How to Give & Get Constructive Feedback | Dr. Adam Grant & Dr. Andrew Huberman
Summary
TLDRВ данном видео скрипте рассматривается исследование Kluger и DeNisi, показывющее, что полезность обратной связи не зависит от ее положительного или отрицательного характера, а от того, касается ли она задачи или самих себя. Автор подчеркивает важность конкретной и полезной информации, которая помогает улучшить свою работу, и предлагает методику 'второго счета' для оценки своего способа принятия критики и обучения на ее основе. История о преподавателе, который успешно применил этот подход, делает идеи более конкретными и понятными.
Takeaways
- 🔍Феedback-это не противоположность положительного и отрицательного, а фокус на задаче или на самом человеке.
- 💡Полезность фидбека заключается в том, чтобы учиться у своих сильных и слабых сторон, а не просто получать похвалу или критику.
- 🧠Формулирование вопросов о фидбеке важно: вместо прошлого, сосредоточьтесь на будущем и попросите советов для улучшения.
- 🤔Лучше всего искать ментора, который поможет стать лучшей версией себя, а не просто аплодисменты или критики.
- 🌟Итак, фокусироваться на положительном или отрицательном фидбеке менее важно, чем на том, как использовать его для развития.
- 📈Второй счет - это метод оценки того, как хорошо вы приняли критику, и ставить себе цель улучшить свое поведение в следующий раз.
- 🚀Принимайте фидбек не для того, чтобы стыдить предыдущую версию себя, а для того, чтобы обучить следующую версию.
- 🧩Постепенное улучшение - это непрерывный процесс, который требует усилий и внимания каждый день.
- 🌱Рост и развитие - это не что-то, что можно получить после одного подкаста или семинара, а это процесс, который нужно активно развивать.
- 🛠️Используйте фидбек как инструмент для создания конструктивного изменения и развития навыков.
Q & A
Какой основной фактор определяет полезность обратной связи?
-Полезность обратной связи не определяется тем, является ли она положительной или отрицательной, а тем, концентрируется она на задаче или на самом человеке.
Какие две группы людей получают, когда просите об обратной связи?
-При запросе обратной связи, вы получаете две группы людей - похвалительников (cheerleaders) и критиков (critics). Похвалительники в основном аплодируют вашим лучшим качествам, в то время как критики критикуют ваши худшие качества.
Что является лучшим способом получения полезной обратной связи?
-Лучший способ получения полезной обратной связи - просить советы для следующего раза, а не просить обратной связи. Это позволит людям сосредоточиться на будущем и предложить вам, что вы можете повторить или исправить.
Как называется техника, которая помогает лучше принимать критику?
-Техника, которая помогает лучше принимать критику, называется 'второй счет' (second score).
Как работает техника 'второй счет'?
-Техника 'второй счет' заключается в том, чтобы оценить себя насколько хорошо вы приняли первую критику. Если, например, первая оценка составляет 3.5, то вы хотите получить 10 за то, как вы приняли эту оценку.
Какие уроки можно извлечь из истории о преподавателе, который обучал генералов и полководцев?
-Из этой истории можно извлечь урок о том, что важно быть открытым для обратной связи, признавать свои недостатки и использовать полученные знания, чтобы стать лучше в будущем.
Почему важно сосредоточиться на глаголах, а не существительных?
-Сосредоточение на глаголах, а не существительных, помогает сделать задачи менее запутанными и поощряет активное участие в процессе улучшения. Это также связано с концепцией роста ума и постоянного саморазвития.
Какое значение имеет понятие 'рост ума' в контексте обратной связи?
-Понятие 'рост ума' подразумевает веру в свою способность к обучению и развитию. Это означает, что вместо того чтобы сосредотачиваться на прошлых достижениях, важно постоянно работать над улучшением своих навыков и знаний.
Какое влияние имеет обратная связь на наше самооценка?
-Обратная связь может сыграть ключевую роль в формировании нашей самооценки. Она может помочь нам осознать свои сильные и слабые стороны, а также понять, в каких областях нужно сосредоточиться для дальнейшего развития.
Какие стратегии можно использовать для того, чтобы превратить отрицательную обратную связь в положительный опыт?
-Для превращения отрицательной обратной связи в положительный опыт, можно использовать стратегии, такие как просмотр своей работы с точки зрения других, поиск конструктивных моментов в критике и сосредоточение на будущем улучшении, а не на прошлых ошибках.
Как обратная связь может помочь в развитии коммуникационных навыков?
-Обратная связь может помочь в развитии коммуникационных навыков, предоставляя информацию о том, как другие воспринимают вашу речь или поведение. Это позволяет вам адаптировать и улучшать свой подход, чтобы более эффективно общаться с другими.
Outlines
🤔 Оценка полезности обратной связи
Анализ результатов мета-анализа Клюгера и ДеНизи, изучая 100 лет исследований обратной связи. Выводы о том, что полезность обратной связи не зависит от ее положительного или отрицательного характера, а от того, фокусируется она на задаче или на самом человеке. Значимость конкретных примеров работы для улучшения и преодоления слабых сторон, а также преимущества получения совета для следующего раза вместо простой оценки.
🧠 Путь к конструктивной критике
Рассуждения о том, как обратная связь может быть воспринята и использована для личностного развития. Отражение на опыте Андрю, когда изменение подхода к запросу обратной связи привело к более полезным и действенным предложениям по улучшению. Важность переключения с прошлого на будущее, запросив советы, направленные на корректировку или усиление поведенческих паттернов.
🌟 Самооценка принятия обратной связи
История о преодолении трудностей и применении метода 'второго счета', предложенного Шеилой Хин, для улучшения способности принимать и использовать критику. Описание ситуации, когда негативная обратная связь была переосмыслена и использована для личностного роста, путем изменения своего поведения и подхода в обучении высокопоставленными военных офицерами.
🚀 Формирование роста через действия
Обсуждение важности активного и ежедневного развития, основанного на принципах роста умственного устройства. Подчеркивание того, что цель обратной связи - не унижение прошлого 'я', а образование будущего 'я'. Рассмотрение процесса улучшения как непрерывного, сфокусированного на действиях и постоянном улучшении, а не на статических характеристиках.
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Keywords
💡feedback
💡meta-analysis
💡coach
💡growth mindset
💡self-improvement
💡defensive
💡complacent
💡cheerleaders and critics
💡second score
💡humility
💡ego
💡constructive criticism
Highlights
The utility of feedback is not determined by whether it's positive or negative, but by whether it focuses on the task or the self.
Negative feedback can lead to defensiveness, while positive feedback may result in complacency.
Specific feedback, whether positive or negative, encourages learning and improvement.
Focusing on how to learn from strengths and overcome weaknesses is more important than the nature of the feedback.
Asking for feedback can lead to receiving responses from cheerleaders or critics, rather than coaches who provide actionable advice.
Requesting advice for the future, rather than feedback on the past, encourages a more constructive response.
The subtle shift from asking for feedback to asking for advice can make a significant difference in the quality of the input received.
Transforming feedback into actionable suggestions by focusing on what to repeat or correct is key to improvement.
The concept of taking feedback constructively involves internalizing the criticism and focusing on self-improvement.
The 'second score' technique involves evaluating oneself on how well feedback was taken and used for improvement.
Personal story of applying the 'second score' technique in a challenging professional situation.
Humility and openness to feedback are valued over confidence, especially when credibility is in question.
Changing the approach to feedback by acknowledging shortcomings and focusing on learning can dramatically alter perceptions.
The importance of focusing on verbs and processes rather than nouns and states for personal growth and development.
The concept of the 'second score' is about turning a static evaluation into an ongoing process of improvement.
The idea of competing with one's past self to achieve continuous personal growth and development.
Actively working on a growth mindset requires daily effort and the right approach to feedback and learning.
The purpose of feedback and advice is to educate the future self, not to shame the past self.
Transcripts
So how should we filter
positive versus negative feedback?
Well, there's a meta-analysis here.
This is Kluger and DeNisi
looking at 100 years of feedback research.
And they found that what drives the utility of feedback
is not whether it's positive or negative,
it's whether it focuses on the task
or on the self.
So, if I tell you that your work is terrible,
you're going to get defensive.
If I tell you that your work is great,
you're going to get complacent.
If I tell you, here's the specific thing
that I liked about your work,
you're going to try to learn to repeat that.
And if I tell you, here's the thing I didn't like,
you're going to try to see if you can fix it.
So I actually think we should worry less about
whether the feedback is encouraging or discouraging,
and more about how do I make sure that I get input
that's going to allow me to learn from my strengths
and also overcome my weaknesses.
And actually, one of the things
I've learned recently is there's some,
I would say a growing body of evidence at this point,
that asking for feedback is not the best way
to get people to help you.
Because when you ask for feedback,
you end up getting two groups of people.
You get cheerleaders and you get critics.
And cheerleaders are basically applauding your best self.
Critics are attacking your worst self.
What you want is a coach,
which is somebody who helps you
become a better version of yourself.
And the way you get people to coach you
is not to say gimme feedback,
because they will then look at the past
and tell you what you screwed up or what you did right.
What you want is to say,
"Can you give me advice for next time?"
And then they look at the future
and they'll give you either a note on something to repeat
or something to correct.
And this is such a subtle shift
that it can make a big difference.
Andrew, one of the things
I guess I found myself applying this to a lot is,
after giving speeches.
I used to get off stage
and say, "I would love some feedback."
And you get back a bunch of,
"Oh, you know, I really enjoyed that."
Thanks, what do I do with that information?
I'm trying to learn how to get better.
And when I shift the question to say,
"What's the one thing I could do better next time?"
It's like, "Oh, don't open with a joke."
The audience couldn't tell you were joking.
Frequently,
it's give me a little bit more of a through line.
You focused a lot on, a bunch of interesting points,
but I lost the connective tissue.
And those actionable suggestions
are much more likely to come when you just ask for a tip
as opposed to an evaluation.
Oh, that's so good.
I think, I'm going to just pause for a second.
I've never taken a pause on...
I've taken an occasional pause, to be honest,
but they're very rare as the audience knows.
Oh, that's just gazillion dollar advice,
because I think that everyone has an ego.
We all want to perform well.
We'd like to perform better over time,
and negative feedback hurts,
and it can hurt a little
or a lot depending on how defensive we are.
But a tool like you just described,
to remove some of that defensive armor that we all have
and actually let the information in
in a way that's constructive is really great.
What you described,
I think is a way to create constructive criticism,
but the constructive part is really coming from within.
Yeah.
As opposed to saying,
I'd like some constructive criticism,
and then hoping that the criticism is actually constructive.
So you're taking control over the process
in a healthy way, in a benevolent way.
That's the goal.
And I think the big question
that comes up for a lot of people at this point is,
okay, so I get somebody to give me advice,
but it might still stink.
How do I get better at taking it constructively?
And I think probably my favorite technique on this,
I learned from Sheila Heen,
she calls it the second score.
And the idea is that
when somebody gives you a piece of criticism,
that's your first score.
So let's say, like, in my world,
they gave me a three and a half,
and I want to know how I can do better next time.
How do I get myself to focus on that?
What I do is say, "I want to get a 10
for how well I took the three and a half."
And that's the second score.
I want to evaluate myself on how well I took the first score.
I think about this almost every day.
Actually, can I tell you a quick story?
ANDREW: Please.
So, when I was right out of my doctorate,
I got asked to teach a motivation class
for Air Force generals and colonels.
I was 25, I think, 25, 26.
They're all twice my age,
they've got thousands of flying hours,
they've got billion dollar budgets.
They've got, well, this community well,
their nicknames are Stryker and Sand Dune,
and I was extremely intimidated.
So I walked in there and I thought I had to impress them.
And I started talking about my credentials,
and all my research experience.
And the feedback at the end
of the four hour session was brutal.
I remember reading the feedback forms
and one person had written,
"More knowledge in the audience than on the podium."
I was like, "True, I can't argue with that."
And then another wrote, "I gained nothing from this session,
but I trust the instructor gained useful insight."
And that was devastating.
I was like, " I would really like
to transform into an actual bear
and hibernate for the next four months,
and then maybe I'll come out of a hole ready to hear this."
I didn't have that option.
I had committed to teach a second session a week later.
So all I could do was figure out
how am I going to hear this feedback
and really take it seriously?
And I guess I applied a version of the second score,
and I said, "All right, there's some generals
that are going to come back and see me again,
and I've got to prove to them that I was open to feedback."
And one of the things I heard loud and clear
was that they valued humility,
and I had led with too much confidence,
which was just an insecurity mast.
And so I thought, "Okay, how do I change the equation?"
And walked in, looked at the room,
and I said, "I know what you're all thinking right now."
What could I possibly learn
from a professor who's 12 years old.
Dead silence.
I'm like, "Oh no, this is going to go horribly wrong."
And then one of the guys in the audience jumps in,
and he's like, "Oh, that's ridiculous,
you got to be at least 13."
Everybody started laughing, it broke the ice.
And I think what I was trying to do
was to take myself off the pedestal,
and say, "Look, I heard your feedback.
You told me that you didn't think
I had anything to teach you,
and I've got to acknowledge that right up front
and be open to the fact that that's true.
And so I want to come in here and learn from you,
and I want to see if I can curate a conversation
where we all end up learning."
And the feedback was night and day different afterward.
One person wrote, "Although junior and inexperienced,
the professor dealt with the evidence
in an interesting way."
I was like, "All right, I'll take it."
And there was something really powerful about saying,
"Look, I can't change the fact that they hated my session.
What I can do is convince them
that I was motivated to learn from their criticism."
I love this concept of the second score,
and thank you for sharing that story.
I think, very often we hear about people like you who,
if people didn't catch the math in there,
you were a PhD by age 25,
and as far as I know,
the youngest tenured professor at Penn at 28.
So these are outrageously impressive
metrics of accomplishment.
But for you to share a story about,
less than optimal performance and how you adjusted to it,
and the incorporation of this second score
that you're referring to, I think is really appreciated.
Because I think that as much as we hear,
"Oh, Jordan, took many more free throws
and everyone just thinks about all the ones he made."
People think about all the ones he made.
That's the way the game works,
that's the way the mind works, I should say.
So, I appreciate that you've flushed it out
with a personal example.
I too would want to turn into a bear and disappear,
but I think that it's really impressive what you did,
and it makes me think that the second score
of getting a 10 at bringing the three and a half up, right?
As it were, is really about turning a score
into a verb process.
Over and over again, as I do this podcast,
and as I've taught in the classroom,
what I keep coming back to is this idea
that we should be focusing more on verbs and less on nouns.
And we love to name things and categorize them,
but when we start living life
through a lot of verb processes,
so instead of being fit,
and we think about or running as a thing,
we really think about like just running, right?
It becomes less daunting and we accomplish far more.
But the idea that and this has this,
there are mathematical models of this I'm sure,
but where you're basically talking about,
like an integral right,
as opposed to just some value, right?
You're talking about the slope of the line.
Yeah.
Right, so you're a three and a half,
how are you going to get to a 10? Gosh, that's a huge gap.
And you're dealing with
being back on your heel psychologically
from getting all this battering feedback
from these highly accomplished individuals,
all these Germans
and literally wearing them presumably on their body.
So you, for you to see.
And it's really about creating,
it's about taking control of the slope of that line
from the three onward.
And it's really a forward looking perspective.
So I don't think we're being
an unduly psychological here analytic.
I mean, I think it's really about taking a moment state
and a noun and turning it into a verb.
Yeah, I think that's right.
I'm reminded the great philosopher Homer Simpson,
who said that verbing weirds language,
so it's harder to talk about this stuff in verbs.
I swear I didn't steal it from the Simpsons,
but if it came from Homer Simpson,
like I am all for it.
You have to, I mean, that's incredible.
Small brain, but given the size of his brain
and people have seen the image, fairly robust knowledge.
No, I think you're onto something.
I think verbs are active
and we're drawn to them, I think, yeah,
a lot of times people review their past work
and they just, like, they end up shaming an earlier version
of themselves and they, they wallow in rumination.
And what we want to try to do in that situation,
which is easier said than done, is to say,
"All right, like, the purpose of getting feedback
or advice is not to shame my past self
is to educate my future self."
Which I think is very connected
to a lot of the work on growth mindset
that you've been talking about.
And there's been a firestorm of controversy
around can we teach growth mindset in schools lately?
And I think what, what that is underscored for me is,
look, you can't expect someone to listen
to one podcast episode or go through one workshop
and magically believe that they're capable
of learning anything at any moment.
This is something we have to actively work
on on a daily basis.
And part of doing that exactly as you've said,
is thinking about this loop
and saying, "All right,
the person that I'm competing with is my past self
and I want to get a little bit better today
than I was yesterday."
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