The duties of a chaste woman | SB 7.11.25 | HH BDDS
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the principles of a harmonious society, focusing on the roles and responsibilities of women in marriage. It emphasizes the importance of women being favorably disposed towards their husbands, cooking well, and supporting their husbands' vows for a prosperous and peaceful family life. The script also touches on the significance of traditional marriage arrangements by parents, the value of character over physical appearance, and the consequences of not adhering to these principles, such as marital discord and societal unrest. It advocates for a return to traditional values and wisdom to ensure a stable and happy society.
Takeaways
- 🍳 Cooking is an essential skill for women according to the speaker, as it helps to keep the husband satisfied and at home.
- 👨👩👧👦 The speaker emphasizes the importance of a woman being favorably disposed towards her husband, his family, and friends for a harmonious marriage.
- 👰 A woman's role is to support her husband, which includes following his vows and contributing to his well-being and success.
- 👵 The speaker mentions that arranged marriages by parents tend to be more lasting than love marriages, attributing this to the parents' focus on character over physical attraction.
- 🤝 Respect and cooperation between husband and wife are highlighted as crucial for a prosperous and peaceful family life.
- 🙅♀️ The speaker advises against women feeling superior to their husbands, as this can lead to the downfall of the marriage.
- 🤲 The importance of mutual support and understanding in marriage is underscored, with examples given of couples who achieved spiritual and material success by working together.
- 👨👧👦 The speaker discusses the concept of planned parenting, suggesting that children should be 'selected' based on principles to ensure a harmonious society.
- 🧐 The speaker criticizes the lack of structure in modern society, advocating for a system where societal roles are clearly defined to promote peace and order.
- 📚 Education for women, according to the speaker, should focus on supporting their husbands and being favorable towards them, their families, and friends to ensure a peaceful household.
- 👥 The speaker warns against unnecessary mixing of genders and social classes, stating that it can lead to chaos and a lack of order in society.
Q & A
What are the four principles for women described in the script?
-The four principles for women described in the script are: 1) to render service to the husband, 2) to be always favorably disposed towards the husband, 3) to be equally well disposed towards the husband's relatives and friends, and 4) to follow the vows of the husband.
Why is cooking an important skill for a woman according to the speaker?
-According to the speaker, a woman who does not know how to cook nicely will not be able to keep her husband in the house, as the husband might look elsewhere for a woman who can provide good quality meals.
What does the speaker suggest is the responsibility of a man in a marriage?
-The speaker suggests that a man should not be expected to clean the house, cook for his wife, or wash her clothes, as it is inauspicious and not the traditional role of a husband.
What is the significance of the husband's death for a traditional wife in the script?
-In the script, the husband's death is described as a significant event for a traditional wife, as her life is deeply intertwined with her husband's, and she may not be able to exist without him.
What is considered inauspicious in a marriage according to the script?
-According to the script, it is inauspicious for a man to raise his hand on a woman, for a woman to feel superior to her husband, and for a woman to be unfavorably disposed towards her husband.
What is the role of rituals in the script's view of marriage?
-Rituals are seen as a way to ensure a long and prosperous life for the husband and to maintain peace and harmony in the marriage.
Why is it important for a woman to be favorably disposed towards her husband's relatives and friends?
-It is important for a woman to be favorably disposed towards her husband's relatives and friends because she is not only married to the husband but also to his entire family and social circle, which contributes to the overall harmony and happiness of the marriage.
What is the significance of the story of Gandhari and Dhritarashtra in the script?
-The story of Gandhari and Dhritarashtra is used to illustrate the importance of a wife supporting her husband and being on the same level with him, even if it means making personal sacrifices, such as Gandhari blindfolding herself to match her blind husband.
What does the script suggest about the importance of cooperation between husband and wife?
-The script suggests that cooperation between husband and wife is better than competition and is essential for a peaceful and prosperous household life.
How does the script address the issue of women feeling superior to their husbands?
-The script warns that if a woman feels superior to her husband, it can lead to the end of the marriage and advises against such attitudes for a harmonious relationship.
Outlines
👫 The Role and Duties of a Chaste Woman
This paragraph discusses the four principles for a chaste woman, emphasizing the importance of serving the husband, cooking well, being favorably disposed towards the husband and his relatives, and following the husband's vows. The text argues that a woman's ability to cook well is crucial to maintaining a happy marriage and preventing the husband from seeking other women. The speaker also stresses that parents arranging marriages leads to lasting unions compared to self-arranged marriages.
🏠 The Importance of Supporting the Husband
This section continues to emphasize the traditional roles of women, including serving the husband and maintaining the household. The speaker condemns the idea of men doing household chores, describing it as inappropriate and unnatural. They discuss the importance of a woman respecting and supporting her husband and being favorably disposed to his friends and relatives without becoming a slave. The text underscores the cultural significance of these practices for a peaceful and prosperous household.
🤝 Mutual Support and Prosperity
This paragraph highlights the interdependence between a husband and wife, arguing that a wife's favorable disposition towards her husband leads to mutual prosperity. The speaker suggests that a wife's support is crucial for the husband's success and warns against neglecting these duties, as it would lead to misery and unhappiness for both partners. The importance of treating the husband's family and friends well is reiterated, distinguishing it from slavery.
🌿 Rituals and Commitment in Marriage
The text narrates stories of women who performed rituals and made sacrifices for the well-being of their husbands. It describes how these actions, rooted in love and devotion, lead to blessings and prosperity. Examples from scriptures are used to illustrate how committed and supportive wives helped their husbands achieve great things, and how their own fortunes improved as a result.
🚐 The Dangers of Female Superiority in Marriage
This section warns against women feeling superior to their husbands, using an anecdote about a woman who bought a bus against her husband's wishes, which led to the failure of their marriage. The speaker emphasizes the importance of joint decisions and cooperation in a marriage to ensure mutual progress and happiness. The story serves as a cautionary tale about the consequences of undermining the husband's role.
📚 Education and Roles of Women in Society
This paragraph discusses the education of women, suggesting that it should focus on supporting their husbands and being favorably disposed towards their husbands' lives, relatives, and friends. The speaker argues that this will lead to peace and prosperity in the household. The text also mentions the negative consequences of women mixing freely in society without adhering to traditional roles, leading to unwanted social issues.
🌟 Defining Roles for Peace and Advancement
The final paragraph stresses the importance of defining roles and activities based on one's nature and capabilities. It highlights the need for astrological consultations to guide children in choosing the right paths. The speaker believes that understanding and aligning with one's natural tendencies will lead to spiritual advancement and societal peace. The text concludes with a call to adhere to traditional principles for a harmonious and prosperous life.
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Keywords
💡Social Classes
💡Dharma
💡Vows
💡Respect
💡Marriage Arrangement
💡Character
💡Cooperation
💡Austerity
💡Spiritual Advancement
💡Caste System
💡Harmony
Highlights
The four principles for women to follow according to the text are: rendering service to the husband, being favorably disposed towards the husband's relatives and friends, and following the vows of the husband.
A woman who does not know how to cook well may not be able to keep her husband at home, leading to potential infidelity.
Girls should learn to cook to avoid men seeking other women for companionship.
The speaker's mother stated that if a girl is a good cook, she will find a husband without having to look for one herself.
Arranged marriages by parents are said to be more lasting than those arranged by the individuals themselves.
Marriage should be based on character and compatibility, not just physical attraction.
A woman should know how to serve her husband, including cooking and keeping the house clean, rather than expecting the husband to do these tasks.
In some cultures, both men and women are expected to cook, and it is not seen as a gender-specific duty.
A woman should be favorably disposed towards her husband and his family and friends, treating them with respect and kindness.
Rituals are performed in some cultures to ensure a long life for the husband, as his departure would greatly affect the wife.
Men should never raise their hand against women, as it brings disharmony and unhappiness to the family.
Women should support their husbands in their vows and endeavors, leading to a prosperous and harmonious life.
The story of Gandhari and Dhritarashtra is mentioned as an example of a wife supporting her husband's vows, leading to spiritual advancement.
A woman should not feel superior to her husband, as this can lead to the end of the marriage and unhappiness.
The importance of listening to wise counsel and not making decisions that make one feel superior in a marriage.
The need for cooperation between husband and wife for a peaceful and prosperous household.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of women's education in supporting the husband and being favorably disposed towards him and his family and friends.
The caste system is discussed as a way to scientifically divide society and ensure proper guidance and training for individuals based on their nature and abilities.
The importance of selecting children based on principles and astrology to ensure a well-planned and harmonious society.
The need to define one's activities and train individuals accordingly for spiritual advancement and peace.
Transcripts
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for translation and divine
to render service to the husband to be
always favorably disposed towards the
husband to be equally well disposed
towards the husband's relatives and
friends and to follow the vows of the
husband these are the four principles to
be followed by
women described as
chest in the in the
translation the four activities are
describ
here four
activities for a Chas lady
Chas chest
lady one is that a chest lady surrender
service to the husband
they
cooking
nice cooking nice not not
just cooking nice quality
person very important
why a woman who does not know how to
cook nicely will not be able to keep the
husband in the house
the husband will look
outside there nothing to keep in the
house you look another
woman so you see you see that it's very
common this days it is very common yeah
very common because and this you also
see that the girls don't know how to
cook can can you imagine what are the
boys
doing yeah
looking a woman must know how to cook s
Papa
particularly personally
said if I get the chest
G and very good cook I will personally
get a husband for her she doesn't have
to look for husband
that is my responsibility to get her a
husband she doesn't have to do it
herself not her
headache for un Chase lady and one who
does not know how to cook you look for
the husband yourself and diverse
you know that's a
Formula One Day friend asked me no a
friend was reporting his wife to
me and so I was
listening and
then in the course of that he enter also
into his own father and mother
they said my B they are 60 now and they
are still
married so then I ask him who arranged
their
marriage they said their parent who are
your marage
myself I said do you see the
difference can you see the
difference the parent arrange for the
marriage it is
lasting you arrange your marriage
doesn't
last why what the parent did he didn't
do it my father that's the
principle don't marry the body so marry
the heart that's the principle my
father means even if the woman is ugly
but has good character
Maria she know how to cook she's hardw
working she not a te marry
her and my my one of my sisters St El
trate her husband was a PCD holder I
was I didn't
dday but today your marriage is not last
because you are not following the
formula so a woman should know how to
serve the husband cook nicely don't
expect that the husband should go and
work the whole day and come out to the
house to come and clean the house to
come and cook for
you it is
inous even man does that he's going to
wash your cloth for you he going to
clean the house he's going to cook it is
in
specious even if the man does that is in
specious that is
not it does not include if the woman is
sick that different she sick the husband
can support yeah like like in in morus
both men and women
cook it's normal
so if you Maring somebody from ready if
you're a man that you should know how to
cook or something you bring some
difficulty both of you have to
understand each
other is a cult must
cook is normal not that by this a
normal
so it is inous if the
husband will be cooking a woman is lazy
in the
house to be always favorably disposed
towards a
husband in in in India the ladies they
have a a ceremony they do to prolong the
life of the
husband keep the husband long long life
they have that
rituals husband should stay long why the
husband should stay long because for a
Chase
lady CH lady the husband's departure is
the that lady
life she cannot exist again because her
life
is
yes for an irresponsible on chess lady
that is glorious
and also for a man who has been
irresponsible beating the
wife a man who is beating the wife if
the husband dies is glorious gu I'm
liberated which is also
inous man should never raise hand on the
woman it is
inous inous very
dangerous it brings
in speciousness to the house any any
Community any
family women are not respected and not
treated
nicely you will never see anything aous
in that place only inous like he said
here last me D lives in that
house the wife has to be treated nicely
and she has to be
disposed to towards the husband he has
to have affection for the husband should
look for the welfare of the husband do
whatever favorable whatever necessary
like I said the ritual should do for the
husband to be prosperous
to what a woman cursing the
husband if you Cur the husband he's not
it's like people don't know how foolish
we are if you feel you're very strong
person right you're very strong and
you're holding somebody down yes can see
I'm holding this lazy man down where
will you be
yourself you are there with the person
so there's no difference between two of
you so if you don't if you not favorably
disposed towards your husband when the
husband is having ill Fortune what will
happen to you you also share that you
cannot be conspicious you cannot be
happy you cannot be proper hband has no
money to buy food for you or to dress
you properly how will you be
dressed even if you go and prostitute to
get something you will be
miserable
miserable so the wife has to be
favorably dispos to the husband not only
to the husband to the husband
friends and the husband
relatives so when a man when the lady is
married they not married only to the
husband you married to the
entire only person related to the
husband family members and Friends means
they should be treated nicely but not
being a
slave you know
slavery people are misunderstanding what
the scripture say and everything is
becoming
toxy now slavery for girl to Mar the
family you making tea for the husand and
the family member through the whole day
till 12 midn
night that is
slavery that is not being favorably
disposed the relatives and Friends of
the husband that is
slavery dis you treat them nicely
because you you you would have got your
husband without the mother the father of
the
husband right they they get bir to the
man you mared to so they important
in and in some cases the in some
cases mother in they train you more more
better in cooking than your own
mother in some
cases or your father-in-law may be more
disciplined can culture you and train
you and make you more
protected at the same time not slavery
like it many many cases like
slavery that is not what the scripture
is
saying hband is in
house with a
friend is the house will be ready to
receive them nicly and provide for the
husband and the friends who have come ni
say they feel at home a man will not do
that if he knows that when they get home
the wife is sleeping and the food is not
ready or she has gone to whatever it is
and nothing is ready in the house a man
will not do that because he knows the
house is not
proper but this is how uh civilized
society have arranged things civilized
society have arranged things
perfectly to make everyone happy make
everyone happy and to follow the vows of
the husband this we see inia the husband
is doing
par the wife follow the par
follow
M mahaj
decided mahaj
and when when when they did so many
things to get the child and child would
not come they did so many
things varities of sacrifices visiting
holy places bringing to many SS getting
blessing from
Min fasting taking vows it try
everything because Krishna is not an
ordinary
child the process of getting Krishna is
not cheap but
is Krishna us that use the parent to
teach
us they did everything even even the
bries on their own out of care out of
love for them they say every day we are
getting our children our king and the
queen they are celebrating our naming
ceremony our baby but they don't have it
is by their own Purity that we are
getting everything we getting why can't
you do so they say yes yes let us do it
but the B together they
fasted and gave the result
to on their
own this human beings
is human
beings human beings you don't have you
don't need a scripture to tell them what
to do they know what to be done as a
human
being not to do on their own they're
making a lot of effort to fulfill the
the duties of in that
as he did perfectly but still nothing
came he finally
they settled
on yes let's do it let's do
it it is that what they did at
Christ then chran
came see they did
together we also
saw Gand Gand in the first country of
what time he described is she is called
as
s this is
simply simply
lady her husband was not
blind she got to know that the husband
to be is a blind person so to come down
to her to his level so that she doesn't
become proud and then there is a fight
in the marriage and break she
voluntarily blindfolded herself to come
to H level so that they can be peaceful
together and for that aeri became very
powerful that even slightly she just REM
slightly like this she burnt
feet of
anger the quality the quality
of she got from Fast fasting that
fasting that was did very
power and see you see she supported the
husband the same thing with
ar ar the wife
of
Maharaj to doity he didn't call
her not not a negligence because women
is that is not part of the DY for women
to do aity but they love the has for the
husband they will voluntarily do
he supporting the husband they will
follow the vows of the husband so AR did
she follow the husband and together they
dider at the Perfection of her husband's
hity he went to God and also went to
go after that she did commission for her
husband she also take her own plane and
went of course the husband waed for for
for her so they they went together
separate
a one a here one ni
op
no yeah so
two not
not bicycle you can say okay didn't
contend them no it's a
boying boing yes yes for one
person yes can you imagine that one
person
great Fortune they went to go together
because they did
together see many many exalted ladies
Sly ladies that
is they follow the vows of their
husbands they
follow
and and they why
they did Aton was standing on one leg
the wife also was standing on one leg
they facing each other no agitation they
did
together as
as they did together one leg B Mountain
stand on one
leg one
leg
together
yes so the husband the wives will follow
the vows of their
husband in this way they will be
Prosperity there so many so many so many
exalted ladies who did they were were is
a
princess from the skyscrapper see her
sitation skyscrapper she never she never
know what this
was never in the Life sky
cler this is man building it's a Skys
Clapper not
a just a kingom king yes yes no it's a
Skys
Clapper that is his
position his daughter is on
that and he was Tak from the sky cl to
the
forest the forest
cing this your
husband this your husband
it's okay what you do what you do all
the Bangles
removed
everything everything
removed he sacrifice
that this is my husband I can I be
superior to to him that is not
marriage the moment the woman feels
superior to the husband that is the end
of the marriage it will not last
I wonder here in
Nigeria one day came to tell
me I want to buy a bus I said don't
buy why you don't like progress why what
a bad fortune why you are like this I
say don't
lie why you will be superior to a
husband your husband is in the street
struggling and you are buying a
bus better you discuss with the husband
how people can join together to improve
his business everything then you can buy
after the hband should buy after that
see you are always like this a problem
your like they will know you like this
your
problem she left me she went and bought
the
bus they didn't last
3 mon before the marriage
end till today they're not
together even the bus is not
there but nothing is
there they going to church now to make
prayers pastor and I'm making business
out of
her see s
Vision I didn't Char her for
consultation fee to tell her don't do
this because you feel Superior to your
husband discuss with a husband so both
of you can join together and do
something
no
no now it's
disaster disaster if I call person all
of you know the person but I'm not going
to
no no boss no marri yeah it's finished
everything is finished
not after that man he went to three four
other people the same all disaster
disaster disaster continuously so he
come back again to devot after some
disaster he
ended after so many years he get he come
back again to the
devote the same thing finished now it's
two two two two deot one Dey finish
second Dey finish
so we should listen
to those who care for
us if you're intelligent listen to those
who care who can help
us with that wisdom we are not
we so prop is mentioning it is very
important for peaceful householder life
it is what very important for peaceful
householder life that a woman should
follow the vbe of her
husband if you want peace follow the V
of the husband any disagreement with the
husband's vow will disrupt the family
life it to put it to
end
cooperation better than competition we
want to happy corporate corporate
in this
regard gives a very valuable
instruction when there are no fight
between husband and wife the goddess of
Fortune automatically comes to the in
the
house
God so prop Contin a woman's Ed a should
be conducted along the lines indicated
in this verse our women's education
should
be on this line to support the husband
follow the V of the
husband favorable to the to the
husband's life and to also the relatives
and Friends of the
husband this is women's education
so there will be peace and
prosperity if the women are
happy Den niest
treatment there will be peace be
Prosperity like will be
there so first of first of all the women
also to be chased and then the leader be
test treat them nicely then everything
will be fine
otherwise the B the basic principle for
a chase woman is to be always favorably
disposed towards her husband in
this 140 is
said was this this is said by is talking
to Krishna
is talking
to we shouldn't kill the ERS because the
elders who give protection the training
for the Youth to the women for everybody
if the elders are gone
they you no protection because they have
no
wisdom they they have knowledge but no
wisdom so they cannot function women
also be free to necessar mix and un
necessary mixture will
bring
unwanted area boys and area girls
everywhere not nothing planned there's
no plan no
facility just s gratification the result
of s gratification brings
punishment what is punishment it look
very carefully look very
carefully uh the children we we are
having now deep down our heart and not
the country we wanted is it true or
not why it's an imposition because we
didn't follow the law it's punishment
this
justement did not have children he
selected his
children M did not have imp both
children he selected his children
because he know the principle they
selected the all the children have
B
Dev so we have to learn the science of
selecting the children we have the
principle if the women are polluted
there will be VAR Sankara population in
modern times the VAR Sankara the heppes
who do not follow any regulative
conjunctions another explanation is that
when the population is
bar no one can know who is on what
platform everything is mixed together
the veran system scientifically divide
Society into four
vas for
varas
Brahman Satria V sudas and
Ash
Gast this is not there everything is
so all the
same so in that in that
way it difficult
to but in V Society they are no short
distinctions and no one can know who is
who in such a society no one can
distinguish between a br
a and sud for peace and happiness in the
material
world institution must be
introduced the symptoms of one's
activities must be
defined the simpons of one's activities
must be
defined and one must be a educated
accordingly when a child when a child is
here astrological calculations had to be
done so know yeah this
child this
child is this this this person is a
v
a sudra
vah this this we clearly Define so we
know who and so so we can guide a child
on that way
here when this science is not here West
Africa see oh my child does not like to
go to school very poor DHE
headed that person you desing DHE headed
we when he asks him or her to go and do
mechanic do very
nicely do very
nicely why because that is is TR we
don't know we push him to go and learn
English to go
and learn be a pilot to go and be a
musician that is not so he will not
understand it but when he's put in his
in his credible
Stars he will do very well do very
well so this ignorance should be
removed by Consulting B
to know exactly to do so our activities
must be defined when the activities are
defined the training is given based on
that there
is the spiritual
advancement and the
sympatic promotion
advancement and will peace in such such
environment I
okay see my
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