NO CONTACT: Why it's POWERFUL and How to Do It Better
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the concept of 'no contact' as a powerful tool for self-respect and emotional clarity after a breakup or disrespectful treatment. It explains that women often struggle with rejection, and no contact can build attraction by demonstrating strength and self-worth. The script advises removing all reminders of the person, dating others to broaden perspective, and maintaining a mindset of self-improvement rather than seeking a reunion. It emphasizes that no contact should be approached with an abundance mindset, focusing on personal growth and moving on to healthier relationships.
Takeaways
- 📵 The concept of 'No Contact' is about cutting off all communication with someone to establish boundaries and preserve dignity in the face of disrespect or a toxic relationship.
- 🚫 The primary aim of no contact is not to manipulate but to show that one will not tolerate bad treatment and to remove oneself from a non-beneficial situation.
- 💔 Women often do not handle rejection well, and this can lead to a range of reactions from shock to ego overload, which can be leveraged to gain the upper hand in a breakup scenario.
- 🧲 No contact can build attraction by demonstrating strength and self-respect, qualities that are universally appealing and can make one stand out as different.
- 🤔 Women's imagination can run wild during no contact, leading to internal discomfort and a sense of loss, which can increase their desire for the person who initiated the no contact.
- 🕵️♀️ Many women take pride in being able to figure out what a guy is up to, and no contact can pique their curiosity, further increasing their interest.
- 🔗 The effectiveness of no contact is enhanced if there was an emotional connection, as the absence can create a noticeable gap in the woman's life.
- 💡 No contact shows that one can do better and is not afraid to walk away, which is a display of self-worth that can be difficult for the other person to handle.
- 💊 Detoxing from a person by going no contact can help break the chemical attachment and desire for them, leading to clarity and a healthier mindset.
- 📦 To effectively practice no contact, one should remove all signs of the person from their life, including gifts and digital traces, to prevent triggering emotional responses.
- 👫 Engaging with other people during no contact can help demonstrate that one is moving on and is not fixated on a single individual, which can be empowering.
Q & A
What is the concept of 'No Contact' mentioned in the script?
-The concept of 'No Contact' refers to cutting off all communication with a woman after a breakup or when she is acting disrespectfully or flakily. It is a boundary-setting strategy to show that one will not tolerate bad treatment and to preserve personal dignity.
Why is 'No Contact' considered beneficial in moving on from a breakup?
-'It No Contact' is beneficial because it helps establish respect by not tolerating bad treatment and preserves one's dignity by removing oneself from a non-beneficial situation. It also helps in breaking the attachment and desire for the other person, providing clarity and an abundance mindset.
How does the script suggest women typically react to rejection?
-The script suggests that women do not handle rejection well, often experiencing a shock to their ego and, in some cases, exhibiting frantic or crazy behavior due to the unexpected nature of the rejection.
What does the script imply about the human brain's reaction to the absence of a person?
-The script implies that the human brain tends to imagine the worst when a person is absent, especially if there is an emotional connection. This can lead to feelings of wanting to reconnect or to know what the absent person is doing.
Why might a woman feel a 'gap' in her life after a man implements 'No Contact'?
-A woman might feel a 'gap' if there was an emotional connection and the man added value to her life. The absence of his presence can be uncomfortable, leading to an increased desire for him to return.
How does 'No Contact' demonstrate a man's self-worth and strength?
-'No Contact' demonstrates self-worth and strength by showing that a man is not afraid to walk away from a situation where he is not valued or respected. It communicates a lack of fear and a trust in oneself to find something better.
What is the role of neuroticism in the way women react to 'No Contact'?
-Neuroticism, a personality trait that tends to be more prevalent in women, can lead to increased negative feelings like anxiety and self-doubt. When a woman is left in the dark about a man's activities during 'No Contact', her neuroticism may cause her to imagine the worst and feel a stronger desire to reconnect.
What are some practical steps to effectively implement 'No Contact'?
-To effectively implement 'No Contact', one should remove all signs of the other person from their life, avoid looking at social media or photos, and not read old messages. Additionally, dating other people can help the brain realize that there are other options available.
Why is it important to approach 'No Contact' from an abundance mindset rather than a scarcity mindset?
-Approaching 'No Contact' from an abundance mindset is important because it focuses on personal growth and moving on, rather than hoping for the other person to return. This mindset is healthier and more empowering, as it is about self-improvement and not dependent on the other person's actions.
What is the potential downside of trying to get an ex back after implementing 'No Contact'?
-The potential downside is that if the relationship ended for a reason, it is likely that the same issues will resurface. The script suggests that taking girls back often leads to regret, as the initial reasons for the breakup are usually valid and unresolved.
Outlines
🚫 The Power of No Contact in Relationships
The first paragraph introduces the concept of no contact, emphasizing its importance in post-breakup scenarios or when dealing with disrespect from a woman. The speaker explains that no contact is not about manipulation but about establishing boundaries and self-respect by removing oneself from harmful situations. It highlights women's typical reaction to rejection, which can be intense due to their accustomed attention from men. The paragraph also discusses how no contact can build attraction by showcasing strength and self-worth, and how it can provoke a woman's imagination and internal discomfort, potentially leading to a renewed interest in the man who has cut off contact.
💡 No Contact: Strengthening Mindset and Moving On
The second paragraph delves into the psychological effects of no contact, both on the individual implementing it and on the woman involved. It discusses the importance of completely removing reminders of the woman from one's life to facilitate the detoxing process from the emotional attachment. The speaker stresses the value of dating other women during this period, not necessarily for romantic reasons but to demonstrate to oneself that there are other potential partners. The paragraph concludes with advice against using no contact with the intention of getting the woman back, advocating instead for a mindset of self-improvement and moving on to better things, regardless of her response.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡No Contact
💡Rejection
💡Attraction
💡Neuroticism
💡Self-Worth
💡Scarcity Mindset
💡Chemical Reaction
💡Dignity
💡Emotional Connection
💡Moving On
Highlights
The concept of no contact is introduced as a strategy to cut off all communication with a woman after a breakup or when disrespected.
No contact aims to establish respect and preserve dignity by setting boundaries and removing oneself from unbeneficial situations.
Women's reaction to rejection is discussed, noting that some may react very strongly due to being unaccustomed to not being desired.
The idea that no contact can build attraction by demonstrating strength and having boundaries is presented.
The human brain's tendency to imagine the worst when out of sight, leading to increased curiosity and desire, is highlighted.
Neuroticism is mentioned as a personality trait that can amplify the discomfort of rejection, especially in women.
The strategy of moving on as a counterintuitive way to attract a girl back is discussed.
The importance of having an emotional connection for no contact to be effective in creating a gap in the woman's life is noted.
No contact is described as a display of power and self-worth, showing that one can do better and is not afraid to walk away.
A quote from 'The Art of Seduction' is used to illustrate the unbearable feeling of being less desirable than a rival.
The benefits of no contact for mental strength and breaking the chemical attachment to a woman are explained.
Practical steps for effective no contact are outlined, including removing all signs of the woman from one's life.
Dating other women during no contact is suggested to demonstrate to oneself that other options exist.
The importance of adopting a no contact mindset that is not based on scarcity but on self-improvement is emphasized.
The transcript concludes with advice to focus on oneself and to use no contact as a powerful tool for moving on from a bad situation.
Transcripts
let's talk about the power of no contact
and why it's crucial for you to use in
situations where you are getting over a
breakup thinking about a girl non-stop
wanting a girl back or you've been
disrespected by a woman keep in mind
that a lot of what I'm going to talk
about in this video actually applies to
dealing with people in general but I'm
going to mainly focus on using no
contact in the context of dealing with a
woman before I start if you aren't
familiar with the concept of no contact
it is the idea that you cut off all
communication with a woman after a
breakup or in cases where a woman is
acting flaky or disrespecting you the
aim of no contact isn't to be
manipulative or Petty but to establish
Respect by having a boundary that shows
you will not tolerate bad treatment and
to preserve your dignity as a man by
removing yourself from a situation that
is no longer beneficial to you or a
situation where you're being taken
advantage of now one of the biggest
reasons no contact works so well is that
women do not handle rejection well at
all in fact in my experience some women
will get very crazy when they're
rejected and the reason for this is
because they're used to men Desiring
them and throwing themselves at their
feet when they run into a guy who
doesn't play like that it's a shock to
their ego it's a complete ego overload
in some cases and that's where you get
some of that frantic crazy behavior as
their mind is just trying to cope with
it it's actually funny in a way because
it's like a narcissistic seizure or
something like think about how often
guys have to deal with rejection and how
we are supposed to just take it on the
chin but a girl will flip out if she's
rejected but anyway not all women will
go crazy on you because some have a good
poker face but all of them will feel the
internal discomfort of rejection on some
level when you pull your contact with
them this can also build attraction
because it shows that you're different
and that you're a guy with boundaries
and humans in general are attracted to
strength and especially women no one is
attracted to a doormat who sticks around
just getting beat up and women know when
they're acting goofy or treating you
badly so this is Amplified even more
women respect a guy who respects himself
and I can tell you from talking to women
firsthand that they absolutely hate men
who are pushovers so by removing
yourself from the situation you are
showing her that you don't need her
which is a display of strength that is
attractive pair that with their mindset
that isn't handling rejection well and
you have gained the upper hand just by
simply cutting off contact with her to
expand on this a little more another
reason why women don't handle rejection
well is because their imagination just
runs wild when you are gone from her
life and out of sight you could be doing
anything and that means you could be
partying with Dan Bilzerian on a yacht
with 20 models or drooling on the couch
watching bowling on TV but the human
brain is really good at lying to us and
will usually think the worst which is
why one of my personal mantras is that
your brain is lying this is enhanced in
women even more because most women have
a higher level of neuroticism than a man
does and if you aren't familiar with the
word neuroticism it basically means
someone who leans toward negative
feelings like anxiety and self-doubt
it's a personality trait that all of us
have but it's on a sliding scale meaning
that some people have more of it than
others in my experience women tend to
have higher levels of neuroticism than
men they tend to worry about the details
of things more and what could go wrong
in a scenario Etc because of this when
they don't know what you're doing and
you've suddenly vanished from their life
they tend to think the worst and assume
you're just outliving it up again this
could be the furthest thing from the
truth but the Mind plays tricks on us
and with a girl on the other side of no
contact it increases feelings of wanting
to see what you're doing or wanting to
talk to you and girls are very curious
many girls in my experience actually
Pride themselves on being detectives and
able to sniff out drama or find out what
a guy is up to that's why the best
strategy for wanting to get a girl back
is to Simply move on it sounds
counterintuitive but many guys would
benefit from moving on in order to
attract a girl back and honestly I don't
even recommend trying to get girls back
because if they're gone it was for a
reason and you'll usually ReDiscover
that reason later but it is something
worth mentioning because I see guys ask
how to get girls back all the time but
the other reason why no contact is
effective at getting a grow back is
because when you leave there's a gap
where your presence once was now keep in
mind that this idea is dependent on
having an emotional connection with that
girl on some level if this is a girl
that you went on a date with one time
she's not gonna feel that Gap when
you're gone because there wasn't enough
of an emotional attachment built there
just wasn't enough time invest for her
to care about you being gone but coming
out of a relationship or a scenario
where you've been dating a girl
consistently for at least a few months
she's gonna feel a gap in her life when
your presence is gone and this could be
really uncomfortable for a girl to deal
with if you were a guy that added value
to her life it's like missing a piece of
her life and it increases her desire for
you again this is based on the idea that
you were a guy that added some kind of
value to her life if you were a dude
that was just more problematic than you
were beneficial then this is less likely
to be effective unless the woman has a
more traumatic attachment style and if
she does I wouldn't even recommend being
around her anyway just get away from
those girls you'll be happy that you did
later another reason why no contact is
so powerful is that it shows that you
can do better and this is tough for a
lot of women to deal with on an ego
level a man who is strong enough to walk
away and know his value is the guy that
both men and women respect there's
simply no bigger Display of Power and
self-worth than walking away it shows a
lack of fear and a bold trust in
yourself to find something better and
this is felt on an energy level by the
girl and you will often find girls
chasing you down down just off this
alone there's a quote I like from a
great book called The Art of Seduction
which states that we can endure feeling
that another person has more Talent or
more money but the sense that a rival is
more desirable than we are that is
unbearable and I love this quote to
describe this concept because the human
ego is very fragile and weak in many
ways and when a girl senses that another
girl may be more desirable than her it
can drive her crazy and it's not a good
feeling for anyone male or female to
feel like they are being left behind for
something better and that's exactly what
no contact communicates now honestly
aside from all that the biggest benefits
and no contact is the effects that it
has on strengthening your mind to not
care about this girl as much attraction
and love and desire for a woman is
largely a chemical reaction in our brain
and it's like a drug the more hits we
take of it the more we want and it's
hard to get enough and it also drives us
crazy for a while when it's gone so if
you reverse engineer this idea you'll
realize that you can eventually break
the attachment and desire for her by
detoxing her completely from your life
and going no contact the longer you stay
away from her by using no contact the
more you will gain Clarity on what she's
actually like you will lose a lot of the
delusions that you used to have about
her and you will stop thinking about her
being such a Heavenly blessed angel you
will realize that she is simply another
woman in a sea of many and this is huge
for getting over a girl and gaining more
of an abundance mindset but there's a
few things that you need to do if you
want to do no contact effectively and
gain those mindset benefits because a
lot of guys mess this up the first one
is that when you do no contact you want
to not only avoid talking to her but
remove all signs of her from your life
put all of her gifts that she gave you
in a box and either throw them away or
have someone hold on to them for you
until later down the road when you're in
a stronger state of mind and make sure
that you don't look at any of her social
media or any photos of her seriously
like nothing at all not even one photo
and don't read old text messages she
needs to be completely dead to you in
your mind these things may sound small
but they all trigger emotional responses
in your brain and chemical reactions
that increase feelings of missing her
wanting her Etc you have to remove all
signs of this woman existing in your
life in order to do this right and the
more you stick to it the faster you'll
get over her to increase this even
faster the second thing is to date other
women as quickly as possible now when
I've said this to both guys and girls in
the past I've had people say they aren't
ready to sleep with other girls yet or
they don't desire to and that's fine
honestly the point is to just get around
other women to show your brain that
other women exist outside of this one
girl just going on a date and talking to
a girl can have huge benefits for your
mind and I can't stress this one enough
you have to do this during no contact to
make it even more effective the last one
is to make sure you aren't using no
contact from a scarcity mindset you
don't want to do no contact with the
hopes of attracting the girl back you
want to do no contact because it's best
for you to move on and if she comes back
cool if she doesn't who cares this is
really really important because people
feel the energy you give off and the
stance that you're operating from even
if they're far away if you are operating
out of this place of scarcity and hoping
a girl comes back by not talking to her
she's going to feel that on some level
and either not come back or if she does
you're gonna fumble the bag immediately
once she senses your are actually
insecure and guys honestly stop wanting
girls to come back there's a reason
they're gone you will almost always
regret it when they come back anytime
I've taken girls back I've always
regretted it later I should have just
always stuck to getting rid of them the
first time it was never worth bringing
them back you have to get your mind
right to use no contact in order to move
on to better things and to remove
yourself from a bad situation where this
girl wasn't good for you or you've been
used for attention or disrespected in
some way remember this is about you not
her and when it's all about you no
contact is one of the most powerful
things that you can use anyway let me
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