Motivation Psychology: How to Not Be Overwhelmed
Summary
TLDRThe video script delves into the concept of feeling overwhelmed, distinguishing between passive and active challenges in life. It posits that a sense of being overwhelmed arises when passive challenges, which we don't choose, outweigh active challenges, which we do. The script suggests that rather than reducing life's demands, taking on more active challenges can alleviate this feeling. By doing so, individuals can regain control, expend unused energy, and reduce anxiety, ultimately feeling less overwhelmed and more accomplished.
Takeaways
- đ§ââïž Feeling overwhelmed is often a result of a disconnect between passive and active challenges in life.
- đ€ Passive challenges are those that happen to us without our choice, like unexpected obstacles or difficulties.
- đïž Active challenges are the tasks or goals we choose to undertake, such as starting a project or learning a new skill.
- đ Overwhelm arises when passive challenges outweigh the active ones, leading to a sense of being out of control.
- đ The common instinct to combat overwhelm is to reduce the passive challenges or to do less.
- đ A counterintuitive solution is to add more active challenges to take control and expend unused energy.
- đȘ Taking on active challenges helps in reducing the feeling of being overwhelmed by giving a sense of accomplishment and control.
- đ§ Anxiety is described as a disorder of excess mental energy, which can be mitigated by engaging in active challenges.
- đ Active challenges help in expending energy, which in turn reduces anxiety by utilizing the energy that would otherwise cause restlessness.
- đ± Starting small with an active challenge, like cleaning a room, can initiate a positive upward spiral in overcoming feelings of being overwhelmed.
- đ The more control one has over their life by taking on active challenges, the less likely they are to feel overwhelmed.
Q & A
What are the two types of challenges described in the script?
-The two types of challenges are passive challenges, which happen to us and are beyond our control, and active challenges, which we choose to take on ourselves.
How does the speaker define passive challenges?
-Passive challenges are challenges that happen to us without our choice. They are the difficulties that life throws our way, such as dealing with an insurance company denying a medication prescription.
What are active challenges according to the script?
-Active challenges are the tasks and goals that we choose to take on, such as deciding to write a book or start streaming. These challenges are chosen by us and involve effort and commitment.
What is the relationship between passive challenges, active challenges, and feeling overwhelmed?
-Feeling overwhelmed occurs when passive challenges outweigh active challenges. This imbalance makes us feel like we are not in control of our lives.
What is the common instinct when feeling overwhelmed, and why might it not be effective?
-The common instinct is to do less and reduce the amount of lifeâs demands. However, this might not be effective because it does not address the root cause of feeling overwhelmed, which is the lack of control over our challenges.
What is the 'secret solution' to feeling overwhelmed suggested in the script?
-The secret solution is to take on more active challenges, which helps to regain a sense of control over life and reduces the feeling of being overwhelmed.
Why do active challenges help in reducing the feeling of being overwhelmed?
-Active challenges help because they allow us to expend energy and take control over some aspects of our lives. This reduces the sense of helplessness and boosts feelings of accomplishment and control.
How does the speaker describe the effect of active challenges on anxiety?
-The speaker describes anxiety as unused energy bouncing around in the mind. By taking on active challenges, we expend this energy, which reduces anxiety and the feeling of being overwhelmed.
What practical advice does the speaker give for starting to feel less overwhelmed?
-The practical advice is to choose and engage in tasks that you want to do, thereby adding active challenges to your life. This can help regain control and reduce feelings of being overwhelmed.
What example does the speaker give to illustrate the positive effect of taking on active challenges?
-The speaker gives the example of someone starting to clean their room. Initially feeling overwhelmed by life, the act of cleaning the room (an active challenge) helped them feel more in control and less overwhelmed.
Outlines
đ Understanding Overwhelm: Passive vs. Active Challenges
The paragraph discusses the concept of feeling overwhelmed and introduces two types of challenges: passive and active. Passive challenges are those that life imposes on us without our choice, while active challenges are those we choose to undertake. The author uses examples to illustrate the difference between the two, explaining that feeling overwhelmed often results from an imbalance where passive challenges outweigh active ones. The key to overcoming this overwhelm is either to reduce the passive challenges or to increase the active challenges, thus gaining more control over one's life.
đ§ Regaining Control by Taking on Active Challenges
This paragraph elaborates on the idea that feeling overwhelmed is synonymous with feeling out of control. It proposes that by taking on more active challenges, individuals can regain a sense of control and reduce feelings of overwhelm. The author shares personal examples of various responsibilities and tasks, suggesting that choosing to engage in additional self-chosen activities can provide a sense of accomplishment and control, thus diminishing the feeling of being overwhelmed.
đ The Psychological Benefits of Active Challenges
The paragraph explains the psychological benefits of taking on active challenges. It describes how active challenges help expend mental energy, which otherwise contributes to anxiety. Anxiety is characterized as excess mental energy, and by engaging in active challenges, individuals can use this energy constructively. This, in turn, reduces anxiety and the feeling of being overwhelmed, creating a positive cycle of increased control and decreased stress.
đ The Upward Spiral of Taking Control
This paragraph emphasizes the idea that taking on active challenges creates an upward spiral of positivity. By accomplishing tasks and taking control, individuals feel less overwhelmed and more capable of handling additional responsibilities. The author uses the example of someone cleaning their room to illustrate how a simple active challenge can lead to a greater sense of control and reduced feelings of being overwhelmed, ultimately enhancing one's ability to manage life effectively.
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Keywords
đĄOverwhelmed
đĄPassive Challenges
đĄActive Challenges
đĄControl
đĄAnxiety
đĄEnergy Expenditure
đĄInnate Instinct
đĄDestiny
đĄAccomplishment
đĄUpward Spiral
Highlights
The instinct when feeling overwhelmed is to do less, but the secret solution is to do more and take on more active challenges.
There are two kinds of challenges in life: passive challenges that happen to us and active challenges that we choose to undertake.
Passive challenges are overwhelming because they are out of our control, whereas active challenges are chosen and can be invigorating.
Feeling overwhelmed is a disconnect between the number of passive and active challenges in one's life.
To reduce feeling overwhelmed, one can either reduce passive challenges or increase active challenges.
People who feel overwhelmed often feel like they are not in control of their destiny.
Adding active challenges to one's life can help regain a sense of control and reduce feelings of being overwhelmed.
The psychological effect of taking on active challenges is a sense of accomplishment and control.
Anxiety is described as unused energy, and taking on active challenges helps expend this energy.
Active challenges are a way to expend energy, reducing the energy available for anxiety.
As active challenges increase, the mind has less energy for anxiety, leading to less feeling of being overwhelmed.
Control over one's life is directly related to the number of active challenges taken on.
The more active challenges one takes on, the less overwhelmed they will feel.
The concept of an upward spiral is introduced, where taking care of small tasks can lead to taking care of more significant ones.
The example of Lord Ghoulia cleaning his room is used to illustrate the positive impact of taking on an active challenge.
Expending energy on a task, such as cleaning a room, can make one feel less overwhelmed and more in control.
The transcript discusses the importance of taking action to combat feelings of being overwhelmed and lack of control.
Transcripts
the instinct when you feel overwhelmed
is to actually do less but the other
secret solution is for you to be doing
more to take on more
study zero okay so let's talk about what
it means to feel overwhelmed so I want
you guys to think about
being overwhelmed so we have two kinds
of challenges in life one kind of
challenge is something that I call a
passive challenge which is a challenge
that we don't get to choose so passive
challenges happen to us
and
active challenges are the things that we
choose to do so passive challenges is
what life throws our way and active
challenges are what we what we kind of
throw it ourselves so if I decide that
you know I'm gonna like write a book one
day like I get up every day and I like
work on a book or let's use a real
example so I decided that I was gonna
start streaming and as I made the
decision to start streaming that's a lot
of work and in theory it should be
exhausting but in actuality like I find
it enjoyable and invigorating at the end
of it sure I'm tired but it's like a
challenge that I choose to take myself
and a passive challenge is like
something that happens to me like when
I'm prescribing a medication and the
insurance company denies it and then
like I have to spend hours with them on
the phone to try to get a patient of
mine a medication that they need that's
a passive challenge like I didn't choose
to do that it's a challenge that I have
to overcome that like life threw at me
and what I want you guys to understand
is that when you feel overwhelmed in
life there's a disconnect between your
passive challenges and your active
challenges when your passive challenges
outweigh your active challenges is when
you begin to feel overwhelmed so Lucy
was talking about a maze right and like
we feel overwhelmed because there's too
much going on and the funny thing though
is that the feeling of overwhelmed comes
from a discrepancy between active
challenges and passive challenge so when
life is throwing more at you not more
you than you can handle but more at you
than what you throw at yourself is is
when you feel overwhelmed so the
fascinating thing is that there are two
ways to stop feeling overwhelmed the the
what most people think is that I need to
life is throwing more at me that I need
to handle so I need to reduce the amount
that life is throwing at me right that's
one way to fix being overwhelmed and the
other thing to recognize about being
overwhelmed is people who feel
overwhelmed feel like they're not in
control of their destiny those two
things are synonymous being overwhelmed
is not being in control
the funny thing though is once you
understand this relationship between
passive and active challenges the other
thing that you can realize is the other
way to stop feeling overwhelmed is to
actually add active challenges to your
life is to bite on like choose more
things about your life that you want to
do and the crazy thing is that is you
start to do that your sense of feeling
overwhelmed starts to go away
and if you think about like what what
that's practically doing to your
psychology is you start to take control
over your life because if I say like
okay so I have a bunch of stuff I should
be doing right I have a private practice
I have academic work I'm trying to put
together a study I'm doing some
consulting work and so you and then
there's like all this insurance stuff I
have to do I have to do stuff around
licenses I have to pay parking tickets I
have to get my car registered life is
throwing a bunch of crap at me
and so the funny thing is when I feel
overwhelmed like one solution is to
actually choose something that I want to
do and just work on that and as I add
act of challenges to my life I start to
feel less overwhelmed even though I'm
doing more the instinct when you feel
overwhelmed is to actually do less but
the other secret solution is for you to
be doing more to take on more to start
to take control over something that you
get to choose in your life and when you
start taking on active challenges you
feel in control you start to feel
accomplished you start to feel good
about yourself and then you
automatically feel less overwhelmed it's
like a mathematical principle of
psychology
as we as our active challenges go away
we start to build up energy because
active challenges is one way that we
expend energy right if I decide that I'm
gonna start twitch streaming I'm gonna
feel exhausted in about 10 minutes but
it's a way in which I'm expending energy
and all anxiety is is unused energy so
as you adopt an active challenge you
start to expend energy and then your
mind has less energy left over for
anxiety and if we think about like what
is anxiety anxiety is just energy
bouncing around in your head it's just
thoughts bouncing around in your head
that never go away anxiety is a disorder
of excess mental energy those you adopt
active challenges you start spending
your energy you start to feel like
you're in control of things and then
like the feeling of going feeling
overwhelmed just goes away
and that's that's it
like the more you get control over your
life relates to like how much active
challenge you take on and the more
to challenge you take on like the less
overwhelmed you're going to feel
and I feel like I should keep talking
but that's it and it's simple
right so how do you actually get
yourself to actually do things so you
actually decide to do stuff
right so like Lord Ghoulia's is doing it
he started cleaning his room
guys remember like hooli has started to
feel better about himself when he
cleaned his room like why because before
he cleaned his room like life was
overwhelming right Ghoulia's that's
another way to describe like so we
talked about a lot of feelings but I
would say that you felt overwhelmed by
life and you felt less overwhelmed by
cleaning your room so how does that work
we can use the frame of passive and
active challenges
to to recognize that all it takes is for
you to expend energy and accomplish
something that you put your your mind to
to feel like you're less overwhelmed and
more in control and then everyone talks
about downward spirals and there's some
kind of like upward spiral too or if you
start taking care of you're gonna
be able to take care of way more
than you realize
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