Find Your Ruth By Becoming Her Boaz (Relationship Advice for Christian Men)

Summary

This video teaches men three biblical lessons inspired by Boaz, a figure from the Book of Ruth. First, men should take responsibility for others' well-being, developing leadership skills and a provider mindset before meeting their partner. Second, men should offer their strength to women, not seek strength from them, emulating Boaz's readiness to serve and protect. Third, men should respond clearly and confidently when a woman shows interest, just as Boaz did with Ruth. The video concludes with a recommendation to address personal struggles, particularly sexual sin, for healthier relationships.

Takeaways

• 💡 Men should take responsibility for the well-being of others before meeting their 'Ruth,' just as Boaz was responsible for his land, employees, and community.
• 📖 Boaz was already a responsible leader and provider before he met Ruth, which made him ready to take care of her without having to learn on the fly.
• ⚖️ Our culture wrongly teaches men that freedom is about avoiding responsibility, but biblical men are characterized by service, protection, and provision for others.
• 💪 To be like Boaz, men should start serving and developing leadership and provision skills before they meet their future spouse.
• 🤝 Offer your strength to a woman instead of trying to find your strength in her. Men should be confident in their own abilities and offer that strength to women.
• 🚫 Avoid the mindset of relying on a woman to validate your masculinity. A godly man knows his strength comes from God and not from winning a woman.
• 👨‍💼 Boaz didn't complain about the lack of good women or blame others for his problems. Instead, he focused on handling his responsibilities and naturally attracted Ruth through his actions.
• 🌸 Women are attracted to men who offer their strength and leadership, not to those who rely on them for validation.
• 🏃‍♂️ When a woman shows interest, respond quickly and clearly, as Boaz did when Ruth expressed her feelings.
• 🚨 Men who struggle with pursuing women often have unresolved issues, like sexual sin. Seeking personal sanctification can help overcome this.

Q & A

What is the first lesson God teaches men to be more like Boaz?

The first lesson is to take responsibility for other people's well-being before meeting their 'Ruth.' Boaz already managed land, employed men and women, provided meals, and offered protection to women, showing that he had learned to take responsibility long before meeting Ruth.

Why is Boaz not mentioned in Ruth Chapter 1?

Boaz is not mentioned in Ruth Chapter 1 because that chapter focuses on Ruth's character and faithfulness, specifically how she treats her mother-in-law, Naomi.

How does Boaz demonstrate responsibility before meeting Ruth?

Boaz demonstrated responsibility by owning and managing land, employing workers, providing meals, and offering protection to women. His workers respected him, and he had built a reputation as a responsible leader.

What does the script say about the cultural view of responsibility for men?

The script suggests that modern culture teaches men to avoid responsibility and remain immature, equating freedom with a lack of obligations. However, the biblical view of strong, free men involves taking responsibility for serving and protecting others.

What is the second lesson for men to be more like Boaz?

The second lesson is to offer strength to a woman rather than seeking strength from a woman. Boaz didn't seek validation from Ruth but instead offered his protection and care, which made him appealing to her.

Why is it important for a man to offer his strength to a woman?

A woman wants to submit to a man who is strong and capable. Men should provide stability and strength in a relationship, as women look for more than just charm and looks—they seek reliability and leadership.

How does Boaz's approach to Ruth differ from the modern mindset described in the script?

Boaz was not waiting for Ruth to make him feel strong or complete. He already had his life together, was responsible, and naturally offered his strength to help Ruth, which made him attractive to her.

What is the third lesson for men to be more like Boaz?

The third lesson is to respond quickly and clearly when a woman shows interest. When Ruth made her feelings clear in Chapter 3, Boaz did not hesitate or doubt. He confidently pursued her.

Why is decisiveness important for a man in a relationship, according to the script?

Decisiveness is important because it shows confidence and leadership. A man like Boaz doesn’t repeatedly seek reassurance but takes initiative when he recognizes a woman’s interest, making a clear move forward.

How does sexual sin affect a man's ability to pursue a woman like Boaz?

Sexual sin can hinder a man's ability to confidently pursue a woman because it creates insecurity and distraction. The script offers a course called '30 Days of Sanctifying Your Sexuality' to help men overcome this challenge.