KASUS PERCERAIAN WNI DAN PRIA CHINA DI PENGADILAN CHINA
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the host shares the story of an Indonesian woman named Bunga who faced a challenging marriage with a Chinese man. Despite initial impressions of her husband being kind, Bunga soon discovered his quick temper and frugality, leading to a tumultuous 4-month marriage. She details the neglect she experienced, including during her pregnancy, and the eventual divorce proceedings where her husband demanded the return of the dowry. Bunga advises against arranged marriages through brokers, emphasizing the importance of understanding a partner's true character and cultural differences.
Takeaways
- 😀 The video is about a woman named Bunga from Indonesia who shares her experience of getting married and then divorced to a Chinese man.
- 🏢 Bunga was matched with her Chinese husband through a marriage broker without dating, and they got married shortly after meeting.
- 🤔 Bunga noticed early on that her husband had a quick temper, which was confirmed by her own observations and her brother's comments.
- 🔥 After four months of marriage, Bunga decided to divorce her husband due to his irritability, stinginess, and lack of care, especially during her pregnancy.
- 🏡 Bunga and her husband had their own house, but she felt neglected and unimportant in the relationship.
- 🍳 Her husband worked as a chef in a restaurant, often working long hours and coming home late to smoke and drink alcohol.
- 💰 Bunga mentioned that the dowry her husband gave her was only 4 million rupiah, which was quickly spent on wedding expenses and documents for moving to China.
- 🤰 Bunga is currently pregnant, and her ex-husband showed no concern for her pregnancy or the health issues she faced during the first trimester.
- 📜 The divorce process involved a legal battle where the husband demanded the return of the dowry, which Bunga had already spent.
- 📢 Bunga advises against using marriage brokers, especially for international marriages, as they may not fully understand the person's character and cultural differences can lead to problems.
- 🙏 She ends the video with a message of hope for her future and a cautionary note for other Indonesian women considering similar marriages.
Q & A
What was the main issue discussed in the video?
-The main issue discussed in the video is the story of an Indonesian woman who went through a divorce process with her Chinese husband after facing mistreatment and cultural differences.
Why did the Indonesian woman end up in court?
-The Indonesian woman ended up in court to handle her divorce case from her Chinese husband.
How did the woman describe her first impression of her husband?
-She initially had a negative first impression, noting that he seemed easy to anger and not very kind.
What was the woman's experience like after getting married?
-After getting married, she experienced mistreatment, including being ignored and neglected, especially during her pregnancy.
What was the woman's husband's occupation?
-The woman's husband was a cook, working in a restaurant.
How did the woman communicate with her husband, given the language barrier?
-She communicated with her husband using translation tools, such as WeChat, due to the language barrier.
What was the woman's husband's behavior like after work?
-After work, he would smoke and drink alcohol excessively, sometimes coming home very late, which contributed to the woman feeling neglected.
What was the reason the woman decided to divorce her husband?
-The woman decided to divorce her husband due to his stinginess, anger issues, and lack of care, especially during her pregnancy.
What was the outcome of the divorce process in court?
-The divorce process resulted in the woman receiving a divorce certificate, and she had to return the dowry her husband had given her.
What advice does the woman have for others considering marriage through matchmaking services?
-The woman advises against using matchmaking services, especially those involving international marriages, as one cannot be sure of the other person's true character and cultural compatibility.
What was the woman's husband's reaction when she complained about her health during pregnancy?
-Her husband showed no concern and pretended to sleep when she complained about her health issues during pregnancy.
Outlines
👰 Divorce Case of an Indonesian Woman in China
The video script begins with the narrator introducing a case they are handling in court involving a divorce between an Indonesian woman and her Chinese husband. The woman, referred to as 'bunga,' shares her story of how she ended up in China, got married without dating, and her initial impressions of her husband. She describes him as someone who seemed wealthy and not prone to anger, which was confirmed by her family. However, after marriage, she found him to be quick-tempered and stingy, leading to a tumultuous relationship. Despite being pregnant, she was neglected and decided to divorce him. The video ends with the narrator inviting viewers to like and subscribe for more stories.
🤰 Challenges Faced by Pregnant Indonesian Woman in China
In the second paragraph, the Indonesian woman, now pregnant, details the challenges she faced in her marriage. Her husband, a cook working long hours, would often come home late, smoke, and drink alcohol. Communication was difficult, and she felt ignored and unattended to, especially during her pregnancy. Her requests for food were often met with refusal due to her husband's stinginess. She also mentions that her dowry was spent on the wedding and other documents, and now her husband is demanding it back as part of the divorce proceedings. The woman expresses regret for not knowing her husband's true nature before marriage and cautions others about entering into arranged marriages without fully understanding their partner.
📜 The Divorce Process and a Message to Others
The final paragraph discusses the divorce process and the woman's return of her dowry. She has now obtained her divorce certificate and is sharing her experience as a cautionary tale for others. She advises against entering into arranged marriages, especially with the help of brokers, without fully understanding the person's character. She emphasizes the importance of being aware of cultural and religious differences and the potential for exploitation. The video concludes with the narrator wishing viewers well and promising more stories in future videos.
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Keywords
💡Divorce
💡Marriage Arrangement
💡Cultural Differences
💡Matchmaker
💡Abuse
💡Pregnancy
💡Financial Dispute
💡Language Barrier
💡Legal Proceedings
💡Advice
Highlights
The video discusses a divorce case involving an Indonesian woman married to a Chinese man.
The couple did not have a dating period and were directly married through an arrangement.
The woman was initially attracted to the man's appearance but later found him to have a quick temper.
The husband's frugality and quick temper were major issues in the marriage.
The couple lived in a house in a village, indicating a possible cultural or economic disparity.
The husband worked as a chef, often coming home late due to his work schedule.
The wife felt neglected and unattended to, especially during her pregnancy.
Communication between the couple was difficult, requiring the use of translation tools.
The husband was demanding the return of the dowry as part of the divorce proceedings.
The wife had already spent the dowry on wedding expenses and legal documents.
The divorce was finalized with a divorce certificate issued.
The wife warns against arranged marriages, especially through brokers, due to potential cultural and personality differences.
The husband's behavior changed after spending a significant amount of money, becoming more frugal.
The wife advises caution for Indonesian women considering marriage with Chinese men through matchmakers.
The video concludes with a message of hope for the future and a reminder to be cautious in arranged marriages.
Transcripts
halo teman-teman e kita hari ini baru
pulang dari pengadilan e Hari ini aku
lagi sama satu orang Indonesia nih jadi
hari ini kita menangani kasus perceraian
orang Indonesia di pengadilan mau tahu
cerita kita kenapa bisa di pengadilan
yuk ikutin video aku sampai habis ya
jangan lupa like dan subscribe
Halo
bunga eh ini ma kita mau kasih tahu
teman-teman cerita kamu ya i ya Eh Kamu
asalnya dari mana dari Indonesia dari
Indonesia mana Banten Banten Oke Nama
kamu kita kita panggil aja dia bunga ya
terus kok bisa sampai ke China menikah
eh ada yang ngenalin ada yang ngenalin
gitu ya jadi di Indonesia ada yang
ngenalin gitu ya sama orang China di
sini gitu ya ahah terus ee kenalan
pacaran enggak tidak tidak jadi kita
langsung
dinikahkan Oh langsung dinikahkan Oh
Perjodohan
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enggak lewat ee pacaran gitu ya tidak
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Indonesia terus dia balik ke sini lagi
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ya E infonya hari ini
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baik am ya Heeh Amin oke oke teman-teman
kita sampai di sini dulu ya video kita
ee sampai ketemu lagi di video
berikutnya bye bye
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