COMO DEIXAR DE SER BONZINHO SEM SER UM BABACA - Charles Oliveira

Summary

In this video, Rodrigo Fortes from Academia do Carisma explains how to stop being overly nice without becoming a jerk, using UFC fighter Charles Oliveira as an example. He emphasizes the importance of not seeking constant approval, establishing firm values, and differentiating between humility and self-deprecation. Fortes provides practical strategies for building respect and confidence, and invites viewers to join his charisma school to improve their social skills and overcome timidity. The video encourages self-assurance and the recognition of personal achievements without arrogance.

Takeaways

• 😇 Being overly nice leads to a lack of respect and security from others.
• 🙅‍♂️ Overly nice people tend to give in under pressure and struggle to convince others of their ideas.
• 💪 Charles Oliveira is used as an example of being humble without being overly nice or caving in to others.
• 🤔 Over-explaining your actions is a sign of seeking approval, which should be avoided.
• 👊 Charles Oliveira doesn't give explanations for his victories or losses, focusing on moving forward.
• 🧠 Establishing firm values helps resist external pressure and impulsive decisions.
• 🌟 Charles Oliveira and Khabib Nurmagomedov are examples of athletes with strong, unyielding values.
• 🙌 There is a difference between humility and self-deprecation; humility is recognizing your worth without seeking approval.
• 🗣️ False humility can undermine your credibility and confidence in your own abilities.
• 🏆 Recognizing and expressing your merits confidently is essential, especially in professional settings.

Q & A

What are the main negative effects of being too nice according to the video?

The main negative effects of being too nice include people not respecting you, not conveying security in social situations, yielding to pressure, and struggling to convince others of your ideas.

Who is used as an example in the video to illustrate how to avoid being too nice without being a jerk?

Charles Oliveira, a famous Brazilian UFC fighter known as Charles do Bronx, is used as an example.

What is the first strategy mentioned in the video to avoid being too nice?

The first strategy is not to explain yourself for everything you do. Seeking approval by constantly explaining your actions can make you seem insecure.

How does Charles Oliveira handle victories and defeats according to the video?

Charles Oliveira acknowledges his victories and defeats without providing excuses. He simply accepts the outcome and moves forward without over-explaining.

What personal example does the speaker give to illustrate the mistake of over-explaining?

The speaker shares an experience from a jiu-jitsu competition where he lost his first match and gave excuses for his loss instead of accepting it and moving on.

What invitation does the speaker extend to viewers who are too nice, introverted, or shy?

The speaker invites viewers to join his charisma school, 'Academia do Carisma Avançado (ADCA),' which offers monthly subscriptions for mastering all areas of human communication to become more charismatic and confident.

What is the second strategy to avoid being too nice discussed in the video?

The second strategy is to establish fixed values. Having firm values helps you resist pressure and act logically rather than impulsively.

Can you give an example of a value that can help avoid being too nice?

An example of a value is deciding not to engage in gossip. If you firmly believe that gossiping is wrong, you will resist the impulse to participate in it when pressured by others.

What is the difference between humility and self-deprecation according to the video?

Humility involves recognizing your roots and being modest about your achievements, while self-deprecation involves belittling yourself to avoid drawing attention, which is often a sign of seeking approval.

How should one handle their achievements during a job interview to avoid being too humble?

During a job interview, you should clearly state your contributions and merits without downplaying them. For example, explain how your skills and efforts led to the team's success rather than attributing it solely to the team.