You're Pretty But You Never Get Approached

Dating Logic

10 Sept 201302:04

Summary

TLDRThe transcript discusses how being attractive can be a barrier for men to approach women due to perceived mismatches or fear of rejection. It emphasizes the importance of body language in inviting men to approach, suggesting that smiling, making eye contact, and appearing approachable can encourage interaction. It also advises women to occasionally be alone or in smaller groups to make it easier for men to approach them.

Takeaways

🚫 Being perceived as very attractive can be a barrier for some men to approach.
🧊 Men may feel intimidated and believe they are not a match for a pretty woman.
🤔 Negative assumptions about rejection can cause men to freeze or avoid approaching.
💡 Positive body language, like smiling, can invite men to approach despite initial hesitations.
🚶‍♀️ Walking with confidence and maintaining open body language can make a woman seem more approachable.
😐 Avoiding a constant frown or appearing distracted can improve approachability.
👭 Men find it easier to approach a woman who is alone or with just one friend rather than a large group.
👥 Being in a group can be intimidating for men, as they fear rejection in front of others.
😄 Encouraging laughter and showing you're having a good time can make men more inclined to approach.
🌟 Portraying a down-to-earth and fun persona can attract men to approach you.
👭 Suggesting to go out with fewer companions can increase the chances of being approached.

Q & A

Why might physical attractiveness be an initial barrier for some men to approach a woman?
-Physical attractiveness can be an impediment because men might feel they don't match up to the woman's standards and fear rejection if they approach her.
What is the role of body language in making a woman more approachable?
-Positive body language, such as smiling and making eye contact, can signal openness and invite men to approach, counteracting the intimidation that might come from a woman's attractiveness.
Why do men find it easier to approach a woman who is alone rather than one who is in a group?
-Men may find it easier to approach a woman who is alone because they fear rejection in front of a group, and a one-on-one situation feels less intimidating.
How can a woman's demeanor contribute to her being perceived as unapproachable?
-If a woman consistently appears distracted, hurried, or scowling, it can create an impression of unapproachability, which can be off-putting to potential suitors.
What advice does the script give for women who want to appear more approachable?
-The script suggests that women should try to loosen up, smile more, establish eye contact, and laugh more to appear more down-to-earth and fun.
Why might a man feel intimidated approaching a group of women?
-A man might feel intimidated approaching a group of women because he fears being rejected in front of multiple people, which can be more embarrassing than being rejected by one person.
What is the significance of a woman's social circle size when it comes to being approached by men?
-A smaller social circle, or being alone, can make a woman seem more approachable to men, as it reduces the pressure of impressing or being judged by a larger group.
How can a woman's behavior across the room influence a man's decision to approach her?
-If a man sees a woman laughing and having a good time, it signals that she is enjoying herself and might be more receptive to being approached.
What is the potential downside of a woman always being surrounded by other attractive women?
-Being surrounded by other attractive women can make it harder for a man to approach, as it increases the competition and the perceived standards he needs to meet.
How can a woman's posture affect how approachable she seems?
-A woman who walks with her head down or appears closed off can seem less approachable, while a woman who maintains an open posture and makes eye contact can appear more welcoming.
What is the psychological effect on men when they perceive a woman as 'out of their league'?
-Men may feel intimidated and believe they are not worthy, leading to 'freezing' or avoiding approaching a woman they perceive as more attractive than themselves.

Outlines

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😌 Overcoming Barriers to Approachability

The paragraph discusses how physical attractiveness can be a deterrent for men to approach women. It explains that men often feel intimidated and believe they are not a match for a pretty woman, leading to hesitation or avoidance. The text also highlights the importance of body language in making oneself approachable. It suggests that positive body language, such as smiling and making eye contact, can invite men to approach. The paragraph advises women who are rarely approached to be more open, such as by not always being in a group and to engage in behaviors that signal approachability, like smiling and laughing.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Impediment

Impediment refers to something that obstructs or hinders progress or action. In the context of the video, it is used to describe how being physically attractive can paradoxically act as a barrier for some men to approach a woman, as they may feel intimidated or inadequate.

💡Approaching

Approaching here refers to the act of initiating contact or conversation with someone, especially in a romantic or social setting. The video discusses how men might hesitate to approach women they perceive as attractive due to fear of rejection.

💡Body Language

Body language encompasses the non-verbal cues and signals that individuals send through their posture, gestures, and facial expressions. The video emphasizes the importance of positive body language, such as smiling and eye contact, in inviting and encouraging approachability.

💡Intimidating

Intimidating describes something that causes fear or worry, making it difficult for others to interact comfortably. The video script mentions that certain behaviors, like scowling or always being in a group, can make a person seem intimidating and less approachable.

💡Pretty

Pretty is used to describe someone who is attractive or aesthetically pleasing. In the video, it is highlighted that being pretty can be a double-edged sword, as it can attract attention but also deter potential suitors due to perceived unattainability.

💡Match Up

To match up means to be considered equal or equivalent in some way. The script uses this term to express the insecurity some men feel when they perceive a woman as out of their league in terms of attractiveness.

💡Open Body Language

Open body language refers to a set of non-verbal cues that signal approachability and willingness to engage. The video suggests that open body language, such as smiling and maintaining eye contact, can counteract the potential impediment of being perceived as unapproachable due to attractiveness.

💡Distracted

Distracted implies a state of being unable to focus one's attention fully on something. In the context of the video, it is used to describe a demeanor that might make a woman seem uninterested or unavailable, thus discouraging men from approaching.

💡Group Dynamics

Group dynamics refers to the behaviors and psychological processes occurring within a social group. The video points out that men may find it easier to approach a single woman rather than a group, as the presence of a group can amplify the fear of rejection.

💡Down-to-Earth

Down-to-earth describes someone who is practical, realistic, and easy to relate to. The video suggests that displaying a down-to-earth demeanor, such as laughing and enjoying oneself, can make a woman more approachable and attractive to men.

💡Fun

Fun, in this context, refers to a quality of being enjoyable or entertaining. The video implies that women who are perceived as fun and enjoying themselves are more likely to be approached because they seem more relatable and less intimidating.

Highlights

Being pretty can be an impediment for guys to approach.

Guys might freeze when they see a pretty girl, fearing rejection.

Good body language can invite guys to approach.

Smiling and open body language can make a difference.

Guys find it intimidating if a girl is always with a group.

Being alone or with just one friend can be less intimidating.

Guys prefer approaching a girl who is laughing and having a good time.

A girl's appearance can make guys feel they don't match up.

Guys may avoid approaching if they think they will be turned down.

Positive body language like smiling can encourage approach.

Guys are more likely to approach if a girl seems approachable and not distracted.

Approaching a girl who is alone is perceived as less risky than a group.

Laughing and enjoying oneself can signal approachability.

Guys may feel more comfortable approaching a girl who is down-to-earth.

A girl's social setting can influence a guy's decision to approach.

Loosen up and establish more eye contact to appear more approachable.

Being with a smaller group or alone can increase the chances of being approached.