TABLE MANNERS IN FRANCE : 37 RULES OF ETIQUETTE

Summary

In this video, French etiquette expert Hannah provides an essential guide to the 37 key rules of table manners in France. From the importance of punctuality and proper greetings to using utensils correctly and engaging in polite conversation, Hannah covers everything you need to know to navigate French dining customs. The video emphasizes respect for the host, polite behavior, and attention to detail, offering both practical advice and cultural insights. Whether you're attending a dinner party or simply curious about French elegance, these tips will help you master the art of dining with grace.

Takeaways

• 😀 Arrive on time — punctuality is essential in French culture. Being 15 minutes late is usually acceptable, but after that, inform the host with a polite message.
• 😀 Greet everyone with respect — say 'Bonjour' to the host and guests, and use formal greetings like 'Bonjour Madame' or 'Bonjour Paul' when appropriate.
• 😀 Wait to be seated — allow the hostess to indicate your place at the table, even in casual settings.
• 😀 Place your napkin on your lap immediately after sitting down — this signals that you're ready to begin the meal.
• 😀 Don’t start eating until the host does — the host is the one who gives the signal to begin the meal.
• 😀 Follow the European style of eating — hold your fork in your left hand and knife in your right.
• 😀 Chew with your mouth closed — this is one of the most important rules of table manners.
• 😀 Never speak with food in your mouth — wait until you’ve swallowed your food before engaging in conversation.
• 😀 Break bread with your hands — use your fingers to break off a piece, not a knife, and never bite directly into the bread.
• 😀 Offer food to others before serving yourself — always pass the dish to someone else before helping yourself.

Q & A

What is considered rude in French table manners regarding punctuality?

Arriving late is considered rude in France. Generally, arriving 15 minutes after the scheduled time is acceptable, but anything later requires informing the hostess via message, as she may be attending to the guests who arrived on time.

How should you greet the host and guests when you arrive?

When you arrive, greet the host and guests with a proper 'Bonjour' and, if possible, address them by name, such as 'Bonjour Paul' or 'Bonjour Madame.' In some cultures, a kiss on both cheeks or a handshake may be customary.

What is the correct protocol for seating at the table?

It is polite to wait for the hostess to show you to your seat or indicate your place at the table. This is a sign of respect for proper seating arrangements.

When should you begin eating at a French meal?

You should not begin eating before the hostess starts or gives the signal to begin. This ensures that the meal starts in a coordinated manner.

How should you use utensils while eating in the European style?

In the European style, the fork is held in the left hand, and the knife in the right hand. This is the standard method for eating in France and many European countries.

What is the proper way to chew and speak during a meal?

It is essential to chew with your mouth closed to avoid making noise, which is considered one of the most important rules. Additionally, you should not speak with food in your mouth and wait until you have swallowed your food before speaking.

How should bread be handled during a meal?

Bread should be broken with your hands, not cut with a knife. Additionally, bread should not be used as an appetizer before the meal but can be used to assist in picking up food.

What should you do when serving food or passing dishes?

When serving food, it should be served from the left side of the guest, and when passing dishes, they should be passed counterclockwise around the table. It's also polite to offer others the dish before serving yourself.

How do you show appreciation to the host?

It is important to compliment the host on the meal and show appreciation for their efforts. A simple, genuine compliment is considered good manners.

What is the proper etiquette for leaving after a meal?

Before leaving, always thank the host, ideally with a thank-you card or message the next day. When leaving, do so quickly without engaging in a long conversation at the door, as it can disrupt the atmosphere for those still at the table.