THIS Is The Most DANGEROUS Man A Woman Can Meet… | The Cancelled Professor Dr Gad Saad
Summary
TLDRThe transcript discusses the evolutionary perspective on human behavior, particularly focusing on the dangers and dynamics within romantic relationships. It highlights that a woman's most significant threat is often her partner, with infidelity being a primary trigger for violence. The conversation delves into the evolutionary reasons behind men's and women's tendencies towards sexual variety, challenging the notion of monogamy as the natural state. It emphasizes the importance of understanding these behaviors through an evolutionary lens without endorsing them, acknowledging the complexity of human desires and moral compass.
Takeaways
- 😣 The transcript discusses the concept that a woman's most dangerous individual is often an intimate partner, highlighting the risks associated with domestic violence and homicide.
- 🔍 The conversation delves into evolutionary reasons behind male behavior, suggesting that jealousy and violence can stem from a deep-seated instinct to ensure paternity and genetic legacy.
- 🧬 It's emphasized that human males have evolved to be invested in their offspring due to our species being biparental, which contrasts with the indifference shown by males in some other species.
- 👫 The discussion points out that both men and women have evolved desires for sexual variety, challenging the stereotype that only men seek multiple partners.
- 🌐 Cross-cultural studies are mentioned to support the idea that while men generally express a stronger desire for sexual variety, women also have an innate, though perhaps less pronounced, inclination towards it.
- 📉 The conversation notes that women are more likely to cheat when they are most fertile, potentially as a strategy to seek superior genetic traits for their offspring.
- 🚫 There's a mention of the 'sexy son hypothesis,' suggesting that women may be unconsciously driven to choose partners who could produce attractive sons.
- 🤔 The transcript touches on the complexity of human sexual behavior, indicating that it's influenced by a mix of evolutionary pressures and modern societal norms.
- 🌐 It's stated that while monogamy is common in human societies, it's not a universal norm and that other forms of relationships, such as polygamy, exist.
- 🤝 The discussion concludes by emphasizing the importance of understanding evolutionary perspectives without endorsing certain behaviors, highlighting the need for a nuanced view of human nature.
Q & A
Who does the speaker consider the most dangerous individual a woman will ever meet?
-The speaker suggests that the most dangerous person a woman will ever meet is her own husband or long-term partner, particularly in the context of suspected or realized infidelity.
What is the evolutionary reason behind the potential for violence or homicide in relationships?
-The speaker explains that the potential for violence or homicide in relationships may have evolved because humans are a biparental species, and males have a vested interest in ensuring paternity certainty to protect their genetic interests.
Why do the speaker and the interviewee believe that evolutionary explanations are important in understanding human behavior?
-Evolutionary explanations are important because they provide a scientific framework to understand why humans have certain behaviors, such as jealousy or the desire for sexual variety, without justifying or endorsing those behaviors.
What is the speaker's view on the justification of cheating in a relationship from an evolutionary perspective?
-The speaker clarifies that while evolutionary science can explain why humans might have a desire to cheat, it does not justify such actions. Morality and self-control are also part of human evolution and are necessary to navigate the complexities of social behavior.
How does the speaker describe the spectrum of male friends in terms of fidelity?
-The speaker describes three groups of male friends: those who are absolutely faithful, those who struggle with temptations, and those who cheat uncontrollably, highlighting the complexity and variability in human sexual behavior.
What evidence does the speaker provide to suggest that women also have a desire for sexual variety?
-The speaker cites studies showing that women are more likely to cheat when they are maximally fertile and may be less likely to use contraception in such situations, suggesting a desire for sexual variety.
What is the 'sexy son hypothesis' mentioned in the script, and how does it relate to women's sexual behavior?
-The 'sexy son hypothesis' suggests that women may be unconsciously attracted to men with good genetic stock, such as physical attractiveness, to produce offspring with desirable traits, even if they are in a committed relationship.
Why does the speaker say that monogamy is not natural from an evolutionary perspective?
-The speaker argues that monogamy is not natural because it is not the predominant mating system across all human societies and cultures, and because both men and women have evolved desires for sexual variety.
What is the difference between polygamy and polygyny as explained in the script?
-Polygamy refers to a mating system where one individual has multiple mates, which can be either polygyny (one man, multiple women) or polyandry (one woman, multiple men). The script notes that polygyny is more common, while polyandry is rare and typically occurs in specific ecological or cultural contexts.
How does the concept of inclusive fitness relate to the discussion of polyandry in the script?
-Inclusive fitness is the idea that an individual can increase its genetic representation in future generations not only through its own offspring but also through the offspring of relatives. This concept helps explain why polyandry might evolve in certain societies, such as fraternal polyandry in Tibetan culture, where brothers share a wife.
Outlines
🔍 The Evolutionary Roots of Jealousy and Infidelity
The first paragraph delves into the concept of the most dangerous individual a woman may encounter, which is suggested to be her partner. It discusses the evolutionary reasons behind why men may react aggressively to perceived or real infidelity, rooted in the need to ensure paternity and genetic continuity. The conversation highlights that humans, particularly human fathers, are highly invested in their offspring compared to other mammals, leading to a strong evolutionary drive to prevent cuckoldry. The paragraph also touches on the importance of understanding these behaviors through the lens of evolutionary biology and psychology without justifying them morally.
🌿 The Spectrum of Male Infidelity and Its Evolutionary Context
The second paragraph explores the topic of monogamy from an evolutionary perspective, contrasting the faithfulness of some men with the infidelity of others. It suggests that the desire to stray is a common evolutionary trait in both men and women, although manifested differently. The discussion points out that women, too, have an evolved preference for sexual variety, particularly when they are most fertile, and may be more likely to cheat in such periods. The strategy behind such behavior is linked to seeking superior genetic traits for offspring. The conversation also addresses the societal and moral implications of these evolutionary tendencies, emphasizing the distinction between explanation and endorsement.
🌐 Monogamy vs. Polygamy: An Evolutionary and Cultural Analysis
The third paragraph continues the discussion on sexual behavior and relationships, challenging the notion that monogamy is natural. It presents monogamy as a cultural institution in about 85% of societies due to our biparental nature. The paragraph differentiates between polygamy, which simply means one-to-many relationships, and its two forms: polygyny (one man, multiple women) and polyandry (one woman, multiple men). It explains the rarity of polyandry from an evolutionary standpoint and provides an example of fraternal polyandry in Tibetan culture, where brothers may share a wife to ensure inclusive fitness. The paragraph concludes by encouraging viewers to subscribe to the channel for more in-depth discussions on these topics.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Evolutionary Behavioral Science
💡Paternity Uncertainty
💡Infidelity
💡Biparental Species
💡Maternity Uncertainty
💡Sexual Variety
💡Monogamy
💡Polygamy
💡Inclusive Fitness
💡Phenotypic Quality
Highlights
The most dangerous person a woman will ever meet is often an intimate partner, with domestic violence or homicide often linked to suspected infidelity.
Human males have evolved to be protective of their genetic lineage due to the biparental nature of our species.
Paternity uncertainty is a significant evolutionary driver for male protective behaviors.
The conversation emphasizes that evolutionary explanations are not justifications for behavior.
Both men and women have evolved desires for sexual variety, though the degree may differ.
Women are more likely to cheat when they are maximally fertile, suggesting an evolutionary strategy.
Women may be less likely to use contraception when cheating if the goal is to secure superior genetic traits for offspring.
The 'sexy son hypothesis' suggests women may seek out mates with good genetic stock for short-term relationships.
Monogamy is common in human societies due to our biparental nature, but it is not the only form of relationship.
Polygamy (one to many relationships) can take the form of polygyny or polyandry, but the latter is rare for evolutionary reasons.
Inclusive fitness theory explains why some forms of polyandry, like Tibetan fraternal polyandry, can evolve.
The conversation highlights the complexity of human sexual behavior from an evolutionary perspective.
The discussion aims to provide a toolkit for understanding human behavior through the lens of evolution.
It's important to distinguish between evolutionary explanations and moral justifications of behavior.
The conversation touches on the challenges of navigating the tension between evolutionary drives and modern social norms.
The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding evolutionary science to make informed judgments about human behavior.
Transcripts
do you know Stephen who is by far the
most dangerous individual that a woman
will ever meet in her life whether it's
the yanoo tribe in the Amazon whether
it's the hatah tribe in central Africa
whether it's in ancient Greece 2,000
years ago or whether it's in Detroit
Michigan 2,000 years from now who is the
most dangerous person by far that you
will ever
meet
um let me think about this who's the
most dangerous person she
ever
meet by orders of magnitude more than
anybody else and the minute that I'll
say it you'll go oh no kidding but the
fact that you don't exactly demonstrates
my point and that's why evolution is so
important I think the most dangerous
person she will ever meet
is a
another you're already off okay I don't
know her husband I was going to
say there you go I was very close cuz my
brain went her my brain went her future
husband right because I was thinking in
the in the courtship process that's
quite dangerous so whether it be her
long-term partner or prospective
long-term partner right so to your point
a husband is the most dangerous and then
the overwhelming number one reason that
might drive him to domestic violence all
the way to homicide is suspected or
realized
infidelity okay I'm a true crime addict
and SE the stat is always in these True
Crime shows that about SE I think it's
70% of the time when a woman is goes
missing or murdered it's the husband
exactly something crazy like that
exactly now sometimes in those shows
it's because I want to get rid of my
current wife so I can run off with
another one yeah but notwithstanding
that potential effect usually when I go
into a homicidal rage it's because I I'm
concerned that either you have cheated
on me or you actually I I have proof
that you have cheated on me yeah so then
the question becomes why have human
males evolved the cognitive emotional
and behavioral repertoire to respond in
this way again you're not justifying it
you're not saying oh if I give you the
scientific explanation that means it's
okay to beat women but the reason is
because we are a biparental species
human dads are extraordinary dads in the
mamalian context we're by far one of the
most vested dads what now we don't
invest as much as human females but we
are really super dads so therefore your
ancestors and mind Stephen male
ancestors don't come from a line where
they said hey don't worry ladies have
have at it with the sexy Gardener as
much as you'd like because I'd be happy
to then spend the next 18 years raising
genos kids and therefore we've evolved
that system to try to thwart a
fundamental danger to our genetic
interest which is paternity uncertainty
there is no such thing as maternity
uncertainty right so when I read that
book with such complicated phenomena
that are explained so elegantly so
parsimoniously so simply so that you go
yeah that makes perfect sense that was
my Eureka moment and so evolutionary
Behavioral Science is exactly I just
described the last 5 10 minutes which is
taking the evolutionary biological and
evolutionary psychological lens to study
human phenomena before we get back to
talking more broadly just came to mind
that with that context in mind then
cheating is
justifiable cheating in a romantic
relationship so I depends what you when
you say justifiable you're falling into
the Trap of if you explain it
scientifically it's okay we also have a
moral compass that's due to an
evolutionary mechanism so one of the
difficulties of life is how to navigate
through the darwinian strings that are
pulling me in different directions right
I've evolved a desire to gorge on fatty
foods but if I do that in an
unrestrained manner I become a sumo
wrestler and I die of heart disease at
42 so I've also evolved the mechanism of
self-control so the fact that I
explained why it might make evolutionary
sense to cheat doesn't mean I'm
justifying it yeah I know and I I think
this is really important because we have
to give people a toolkit to think about
this conversation so that they don't
assume that everything that's being said
is an endorsement of the thing it's just
an explanation of the thing through the
lens of evolution and they're too very
and you know what some people can't do
that some people get so triggered by
those people are called my colleagues oh
really yeah that's right so I just hope
everyone listening now knows that
everything here isn't an endorsement of
a thing it's an evolutionary explanation
for a thing and you know I'm sure we're
both full of biases so nothing is ever
that pure
but we'll try and just hope that from
here on out people understand that when
I ask that question about cheating what
I'm trying to understand is through an
evolutionary perspective is monogamy a
normal thing I'm off and running for the
next 10 minutes you ready I'm I'm ready
let me let me give a little bit of
context here so I've got a lot of male
friends and I see in all honesty the
full spectrum of relationships I've got
and this is kind of how I'll describe it
I've got a cohort of male friends that
are absolutely faithful
in great relationships um committed to
their partners and have exercised what I
I assume is a form of discipline to not
go after any temptations that they might
have love that group of friends great
have this middle group of friends that
are struggling with all kinds of forces
everything from pornography to um to to
to maybe dabbling and then I have this
other group of friends who I would
categorize as the cheaters who cheat
almost
uncontrollably on their Partners UNC
controllably and this is um the spectrum
of friends here is about 20 people now I
look at that group of friends and I go
who is right because morally I can say
the ones over here are hurting people
the cheaters are hurting people you know
especially if they they're found in what
they're doing but who is right from an
evolutionary perspective well they all
are in a sense in that we all have the
desire to stray but we don't necessarily
instantiate that desire through overt
Behavior men and women yeah so that's
very good so usually if I were to say oh
men have evolved a desire for sexual
variety most people even if they don't
nothing about Evolution would say yeah
that that makes sense but now here's the
interesting part women too have evolved
a very strong desire for sexual variety
now not to the same degree as men so
there have been studies that have been
conducted across a bewildering number of
cultures and in every culture that's
been documented men are much more likely
to want more sexual partners and so on
but that doesn't mean that women are
Victorian chased prudes so now let me
give you multiple lines of evidence that
suggest that women are hardly the
Victorian prudes that we might otherwise
wish they were in a Victorian
novel you know when a woman is most
likely to cheat situationally I know
because I've read your work so okay F
okay so so I'll say it or do you want to
say it well it's when they're maximally
fertile isn't it very good you've done
your homework so when they are maximally
fertile is when they're most likely to
stray now that strategy by the way and
and they're less likely to insist on
contraception you would think that if
I'm cheating outside my marriage I'm
speaking as a woman now if I'm cheating
outside my marriage I would want to
increase the likelihood of wearing I
mean using protection because I don't
want to be pregnant but if the strategy
for why I'm cheating is because I'm
shopping for Superior genes then it
becomes incumbent that I don't use
protection right so you seldom have a
woman who will cheat with a guy who has
who is of lower phenotypic quality
genetic quality so I I would love to
have Bill Gates as home as my long-term
partner but then I want the male Olympic
swimmer as the guy behind the bushes now
if I can convince Bill Gates that the
Olympic male swimmer actually looks a
lot like Bill Gates and it's really your
sweetie it's you Billy you're the one
who then I I won the as a woman I've won
the genetic uh Lottery game okay so it's
not that women are not interested in
sexual variet so that's one here's
another
one if you map out this is from studies
I think it was in the early 80s I don't
have the exact reference but it's easy
to find sorry just in your work you say
that women are more likely to cheat with
someone who has good genetic stock yeah
is Bill Gates not got good genetic stock
because he's rich and small so yes so so
the intelligence element is yes maybe
the drive element is yes but the
phenotype is a no I me what's the
phenotype phenotype is your physical
manifestation right so if I say I want a
guy who is tall who has a v uh who's got
testosterone jawline right I mean I
don't usually if I'm a woman I don't in
my uh uh deep recess of my mind
fantasized about being ravished by Bill
Gates
are those physical features just
pointing at the fact this person can
provide for me absolutely I mean and
you're saying but Bill Gates already
provide yeah but it's there also what's
called the sexy sun hypothesis Bill
Gates will not produce I mean he'll
produce kids who potentially to the
extent that intelligence is heritable
will give me intelligent kids but he
won't give me uh the kids that are
bronny right and of course some of us
are lucky to have both braon and brains
but but that's the rare thing
now imagine if I were 4 in taller then I
mean that's it I would be crowned
Emperor no but in all seriousness both
men and women are very duplicitous in
their sexual behavior so the idea that
monogamy is natural is not true now it
is natural in that about 85% of
documented cultures have monogamy as an
Institutional mechanism because we're a
biparental species and almost all the
other ones are have what's called p
which is a term not to be confused with
polygamy so I'm going to do a little
parenthesis and I'm going to come back
to the lines of evidence that proves
that women like sexual variety as well
so polygamy just means one to many
people use it as synonymous with one man
multiple women but that's not what
polygamy is polygamy is one to many
which can take two forms it could be one
man multiple women which is called
polygyny or it could be one woman
multiple men which is called polyandry
there are almost no societies where
institutionally we have polyandry
because it wouldn't make evolutionary
sense for that mating system to arise
the only famous case of polyandry it's
called
Tibetan uh fraternal polyandry so the
word fraternal means that to the extent
that there are ecological reasons why we
have to tolerate one woman going with
multiple guys it'll be brothers and the
reason for that is because of a
mechanism called Inclusive fitness which
is that I can increase my reproductive
Fitness through direct reproduction I
have children and therefore they will
share half my genes but I can also
invest in the children of my siblings
who share also genes with me and I could
still be increasing my Inclusive fitness
so therefore polyandry need not be a
darwinian dead end because I'm still
extending my genes even in in such a
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