My grandmother taught me this lesson l will never forget
Summary
TLDRIn this YouTube video, the host shares a personal story about her grandmother's wisdom on self-worth and relationships. She discusses the emotional manipulation men can use against women and offers advice on how to recognize and avoid such tactics. Emphasizing the importance of emotional control and strategic use of emotions, she encourages women to value themselves and not be easily swayed by men's actions.
Takeaways
- đ The speaker's grandmother taught her the importance of knowing her worth and not letting others fool her.
- đą The speaker grieved her grandmother's death while on holiday in Thailand, finding solace in the company of friends.
- đŁïž The grandmother emphasized the speaker's beauty and advised her to marry a 'handsome' (good-hearted) man.
- đȘ The grandmother's advice was rooted in the patriarchal society they lived in, where women's voices were often suppressed.
- đ„ The grandmother encouraged the speaker to speak up and use her voice, despite societal norms.
- đ The speaker acknowledges the emotional nature of women and how men can exploit this to their advantage.
- đ« The speaker warns against falling for manipulative tactics such as jealousy induction and love bombing.
- đ Patience is key in relationships; the speaker advises waiting to see a man's actions before fully investing emotionally.
- đ€ The speaker reflects on her past toxic relationship, analyzing how she was drawn in by emotional manipulation.
- đ¶ The speaker values loyalty and consistency, as exemplified by her relationship with her dog compared to the unpredictability of men.
- đ° The speaker stresses that a man's wealth or status should not overshadow a woman's self-worth and importance.
- đ She shares a personal story of using strategic emotion (crying) to gain control in a situation.
Q & A
What advice did the speaker's grandmother give her about relationships?
-The speaker's grandmother advised her to know her worth and not to let men fool her. She emphasized marrying a handsome man, equating it with a good soul and a good person.
How did the speaker's grandmother influence her understanding of self-worth?
-The speaker's grandmother taught her to speak up, use her voice, and never be afraid, instilling in her the importance of self-worth and the ability to recognize her own value.
What was the cultural context of the speaker's upbringing regarding women's roles?
-The speaker grew up in a patriarchal society where women were considered to have no value unless they were with a man, and women did not have a voice in society.
How does the speaker describe the emotional differences between men and women?
-The speaker describes women as emotional beings, which is a strength because it allows them to be caregivers and mothers. However, she also points out that men have exploited this emotional nature to their advantage.
What strategies does the speaker suggest for women to protect themselves from emotional manipulation?
-The speaker suggests that women should control their emotions, be patient, and always look at a man's actions rather than his words. She advises waiting and seeing what kind of effort a man puts in at the beginning of a relationship.
How does the speaker describe the 'love bump' technique used by men?
-The 'love bump' technique is described as a manipulative tactic where a man flirts with a woman, then leaves her for another woman, causing an emotional reaction. When he returns, the woman is more attached to him.
What personal experience does the speaker share about a toxic relationship?
-The speaker shares an experience where she was attracted to a man who made her jealous by flirting with another woman. This caused an emotional response, and she ended up in a toxic relationship with him.
Why did the speaker get a dog, and how does it relate to her view on relationships?
-The speaker got a dog because she had a lot of love to give and needed an outlet for her emotions. The dog provides unconditional love and is always there for her, unlike a man who might not be reliable.
What advice does the speaker give about how women should approach the beginning of a relationship?
-The speaker advises women to switch off their emotions at the beginning of a relationship, lock their hearts, and wait to see a man's actions before getting emotionally invested.
How does the speaker suggest using emotions strategically in relationships?
-The speaker suggests using emotions strategically by understanding that men often use women's emotions against them. By controlling one's emotions and using them intentionally, a woman can avoid being manipulated.
Outlines
đ Cultural Wisdom and Emotional Strength
The speaker shares a personal story about her grandmother's passing and the life lessons she learned from her. Her grandmother's advice to know her worth and not be fooled by others resonates deeply. The paragraph discusses the societal pressures and patriarchal norms the speaker grew up with, and how her grandmother taught her to speak up and use her voice. The speaker also talks about the emotional nature of women and how men can exploit this, advising women to control their emotions to gain power in relationships.
đ The Manipulation of Emotions in Relationships
This paragraph details the speaker's experience with a toxic relationship and how she was emotionally manipulated. She explains the 'love bump' technique where a man's attention to another woman can make a woman feel more attached to him. The speaker emphasizes the importance of not letting emotions dictate actions, especially in the beginning of a relationship. She advises women to be patient, observe a man's actions, and not to rush into things. The speaker also shares her own strategy of using emotions strategically in relationships.
đ Using Emotions as a Tool
In this paragraph, the speaker recounts a specific incident where she used her acting skills to fake emotions to gain the upper hand in a relationship. She advises women to know the 'game' men play and to use their emotions strategically, not out of manipulation, but to protect themselves from being used. The speaker concludes by encouraging women to value themselves and not let men fool them, inviting viewers to share their stories of being used by men.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄEmotional
đĄPatriarchy
đĄManipulation
đĄSelf-worth
đĄToxic Relationship
đĄValidation
đĄEmotionally Intelligent
đĄHumble
đĄDopamine Drop
đĄWait and See
đĄIntimidate
Highlights
Grandmother's advice about not being fooled by others
Emotional impact of a toxic relationship and the support from gay friends
The importance of knowing one's own value and worth
The societal patriarchy and the lack of voice for women
Grandmother's teachings on speaking up and using one's voice
Emotions as a strength and a tool for manipulation by men
The emotional difference between men and women
Strategic use of emotions to gain power in relationships
The role of patience and observation in dating
The importance of actions over words in evaluating a partner
The emotional manipulation technique of making a woman jealous
The realization of being hooked by a man's emotional tactics
Controlling emotions to prevent being used by men
The advice to not text or act on emotions early in a relationship
The unpredictability of men and the need to wait and see
The importance of not rushing into a relationship
Using emotions strategically in relationships
The story of faking emotions to gain control in a relationship
The grandmother's final advice not to let men fool you
Transcripts
so my grandmother used to tell me do not
let them fool you I had a discussion
with my makeup artist I just had a photo
shoot I was called to do this video hi
everyone welcome back to my YouTube
channel I'm so happy for you your life
is going to change a year ago my
grandmother loved this Earth and I was
in Thailand um I went for holidays there
to um get away from a toxic relationship
that I had at that time and my
grandmother uh passed away and my sister
just told me by message and usually my
family never tells me when there's bad
news but however I was in good company I
was with my gay friends and I had a
blast however after this for like few
months a memory of my grandmother kept
repeating I kept remembering this one
particular particular time that I was at
her house so one day I was at her house
and she looked at me with admiration and
she said do you know you're very
beautiful so I did not really reply and
then she raised her voice and she said
that do you know you're very
beautiful and I I said yeah yeah thank
you like you know and then she looked at
me in guys and she's like you make sure
you marry a handsome man so at her time
handsome equals to good Soul good
person and
she raised her voice even more and she
said look at me do not let them fool you
my grandmother tried to warn me many
times to know my value and to know my
worth she always always always try to
insert in my brain woman can get played
by men
so the country I grew up patriarchy is
at its core core you don't exist if you
are a woman as unless you are with a man
society is male dominated and women do
not have a voice however my grandmother
always taught me how to speak up how to
use my voice and never be afraid
whenever this woman will speak I felt
like it's not her it's like God speaking
through her knowledge is power okay this
is the exact information you need only
to beat any player at his own game and
to find a good man first of all let's
speak some truths okay facts we women
are built very different from men we are
very emotional we're emotional beings
and that's beautiful because that is
what makes us mothers okay we will not
be able to be caregivers if we will not
have
emotions
but the downside of this is that men
have men understood this and they
figured this out since very long time
problem is that men know this as well
and they have been using our emotions to
our disadvantage having emotions and
being an emotional being is a beautiful
thing you would then be able to to have
children otherwise right but you have to
understand the difference between us and
men if you take your emotions and you
are able to control your emotions you
take the power a man has on you which is
emotions men use a lot of techniques you
know they use you they gasl light you
the love bump you they say a lot of
before they get what they want
once they get what they want they become
complete so you have to be
intelligent you have to always always
always always look at the actions and
you have to
wait love of first side dating apps all
these things are wait and see
the actions what are the dates that he's
taking you is he putting any effort it
doesn't matter how much money he has you
know guy is interested with a girl he
will do anything especially at the
beginning that they're trying to impress
us you know so you have to be patient
with guys I intimidate men a lot and
even the most powerful ones I do
intimidate them so I'll tell you what
they do and how I got hooked once when I
was uh with this uh toxic relationship
that I had like I was like how did I got
into this relationship with these ups
and downs and such a toxic um person how
did I go looked I was trying to remember
so I met this uh ex um at one of the
parties that I I I traveled to um this
country
whatever and my friend tried to
introduce me with him but I found him
very short and I did not really liked
him I was interested but anyway he was
far away and this guy he basically came
close to me and he tried to flirt with
me again the short guy and at one point
I started
vipingo because he was with me he was
wiping with me and then he left me and
he went with another girl so in my body
there was like a huge
dopamine drop or like the chemicals in
my body that's what happened and then he
he left that girl and he came back to me
and I was like a puppy to him okay
that's how he hooked me because they do
it as a technique to make you hooked
with them especially how short this guy
was I was like I don't even like short
guys you know I was like he so short how
did I got hooked with him I understood
like is all these chemicals imbalances
my
ego that no that men do that
they try to make you jealous with other
woman so you are more hooked with them
it's like a technique of manipulation
I'm so sure that most of them are even
stupid to understand that they have this
power over our emotions and over making
us gals like because majority of women
are insecure so the next time a man
tries to make you gals with other woman
be unbothered don't watch them uh feel
that you are the most powerful and the
most beautiful woman in the room because
he is very lucky to have you that men
know they know your weakness which is
your emotions but if you are able to
control your emotions no one can use
your emotions against you at the
beginning of the relationship you should
hold your emotions don't text you know
we do a lot of stupid things when
because of our emotions you want to act
logically you don't want to act based on
your emotions and we're complex our
emotions like before my period I want to
kill
people I I wan to
like but then after my period I'm happy
you know never act on your emotion it's
okay we're a woman it's beautiful we
have emotions listen you know what I did
because I have all these emotions and I
have all this love to give I got a dog
like my ex hated my dog and another guy
that he tried to date me and I was tell
and I was ditching him to go to meet my
dog I was like no no no I cannot stay
with you I have to go to my dog cuz my
dog will always be home and wait for me
and he will be like so happy to see me
with a man you never know so with man I
have no emotions I see the actions I see
if you have intelligence because you
know it's something rare these days at
the beginning of the relationship you
should switch off your emotions lock
your heart and then you have to wait to
see because you don't know maybe he has
a crazy ex maybe he's crazy himself
maybe he
has like he's a pathological liar maybe
he's a a cuckoo person I don't know like
you have to wait with men don't rush
only losers rush you should see the
action a man will never respect you
first of all if you're too easy and too
desperate and you need like you have to
validate yourself and for me to be
honest I know know I'm beautiful thank
you so much I I don't need a man to tell
me blah blah blah make me feel validated
that I I I deserve to exist I exist
regardless times you have to Humble them
and when a guy tries to make himself
more important than you are because you
are the most important thing you should
tell me and you end up in a Titanic and
they have to choose one person it
doesn't matter who you are how much
money you have they will choose me
always they will choose me because I'm a
woman okay so whenever a guy tries to
make himself more important than you and
even if he's a millionaire billionaire
whatever tell him this you should remind
him and you should humble him once you
humble him he will be crazy for you
because he knows that you know your
worth and use your emotions
strategically so I used to do theater
since I was four years old and to cry
honestly it takes nothing for me I was
with a guy once and he was pressuring me
and he started crying he was like oh no
no no don't cry
please and I was faking it of course
because it takes nothing for me um
acting you just remember a bad memory
and you just cry and I was I had a
couple of drinks so it was easier for me
to cry and
this guy was he he couldn't handle it
like he couldn't know so after that any
command any desire I had it was whatever
I want honest with you don't feel sorry
for that because they use woman the
whole time reverse it reverse it I'm not
telling you to use man but know their
game if you know their game you will be
less likely to be used and they use you
they do it do it the whole time my
grandmother told me do not let them fool
you don't let men use you and if you
ever been used by a man please let me
know in the comments below I would love
to hear your story and I kiss you and
I'll will see you next time
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