start "to-feel" instead ✨| backward planning| my week this was
Summary
TLDRThe speaker discusses their struggle with traditional planning, finding it more of a chore than a pleasure. They introduce a new approach called 'My Week This Was,' inspired by a TED Talk on backward planning. This method focuses on identifying desired emotional states and working backward to plan activities that achieve those feelings. Through personal examples, they demonstrate how this method helps connect daily actions to emotional well-being, promotes self-awareness, and offers flexibility in planning.
Takeaways
- 📅 Traditional planning feels like a chore to the speaker, who struggles to follow through with tasks.
- 🎵 The speaker finds satisfaction in other emotional needs rather than the act of planning itself.
- 🔄 Despite trying various planning methods, the speaker admits to a cycle of disengagement with planning.
- 📚 A Ted Talk introduces the concept of 'backward planning', which focuses on future accomplishments and values.
- 🔄 The speaker adapts backward planning to focus on desired emotional states rather than specific tasks.
- 💡 'My Week This Was' is the name of the method the speaker uses, which starts with identifying a desired emotional state.
- 🤔 The method involves visualizing what the desired emotional state means through a series of reflective questions.
- 🎨 Engaging in creative outlets like drawing and crocheting are activities that energize the speaker.
- 🏓 Pickleball is highlighted as an activity that leaves the speaker feeling invigorated and satisfied.
- 🍎 The importance of diet in maintaining energy levels and overall well-being is emphasized.
- 🌿 A clean and organized environment is crucial for the speaker's focus and energy.
- 🌱 The addition of plants and personalized artwork in the living space enhances the speaker's mood and productivity.
Q & A
What is the main issue the speaker has with traditional planning?
-The speaker finds traditional planning to be more of a chore than a pleasure, and it doesn't bring them joy. They often don't follow through on their plans, which leads to a lack of motivation to continue planning.
What concept introduced in a Ted Talk changed the speaker's approach to planning?
-The concept of 'backward planning' introduced in a Ted Talk changed the speaker's approach. It involves imagining oneself in the future reflecting on significant accomplishments, which helps to identify what one desires and values.
How does the speaker adapt the backward planning concept to focus on feelings?
-The speaker adapts backward planning by focusing not on what they want to do but on how they want to feel. They start by identifying the emotional state they want to achieve and then work backward to figure out the steps needed to get there.
What is the name of the method the speaker uses for their week, and what does it stand for?
-The method the speaker uses for their week is called 'my week this was.' It stands for focusing on the emotional state (feel) they want to achieve and planning activities backward from that state.
What are the five questions the speaker uses to visualize what 'energized' means to them?
-The five questions are: 1) What activities make you lose track of time because you're so engaged? 2) What types of activities leave you feeling invigorated rather than drained? 3) Think of a person who always seems energetic; what habits of theirs could you adopt? 4) Are there certain foods or meals that make you feel light and energetic? 5) What changes could you make to your space to boost your energy?
How does the speaker feel when they engage in drawing and working with clay?
-The speaker feels a buzzing excitement when inspiration strikes for drawing and working with clay. They lose track of time and feel energized when they are engaged in these activities.
What is the significance of pickle ball for the speaker, and how does it make them feel?
-Pickle ball is significant for the speaker because it quickly became their go-to activity when they have free time. It makes them feel energized and charged, both from the rush of feel-good chemicals and the satisfaction of taking care of their body.
Why does the speaker value learning new things, and how does it make them feel?
-The speaker values learning new things because they are curious and love exploring how things work or can be done differently. It leaves them feeling invigorated and is a privilege they seize every opportunity to indulge in.
How does the speaker's diet contribute to their feeling of well-being and energy?
-The speaker's diet contributes to their well-being and energy by incorporating a lot of fibers and preferring steaming or baking over frying or boiling to preserve nutrients. They also enjoy fruits for hydration and as a snack to pick them up between meals.
What role do plants play in the speaker's life, and how do they enhance their living space?
-Plants play a role in the speaker's life by bringing a touch of nature indoors, which they find both calming and energizing. They enjoy caring for plants, which helps them stay connected to nature and keeps their space feeling fresh and alive.
How does the 'my week this was' method help the speaker in their daily life?
-The 'my week this was' method helps the speaker by connecting their daily actions to their emotional well-being, making planning feel more meaningful and motivating. It encourages self-awareness and is flexible, allowing the speaker to guide their decisions based on their desired emotional state even when circumstances change.
Outlines
📅 Overcoming Planning Aversion Through Backward Planning
The speaker begins by expressing a lack of enthusiasm for planning, viewing it as a necessary chore rather than a source of pleasure. Despite recognizing its organizational benefits, they often fail to follow through, which negatively impacts their motivation. They've experimented with various planning methods, both digital and traditional, but found themselves more interested in the tools than the act of planning. A TED Talk introduced them to the concept of 'backward planning,' which involves envisioning future accomplishments and working backward to determine the steps needed to achieve them. The speaker adapted this approach to focus on desired emotional states rather than specific tasks, which revolutionized their approach to planning. They named this method 'My Week, This Was,' and described how they used it to identify activities that align with their desired emotional state of feeling energized.
🎨 Engaging in Energizing Activities and Creative Outlets
The speaker shares their week filled with activities that energize them, such as drawing and working with clay, which they find engrossing and satisfying. They also enjoy crocheting as a way to keep their hands busy while relaxing. Pickleball is another activity that leaves them feeling invigorated, especially enjoying the early morning games and the natural high from the exercise. Learning new things, whether for work or personal interests, is also a significant source of energy. The speaker emphasizes the importance of food in maintaining their well-being, preferring a diet rich in fiber with steamed or baked meals over fried ones, and incorporating a variety of fruits for hydration and energy. They also mention following YouTube creators like Ruby Granger and John Fish, who inspire them with their enthusiasm and energy.
🌿 Prioritizing a Clean and Invigorating Environment
The speaker discusses the importance of a clean and organized environment for their well-being, highlighting the benefits of a clutter-free space for mental clarity and focus. They appreciate the calming and energizing effects of having plants around the house and enjoy the routine of caring for them. They also share their experience of personalizing their space by adding a framed illustration, which brings them joy and a creative boost. The speaker reflects on the effectiveness of 'My Week, This Was,' noting how it helps connect daily actions with emotional well-being, encourages self-awareness, and provides flexibility in planning. They acknowledge the challenge of starting with too many feel goals but found that focusing on one or two made it more sustainable and satisfying.
🔄 Adapting to Life's Changes While Maintaining Emotional Goals
In the final paragraph, the speaker acknowledges the importance of adapting to life's unpredictability while staying true to their emotional goals. They share an instance where, despite planning to exercise three times a week, they had to adjust due to fatigue and opted for stretching and power naps instead. This approach allowed them to meet their emotional needs without feeling defeated by uncompleted tasks. The speaker concludes by inviting viewers to try 'My Week, This Was' and share their experiences, emphasizing the method's potential to offer a fresh perspective on planning.
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Keywords
💡Planning
💡Emotional Needs
💡Backward Planning
💡Feeling Focused
💡Self-Awareness
💡Motivation
💡Vicious Cycle
💡Creative Outlets
💡Energy
💡Environment
💡Flexibility
Highlights
Planning is often seen as a chore rather than a pleasure, leading to a cycle of disengagement.
The speaker admits to not following through on planning, which negatively impacts motivation.
Various planning methods, both digital and paper-based, have been tried without success.
A Ted Talk introduces the concept of backward planning, focusing on future accomplishments.
The speaker adapts backward planning to focus on desired feelings rather than actions.
Feeling-focused backward planning starts with identifying an emotional state to achieve.
Five questions are used to guide visualization of what 'energized' means to the speaker.
Engaging in creative outlets like drawing and working with clay can lead to a loss of track of time.
Crocheting and making bookmarks are activities that keep the speaker's hands busy during breaks.
Pickle ball is an energizing sport that the speaker enjoys playing early in the morning.
Learning new things is an activity that invigorates the speaker without them realizing it.
The importance of food in the speaker's life and maintaining a balanced diet is emphasized.
Following YouTube creators like Ruby Granger and John Fish for productivity and personal growth insights.
A clean and organized environment is crucial for the speaker's focus and well-being.
Adding personal touches to the living space, like framed illustrations, can boost creativity.
The method helps connect daily actions to emotional well-being, making planning more meaningful.
Self-awareness is encouraged by regularly checking in with desired emotional states.
The method's flexibility allows for adjustments when life doesn't go according to plan.
Starting slow with the method is essential, focusing on one or two feel items at a time.
Transcripts
I don't follow through on my
planet it's more of a chore than a
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pleasure I ended up satisfying many of
my other emotional needs
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planning it's something we all do but to
me it's more of a chore than a pleasure
or a means to an end don't get me wrong
it's a good way to stay organized and I
don't forget things as often after
writing them down but it's done because
it needs to be done not because it
brings me joy I hate to admit it but
more often than not I don't follow
through on my planning which hurts my
motivation on continuing to plan and in
turn to complete it's just a vicious
cycle and it's not like I haven't tried
different ways to plan either digital
planning paper planning all sorts of
calendars reminders apps you name it
after trying enough platforms I realized
that I'm more interested in the platform
itself than a planning action not to
mention all the time and energy I spend
on learning all these tools for as long
as I can remember I've struggled with
this cycle to a point that I gave up
finding one that works for me until I
came across this Ted Talk how to gain
control of your free time this talk was
a GameChanger introducing me to the
concept of backward Planning by
suggesting that instead of a traditional
year-end review imagine yourself one
year into the future reflecting on your
most significant accomplishments and
highlight
throughout the year which gives a window
to what we desire and value and where
we'd like to spend our time but here's
the twist I've adapted this approach to
focus not on what I want to do but how I
want to feel this perspective shift has
completely changed the way I view
planning let me explain so first off
what exactly is this feeling focused
backward planning it starts with
identifying the emotional state I want
to achieve and then working backward to
figure out the steps needed to get there
to match this backward planning I named
this method my week this was I'll take
you along my week to show you how I use
this method the first thing to do is to
determine how I want to feel since
energized is the focus I move on to the
next step which is visualizing what
energized means to me I used five
questions to guide my visualization what
activities make you lose track of time
because you're so engaged what types of
activities leave you feeling invigorated
rather than drained think of a person
who always seems energetic what habits
of theirs could you adopt are there
certain foods or meals that make you
feel light and energetic think about
your environment what changes could you
make to your space to boost your energy
after writing down my answers to these
questions I started my week keeping
these actions in mind and here's what
that looks
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like for those of you who've been
following me for a while you know that
drawing and working with Clay are two of
my favorite creative Outlets when
inspiration strikes I often find myself
buzzing with excitement for the next
opportunity to bring these ideas to life
when I do get the chance to work on it
time seems to be on three times speed I
either find myself saying it turns out I
underestimated how long this would take
or sometimes I'll look up from what I'm
doing and suddenly realize the sun has
set without me even
noticing I had that itch to draw on the
day I felt this not a set idea of what I
was aiming for but thought I'd warm up
by using a reference I ended up drawing
this over the course of the entire week
it just makes me feel so happy every
time I pick up the
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pencil crocheting is something else I do
when I take a break from a formal task
but want to keep my hands
busy here I'm finishing up a frog
coaster after dinner while catching up
on some of my favorite creators
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videos I also ended up making some
fishbone
bookmarks I think this is really making
me want want to read more
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when I think about activities that
energize me pickle ball immediately
comes to mind I only started playing
this summer but it quickly became my
go-to whenever I have free time there's
a court just 5 minutes away from my
house and I love getting up early to
head straight there after a light
breakfast it's an incredible feeling to
watch the sunrise while playing and
often I've been added for nearly an hour
before other players even
arrive the best part of it is that after
a shower I feel absolutely charged both
from the rush of Feelgood chemicals like
dopamine and serotonin and from the
satisfaction of knowing that I'm taking
care of my body
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soch
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my another activity that leaves me
feeling invigorated often without me
even realizing it is learning something
new I'm a curious person and love
exploring how things work or how they
can be done
differently this applies to my day job
in res resarch and teaching and also to
my art having the time and space to
learn feels like a real privilege to
me so I seize every opportunity to
absorb as much as I
can and I love giving back by sharing
what I've learned with others who have
similar interests
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food plays an important role in my life
and my overall
well-being I was raised to have three
meals and at fairly consistent time of
the day so I try to keep up with it
since that is what my body is used to I
try to incorporate a lot of fibers in my
diet and where possible I like to steam
or bake over frying or boiling to
preserve the nutrients in the food
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I also love most fruits that I can get
my hands on in the grocery store or
Farmers Market
they're a great snack to pick me up
between meals and they help with
hydration
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too I follow quite a few creators on
YouTube and they're all very talented
but there are two I think of when I saw
this
question they are Ruby gringer and John
fish ruby Granger's Channel focuses on
productivity steady techniques and
maintaining a balanced
lifestyle often showcasing her own
academic journey and offering advice to
fellow
students John fish's content revolves
around self-improvement technology and
personal development
frequently documenting his experiences
with challenging projects and sharing
insights on learning and
growth I learned so much from the both
of
them they seem to have so much
enthusiasm and energy about the things
they love and one thing I see they have
in common is their love for reading
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is
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over the years I've discovered that a
clean environment is truly the best
environment for me there's something
incredibly refreshing about stepping
into a well organized space each morning
a clutter-free area not only looks
better but also helps clear my mind and
sharpen my
focus I found that simple habits like
having a designated spot for everything
and returning items to their places
immediately after use make a world of
difference
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I'm also a big fan of having plants
around the house they bring a touch of
nature indoors which I find both calming
and
energizing I enjoy the little ritual of
caring for them moving them to catch the
right amount of sunlight training excess
growth and ensuring they're well watered
it's a small way to stay connected to
Nature and keeping my space feeling
fresh and alive
oh on the topic of making changes to
space I added a few designs to my
illustration from earlier printed it out
and framed
it now it's proudly displayed right
above my coffee
machine it's such a joy to see it every
day while I'm making my morning Brew
this small Edition has really
personalized my space and gives me a
little creative boost to start my day
Wonder now that I've completed my very
first my week this was here are my
thoughts first it helps me connect my
daily actions to my emotional well-being
making planning feel more meaningful and
motivating when I'm focused on how I
want to feel rather than just what I
need to do it's easier to stay committed
to my plan second it encourages
self-awareness by regularly checking in
with how I want to feel I become more
attuned to my emotional needs and what
truly matters to me and it's flexible
life doesn't always go according to plan
but my desired emotional state can guide
my decision even even when circumstances
change when I had plans to go out and
exercise three times a week I realized I
was way too tired having to juggle many
tasks I revised my plan to doing some
stretching and taking power naps
whenever possible it felt good to
balance my needs without having to feel
defeated because I can't check off a
to-do item one thing I did notice with
this method is that it's essential to
start slow with the two f l
I initially wrote down five two few
items because I was still treating it
like a to-do list I quickly realized
that was not sustainable and it's very
likely that I could only accomplish one
two F goal but the good news is when I
was focused on just this one two feel
item I ended up satisfying many of my
other emotional needs it's so nice to
have you follow along my very first my
week this was and I hope this video
gives you a different way to look at
planning and I would love to know your
experience if you feel like trying it
thank you for watching and I will see
you in the next one
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