《从零开始的女性主义》女性主义是什么?女性如何奋斗至今?今后又该如何奋斗?工作、婚恋、育儿,该如何以女性主义的角度考虑?上野千鹤子教你如何以女性主义角度思考
Summary
TLDR本次分享的书籍《从零开始的女性主义》深入探讨了女性主义的三个基本特征:争取平等权利而非特权、承认女性弱势地位的同时追求尊重、以及女性主义理论的多样性。书中讨论了为何当今社会仍需女性主义,指出尽管女性在政治、经济、文化等各方面取得了一定权利,但性别不平等的文化背景仍然根深蒂固。此外,书中还提供了普通女性如何在日常生活中实践女性主义的建议,鼓励女性发声、质疑不公,并在家庭生活中争取平等。
Takeaways
- 📚 书籍介绍:介绍了《从零开始的女权主义》一书,探讨了女权主义的真正内涵和现代社会中女权主义的必要性。
- 🌊 女权主义浪潮:历史上共有三次重要的女权主义运动,分别发生在19世纪末、20世纪60-70年代和20世纪90年代初。
- 📈 女权主义目标:女权主义的根本目的是争取男女平等的社会权利,而非女性特权。
- 🚫 误解与批评:许多人对女权主义有误解,认为其追求的是女性特权,而实际上女权主义反对的是性别歧视和不平等。
- 👥 社会性别分工:现代社会中依然存在性别分工,默认男性和女性在社会、政治、经济等领域的角色。
- 🏠 家庭与社会角色:女权主义认为家庭中的性别角色也应平等,鼓励女性在家庭生活中争取平等权利。
- 🎨 女权主义多样性:女权主义内部存在多种理论派别,不同派别之间会有激烈的辩论,体现了女权主义的多元性。
- 💪 女性自我认同:女权主义鼓励女性认识到自己的弱势地位,并在此基础上争取平等和尊重。
- 🗣️ 表达与反抗:女权主义鼓励女性表达不满,对不公正的待遇提出质疑和反抗。
- 👫 伴侣间的平等:在婚姻和家庭生活中,女权主义倡导伴侣间的平等,包括家务和育儿责任的共享。
- 🌟 改变社会:女权主义不仅是女性的事,也关乎整个社会的进步,需要男性和女性共同努力。
Q & A
《从零开始的女权主义》一书的主要内容是什么?
-《从零开始的女权主义》一书主要通过两位日本女性作者的对话形式,用轻松幽默的语言解释了严肃的女权主义命题。书中分为三个部分:1. 什么是女权主义?2. 为什么我们今天仍然需要女权主义?3. 平凡的女性如何在生活中实践女权主义?
女权主义的三个基本特征是什么?
-女权主义的三个基本特征包括:1. 它呼吁的是平等权利而非特权。2. 它承认女性在社会权利中的弱势地位。3. 它包含多个理论体系,意味着女权主义是多元化的,存在许多不同的理论派别。
为什么说女权主义并不是要让女性变成男性?
-女权主义并不是要让女性变成男性,因为获得特权将导致新的歧视和压迫。女权主义者追求的是一个男女都能享有平等权利的世界,她们的目标不是取代男性,创造另一种不平等,而是追求弱小者也能受到尊重的理念。
女权主义中的“内部厌女症”是如何定义的?
-女权主义中的“内部厌女症”是指女性对自己的性别感到羞耻,并开始斗争的心态。这种心态源于女性不能接受自己的弱点,也不能容忍其他女性表达她们的受害者地位。
为什么说女权主义的辩论不应该陷入恶意的相互辱骂?
-女权主义的辩论不应该陷入恶意的相互辱骂,因为辩论的目的是引起更多人对女权主义话题的关注和重视,而不是相互攻击。女权主义鼓励多元化的思想碰撞,但这种碰撞应该是建设性的,有助于推动社会对性别平等议题的认识和进步。
在现代社会中,女性为什么仍然需要女权主义?
-尽管历史上的女权主义运动已经为女性争取到了许多社会权利,但人类文化的背景仍然难以完全控制,性别不平等在社会中仍然存在。例如,男女之间仍然存在默认的劳动分工,父权制意识形态仍然是现代社会中许多男性思考的起点。因此,女性必须继续为平等权利而斗争。
如何理解社会中的A面和B面?
-社会中的A面指的是政治、经济、时间、就业等社会活动,而B面则是指生活、育儿、疾病、残疾等私人领域。在现代社会中,男性和女性最初都在A面,但随着怀孕、分娩和育儿的开始,女性不得不转移到B面,而男性则基本上停留在A面。
女性如何在生活中实践女权主义?
-女性可以通过表达对不平等待遇的不满、质疑和担忧来实践女权主义。她们应该敢于提出不舒服的问题,敢于说“不”,并在婚姻和家庭生活中争取平等的权利和责任。此外,通过文化表达,如写作和艺术创作,也是实践女权主义的一种方式。
为什么说在家庭生活中争取平等是重要的?
-在家庭生活中争取平等是重要的,因为家庭是社会的基本单位,家庭中的性别平等可以逐步改变整个社会。通过与伴侣的协商、斗争和联盟,可以为下一代提供关于平等的启示,从而逐步消除父权社会带来的歧视和偏见。
女性在家庭中如何打破A面和B面的障碍?
-女性在家庭中打破A面和B面的障碍,可以通过要求丈夫平等分担家庭责任、家务和育儿等任务。女性需要勇敢地表达自己的不满,并与丈夫进行持续的沟通和斗争,以实现家庭内的性别平等。
为什么说女性之间的矛盾被放大了?
-女性之间的矛盾被放大了,因为在父权社会体系中,女性劳动的价值无法用金钱来衡量,导致工作女性和家庭主妇之间存在价值观念的冲突。这种矛盾反映了社会对女性角色和价值的刻板印象和不平等评价。
Outlines
📚 女性主义的起源与发展历程
本段介绍了女性主义的起源和三次重要的女性运动浪潮。第一次浪潮发生在19世纪后半叶,女性争取投票权、教育权和平等就业机会。第二次浪潮在20世纪60至70年代,主要针对社会和家庭生活中的性别不平等问题。第三次浪潮在20世纪90年代初,强调女性主义的多元价值取向。尽管女性今天在社会生活中享有各种权利,但很多人对女性主义持有负面印象,这部分是因为对女性主义的误解和激进思想的缺乏理解。
👩💼 女性主义的三个基本特征
本段讨论了女性主义的三个基本特征:首先,女性主义主张平等权利而非特权;其次,女性主义承认女性在社会权利中的弱势地位;最后,女性主义包含多个理论体系,是多元化的。作者通过解释这些特征,澄清了人们对女性主义的常见误解,强调女性主义不是要女性成为男性,而是追求男女平等的社会。
🌐 当代社会中女性主义的必要性
尽管历史上女性权利的状况有了很大改善,但作者认为当代社会仍然需要女性主义。社会文化背景中仍存在性别不平等,例如社会对男女的默认分工,以及男性主导的父权思想。作者通过提出AB面社会理论,解释了现代社会中默认的性别分工,并指出女性必须继续争取平等权利。
🏠 女性在家庭生活中的女性主义实践
本段讨论了女性如何在家庭生活中实践女性主义。作者提出,即使家庭问题是私事,也与性别和社会关系有关。通过在婚姻中争取平等,女性可以逐步改变家庭内的性别角色,从而影响整个社会。作者还提到,女性应该勇于表达不满,敢于提出问题,并通过文化手段抵抗文化,例如通过自媒体表达自己的观点和生活状况。
🤝 与伴侣共同对抗父权社会的策略
本段强调了女性在婚姻中与伴侣共同对抗父权社会的重要性。作者提出,婚姻是性别和性别关系的社会问题,女性应该在婚姻中争取平等,通过改变家庭内的性别角色来影响社会变革。同时,作者提醒女性在争取权利时也要注意与丈夫的沟通和合作,因为女性主义的目标是与男性合作解决父权社会带来的歧视和偏见。
📖 女性主义从零开始的总结
最后一段总结了全书的核心观点,即女性主义的本质是追求男女平等的社会,而非女性获得特权。作者鼓励女性在个人和社会层面上继续实践女性主义,通过表达不满、提出问题和与男性合作,共同对抗父权社会的不平等。
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Keywords
💡女性主义
💡性别平等
💡父权制
💡性别角色
💡女性自我厌恶
💡多元女性主义
💡社会变革
💡婚姻中的平等
💡文化抵抗
💡性别歧视
💡个人问题政治化
Highlights
介绍了《从零开始的女权主义》一书,探讨了女权主义的真正内涵。
讨论了历史上三次重要的女权主义运动及其争取的权利。
指出了人们对女权主义的误解,尤其是认为女权主义追求的是女性特权。
强调了女权主义的核心目的是争取男女平等的社会权利。
提到了女权主义在日本的发展和社会学者上野千鶴子的贡献。
解释了女权主义的三个基本特征:争取平等权利、承认女性弱势地位、理论体系的多样性。
讨论了女性在父权社会中的自我厌恶和厌女症问题。
指出了女权主义内部不同理论派别之间的辩论和多样性。
提出了现代社会中女性仍然需要女权主义的原因。
介绍了社会AB面的理论与现代性别分工的默认划分。
讨论了现代社会中男女之间权力关系的不平等和父权意识形态。
分析了工作女性与家庭主妇之间的差距和矛盾。
强调了女性在家庭生活中争取平等权利的重要性。
提出了在婚姻中女性应该如何争取权利和改变现状的建议。
讨论了女性通过文化表达对抗文化压迫的方式。
鼓励女性在生活中勇于表达不满,挑战不公。
强调了在家庭中男女合作对抗父权社会的重要性。
提醒女性在争取权利时也要注意与男性的合作和沟通。
Transcripts
Hello everyone, welcome to the Wisdom Book Valley.
I wish you all a happy listening to the reading content of each issue.
The book I will interpret for you today
is Feminism from Scratch.
There is also a more common name
called feminism
. What do you think about feminism? If you have any opinions
, please leave a message in the comment area to discuss.
There have been three
far-reaching waves of feminist movement
in human history.
The first one appeared in the second half of the 19th century.
Women fought for
the right to vote, education and equal employment.
The second feminism The wave of movement
occurred in the 1960s and 1970s.
The rights fought for by this wave of movement were relatively specific
and mainly targeted at
inequality issues in society and family life
, such as demanding equal pay for equal work in the workplace
and opposing domestic violence at home.
The third wave occurred in the 20s. In the early 1990s,
the multiple value orientations of feminism were emphasized.
Although the specific demands were different,
the fundamental purpose of the three movements
was
to fight for equal social rights for women with men.
It can be said that women today
enjoy various rights in social life.
Social status
is largely
derived from
the efforts of generations of feminist pioneers.
However, many people
do not
have a good impression of feminism.
This
is of course because there are many theoretical factions of feminism,
and there are some comparisons among them.
On the other hand
, radical thinking is due to people's lack of understanding
and even misunderstandings
about feminism . So
what is the true connotation of feminism under various appearances?
Why do we still need feminism today?
What can ordinary people do for
us today? The book I am about to talk about
will answer these questions for you.
The authors of this book are two Japanese women,
one is
a leader of Japanese feminist theory and movement, and
the social scholar Chizuru Ueno is
a graduate of many universities such as
the University of Tokyo in Japan.
Educational institutions have been engaged in
the teaching and research
of feminist theory for more than 40 years.
She has authored many feminist works
such as Patriarchy and Capitalist Proverbs
. Hima Kosho has also interpreted these two books. In 2019, 71-year-old Chi Ueno
At the opening ceremony of the University of Tokyo, Tsuruko
delivered a speech titled "What awaits you
is a society where even hard work
will not reward you,"
which triggered a strong social response.
The other author of this book, the manga artist Yuko Tamafusa,
was inspired by this Inspired by the speech,
I conducted an interview about feminism
with Chizuru Ueno.
The content of this book is the transcript of this interview.
The book unfolds in the form of a dialogue between two people,
using relaxed and humorous language
to interpret serious feminist propositions for us. What
follows? I will divide it into three parts
to interpret the main contents of this book for you
: 1. What is feminism?
2. Why do we still need feminism today?
3. How do ordinary women
practice feminism in their lives?
First, let’s talk about what feminism is
. The first essential feature is that
he calls for equal rights
rather than privilege.
We
must first clarify
one of the biggest misunderstandings about feminism,
which is that feminism is
the idea that women should obtain privileges
like men.
Sexism is deeply rooted in human culture.
Since humans entered agricultural society,
as the mode of production changed to agricultural production,
men became the main labor force. Men
began to occupy a dominant position
in gender relations.
For thousands of years,
most social systems in the world have been patriarchal,
also called patriarchy.
Patriarchy
is a power relationship in which men dominate women. He
rationalizes the privileges by conferring privileges on men
through a systematic and structured system
and giving authority to men's roles and activities
. Therefore, many people believe that
women who want to swear women's
rights
must strive to be the same as men.
In this way,
the male group
as vested interests will feel
that their privileged status has been challenged and threatened.
Therefore, the feminist movement is resisted in many places.
Feminists are often criticized verbally and written by anti-feminists,
mainly men.
For example , the second wave
of the feminist movement that emerged from the 1960s to the 1980s
called for equality in employment between men and women.
Under the influence of this movement,
Japan
enacted the Equal Employment Opportunities Law for Men and Women in 1985,
stipulating that
women can also enter
comprehensive positions
in companies where men work. Give full play to the main business of judgment
instead of only engaging in auxiliary business.
At that time, many men in Japan
invariably adopted the attitude of
female colleagues who were in the same comprehensive positions
as them.
If you have the ability, stop being a woman and
come and grab me.
I will show off with you. The high-pressure attitude
of men and their rebellious mood
once led to
a very serious phenomenon of involution in comprehensive positions.
Employees’ work tasks have become increasingly heavy and
their working hours have become longer.
If men regard feminists as competitors,
they will demand
in all aspects Women must act like them.
For example, in South Korea, where men are required to serve in the military,
anti-feminist sentiment is more serious
because those men believe that
since women do not have to serve in the military,
they are not qualified to demand equality.
Young Master Qian Hertz pointed out that
feminism means that women must become men. The point of view
is a fundamental misunderstanding of feminism. Feminism
is
not about making women become another group of privileged people
, because gaining
privileges will lead to new discrimination and oppression.
What feminists aspire to
is not to replace men and
create another inequality. Instead
, we want to create a
world where both men and women can have equal rights.
Feminism has always called for equal rights
, not privileges.
Chizuru Ueno summed up feminism like this. Feminism
is by no means about women acting like men
or the weak trying to become The thought of the strong
Feminism
is the pursuit of the idea that the weak can also be respected. It
recognizes that women are weaker than men.
This is the second essential feature of feminism.
In a patriarchal society,
men who have a dominant position in social rights
are the strong ones.
Women in a subjugated position are weak.
Feminists
realize that the unfair distribution of social rights
and the subjugated status of women
want to change this situation
in all aspects of social life
. However, many people
among the female group
are very taboo
about their appearance. The saying that women are weak
is because they cannot admit their own weaknesses
and cannot tolerate women who are also women
expressing their victim position.
For example, many daughters will sympathize with their mothers who are dominated by their fathers,
and at the same time they cannot tolerate their mothers' submissiveness.
This is because they are both women. Women
will be miserable when they see the weaknesses of their female compatriots
and at the same time feel hatred.
Chizuru Ueno
defines this kind of female self-hatred
as misogyny
, just like
men can’t stand being called a coward.
Maybe
they will risk their lives
just because of this
. Misogyny among women
will also make them feel ashamed of being weak
and start a struggle.
This is also
the reason why many women become feminists.
Chizuru Ueno believes that feminists
are misogynistic.
Because if you are not misogynistic,
there is no need to be a feminist,
because they do not need to fight.
So-called feminists
are actually
people who are constantly fighting against internal misogyny.
In addition
, feminism has a third essential feature,
which does not have a complete unity. The theoretical system of
feminism means that
feminism is pluralistic.
There are many theoretical factions of feminism.
It is even said that there is one person and one faction
. This means that there are as many feminists as there are in the world.
Feminist
researchers have roughly divided into 11
different theoretical factions.
There may be huge differences between
some factions. Some factions have more radical views,
while others are relatively moderate.
Different factions often have tit-for-tat
debates over certain specific issues
, such as whether women should dress themselves up.
Moderates will believe that
it is necessary and necessary for women to pursue beauty. What we should reasonably
oppose is the pathological
single aesthetic centered on male beauty standards.
Their goal is to establish a diverse and personalized beauty
. For example, a person can choose to be fat or thin
, whiten or tan himself.
Radicals will I think women should not dress up at all
, especially not to dress themselves up sexy and charming,
because this is to please men,
so plastic surgery and other cosmetics are not acceptable.
It is best not to even use cosmetics
. Also
, should women go to the battlefield
or become firefighters like men?
Whether women should let men pay for themselves, whether the social etiquette
of ladies first
should exist,
etc.
These issues
have often become
the focus
of debate between different feminist factions.
Ueno Chizuru pointed out that
feminism advocates women to be themselves,
so feminism itself It should be
that a variety of
different ideas will collide with each other.
There is no distinction
between orthodoxy and heresy. In fact, many questions related to feminism
cannot be answered simply
whether women dress themselves to please men.
Should women choose career or family?
These questions themselves There is no standard answer.
What is really interesting
is the influence of controversial topics.
For example, in 2017,
a Japanese female congresswoman named Nozomi Asahikata
brought her 7-month-old child to the parliament.
As a result, she received a serious written letter from the speaker. Warning:
This incident
sparked a discussion
in Japanese society about whether it is good or bad for
women to bring their children to work
. Although there was no discussion in the end,
this incident
successfully aroused Japanese society
's attention to the living conditions of women in the workplace.
There are many such debates.
It may bring results from quantitative to qualitative changes.
For example, the government may introduce more detailed legislation
to better protect the rights and interests of women
in the workplace. Chizuru Ueno believes that
feminism does not need to be afraid of debate
, but it cannot fall into malicious mutual abuse.
The purpose of debate
should be to arouse More people
are paying attention to and attaching importance to the topic of feminism.
That’s the content of the first part.
We talked about the three essential characteristics of feminism.
First, she calls for equal rights rather than privilege.
Second, she acknowledges that women are weak.
Third, she includes Multiple Theoretical System
Next, let’s talk about the content of the second part.
Why do we still need feminism today?
Compared with other eras in history, the situation of women’s rights
in contemporary society
has changed a lot.
Three waves of feminist movements
have made women We have considerable social rights
in all aspects of politics, economy, culture
, society and family.
So do we still need feminism today?
The answer is yes
, because the background of human culture is still difficult to fully control
. For example
, there is still a tacit division of labor between men and women at the social level.
The author Nagako Tamafusa
proposed a theory of AB side of society
to explain
the default gender division of labor in modern society
. He pointed out that there are side A and side B of society,
politics, economy, time, employment,
these are the side A of society,
and side B is life,
childcare and care. Illnesses, disabilities, etc.
Men and women in modern society
are on side A at the beginning.
However, as pregnancy, childbirth and childcare begin,
women have to move to avoidance
hospitals. For example,
if you tell her that you have signs of miscarriage,
please rest at home.
At this time,
women It is very difficult to
negotiate this issue
with the company on side A. In short, at a certain stage of life,
women have to keep going back and forth between side a
and side. Men,
they may be
transferred to side A due to illness and injury.
Otherwise,
they basically stay on side a.
Even after getting married and having children,
men are usually only responsible for making money and supporting the family on side A.
If women do not make demands
or try to break down the barriers on side A,
men will hardly actively participate in side B.
It is not only an invisible social division of labor problem, but also
the patriarchal ideology
in modern society. It is still the starting point of many men’s thinking,
even if it is expressed euphemistically and concealed.
For example, when talking about gender issues,
when people explain the harm of sexual violence to men,
they often say
that you
can understand this by imagining that your girlfriend, wife or daughter is a victim.
How cruel and inhumane
, but this statement is actually problematic.
Why do we have to
imagine that our wives and daughters are victims?
Chizuru Ueno pointed out that
the source of this kind of thinking
is the deep-rooted patriarchal ideology
that regards women as accessories
to men. The idea that
sexual assault will damage that accessory
only takes into account the power relationship between men.
It is difficult to say that it truly respects women.
Similarly, when a man confesses to a woman and
asks me to protect you for the rest of my life,
it may just be because
he regards women as his own. The habitual thinking of possessions
, the correct attitude towards women is not so-called pampering
but respect and equality.
Moreover,
there are still differences and divisions among women.
For example, working women and housewives
, married people and single people
, women with children and women without children
often It’s hard to be on the same side, so
let’s talk about
the gap between working women and housewives.
Around 2010,
there was still a
tragic value in Japanese society where women relied on work to survive
. Yuko Tabo mentioned that
when he gave birth to his first child in 2012
I heard someone say that
people who want their children to go to daycare are pitiful
because those people think
it must be because your husband’s salary is too low
and you have to go out to work
. However, the situation changed quickly
in 2017
when Nagako Tamafusa gave birth to her second child.
There's no one around anymore who says that.
In just five years,
Japan has undergone tremendous changes.
There are more professional women
, especially those occupying high-level management positions.
The number of professional women has increased rapidly.
These women have the same generous annual salary
as men. They dress decently
and walk with style.
People
will gradually develop a sense of identity with them.
At the same time, housewives who once occupied the mainstream
began to become unpopular.
They even developed a sense of relative deprivation.
What does this mean?
It means the subjective dissatisfaction and lack of feeling caused by
seeing others having things that one does not have
, which is similar to a why-should-I Such
a feeling of
being at a disadvantage , and for working women,
they
adopt a respectful
and slightly discriminatory attitude
towards housewives . This creates contradictions and opposition.
In fact, housewives, like working women,
continue to create value for the family and society
. In the system of patriarchal society,
the value of housewives’ labor
cannot be evaluated in monetary terms.
Therefore, Chizuru Ueno believes that
similar contradictions between women have been magnified.
He said that we must be aware of
the real causes of embarrassment for ourselves.
It is not the other party who is
also a woman who is behind the scenes. It is
the patriarchal society. In short, the patriarchal social culture
determines that inequality between the sexes will exist for a long time.
Therefore,
women must continue to fight for equal rights.
Feminism
is related to the vital interests of every woman
. Only by uniting all women can we succeed.
Even if you are not a feminist, you
can still practice feminism in your life.
Part 3
Let’s talk about
how ordinary women practice feminism in their lives. First of all
, women who are disadvantaged groups
in social life
You can speak out
,
voice your dissatisfaction, question, anger and worry about
things that make you feel uncomfortable. This incident that makes you feel uncomfortable
may not be an individual incident
, but it may be caused by the disparity in rights between the sexes. It
arose in the 1960s and 1970s. During
the second wave
of the women's movement in the 1990s , there was a slogan at that time: "Personal is political
" , which means that personal issues are political issues.
This is what it means. For example,
in the view of feminists,
domestic violence when
a wife is beaten by her husband
is not a specific family emotional issue
, not an individual man's.
The problem of upbringing is not a problem of women's own shortcomings
, but a manifestation of social rights.
If women are men's appendages,
men can naturally dispose of their appendages as they please.
For example,
sexual harassment in the workplace
is also defined by feminists as
a society in which men control women. Expressing your
dissatisfaction loudly and expressively
is a powerful counterattack.
Dare to ask uncomfortable questions
, such as
why men occupy important positions
, or when you receive malicious gazes from men
and hear sexism. When making jokes,
dare to say please be respectful
or I don't think this
is funny.
When you feel offended
or disrespected,
you need to say no decisively
instead of forcing yourself to be polite in any situation
.
As Chizuru Ueno pointed out,
when we express all the confusion
and endurance,
you will find that
nothing is taken for granted
in this world. Today, with the boom of self-media,
more women can write letters and speak publicly.
To express one's own living conditions and thoughts.
Chizuru Ueno calls it using culture to resist culture.
For example, Yuko Tayoshi
is good at expressing his feminist ideas
through satirical cartoons .
His original intention of drawing feminist cartoons
is that he thinks that
there are certain things Even if you say it, it's hard to change,
but if you don't say it,
it won't change.
It's like if no one throws a stone,
there will be no waves in the calm water,
so even if you have little power,
you have to throw a stone as much as possible
in the hope of becoming bigger. Secondly,
if
women enter marriage and family life,
they will have more leverage to fight.
Although
marital issues are private issues,
they are also social issues related to gender and gender relations.
If the family is used as a unit,
the patriarchal positions can be defeated one by
one. It will bring about changes
in the entire society. Chizuru Ueno proposed that women
should kill each other
in marriage, which
originated from
an assassination and terrorist activity launched by the Japanese right-wing forces
. The idea of killing one person in marriage means that
even if it is impossible, Change society immediately
, but if you think the other person is worthy
, spend your whole life at least changing this person.
This person is your husband.
How to change it specifically
is to constantly fight with your husband
to ask him to equally share the responsibilities of taking care of the family
, doing housework, raising children, etc.
We As mentioned earlier,
there are potential side A and
side B in society. Chizuru Nono proposed that
women, especially after giving birth
, must try to break the barriers between side A and side B
because once a wife is pregnant
, she must continue to travel between side A and side B
, and many husbands I only occasionally glance at side B
, but I can actually stay in side A
until the child is born.
Most wives will have to stay in side B
for a long time
, especially if
there are no elderly people at home to help.
If the husband doesn't go back and forth between side B and side A
to help his wife share
things, things will get very bad.
But the husband doesn't understand this.
Occasionally he comes to the instant
noodles to change diapers and make milk powder,
and he feels that he has helped a lot.
They are not motivated by this. Malice
is just a natural move
under the influence of deep-rooted male chauvinism.
If the wife can vent her dissatisfaction
and the husband does not escape
or
respond to his wife's emotional violence with greater violence,
it means that The husband has accepted his wife’s appeal.
Chizuru Ueno used the story of her friend as an example.
Her friend was a freelancer
and she had a free relationship with her husband.
After getting married, they soon conceived the fruit of love.
Her friend’s husband initially believed that the male should be the dominant wife and the female should be
the wife . In the eyes of the traditional Christian mind,
there is no housework
and no awareness of taking the initiative to take care of the children. He is
the kind of person who doesn’t know how to help
the oil bottle at home
because in his opinion,
it seems that it should be the wife’s business.
Finally one day
The friend couldn't bear it anymore.
The moment her husband was about to leave for work,
she hugged her husband's legs
and asked her
why she had never considered her feelings.
What did she want to do with her and the children
? Naturally, her husband was shocked.
But she didn't say anything about waiting until I get off work to talk about it.
Instead, she seriously thought about
why my wife was so angry.
Then
she took a day
off
to explain
everything to her husband.
He quickly changed to a job with relatively free time
to help his wife share the burden of taking care of the family and raising children.
Their family has since regained peace.
Later, when a friend
mentioned this incident with a smile, Chizuru Ueno said that
although his income had decreased,
Our relationship is much better,
but
there are too few wives like this in Japan.
Most Japanese women are in a state of avoiding quarrels
and not interfering with each other
in the relationship.
On Twitter,
you can see that many housewives’ chat
topics are: Say bad things
about your husband. For example, your husband said something outrageous last time,
and your husband doesn’t do anything at home. If
you search for this information, you can find tens of thousands
of
messages. Most of these messages
are made by women who just
vent their dissatisfaction
through these insinuating ways
but are unwilling to really challenge their husbands.
They all express the meaning of telling
my husband that it’s useless, forget it, I don’t count on him anymore.
Around 2010,
there was a sentence
in a Japanese parenting magazine that was popular at the time.
If your husband does nothing at home
, treat him
like a dog. Social culture
intentionally or unintentionally guides women
to avoid the struggle in marriage.
Chizuru Ueno is very opposed to such a marriage relationship.
He believes that marriage is a major choice that allows the other person to enter his life
and
also allows himself to enter the other person's life.
In the relationship between entering each other's life,
A person's life attitude and values
will be tested
, so that is also the best time for a person to understand himself.
Therefore, both husband and wife
should seriously complete
the step of penetrating into each other's field and breaking their own boundaries .
If they remain non-active and non-negotiated in the marriage
, even
It is very difficult to establish a truly good intimate relationship if you deliberately
avoid the interpersonal relationship that goes deep into the realm of others.
And
this kind of non-escape relationship must be established by women
, because men will not take the initiative to change.
They are vested interests.
This is also the focus of the feminist struggle.
In order for husbands to let go of their male rights,
they need to constantly break
the male rights they enjoy in the family.
Many small things can be investigated to the end.
For example, who goes to kindergarten
to pick up the children? You have to ask why I have to go
. Why can't you take a leave
or even cook a meal?
You can also ask why it was me who did it.
Yuko Tiankata believes that
life is the accumulation of trivial
matters. When couples encounter problems, they become more and more entangled with
each other. They have to think clearly and solve
every problem
, forcing the husband to compromise on specific problems.
Participating in housework and childcare
is like defeating the patriarchal society between husband and wife. Only when
one person kills one person
as a family unit and
defeats
the whole society one by one will the face of society change
. However, Yuko Tabō also reminded that
if the wife is too strong towards the husband
,
the wife will react in kind. Come and listen to what your husband has to say
, otherwise the relationship will deteriorate
because feminism is not simply about fighting men.
Feminism is more about finding ways to work with men to solve
the discrimination and prejudice brought about by
the patriarchal society
, and for our next generation.
Whether it is a boy or a girl,
the negotiation, struggle and alliance between parents
are their enlightenment about equality.
Your and my little efforts from scratch
may save them from having to start from scratch.
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