When Women Create Drama, Do This...
Summary
TLDRThis video discusses 'soft nexting,' a strategy for dealing with drama in relationships, particularly with women. The speaker suggests that women often create drama and that soft nexting, which involves withdrawing attention for a few days, can be an effective tool to correct undesirable behavior. It emphasizes the importance of not negotiating or arguing but instead using absence as a form of discipline. The video also notes that soft nexting requires a high level of desire from the woman and may not work as well in long-term relationships or marriages where physical absence is not an option.
Takeaways
- 🔧 The 'soft next' is presented as a crucial tool for men to deal with drama caused by women in their lives.
- 👤 It's suggested that women may create drama when they feel there is a lack of it in their lives, which can be stressful for men.
- ⏱ The 'soft next' involves withdrawing attention for a period of about three to four days to address frequent drama.
- 🚫 The technique is different from a 'hard next' and requires not responding to calls or making oneself scarce.
- 👁️ Attention and validation are described as valuable 'currency' in the 'girl world', and withholding them is part of the 'soft next' strategy.
- 🤝 The 'soft next' is not about negotiating or arguing but about demonstrating that the man will not tolerate unnecessary drama.
- 📉 It's important that the woman has a high level of desire for the man, ideally a 9 or 10 on a scale, for the 'soft next' to be effective.
- 🏠 The 'soft next' may not be as effective in long-term relationships or marriages where physical absence is not possible.
- 🛑 Alternatives for living together include spending more time away, like at work or the gym, or temporarily staying elsewhere if possible.
- 🔄 After the period of withdrawal, reconnecting involves letting the woman know why the attention was withdrawn without further negotiation.
- 📚 The speaker mentions that there are other tools in the toolbox that could be discussed in future videos and invites feedback from viewers.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is discussing the concept of 'soft nexting' as a tool for dealing with drama in relationships, particularly with women.
What does the term 'soft next' refer to in the context of the video?
-In the video, 'soft next' refers to the act of withdrawing one's attention from a woman for a short period of time as a response to drama or stress she may introduce into a man's life.
Why is 'soft nexting' considered an important tool according to the video?
-'It's considered important because it addresses the issue of women potentially creating drama when there is none, and it provides a method to correct behavior without engaging in arguments or negotiations.
What is the '72-hour rule' mentioned in the video?
-The '72-hour rule' is an example given in the video where a woman in a marriage would create a reason to fight about every 72 hours, causing stress to her partner.
How long does the 'soft next' period typically last?
-The 'soft next' period typically lasts between three to four days, but it can be shorter or longer depending on the situation.
What is the key principle behind the effectiveness of 'soft nexting'?
-The key principle is that attention and validation are valuable in relationships, and by withdrawing these, the person being 'soft nexted' may realize the importance of not causing unnecessary drama.
What is the importance of the level of desire in the effectiveness of 'soft nexting'?
-The level of desire is crucial because 'soft nexting' is more effective when the woman has a strong, genuine desire for the man, ideally at a level of 9 or 10 on a scale.
How does 'soft nexting' differ from a 'hard next'?
-While 'soft nexting' involves temporarily withdrawing attention, a 'hard next' is not mentioned in the script, but it typically refers to a complete and often permanent withdrawal from a relationship.
What does the video suggest for situations where 'soft nexting' might not be effective?
-The video suggests that 'soft nexting' might not be effective if the woman has a low level of desire for the man, or if they are in a long-term relationship or marriage where physical absence is not possible.
What alternative actions does the video recommend for those living with a woman who is causing stress?
-The video recommends spending more time away, such as working late, going to the gym, or staying at a secondary residence like a lake house or cottage for a few days.
What is the final advice given in the video regarding the use of 'soft nexting'?
-The final advice is to not negotiate or discuss the issue further after reconnecting, and to make it clear that the man will not tolerate the drama, essentially giving an ultimatum to comply or end the relationship.
Outlines
🛠️ Dealing with Drama: The Soft Next Technique
This paragraph introduces the concept of 'soft nexting' as a tool for men to deal with drama caused by women in their lives. The speaker explains that women may create drama to seek attention and that 'soft nexting' involves withdrawing attention for a few days to correct undesirable behavior. It emphasizes the importance of not negotiating or arguing but instead using absence as a form of discipline. The effectiveness of this technique is said to depend on the woman's level of desire for the man, suggesting it works best when the woman has a strong attraction. The speaker also notes that 'soft nexting' is less effective in long-term relationships or marriages where physical absence is not possible, and alternative strategies might be needed.
👍 Encouraging Engagement and Future Content
The second paragraph serves as a call to action for viewers to engage with the video by liking it, commenting, and expressing interest in future content. The speaker hints at additional tools that could be covered in future videos and invites viewers to share their preferences. There is also a mention of useful links in the top comment, which likely include resources such as community access, coaching calls, video requests, and book recommendations. The speaker signs off with a casual farewell, indicating the end of the video.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Soft Next
💡Drama
💡Attention
💡Manufacture
💡Stress
💡Validation
💡Behavior Correction
💡Beta Pleb
💡Desire
💡Absence
💡Comply or Goodbye
Highlights
Introduction to the concept of 'soft nexting' as a tool for dealing with drama in relationships.
Explanation of how women may create drama in the absence of it.
The 72-hour rule example to illustrate frequent drama creation in a marriage.
The importance of not letting drama frequency reach an unbearable level.
Definition of 'soft nexting' as withdrawing attention for a short period.
Attention and validation as a currency in the 'girl world'.
Correcting behavior by using 'soft nexting' instead of negotiation or arguing.
The effectiveness of 'soft nexting' based on the level of a woman's desire for a man.
The necessity for a strong genuine desire for 'soft nexting' to work effectively.
The ineffectiveness of 'soft nexting' when a woman has low interest in a man.
Advice against bending the knee or placating a woman all the time.
The method of 'soft nexting' by making oneself scarce and unavailable.
Reconnecting after 'soft nexting' and letting the woman know why.
The approach of 'comply or goodbye' after using 'soft nexting'.
The limitations of 'soft nexting' when living with or married to a woman.
Alternative strategies for dealing with drama when 'soft nexting' is not feasible.
Encouragement to deal with bad behavior before resorting to 'soft nexting' in long-term relationships.
Invitation for viewers to engage with the content and request more tools in future videos.
Information about joining the community, booking coaching calls, and recommended resources.
Transcripts
all right what is up my brothers in this
video we're gonna be talking about the
most useful tool in your toolbox as a
guy
when it comes to dealing with drama in
your life or brought into it anyway by
women
a tool is called a soft next some of you
may have heard about this
others may not have this is an important
one probably one of the most important
tools you can use in your toolbox
when a woman in your life whether she's
somebody you're dating in a relationship
with
marriage is a little bit different
living with is different but i'll talk
about that a little bit towards the end
but
women like to manufacture drama right
there's no question about it
um in the absence of drama in their
lives they will
actively manufacture indignation we've
known this for a while
uh it is what it is which is cool fine
whatever let's set that aside
the thing being is sometimes the
frequency of the drama and the stress
they introduce into your life
becomes too much or too high
i recall the other day i was talking
this guy that was telling me about this
um marriage he was in and basically
described it like the 72-hour rule like
every
every 72 hours she would make up some
[ __ ] to fight about
and you know that would stress his life
out quite a bit so um
you know if it's at that frequency it's
pretty bad you should never let it get
to that point but essentially
all the tool is is making your attention
uh absent or scarce for
a short period of time which is
different from a hardness the soft next
is basically withdrawing your attention
for somewhere between i'm going to say
three or four days it could be a little
shorter it could be a little bit longer
depending on the nature of the soft next
but
uh the soft next is quite uh
useful simply because we know that women
love the attention of men and your
main tool is of course going to be to
withdraw your attention from her
attention and validation is a currency
in the realm for girl world
always has been so you know you have a
girl that stresses you out over
something
and you need to try to correct the
behavior
you're not going to negotiate it you're
not going to argue where there's no
point in
trying to use something like reason with
a woman women don't let
logic and reason get in the way of their
emotions right so
the soft next is effective because you
don't respond to tax phone calls
you don't make yourself available to see
her for a certain period of time
and then once you reconnect after that
then
typically the relationship uh resumes is
normal
right like you know she should have
learned her lesson that you're not going
to tolerate that crap and that you will
become absent
from the equation and um
she should step in line if she sees you
as her best possible option
uh if she sees you as a beta pleb that
she's not particularly interested in or
has
low interest in you it probably won't
work as well
i'll be honest with you she has to have
strong genuine burning desire for you so
on a scale of 1 to 10
10 being the highest level of desire she
can possibly have
it needs to be a 9 or a 10. soft necks
work very well in that environment they
don't work so well if she's got like a
six on the desired scale for you
um they're just not that effective so
just just being honest with you so don't
don't be like messaging me after we go i
tried this off next and it didn't work
rich what happened
you know as i'm reading your message i
can tell that you're bending the knee to
her all the time
and trying to placate her every woman
desire so you have to be super super
careful with that so
that's really all that it is soft
nexting is just
making yourself scarce unavailable to
her
she doesn't need to know where you're at
you do not respond to her you definitely
put some distance there
intentionally and then when you do
reconnect you let her know why
you know i'm i'm a guy of vision purpose
passion
you know i'm on my mission i'm not going
to let your insert whatever it was uh
ruin my day week life whatever it is
that you're doing
insert you know whatever reason is and
then you just kind of carry on you don't
negotiate it you don't discuss it any
further than that it's comply or goodbye
is the way that it should be now i also
mentioned that
if you're living with a woman this is
not particularly effective so
listen if you've been married for 10
years and you've been or you've been
living with a chick for a few years
and she's stressing you out she's
bringing drama into your life
unnecessarily and you tried it like you
can't soften extra because you're living
in the same house
it's not like you can make yourself
absent or disappear
there's certain things that you can do
you know you can
work later you can just spend more time
at the gym or a dojo
not answer to her a more extreme example
would be if you have somewhere to go
like if you have a lake house or a
cottage you can go stay there for a few
days
that might be um a somewhat effective
way to try to soften extra
but it's a lot more difficult so you
don't want to let it get to the point
where you try to soft next a woman that
you're in an ltr or a marriage with
uh this is like the drama behavior the
the
the bad behavior that might pop up from
time to time is something that you
should deal with
and try to course correct before you get
to that stage if that makes sense anyway
very useful tool i know some guys
already know what it is many others
don't know what it is
there's probably somebody out there that
needs to see this video so smash the
like button
leave a comment below there's a few
other tools in toolbox which i can
probably touch on that i might make
future videos on so
let me know if you want to hear more
about those also pin in the top comment
there's links all the useful links there
so links if you want to join my
community book a coach and call request
a video
amazon books that i recommend all that
good stuff so check that out pin in the
top comment
see you guys in the next video peace
you
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