Men Are So Sick Of Hearing This From Women
Summary
TLDRLe script du clip vidéo discute de l'attitude de certaines femmes modernes qui s'attendent à ce que leurs partenaires soient des 'lecteurs d'esprit', c'est-à-dire qu'ils devraient savoir leurs besoins et leurs désirs sans qu'elles aient à les exprimer. L'auteur argumente que cette attente est le signe d'un narcissisme, où les femmes se sentent intitulées à une compréhension et un traitement spécial sans avoir à communiquer clairement. Il pointe également les conséquences néfastes de ce comportement sur les relations, y compris la manipulation et l'abus de pouvoir, et suggère que les femmes devraient plutôt apprendre à communiquer leurs besoins et à prendre en charge de leurs relations.
Takeaways
- 😐 L'auteur critique l'idée que les femmes ne devraient pas avoir à demander de l'aide ou à exprimer leurs problèmes, suggérant que cela est lié à un comportement narcissique.
- 👤 Il est question que certaines femmes attendent de leur partenaire qu'il soit un 'lecteur d'esprit', ce qui est vu comme une forme de comportement narcissique.
- 💬 L'auteur souligne que la communication est essentielle dans une relation saine et que l'on ne devrait pas s'attendre à ce que son partenaire devine ses besoins.
- 👶 L'exemple d'un bébé est utilisé pour illustrer que même les enfants de 3 ans peuvent communiquer leurs besoins, donc les adultes devraient être capables de le faire aussi.
- 🤔 L'auteur mentionne que certaines femmes peuvent se sentir plus importantes si leurs partenaires font des choses pour elles sans qu'elles aient à demander, ce qui est perçu comme une attitude toxique.
- 🧐 L'auteur discute de la possibilité que les femmes qui gardent leurs sentiments pour elles-mêmes trouvent du plaisir à voir leur partenaire essayer de deviner ce qu'elles veulent.
- 🚫 L'auteur déclare que l'attente d'un 'lecteur d'esprit' est une preuve d'une compréhension immature de l'amour.
- 🤝 L'auteur suggère que la vulnérabilité et la communication ouverte sont des éléments clés pour renforcer la confiance et le lien dans une relation.
- 💔 L'auteur note que l'absence de communication peut mener à des accusations de manque d'amour ou d'intérêt de la part de la femme envers l'homme.
- 🤔 L'auteur pose la question de savoir si les femmes qui ont cette attitude veulent vraiment que tout le monde devine leurs désirs, ou s'il s'agit d'une peur de la vulnérabilité.
- 🔗 L'auteur mentionne que la capacité à demander des choses et à prendre des risques peut aider à renforcer les liens et à construire des relations plus fortes.
Q & A
Quel est le premier point souligné par le locuteur à propos de la perception de certaines femmes sur le rôle de l'homme dans leur vie?
-Le premier point souligné est que lorsque les femmes voient un homme proposant de résoudre leurs problèmes, elles imaginent immédiatement qu'il va leur donner de l'argent, ce qui révèle leur vision du rôle masculin comme étant principalement lié à la capacité financière.
Comment le locuteur décrit-il la deuxième observation sur la façon dont certaines femmes abordent la masculinité?
-La deuxième observation est que certaines femmes utilisent une tactique de honte en disant qu'un homme qui ne se préoccupe pas immédiatement de résoudre leurs problèmes n'est pas un 'vrai homme'. Cela révèle une forme de sexisme sombre qui tient les hommes pour responsables de servir les femmes.
Quelle est la préoccupation majeure du locuteur concernant l'attente des femmes envers leurs partenaires?
-La préoccupation majeure est que certaines femmes attendent de leurs partenaires qu'ils soient des 'lecteurs d'esprit', sans avoir besoin de communiquer leurs problèmes ou leurs désirs, ce qui est un signe de narcissisme.
Pourquoi le locuteur associe-t-il l'augmentation du narcissisme chez les femmes à l'évolution des médias sociaux et de la féminisme?
-Le locuteur soutient que l'évolution des médias sociaux, de la rencontre en ligne et du féminisme a enseigné aux femmes qu'elles ne sont pas responsables de leurs mauvais choix, qui sont plutôt glorifiés, ce qui les pousse à ne pas se réfléchir et à projeter sur les autres, y compris dans les relations.
Quel est le message publicitaire intégré dans le script et comment cela peut-il être perçu par le public?
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Comment le locuteur défend-il l'idée que l'on devrait communiquer ses besoins et ses désirs dans une relation?
-Il soutient que la communication est essentielle et que les femmes devraient prendre l'initiative de dire ce qu'elles veulent plutôt que de s'attendre à ce que leurs partenaires soient des 'lecteurs d'esprit'. Il considère cela comme une compétence à développer et une occasion de renforcement de la relation.
Quels sont les arguments avancés par le locuteur contre l'idée que les femmes devraient attendre que leurs partenaires devinent leurs besoins?
-Il argumente que cette attitude est immature, narcissique et toxique, car elle implique un sentiment d'entitlement et une absence de responsabilité personnelle. Il suggère également que cela nuit à la construction de la confiance et du confort dans une relation.
Quelle est la suggestion du locuteur pour les femmes qui ont du mal à exprimer leurs besoins ou leurs désirs?
-Il suggère que ces femmes devraient travailler sur leur capacité à communiquer, en prenant de la responsabilité personnelle et en s'entraînant à exprimer leurs besoins, plutôt que de s'appuyer sur l'idée que leurs partenaires devraient deviner.
Comment le locuteur relie-t-il l'idée de 'ne pas devoir demander de faveur' à un comportement narcissique?
-Il soutient que le désir de ne pas demander de faveur et d'attendre qu'elle soit faite sans demander est un signe de narcissisme, car cela implique une croyance que l'on est si important que les autres devraient simplement savoir et agir sur ses désirs.
Quelle est la proposition du locuteur pour améliorer la communication dans les relations?
-Il propose de considérer la communication comme une compétence essentielle qui doit être exercée et pratiquée. Il encourage les femmes à prendre le risque d'être vulnérables, de demander ce dont elles ont besoin, et à travailler sur la confiance et le confort dans la relation.
Outlines
😡 Attentes irréalistes et narcissiques dans les relations
Le premier paragraphe aborde l'idée selon laquelle certaines femmes modernes ont des attentes irréalistes envers leurs partenaires masculins, s'attendant à ce que ces derniers puissent 'résoudre' leurs problèmes sans communication claire. Il est suggéré que cette attitude peut être vue comme un signe de narcissisme, où l'on se sent intitulé à une compréhension intuitive et à un traitement spécial sans effort de communication. Le texte critique également l'idée que les femmes ne devraient pas avoir à exprimer leurs besoins ou désirs, argumentant que cela est à la fois immature et une forme de comportement narcissique.
😞 Le narcissisme et la dépendance dans les dynamiques relationnelles
Le deuxième paragraphe explore davantage les conséquences de ces attentes narcissiques, où les femmes gardent rancune ou se sentent négligées lorsqu'un homme ne parvient pas à deviner leurs désirs. Le texte mentionne l'importance de la communication ouverte dans une relation saine, et comment l'absence de celle-ci peut mener à une dynamique de pouvoir toxique et abusif. Il est également question de la promotion de l'égoïsme et de l'absence de responsabilité personnelle, attribuée à l'influence de médias sociaux, de la rencontre en ligne et du féminisme.
🤔 Le développement de la communication et la responsabilité personnelle
Dans le troisième paragraphe, l'auteur insiste sur l'importance de la communication en tant que compétence essentielle dans les relations. Il critique l'idée que les femmes devraient attendre que leurs partenaires devinent leurs besoins sans qu'elles aient à les exprimer. Le texte met en avant la nécessité d'assumer sa propre vulnérabilité et de prendre le risque d'être rejeté ou ridiculisé lorsqu'on demande quelque chose, soulignant que c'est un moyen de renforcement de la confiance et de la sécurité dans une relation. Il est également mentionné que les femmes qui ont des difficultés à comprendre ou à exprimer leurs émotions ou leurs besoins devraient travailler sur ces aspects pour améliorer la qualité de leurs relations.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Narcissisme
💡Communication
💡Compte-rendu
💡Entitlement
💡Sexisme
💡Relation amoureuse
💡Mind reading
💡Co-dépendance
💡Vulnérabilité
💡Féminisme
Highlights
The speaker criticizes the expectation that men should instinctively know how to solve women's problems without being told.
The video suggests that women who expect men to read their minds may be exhibiting narcissistic tendencies.
It is argued that narcissists have a strong sense of entitlement and lack of empathy, expecting others to prioritize their needs without communication.
The speaker connects the rise of social media, online dating, and feminism with the creation of a generation of narcissistic women.
The transcript discusses how the modern trend of not taking accountability for one's actions can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics.
The expectation that a man should be a mind reader is linked to a lack of self-awareness and emotional maturity.
The speaker points out that many women enjoy the power of withholding information from their partners, which can be abusive.
The video highlights the importance of communication in relationships and criticizes the idea that love means never having to communicate desires.
The transcript suggests that expecting a partner to know what you want without asking is a sign of immaturity in understanding love.
The speaker argues that the belief that a favor is more meaningful if not asked for is a toxic belief that hinders relationship growth.
The video discusses the concept of codependency in relationships and how avoiding communication can lead to missed opportunities for bonding.
The transcript touches on the fear of vulnerability and rejection that some women may have when it comes to expressing their desires.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking personal responsibility and working on communication skills in relationships.
The video suggests that reminding a partner of past conversations is not harmful and can actually strengthen a relationship.
The transcript addresses the issue of women who are upset but do not know why or what they need from their partner.
The speaker offers a full guide on handling complex relationship situations for those who join the speaker's Patreon.
Transcripts
ladies you really do not even need to
ask a real man for help like they offer
they offer they take care of it they
just they in instinctually know and they
just handle it they are natural problem
solvers they want to solve the problem
so if you go to him with a little
problemo done a real man handled handled
how much you need what do you need what
do you need for me what do you want how
can I make it better how can I fix this
how can I fix this so that way you can
go back to being the happy fun loving
stressfree person that I know and want
you to be okay three things stand out to
me from watching that clip number one
the first thing that she imagines when a
man is offering to fix her problems is
him saying how much do you need it's
quite revealing isn't it about the way
that she views a man's role in her life
how much money is he going to give her
that's where her mind first goes number
two she mentions twice that a man who
doesn't instantly snap to attention
ready to solve her problems is not a
real man classic shaming tactic holding
a man's masculinity hostage he's not a
real man unless he lives to serve her
very revealing of a dark sexism but the
last thing I picked up on and I would
say is the most concerning is her
expectation that she should not have to
communicate what her problems are or
what it is that she would like from him
no no a real man just knows you don't
even need to ask he knows what you need
instinctively for many modern women
their idea of true love is never having
to communicate their thoughts their
desires their problems to their
boyfriend no he just magic ically knows
what she wants this is the Ultimate
Fantasy and a man who can do that well
he's a real man if I'm grumpy because
I'm hungry he just knows and he goes to
make me a snack without me even having
to ask if I'm angry about a chore that
he forgot to do I don't need to remind
him about that chore no he just
remembers he's able to figure it out by
himself if I'm yelling at him but deep
down I'm feeling vulnerable and scared
he should know my true feelings and
instead of reacting to my yelling should
comfort me for so many modern women they
don't want to communicate with their
boyfriends and husbands they just want
him to know what needs to be done the
expectation is that to be a real man you
need to be a mind reader but guess what
even though that expectation is
terrifyingly common amongst modern women
the expectation that your partner should
be a mindreader is actually a Telltale
sign that you are a narcissist
narcissists absolutely expect you to
read their mind they have a strong sense
of entitlement that causes them to feel
like you should be prioritizing their
thoughts their mood their feelings their
perspective over your own and
additionally narcissists also feel like
they deserve special treatment they
don't feel like they should have to
communicate their needs and their
thoughts and their feelings like a
normal person they just feel entitled
for you to already know it also in some
ways narcissists lack self-awareness and
that also ties into that entitlement and
also their lack of empathy in that they
don't see how [ __ ] ridiculous it is
that they expect you to be able to read
their mind also because narcissists tend
to only see things from their
perspective they think that that's the
only perspective that there is that
actually makes sense so why would you
not already know what they're thinking
why would you not already know what
they're feeling it's the only way to
think and the only way to feel in their
eyes and narcissists love to keep you on
your toes they want to keep you guessing
trying to figure out what they're
thinking trying to figure out what
they're feeling they want to be the
center of everything in your world at
all times and actually not only do they
want it they expect it if you don't
they're going to punish you for it in
one way or another to again keep you on
your toes and make sure that your
priority is trying to figure out them
and how they feel and what they think I
wonder how many guys in the audience
right now listening to that and thinking
oh my God how does that woman know my
ex-wife know my ex-girlfriend whoo whoa
whoa all this seems like dangerous
territory Alexander are you saying that
this classic narcissistic trait is
becoming more common amongst all modern
women therefore making the extreme
suggestion that as a trend modern women
are displaying more and more
narcissistic behaviors yeah that's
exactly what I'm saying we've created a
generation of narcissistic women and
what's happened is the rise of social
media and the rise of online dating and
the rise of feminism has taught women
that they are not to blame for any poor
choices every poor choice is glamorized
so if you want to be a sex worker it's
great if you want to post bikini
pictures online it's fine if you want to
be in with it every poor choice is
glamorized and every internal reflection
is seen as gaslighting yourself so
they've even got terms for internal
reflection to prevent it happening and
so what will happen is they are trained
to not reflect on themselves because
we've been told we've been oppressed for
so many years now it's time to make sure
we project and so we don't take any
accountability and as a result when we
get into relationships we don't feel
completely soothed all the time he must
be a narcissist he must be a manipulator
he must be gaslighting he he he rather
than I I I most men want their
girlfriends to be happy they like doing
things for her they like fixing problems
they're happy to go above and beyond
just to please her and when you've got a
man who is so willing to do whatever it
takes to make her happy it seems so
painful so unfair to not just tell him
what it is that you want he's willing to
do it but you do have to tell him but no
for some of these modern women they
think that they are entitled to a man
who can read their mind that somehow it
is beneath them to have to communicate
their wants and desires are you ready
for this to get pretty dark because
psychologically the truth is lots of
women enjoy withholding that information
from their boyfriends it gives them this
sick sense of power to hold their own
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okay back to the video and explaining
the dark psychology of a woman who
enjoys not telling you what she's
feeling or what she wants you to do and
why she likes putting you under the
pressure of being a mind reader a woman
who's thinking I know why I'm upset but
I'm not going to tell you it gives me
pleasure to see you running around
trying to please me trying to guess what
it is that I want I like having that
power over you it's very dark and even
if her motives are not quite that
Sinister the expectation that you read
her mind that you intuitively know what
it is that she wants without her having
to communicate is evidence of a very
immature understanding of Love perhaps
when she was a baby she could reasonably
expect that when she's crying her mother
intuitively understands whether she's
tired or whether she's hungry but as an
adult if she is upset or if she wants
something she can communicate that my
daughter is 3 years old and she knows
how to communicate her needs if she
wants food she asks me if she wants to
play a game she tells me so if my infant
daughter is capable of communicating her
needs it is not unreasonable to expect
that a grown woman should be able to do
the same but of course if a man does
fail to read her mind to know what she's
feeling to know what she wants what
she's thinking so many modern women are
going to hit him quick with the
accusation you don't care about me you
don't love me for
real all this cuz I said I was going to
go out with my friends well now what am
I going to do tonight babe it's not
going to be
long it's 8:00 and you're leaving now
you're going to be back at like midnight
someone's going to like come in or
something it's just a GU night out you
won even love me come
on you don't you don't even love me you
don't even love me for real you don't
love me that's messed up you're not
doing what I want therefore you don't
love me you have a separate life to me
therefore you don't love me you didn't
read my mind therefore you don't love me
it is such [ __ ] it is a completely
reasonable standard that in every adult
relationship if you want something you
can ask for it and a boyfriend can prove
that he cares about you by listening to
what it is that you want the Love is in
the listening but the idea that he
should be a mindreader is ridiculous now
some women will object to this they'll
say oh but I don't know how to
communicate what I want and that's funny
because it seems like when you're
speaking to your girlfriends about your
boyfriend and all the ways that he is
failing you seem to know exactly what it
is that you want but suddenly when
talking directly with him you find it
very difficult but regardless even if it
is a struggle for you to articulate what
it is that you want what you're thinking
what you're feeling that's not an excuse
to be bad at it work at it it's a muscle
it needs to be exercised it's a skill it
needs to be practiced take some personal
responsibility say yes I understand this
is an essential skill I need to develop
I will work on it it's always worrying
if you hear a woman say something along
the lines of well he should know what I
want because I already told him once
she's thinking that because she
mentioned in one conversation 6 months
ago that a good night's sleep is
important to her that he should
magically know that she wants to leave
the party at 10 p.m. even though she has
said nothing to him he should just
remember that conversation and know what
it is that she's feeling it's such
[ __ ] again there's no accountability
even if it is something that you've
talked about before what exactly is the
harm in just reminding that person
saying can we please leave I'm tired I
would like to go to bed isn't that so
much better than expecting him to be a
mind reader for many modern women no
they have this bizarre toxic belief that
a favor is more meaningful if it's done
for her and she didn't have to ask for
it why I mean is it really that
pleasurable to play out this
narcissistic fantasy that you are so
important that you don't even need to
speak out your desires everybody just
magically and intuitively knows who they
are and acts upon them why would women
want that isn't there something more
dignified in owning your own desires and
asking for a man to do something in
being a self-possessed adult who knows
what they want takes ownership of that
and then communicates it evidently not
for some people speaking out loud what
it is that they want it feels too
vulnerable they're worried that they're
coming across as needy or something or
that they're going to get rejected and
instead of working through that
discomfort they just expect their
partner to be a mind reader it's
absolute codependence and by shying away
from that challenge they are missing a
massive opportunity to bond with their
partner this is actually the area where
a huge amount of pair bonding takes
place in a relationship to be vulnerable
to ask for something that you need to
risk ridicule and rejection but then
have your request received respected
validated acted upon it builds trust it
builds Comfort there's a huge
opportunity there if by asking something
you feel ashamed that you should have to
ask about it but then you take that risk
you show that courage and then he
receives it properly right there you can
challenge that belief that you are
shameful that you are unlovable that you
are undeserving this is how peir bonding
and loving relationships often Works a
series of exchanges like that where you
are vulnerable to the other person and
it's received really well but of course
there is a separate category where a
woman is upset about something but she
doesn't know why she's upset or what she
needs from her man how is a woman meant
to handle that situation and what can
you do as her partner to support her
we're getting into a lot of like deep
relationship Nuance with questions like
that and I give the full guide on how to
handle situations like that in the full
length version of this video which is
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on YouTube these are the more simplified
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