Common Sexual Fantasies You're Too Shy To Talk About

Summary

This video explores common sexual fantasies like exhibitionism, voyeurism, and public sex. It explains the psychology behind these fantasies, noting that many are illegal if acted upon without consent. The video covers the prevalence of fantasies like voyeurism, finding many men and women admit to being aroused by them. However, experts advise seeking therapeutic help if these urges become unmanageable or risk harming others. The video aims to educate viewers on sexual psychology, emphasizing consent and safety around sexual exploration.

Takeaways

• 😊 The video explores common sexual fantasies like exhibitionism, voyeurism, public sex, and foot fetishes
• 😮 Over half of men have voyeuristic fantasies while most men and women fantasize about public sex
• 😠 Acting on exhibitionist or voyeuristic urges without consent is unethical and illegal
• 🤔 Biological and psychological factors may explain the prevalence of foot fetishes
• 😃 Seeking help from a therapist can help people cope with overwhelming sexual urges
• 😥 Voyeuristic disorder causes significant life impairment and often coincides with other mental health issues
• 😡 Public indecency and sex acts are illegal in the U.S.
• 🙂 Consensual exhibitionism and voyeurism do occur between some couples
• 🤨 The fantasy of having sex in public is very common
• 😌 Enthusiastic consent from all parties is mandatory for ethical sexual activity

Q & A

What is exhibitionism disorder as defined by Psych Today?

Exhibitionism disorder is a condition marked by the urge, fantasy, or act of exposing one's genitals to non-consenting people, particularly strangers.

How does Insider describe the consensual side of exhibitionism?

Insider mentions the consensual side of exhibitionism as the act of becoming aroused by others consensually watching you have sex.

What is voyeurism, and how does the American Psychology Association define it?

Voyeurism is a paraphilia where sexual arousal is focused on observing unsuspecting people who are naked, undressing, or engaging in sexual activity, without seeking sexual activity with the observed person.

What percentage of men reported having voyeuristic fantasies according to a small 1991 study?

According to a small 1991 study, 54% of men reported having voyeuristic fantasies.

What is the prevalence of arousal from watching others have sexual intercourse according to a 2006 Swedish study?

A 2006 Swedish study found that 7.7% of 2,450 surveyed adults reported being aroused by watching other people have sexual intercourse.

How does Verywell Mind define voyeuristic disorder?

Voyeuristic disorder is defined as a condition that causes a person to act on voyeuristic urges or become so consumed by these fantasies that they are unable to function normally.

What are some conditions that often occur alongside voyeuristic disorder?

Voyeuristic disorder often occurs alongside other conditions like depression, anxiety, and substance abuse, and can lead to developing another paraphilic disorder like exhibitionist disorder.

What does Psychology Today recommend for individuals with exhibitionist thoughts or urges?

Psychology Today recommends seeking help from a trained therapist who can help find healthier ways to cope with exhibitionist urges before acting on them.

How common is the fantasy of having sex in a public setting, according to social psychologist Justin Lehmiller's survey?

According to Justin Lehmiller's survey, 81% of men and 84% of women were aroused by a public sex fantasy of theirs.

What does a 2007 study reveal about the popularity of foot fetishes?

A 2007 study found that foot fetishes accounted for nearly 50% of the human body part preference group, making it one of the most popular fetishes.

Outlines

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😍 Defining exhibitionism and voyeurism fantasies

This paragraph defines exhibitionism as being aroused by others consensually watching you have sex. It also defines voyeurism as being aroused by secretly observing others naked or having sex. Most people with these fantasies do not act on them non-consensually, but voyeuristic disorder is when it interferes with daily functioning.

😳 How common exhibitionism and voyeurism fantasies are

This paragraph states that over half of men have voyeuristic fantasies, while one study found 7.7% of people are aroused by watching others have sex. If these become unhealthy obsessions and lead to illegal behavior, psychiatric help should be sought.

🚓 The legal and ethical issues with public sex acts

This paragraph explains that public sex acts and nudity are illegal. Also, any sexual activity requires consent from all parties. If you have urges to expose yourself publicly or watch others sexually without consent, you should seek counseling.

😋 Explaining the prevalence and appeal of foot fetishes

This paragraph states foot fetishes are one of the most common body part fixations. Reasons may be the sensitivity of feet, or the domination/humiliation aspect. There are more nerve endings per square cm in feet than other body parts.

😃 Conclusion thanking viewers and emphasizing consent

The closing paragraph thanks viewers and reiterates that fantasies should remain just that - any sexual activity requires consent. If fantasies become overwhelming, counseling can help manage them.

Keywords

💡exhibitionism

Exhibitionism refers to the act of exposing one's genitals to non-consenting strangers, often for sexual arousal. The video explores exhibitionism as a common sexual fantasy, but notes that acting on such urges without consent is illegal and harmful. Examples from the script include the definitions from Psychology Today and Insider.

💡voyeurism

Voyeurism refers to deriving sexual arousal from secretly watching others who are naked, undressing, or engaged in sexual activity. The video analyzes voyeurism as a sexual fantasy and paraphilia. Examples from the script include the definition from the APA and statistics on the prevalence of voyeuristic fantasies.

💡public sex

Having sex in public settings. The video identifies public sex fantasies as potentially appealing but illegal exhibitionist behavior. An example is the survey finding 81% of men fantasize about public sex.

💡consent

Agreement to engage in sexual activity. Stressed repeatedly as essential for ethical realization of exhibitionist/voyeuristic fantasies. Lack of consent makes such acts illegal.

💡sexual fantasies

Imagined sexual scenarios used for arousal/satisfaction. Core focus of video analyzing common fantasies like exhibitionism and their psychological roots.

💡sexual fetishes

Sexual fixation on non-genital body parts or objects. Video explores foot fetishes as an extremely common example of fetishism.

💡paraphilia

Atypical sexual interest in objects, situations, or individuals. Voyeurism is classified as a paraphilia in psychological literature.

💡power play

Erotic exchanges of dominance and submission during sex. One theory for foot fetish appealexplored in video.

💡sexual disorders

Conditions like exhibitionism/voyeurism when urges become unmanageable without treatment. Video advises therapy.

💡coping strategies

Healthy techniques to control problematic sexual thoughts/behaviors. Video recommends therapy to develop coping strategies.

Highlights

Exhibitionism is the urge to expose one's genitals to non-consenting people.

Voyeurism is being aroused by watching unsuspecting people engage in sexual acts.

54% of men have voyeuristic fantasies.

7.7% of people surveyed reported being aroused by watching others have sex.

Voyeuristic disorder causes inability to function and often co-occurs with other disorders.

Exhibitionists should seek therapy to find healthy outlets for their urges.

81% of men and 84% of women fantasize about public sex.

Foot fetishes account for nearly 50% of body part fetish preferences.

Feet may be seen as lowly, setting up dominating/humiliating dynamics.

Feet have more nerve endings per square cm than other body parts.

Fantasies are normal, but sexual activity requires consent.

Don't hesitate to seek therapy if fantasies overwhelm or are uncontrollable.

Voyeurism and exhibitionism without consent are illegal.

Consensual exhibitionism means being aroused by others watching you have sex.

Seeking help prevents acting in ways that damage those you affect.

Transcripts

welcome back to our series on common

sexual fantasies we received such

positive feedback on our first

installment that we decided to create a

second part in this episode we'll be

exploring even more intriguing sexual

fantasies and shedding light on what

drives these desires so get ready to

dive into the world of sexual fantasies

and let's explore some of the more

common sexual fantasies that people have

exhibitionism voyerism or vois disorder

have you ever heard of exhibitionism

Psych today defines exhibitionism

disorder as a condition marked by The

Urge fantasy or act of exposing one's

genitals to non-consenting people

particularly strangers however an

article from Insider mentions the

consensual side of exhibitionism as the

act of becoming aroused by others

consensually watching you have sex but

what about voyerism or vois disorder

well ever heard of a Peeping Tom the

American psychology Association or apaa

defines voy ISM as a paraphilia in which

preferred or exclusive sexual interests

an arousal is focused on observing

unsuspecting people who are naked in the

act of undressing or engaging in sexual

activity although the Voyer seeks no

sexual activity with the person observed

orgasm is usually produced through

masturbation during the act of peeping

or later while visualizing and

remembering the event also called

inspectional ISM according to a small

1991 one study 54% of men have vois

fantasies while a 2006 Swedish study of

2,450 adult survey found 7.7% of them

reported being aroused watching other

people have sexual intercourse there's

also vois disorder which is a cause for

concern verywell mind defines vois

disorder as a condition that causes a

person to act on vois urges or become so

consumed by vois fantasies that they are

unable to function very well mind also

explains that boeris disorder often

occurs alongside other conditions like

depression anxiety and substance abuse

in some cases people with this condition

could even develop another paraphilic

disorder like exhibitionist disorder

vois and exhibitionism activities are

often illegal as consent is clearly

needed when engaging in a sexual act

with someone the most important thing

about these fantasies is to not act on

them unless all parties involved clearly

consent in advance

Psychology today recommends that if you

have for example exhibitionist thoughts

or urges it's important to seek help

from a trained therapist who can help

you find healthier ways to cope with

your urges before you act on them which

can be damaging to Those whom your

actions affect sex in a public setting

considered to be perhaps a form of

exhibitionism the fantasy of having sex

in public may be more common than you

think remember social psychologist

Justin lill's survey according to his

survey he found that 81% of men and 84%

of women were aroused by a public sex

fantasy of theirs but as mentioned

before it's important to remember that

acts like this are illegal public nudity

is illegal in most areas and public sex

acts are illegal as well in all US

states you a fantasy people but what

about feet when one thinks of sexual

Kinks the notorious foot fetish may come

to mind this is one of the most popular

fetishes a 2007 study that used a large

of individuals found that foot fetishes

accounted for nearly 50% of the human

body part preference group while some

believe it may have to do with a

dominating or humiliating aspect an

article from Healthline explains that

feet are often considered below people

that is some people think of feet as a

lowly body part that sets up a dynamic

some people find appealing they like to

feel lower than their partner they enjoy

having your feet on their body as a form

of power play or being put in their

place another reason may be biological

according to Simard Foot Clinic there

are more nerve endings per square cmet

in the foot than any other part of the

body our feet constantly Supply us with

information about the surface we walk on

without us even being aware of it so

there may be some sensitive and intense

Sensations going on each time someone

tickles a foot and there you have it

folks what are your thoughts on these

fantasies comment below we hope you

enjoyed learning about some of the most

common sexual fantasies in part two of

this series it's important to remember

that these fantasies are just that

fantasies engaging in any sexual

activity should always involve

enthusiastic and informed consent from

all parties involved if you ever feel

overwhelmed by your fantasies or have

difficulty controlling them don't

hesitate to seek the help of a trained

therapist thank you for watching and be

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