Feel Them Pulling Away? - AVOID THIS MISTAKE!

Summary

In this video, the speaker explains how the energy dynamics in relationships can impact attraction. When someone pulls away, leaning in or trying to fix things only pushes them further. Instead, giving space and focusing on your own energy signals self-worth and respect. The speaker shares personal insights on how seeking validation through others can stem from past experiences, but true empowerment comes from choosing yourself. The key message is to stop abandoning yourself in pursuit of others' approval and to embrace self-validation, which can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Takeaways

• 😀 Leaning in or chasing someone who pulls away only pushes them further away energetically.
• 😀 The key to attraction is not dependency, but maintaining your own energy and self-worth.
• 😀 If someone pulls away, give them space and focus on yourself, which can lead them to return with more feelings for you.
• 😀 When you try to fix or 'save' someone, you're signaling a lack of self-worth, which pushes them further away.
• 😀 The belief that you need to prove your worth to others can stem from childhood experiences of feeling unchosen or abandoned.
• 😀 To break the cycle of needing external validation, stop abandoning yourself and start choosing your own self-worth.
• 😀 Sending energy or thoughts to someone when they pull away often makes them feel suffocated and pushes them away more.
• 😀 Letting someone go when they pull away allows them the space to come to their own conclusions and feelings.
• 😀 Relationships should not be based on codependency. Empower yourself by letting go of attachment and focusing on your own life.
• 😀 If someone isn’t choosing you, it might be a sign to make space for someone who will truly choose you.
• 😀 The energy you put into choosing yourself and respecting your worth reflects in your relationships and attracts people who match that energy.

Q & A

Why does leaning in when someone pulls away push them further away?

Leaning in or chasing after someone who is pulling away creates an energetic imbalance. It makes the person feel suffocated, which leads them to distance themselves even more. Instead, giving them space allows for a healthier dynamic and may help them return to you.

What role does self-worth play in relationship dynamics?

Self-worth is crucial in relationships because it prevents you from seeking validation from others. By focusing on your own value, you stop depending on others to prove your worth, which makes you more attractive and magnetic.

How can focusing on your own energy improve your relationships?

When you focus on your own energy, you stop chasing others and create a more balanced, self-respecting dynamic. This allows you to attract people who appreciate you for who you truly are, rather than trying to 'fix' or prove yourself to them.

What does it mean to 'let go' in a relationship?

'Letting go' means giving someone the space they need to come to their own conclusions about their feelings. It’s not about forcing them to come back to you, but rather allowing them the freedom to decide on their own, which can actually lead to them returning if they're meant to.

How does childhood experience influence adult relationship patterns?

If you experienced emotional or physical absence from your parents, you may carry a belief that you're not worthy or chosen. This can manifest in adult relationships as a tendency to chase after people who don't choose you. Recognizing that it wasn't your fault and learning to choose yourself can help break this cycle.

What does the script suggest about people who are not choosing you?

The script suggests that if someone is not choosing you, it’s important to let them go. Chasing someone who isn't choosing you reflects a deeper need for validation, often stemming from childhood experiences. By choosing yourself, you make space for someone who will choose you.

How can self-respect impact attraction in relationships?

Self-respect is magnetic. When you prioritize your own well-being and stop seeking validation from others, you naturally attract people who recognize and respect your value. It's about embodying your worth, which makes you more appealing to others.

Why is attachment to someone who pulls away detrimental?

Attachment to someone who pulls away is detrimental because it creates emotional dependency and reinforces unhealthy dynamics. It often stems from a fear of abandonment or a belief that you need the other person to validate your worth, which leads to insecurity and imbalance in the relationship.

What should you do if someone is pulling away but you want them back?

If someone is pulling away, you should resist the urge to chase them. Instead, focus on bringing the energy back to yourself. Give them the space they need, which can allow them to come back around if they truly have feelings for you. If they don’t, it’s okay—it’s a sign to move on.

How can the 'frame technique' help improve your energy dynamic?

The 'frame technique' is a method that helps shift your energy and how others perceive you. By mastering this technique, you can take control of your own energy and stop being overly sensitive to others' reactions, leading to more balanced and respectful interactions in your relationships.