How To Be A Woman That Gets What She Wants From Men

Summary

The video discusses the damaging dynamics of being overly critical and reactive in romantic relationships, particularly from the feminine perspective. It explores how women, often unconsciously influenced by childhood experiences, try to gain approval through criticism and complaints. However, this behavior pushes men away, as healthy masculine energy thrives on confidence and appreciation. The speaker emphasizes the importance of inner work and vulnerability, suggesting that by healing emotional wounds and showing softness, women can create stable and loving relationships. The key to a fulfilling connection is vulnerability, emotional stability, and self-awareness.

Takeaways

• 😀 Women often unconsciously repeat unhealthy relationship patterns learned in childhood, especially in their interactions with men.
• 😀 Believing that being critical or reactive will inspire a man to change or improve the relationship is a common misconception that leads to emotional withdrawal.
• 😀 Many women seek validation and approval in unhealthy ways, especially due to unmet emotional needs in childhood, particularly from their fathers.
• 😀 Healthy masculine energy in men desires to make their partner happy, and being overly critical or reactive can make men retreat instead of improving the relationship.
• 😀 Vulnerability and softness in a woman’s approach are essential to getting her needs met and strengthening the relationship, as they allow men to feel confident and capable.
• 😀 Inner work is crucial for both partners in a relationship to build self-worth, heal past wounds, and learn how to meet their own emotional needs.
• 😀 Reactivity and criticism may work temporarily by triggering a man’s ego, but it creates emotional instability and mistrust in the relationship, especially before commitment.
• 😀 A woman’s ability to approach her partner with vulnerability and a calm, non-reactive demeanor helps build a secure and connected relationship.
• 😀 Healthy relationships require both partners to feel emotionally safe, and constant criticism or emotional instability can lead to a partner pulling away.
• 😀 Self-awareness and the ability to meet one’s own emotional needs are key to attracting and maintaining a healthy, balanced relationship with a man.

Q & A

Why do women often believe that being critical or upset will make a man fall in love with them?

Women may subconsciously believe that being critical or showing upset emotions will lead to a man changing his behavior to win their approval. This stems from a pattern learned during childhood, often influenced by seeking approval from their fathers, and the idea that criticism might lead to positive change.

What is the connection between a woman's relationship with her father and her behavior in romantic relationships?

Many women seek emotional approval from their fathers, which might not have been fully met during childhood. As a result, they adopt coping mechanisms, such as being critical or seeking constant validation in their romantic relationships, expecting their partner to fulfill unmet emotional needs from their father.

How do women’s childhood experiences shape their behavior in relationships with men?

Women who did not have their emotional needs fully met by their fathers may develop a pattern of seeking approval through criticism or complaints. These behaviors are often subconscious, as they reflect unresolved childhood wounds and unhealed feminine energy.

Why does criticizing a man in a relationship lead to him retreating rather than changing?

When a woman is constantly critical, the man may feel that nothing he does is ever good enough. This undermines his confidence and competence, which he desires to feel in a relationship. In response, he may retreat, as criticism creates emotional distance and makes him feel unsafe or inadequate.

What role does softness and vulnerability play in a woman's approach to relationships?

Softness and vulnerability are seen as strengths in a woman's approach to relationships. When a woman is open, emotionally vulnerable, and non-reactive, it helps her attract healthy masculine energy, encouraging the man to act in ways that meet her needs without triggering defensiveness or withdrawal.

Why is it important for a woman to do inner work and heal before expecting a healthy relationship?

Inner work helps a woman build emotional strength, self-love, and healing, which enables her to approach relationships from a place of vulnerability and security. Without this foundation, it’s difficult to attract healthy masculine energy, and the relationship may not progress in a healthy direction.

How does a woman’s emotional instability affect her relationship dynamics?

Emotional instability, caused by unhealed wounds or insecurity, creates mistrust in the relationship. When a woman reacts with anger, criticism, or frequent complaints, it makes the relationship feel unsafe for the man, leading him to withdraw emotionally, potentially resulting in the relationship not progressing or deepening.

What happens when a man pulls back in a relationship before commitment, and why does this occur?

When a man pulls back before commitment, it’s not necessarily a sign of disinterest but rather a reflection of the stage of the relationship. Without a solid commitment, men naturally distance themselves as they evaluate their feelings and the relationship. It’s important for women to maintain emotional composure and not react in ways that disrupt the pace.

How can a woman learn to communicate her needs effectively in a relationship?

A woman can communicate her needs effectively by first ensuring she has met her own emotional needs. Once secure in herself, she can approach her partner with vulnerability, speaking from a non-reactive space, and express her desires in a way that fosters connection rather than criticism.

What are the consequences of a woman being overly reactive or critical in a relationship?

Overreacting or being overly critical can create emotional instability and cause a man to feel like he can never satisfy his partner. This behavior can lead to emotional withdrawal, less romantic engagement, and a lack of trust, which may prevent the relationship from progressing to deeper levels of intimacy or commitment.