the family, you can't be the president."

You're right, you can't!

So, now you have to decide what you want to do.

Is that a circumstance that you can reframe and work in,

or do you need to do something else?

So be really careful about gravity problems

because they're pernicious and they really get in the way.

But back to this idea of multiples,

I do a little thought experiment with my students,

and I say, you know,

"The physicists up in SLAC have kind of demonstrated

this multiverse thing might be real."

You've heard of this, that there are multiple parallel universes,

one right next to each other.

And say, "We'll do a thought experiment.

Let's say you could live in all the multiverses simultaneously,

and not only that, but you'd know about your life in each one of these instances.

So, you could go back and be the ballerina,

and the scientist, and the CPA, and whatever else you wanted to be.

You could have all these lives in parallel."

When I ask them, "How many lives are you? How many lives would you want?",

I get answers from three to 10,000.

But, you know, we've sort of done the average: it's about 7,5.

Most people think they have about 7,5 really good lives that they could live.

And here's the deal: you only get one.

But it turns out it's not what you don't choose,

it's what you choose in life that makes you happy.

Nevertheless, we reframed this and we say,

"Great, there's more lives than one in you.

So let's go on an odyssey, and let's really figure out those lives!"

And we ask people to do some design.

And the "ideate" bubble, it's about having lot's of ideas.

So we say, "Let's have some ideas.

We'll ideate your future, but you can't ideate just one.

You have to ideate three."

Now, there's some research from the School of Education

that says if you start with three ideas and you brainstorm from there,

you've got a much wider range of ideas,

the ideas are more generative

and they lead to better solutions to the problem

rather than just starting with one and then brainstorming forward.

So we always do threes; there's something magical about threes.

We have people do three lives, and it's transformational.

We give them this little rubric.

One: "The thing you're doing,

the thing you're doing right now, whatever your career is, just do it.

And you're going to do it for five years and it's going to come out great."

I mean, in design, we're sort of values-neutral,

except for one thing: we never design anything to make it worse, right?

I have been on some teams that made some pretty bad products,

but we weren't trying to, we were trying to make it better.

So, thing one: your life, make it better.

And also put in the bucket list stuff:

you want to go to Paris, to the Galapagos -

the guy with the ice thing -

before it's all under water and we can't see it anymore.

So, that's plan one: your life goes great.

Plan two:

I'm really sorry to tell you, but the robots and the AI stuff -

that job doesn't exist anymore, the robots are doing it.

We don't need you to do that anymore.

Now, what are going to do?

So what do you do if the thing that you've got goes away?

And you know, everybody's got a side hustle or something they can do

to make that work.

And three is: what's your wild-card plan?

What would you do if you didn't have to worry about money? You've got enough.

You're not fabulously wealthy, but you've got enough.

And what would you do if you knew no one would laugh?

My students come in for my office hours a lot of times,

and they'll say something like,

"Well, what I really want to do is this, but I can't just hear people saying,

'You didn't go to Stanford to do that, did you?'"

(Laughter)

Because somehow, if you went to Stanford,

you have to do some of the amazing things the past speakers have been doing.

"But what would you do if you had enough money

and you didn't care what people thought?

Anything from, 'I'm going to go study butterflies'

to, 'I want to be a bartender, you know, in Belize.' What would you do?"

And people have those three plans.

Now what happens when they do this is, one, they realize,

"Oh my gosh, I could actually have imagined

my three completely parallel lives are all pretty interesting."

Two, they rarely go become a bartender, you know, in Belize.

But a lot of times, the things that come up in the other plans

were things that they left behind somehow.

In the business of life, they forgot about those things.

And so they bring them back and put them in plan one,

then they make their lives even better.

Sometimes they do pivot,

but mostly they just use this as a method of ideating

all the possible wonderful ways they could have a life.

Now, you could start executing that,

but in our model, the thing you do after you have ideas is you build a prototype.

We have met people who've quit their job and suddenly done something else,

It hardly ever works.

You kind of have to sneak up on it, because in our model,

we want to set the bar really low, try stuff, have some success, do it again.

So when we say "prototype," in our language,

what we mean is a way to ask an interesting question,

"What would it be like if I tried this?",

a way to expose the assumptions,

"Is this even the thing I want

or is that just something I remember I wanted when I was 20?"

I've got to go out in the world and do this,

so I'm going to get others involved in prototyping my life,

and I'm going to sneak up on the future,

because I don't if this is exactly what I want.

There's two kinds of life-design prototypes

and what we call prototype conversation.

You know, William Gibson, the science-fiction writer

has a famous quote:

"The future is already here. It's just unevenly distributed."

So, there is someone who's a bartender in Ibiza.

He's been doing it for years, I could go meet him and have a conversation,

he or she.

Somebody else is doing something else I'm interested in.

All of these people are out there, they're living in my future, today.

They're doing what I want to do, today.

And if I have a conversation with them,

I just ask for their story and everybody will tell you their story.

If you buy them a cup of coffee, they tell you the story.

If I hear something in the story that rings in me -

We have this thing we call narrative resonance:

when I hear a story that's kind of like my story, something happens,

and I can identify that as a potential way of moving forward.

The other one is a prototype experience.

Dave and I were working with a woman,

sort of mid-career in her 40s and a very successful tech executive,

but wanted to move from money-making to meaning-making,

to do something more meaningful,

thinking of going back to school, getting an MA in education,

working with kids.

But she's like, "You know, I don't know, I'm 45, going back to school.

It's not going to work.

And then I heard about these millennials.

They're kind of mean and they don't like old people."

(Laughter)

What am I going to do, Bill?"

I said, "Well, you just have to go try this, you know.

It turns out we sent her to a seminar class

and to a large lecture-hall class,

and by the way, you just put on a T-shirt that says "Stanford"

and you walk into a class, nobody knows.

She wasn't registered, but you know, she went and she went to the classes

and she came back and said, "You know what? It was fantastic!

I walked into the lecture hall, I sat down, my body was on fire!

It was interesting, I was so interested in the way the lecture was going.

And then I met these millennials.

It turned out they're pretty interesting people!

I've set up three prototype conversations.

And they think I'm interesting because I'm coming back to school and I'm 45."

So she had a felt experience, because we are more than just our brains.

She had a felt experience that this might work for her.

So these are two ways you can prototype your way forward.

The last idea:

you want to make a good decision well.

So many people make choices and they're not happy with their choices

because they don't really know how do they know what they know, right?

It's a hard thing, particularly in our days when we have so many choices.

So we have a process.

Again it comes from the positive psychology guys.

Gather and create options.

Once you get good at design you're really good at coming up with options.

You've got narrow those down to a working list that you can work with.

Then, you make the choice to make a good choice,

and then of course you agonize that you did the wrong thing.

(Laughter)

All my students have what is called FOMO, fear missing out,

"What if I didn't pick the right thing."

Someone came into my office and said, "I'll declare three majors and two minors"

and I said, "Do you plan on being here for a few years?

It's not going to happen, right?"

So we don't say that; we say you want to let go and move on,

and all these have some psychological basis in them.

Let me tell you about it.

Once you get good at gathering and creating ideas,

you also want to make sure you leave room for the lucky ideas,

the serendipitous ideas.

This is a guy named Tony Hsieh.

He was the CEO at Zappos, he sold it to Amazon.

But before you became an employee at Zappos you had to take a test,

and the test was, "Are you lucky?"

One, two or three: "I'm not very lucky, and I'm not sure why."

Seven, eight, nine, ten, "I'm very lucky, great things happen to me all the time,

I'm not sure why."

He wouldn't hire anybody who was not lucky.

(Laughter)

I think it's probably illegal, but it was based on -

(Laughter)

but it was based on a piece of research where psychologists did the same thing,

"Rate yourself from lucky to unlucky."

And then they had people read the front section of the New York Times,

30 pages, lots of articles.

And the graduate students said,

"Please count the number of -"

either headlines or photographs, depending on the test.

"And when you get the whole thing read and you count the number of photographs,

just tell the person at the end."

And if you got the right number, you'd get $100.

Of course you all know

when a graduate student tells you what the experiment is that's not the experiment.

So, inside this thing that looked like the New York Times,

30 pages, front page,

inside all the stories were little pieces of text that said,

"If you read this, the experiment's over. Collect an extra $ 150."

People who rated themselves as unlucky by and large got the right answer,

36 headlines, whatever it was,

got the $ 100.

People who rated themselves as lucky - seven, eight, nine or ten -

80% of the time noticed the text and got the extra $150.

It's not about being lucky.

It's about paying attention to what you're doing

and keeping your peripheral vision open because it's in your peripheral vision

that those interesting opportunities show up, right,

that you were not expecting.

So you want to get good at being lucky.

Narrowing down. This is quite simple.

If you have too many choices, you go into what psychologists call choice overload,

and then you have essentially no choices.

Here's the experiment. This was done at Stanford.

You walk into a grocery store and there's a nice lady.

She's got a table and on the table, she has six jams,

and you come over try the jams to have a sample, buy some jam.

Six jams; about 30 people who would go by pick a jam,

or stop and test something,

and about a third of those actually buy a jam.

That's the baseline.

Next week, you walk in, 24 jams:

jalapeño, strawberry, banana, whatever; all sorts of jams.

Well, guess what happens?

Twice as many people stop, look at all these jams,

it's so interesting.

Three percent of the people buy them.

(Laughter)

When you have too many choices, you have no choice.

What do you do when you have too many choices?

Just cross off a bunch of choices.

Psychologists tells us we can't handle more than five to seven.

I'd say it's five.

If you've got a bunch of choices, cross them all off,

just pick the five and then make your decision there.

"Oh my God! What if I pick the wrong ones? What if I cross off the wrong ones?"

Right?

Well, you won't, because it's the pizza or Chinese food thing.

You're at the office and everybody says, "Let's go out to lunch today."

"Sounds great. What do you want to do? Pizza or Chinese food?" "I don't care."

In the elevator on their way down, someone says, "Let's get Chinese food."

Then you go, "No, I want pizza."

(Laughter)

You won't decide how you feel about the decision till the decision's made.

That's a piece of research that's been done again and again and again.

So just cross them off.

If you cross off the wrong one,

you'll have a feeling somewhere in your stomach that you did the wrong thing.

Choosing - this is about that feeling in your stomach.

You cannot choose well if you choose only from your rational mind.

This is Dan Goleman, who wrote the book on emotional intelligence.

He does a lot of research on this, a lot of brain science.

There's a part of your brain,

way down in the base brain, the basal ganglia,

that summarizes emotional decisions for you.

I did something, got good emotional response from that: good, check.

I did something and had a little bad emotional response to that.

It summarizes all of the emotions that you have felt

and how your decisions were valenced positive or negative an emotion.

The problem with that part of your brain is that it's so early in the brain

it doesn't talk to the part of your brain that talks.

There's no connection to the prefrontal cortex or anything else.

It's only connected to your GI tract and your limbic system.

So, it gives you information through felt sensations,

a "gut feeling."

Without that, you can't make good decisions.

And then the letting go and moving on.

This was the hardest part for me, but this is also the work of Dan Gilbert,

who is a distinguished scientist at Harvard,

despite the fact that he's doing insurance commercials now.

And he's been studying decision-making and how do you make yourself happy.

So, you walk in another psychology experiment.

The postdoc has got five Monet prints, five pictures from Monet,

and you rank them from best to least,

"I like this one the most, I like this one the least,"

number one and number five.

"Thank you very much, the experiment's over.

Oh, by the way, as you're walking out, you know,

I kind of screwed up and I bought too many of number two and three.

So if you want to take one home you can just have it.

Two conditions: in one case, take it home and have it,

but don't bring it back because I'm kind of embarrassed and -

Just keep it, you can't exchange it.

Second condition: I've got lots of these.

If you don't like the one you picked,

you can swap it back and pick another one."

And of course everybody picks number two. It's a little better than number three.

We bring people back in a week later and say,

"Re-rank the stimuli. Which one do you like now?"

The people who were allowed to change their mind don't like their painting,

they don't like the print,

they don't like the other one anymore, they don't like any of them anymore.

In fact, they don't like the whole process

and they have destroyed their opportunity to be happy.

(Laughter)

The people who were told, "You pick it, it's yours, you can't return it"

love their print, they typically rank it as number one

and think the rest of them suck.

(Laughter)

If you make decisions reversible,

your chance of being happy goes down like 60 or 70 percent.

So, let go and move on, make the decision reversible.

And by the way, as a designer, that's no problem,

because you're really good at generating options,

you're great at ideation,

you're really good at prototyping to get data in the world

to see of that world will be the world you want to live in,

so you have no fear of missing out.

It's just a process, a mindful process: collect, reduce, decide, move on.

That's how you make yourself happy.

So,

the five ideas:

Connecting the dots to find meaning through work and life views.

Stay away from gravity problems because I can't fix those and neither can you;

reframe those to something that is workable.

Do three plans, never one, always do three of everything,

three ideations for any of the problems you're working on

to make sure that you've covered not just the ideas that you had when you started,

but all the other ideas that are possible.

Prototype everything in your life before you jump in and try it.

And choose well; there's no point in making a good choice poorly.

Choose well and you will find that things in your life are much easier.

And you can do this, we know you can,

because thousands of students have done it.

Two PhD studies have been done in the class

that demonstrated higher self-efficacy, lower dysfunctional beliefs.

It's a fascinating process to watch people who don't think of themselves as creative

go through this class and walk out saying,

"You know what? I'm a pretty creative person!"

what David Kelly calls "creative confidence."

So, we know you can do it, thank you very much.

It's simple:

get curious,

talk to people

and try stuff,

and you will design a well-lived and joyful life.

Thank you.

(Applause) (Cheers)