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Summary

该视频探讨了父权制度如何运作、它对女性和男性的压迫,以及如何拆解父权制度。作者追溯了父权制度的历史渊源,分析了它如何通过男性之间的竞争、对女性的物化等方式维系运转。最后,作者号召大家通过提高意识、主动介入等方式,在日常生活中挑战父权制度,展示一种不同的生存可能性,从而拆解父权制度的束缚。

Takeaways

• 😇 父权制是指男性主导、男性身份和男性中心的社会权力运作。
• 🔍 父权制的根源可追溯至人类最早的农牧社会,当人类开始饲养家畜时,生殖便获得了经济价值,妇女的身体也被视为生育机器。
• ⚔️ 父权制的深层驱动力源自男性之间的竞争关系和对失去优势地位的恐惧,男性必须不断证明自己的统治力以获得男性同侪的认同。
• 🤿 父权制不仅压迫妇女,也使男性付出了沉重代价,如难以表露软弱、无法建立真挚友谊等。
• 🌳 批评父权制并不等于憎恨男性个人,父权制是一个系统性的社会问题,需要集体的努力来解决。
• ✊ 即使一个男性对女性很体贴,他也会在父权制社会中获得一定的男性特权,这种特权并非出于个人意愿。
• 🧚‍♀️ 父权制让女性成为男性获取财富、权力和地位的工具,导致女性被性exploitated。
• 👸 父权制制造了许多对女性的贬低词语,旨在让男性获得优越感。
• 🙅‍♂️ 一些人认为男性在当代社会也受到了压迫,但事实上,男性的痛苦源于父权制对"真正的男人"的期望。
• 🌈 摆脱父权制的途径是通过提高意识、相互理解和在日常生活中主动改变与父权制的互动方式。

Q & A

什么是父权制?

父权制指的是一种主要由男性主导、男性身份和男性为中心的社会权力运作方式。它体现在男性垄断重要职位、将男性特质定义为常态标准以及将一切从男性角度出发等方面。

父权制对女性和男性都产生了怎样的压迫?

父权制压迫女性的方式在于,将女性视为男性的性资产、期望女性顺从和服从等。对男性而言,它则要求男性必须符合某些理想男性形象,如主宰、自制、竞争力等,而这往往与人性是矛盾的。

父权制是如何开始的?

考古学家发现,父权制社会最早出现于靠饲养家畜为生的社会中。将动物视为资产的逻辑也被应用到了女性身上,女性被视为生育劳动力的机器。此前的母神崇拜文明则是一种平等的伙伴关系。

父权制的根源动力是什么?

父权制的根源动力实际上来自于男性之间的竞争关系和对失去统治地位的恐惧。男性之间相互比较和觊觎对方的权力资源,导致了夺权和压制行为的出现。

父权制如何利用女性来维系男性间的联盟?

父权制可以利用取笑女性的笑话来加强男性之间的友谊;利用异性恋霸权假设所有人都应该是异性恋;通过女性财务依赖来捍卫男性家长身份等,从而把女性变成男性之间相互竞争的资源。

为什么许多底层男性也没有获得父权制带来的好处?

虽然大多数男性并未获得父权制带来的优势,但这并不意味着父权制不存在。他们之所以痛苦,恰恰是因为没有达到父权制对“真正男人”的期望。父权制才是他们痛苦的根源,而非女性。

即使我们承认父权制存在,为何仍有人认为如今只关注女权了?

这种想法忽视了男性承受压力的根源实际上也是父权制。如果消除父权制,男性就不会被要求占有女性、赚钱养家等,双方都可以获得独立。所以反对父权制也有利于解放男性。

如何区分对男性的伤害和对女性的伤害?

对男性的伤害通常是个例,而对女性的伤害却是大多数情况。把个例等同于普遍现象,实际上是一种男性中心思维,忽视了女性的集体遭遇。我们应反对任何形式的性别压迫。

为什么有人认为如果要男女平等,女性也应该服兵役?

这种想法将矛头对准了错误的对象。军人役并非女性压迫男性,而是统治阶级对底层男性的压迫。真正的性别平等是无论男女都不应被国家强制服役。

我们如何开始解体父权制?

我们可以仿效20世纪的女权运动,通过小组意识觉醒、主动学习父权制运作方式、在生活中挑战父权制等行动来逐步解体父权制,展现一种不需要竞争或贬低他人的生活可能性。

Outlines

00:00

🔍 什么是父权制?

本段定义了父权制的概念。父权制意味着男性主导、男性身份和男性中心主义。父权制允许少数女性掌权,但基本上重要位置都被男性垄断。工作场合中,女性普遍感受到性别歧视和缺乏影响力。不仅如此,父权制还贯穿了各个层面,将男性角色作为标准化指标,将世界诠释为以男性为中心。父权制要求女性服从和迎合男性审美标准,直到20世纪女权运动的觉醒。

05:01

🔎 为什么会存在父权制?

本段探讨了父权制存在的根源。最初,人类社会是崇尚母神并追求两性平等。但当人类从畜牧业中发现母体生育价值时,开始出现父权制。此外,男性之间的竞争关系和来自其他男性的威胁感,是导致男性追求统治权和控制权的驱动力。例如越战的起因,就源于美国总统肯尼迪为了证明自己的男子气概。男性之间相互攻击和贬低,是寻求对比中的优越感的表现。

10:01

⚠️ 父权制给男性带来的代价

本段指出,父权制除了压迫女性外,也给男性带来了巨大代价。为了证明自己的男子气概,男性不得不隐藏自己的脆弱一面,不能表达友谊,性生活也成为展示男性雄风的炫耀舞台。父权制强化男女对立,导致男性否定女性影响力,并极端化性别期望。父权制常利用女性在男性之间建立联盟,将女性物化为性资产。男性为了证明自己的优越性,也会贬低女性词语的含义。

15:04

❓ 一些常见疑问

本段解答了一些常见疑问。首先,对父权制的批评并非对个人男性的指责,而是对整个社会体制的审视。其次,虽然个人可能没有感受到自身特权,但由于天生的性别身份,男性在父权制社会中无可避免地享有一些特权。第三,男性也遭受一定程度的父权制伤害,如被当作家庭经济支柱的压力,因此更应反对父权制。最后,男性和女性遭受歧视的程度和危害性不同,前者不足以等同于后者,男性伤害的例证不应淡化女性普遍遭受的严重压迫。

20:04

💡 如何解构父权制?

本段提出了几种解构父权制的方式。首先,我们可以像女权运动一样,通过小组意识提升的方式,意识到个人痛苦源于整体社会制度的问题。其次,要主动学习和理解父权制的运作方式。第三,在日常生活中,留心并质疑各种父权制现象,如性别歧视言论、对话中的性别不平等等。积极倾听身边女性朋友的遭遇,关注性少数群体在校园的处境。最后,男性应反思自己的行为模式,减少竞争对抗心理,培养关爱友谊。展示另一种可能性,就是在解构父权制。

Keywords

💡父权制

父权制是指一种主要由男性主导、男性认同和男性中心的权力运作方式。这种制度确保重要的社会地位和权力被男性垄断,将女性视为男性的附属品。视频中解释了父权制如何渗透到工作、家庭、艺术文化等各个层面,规范了"真正的男人"和"真正的女人"的概念。

💡性别歧视

性别歧视是父权制下对女性的不公正对待,剥夺了女性在职场、家庭、社会中的权利和地位。视频提到近60%的女性认为工作场所存在严重性别歧视,近70%的女性觉得在工作中缺乏影响力。父权制造成了女性在职场晋升、获得权力的困难。

💡性别认同

指个人对自身性别的内在感受和认知,是个人性别特征的内在体验。父权制强加了男性应该具有的"男子气概"特质,如竞争力、专业性、自制力等,女性则被期待温顺、服从。这种僵化的性别观造成了许多人对自身性别认同的困扰。

💡男性中心

男性中心是父权制的一个核心特征,指一切都从男性的角度出发。古今中外的艺术文化作品都由男性来定义女性美的标准,女性打扮自己也是为了取悦男性。这种将男性置于中心的观念剥夺了女性的主体性。

💡父权加害者

不仅女性是父权制的受害者,视频认为男性也是父权制的受害者。男性不得不压抑自己脆弱的一面,不敢表现出对同性的友谊,生怕威胁到自己的"男子气概"。父权制要求男性必须不断证明自己的力量和控制力,这给许多男性带来了极大压力。

💡男性压迫男性

父权制下最深层的动力源自男性与男性之间的竞争和对失败的恐惧。男性之所以渴望控制感,是因为担心被其他男性比下去。影视作品中男性人物拒绝他人帮助,就是不愿示弱失去"男人味"。因此,父权制实际上是男性之间相互压迫的制度。

💡女性化贬词

父权制也营造出贬低女性的文化氛围,许多如今带有贬低色彩的词语,如"娼妇"、"婊子"、"巫婆"等,原本指代有力量的女性群体。但后来当男性主导科学知识时,这些词语被赋予了负面内涵,贬低女性以彰显男性的优越感。

💡异性恋霸权

父权制假定每个人都应该是异性恋,将同性恋或无性恋视为不完整或有缺陷的生活方式,这种将异性恋规范化的做法被称为"异性恋霸权"。这否定了人的多元性别取向,将父权制的单一模式强加于所有人。

💡女性依赖男性

父权制有意识地营造出男性作为家庭经济支柱的形象,令女性在经济上不得不依赖男性。当女性事业有成时,往往要为不伤害男性的自尊心而主动放弃职业。这反映了父权制如何以维系男性尊严为代价,牺牲女性的生活与精神健康。

💡性别运动

要推翻父权制,就需要像20世纪的女权运动一样,通过提高意识的小组活动,让大家体会到这不仅是个人遭遇,而是一个集体社会问题。只有了解了父权制如何压迫男女,人们才能在生活中主动回应各种父权制的做法。积极倾听不同性别朋友的遭遇,改变会加深性别对立的交往方式,展现出另一种可能。

Highlights

父权制是男性主导、男性认同和男性中心。

父权制并不意味着只要你是男性就一定会占据主导地位,享有父权制的好处。大多数男性实际上都是工人阶级,像三虎生活中的男主角一样,都在为了生存而受苦。

父权制社会源自人类最早从事畜牧业的社会,将女性视为生育劳动力的开端。

父权制的根本驱动力来自于男性之间的竞争关系,以及男性对失去男子气概的恐惧。

父权制不仅让男性相互竞争,也让他们形成私下的男性联盟,男性渴望获得其他男性对其男子气概的认同。

男性对自身缺乏控制会将妻子女友视为男性身份补偿品。

父权制也通过贬低女性来让男性获得优越感。

批评父权制并不等于认为所有男性都是邪恶的,而是要思考这种体制的社会根源。

即便男性没有意识到自己享有特权,也并不代表他们真的没有特权。

一些人认为现在反而是女性占据优势,但这些所谓的"优势"其实源自于男性在父权制社会中占据主导地位。

将男性遭受的伤害等同于女性的处境,实际上反映出只关注男性利益的父权制思维。

贬低男性的笑话并不真正动摇了男性在整个社会的主导地位。

要求女性也服兵役,忽视了这是统治阶级对男性实施的暴力。真正的性别平等是不分性别都不应被迫服兵役。

可以通过意识提高小组来了解父权制如何压迫女性和男性,主动关注身边人的性别歧视体验。

主动改变与父权制互动的方式,展现不依赖于男性竞争和性别歧视的生活可能性,就是在解构父权制。

Transcripts

Last month, "Sando Monkey's Life" became a hit

Many people began to discuss the plight of lower-class men in Taiwan

In the political arena, various sexism and misogyny controversies continue

After the #MeToo movement

Various red pill and PUA discussions have emerged again

These topics will ultimately return to a fundamental question

patriarchy

But what exactly is fatherhood?

How does patriarchy work?

The book I’m going to face today is “The Gender Knot”

The author is American sociologist Allan Johnson

It’s time to explain clearly the ins and outs of fatherhood.

Let’s understand together what paternity is

How does patriarchy oppress women and men?

How to dismantle patriarchy?

First, let’s define what paternity is

We say a society is patriarchal

The operation of representative power is "primarily" male dominance, male identity, and male center

"Mainly" means exceptions are allowed

Because as long as the underlying power structure is not challenged

Patriarchy can actually accept a few women in power

For example, Mrs Thatcher in the UK is the most typical example

Looks like women are in charge

But the policies pursued by Thatcher were still patriarchal.

Fatherhood is male dominance

As the name suggests, men monopolize power

For example, all important positions in society are held by men.

Ensure men have the upper hand

The Labor Bank also conducted a survey

Nearly 60% of women believe that

Gender discrimination in the workplace is very serious

Nearly 70% of women

Feel like I have no influence at work

Some people will argue that there are many women in power.

But if women take power in a male-dominated system

You will be forced to participate in men's play

So the more powerful a woman is, the less like a woman she is.

But the more powerful a man is, the more he becomes like a man

For example, Tsai Ing-wen is the first female president of Taiwan

Will they be attacked and asked why they are not married?

Why no family?

Next, fatherhood is male identity.

Using men as the default to define normal standards

For example, at work, the boss sets high working hours

In fact, it is already preset

When men go home, they don’t have to do housework and take care of the children.

It is assumed that there is a woman in the family who will take care of these chores

Or the competitiveness, professionalism, and self-control praised by corporate culture

These are the masculine traits promoted by patriarchy

If girls agree with these values, they will be regarded as strong women and too strong.

On the contrary, it will not please men

Finally, fatherhood is male-centered

Just look at everything from a man’s perspective

For example, artistic and cultural works from the past thousands of years

There are always men who define what a good-looking woman is.

When a woman dresses herself up

I have to think about whether men think I’m good-looking

If you can’t live up to the beauty set by patriarchy

You will feel not feminine enough

You look like... you look like...

a liner a doily.

Until the feminist movement in the 20th century

Women are slowly awakening

Life is no longer about pleasing men

Instead, focus on your own life

Hey Barbie hey Barbie.

Can I come to your house tonight? Can i come to your house tonight?

Okay sure.

I don’t have anything big planned tonight I don’t have anything big planned

just a giant blowout party with all the Barbies, just a giant blowout party with all the Barbies,

There is also a line dance, and a title song and planned choreography, and a bespoke song.

You can come and take a look You should stop by.

酷噎 so cool.

So the summary definition:

Patriarchy means male dominance, male identity, and male center

hear this definition

Many men will protest

I don't feel like I'm the center

Many girls live better lives than me, a loser.

Many men do not feel they have a sense of dominance and do not receive the benefits of fatherhood.

Just use personal experience to deny the existence of patriarchy

This is the wrong direction

Fatherhood does not mean that as long as you are a man

you will dominate

You are the center of attention

In today's society, most men are actually working class

Just like the male protagonist of Sandow Monkey, they all suffer in order to make a living.

But boys don’t suffer because they are men

Rather, he suffers from being a "real man" who participates in patriarchy but fails to meet the expectations of patriarchy.

Women are different. They are oppressed by patriarchy just because they are women.

So we have to clarify this first:

Just because men feel pain and do not feel advantages does not mean that patriarchy does not exist

If we admit the existence of paternity, we then have to ask

Why is human society patriarchal?

There is a very common view that says

Patriarchal society stems from the fact that men and women are inherently different

Since ancient times, women have taken care of children

Man hunting outside

Tribal wars were frequent in ancient times

Boys must use violence to protect their families and country

So it evolved over a long period of time

Women become gentle and considerate

Men evolved into hunters, competitors, and family protector warriors.

So in modern society, it is natural for women to do housework

Men make money to support their families

Gender differences are a product of nature

Not some patriarchal oppression

This view that emphasizes the nature of men and women is called essentialism

In fact, it was eliminated by the anthropological community after the 1980s.

Because archaeologists have found evidence to the contrary

About 7000 BC

Beliefs in the Mother Goddess are found all over the world

The most famous one is Çatalhöyük in Türkiye

This belief in the Mother Goddess emphasizes the mysterious connection between mother and nature.

It’s something that men don’t have

Like a woman’s body having menstruation

It seems to match the waxing and waning of the moon

woman after pregnancy

The new life will be connected to the mother by the umbilical cord

These are things that men’s bodies don’t have and can’t understand.

The society at that time worshiped this feminine power

But archaeologists discovered

They are not a matriarchal society, but an egalitarian society

Just mother-centered

to imagine how to develop equal interpersonal relationships

For example, although the woman's grave is located in the center

But there are as many burial objects as men

Historian Riane Eisler even found

On the island of Crete during the mother goddess belief stage

No military defense buildings found

It means that there may not be war relations between the tribes at this time.

Rather, we advocate an equal partnership

But if human society started with a belief in the Mother Goddess

Why did it later transform into a patriarchal society?

archaeologists discovered

The earliest patriarchal society in human history, it was also the first society to raise livestock for a living.

Represents the "origin of fatherhood" related to "domesticated animals"

Because when animals become livestock

Reproduction begins to have economic value

The more children you have, the more valuable you are

This logic of looking at animals can also be applied to women

Women give birth to more children

The more labor the family has to devote to farming

So the father who controls the land no longer believes in the Mother Goddess

Because a woman’s body no longer has mysterious natural forces

Instead, it is treated as a reproductive machine

This explains why

The Mother Goddess Civilization of Crete

After the invasion of nomads from the north, it became a patriarchal society.

Because nomads introduced the dominance relationship of domesticated animals

Further changes in local gender relations

This is why

In agricultural societies that rely on labor and livestock, gender oppression also reaches its peak.

Now we find the historical roots of fatherhood

But this does not answer

Why is today’s society still patriarchal?

We must find the root of the motivation that allows each generation to continue to reproduce patriarchy

Let us start from a simple phenomenon

In a patriarchal society, men are portrayed as dominant

A real man must be aggressive and dominate the scene

Not only do you have to dominate others, you also have to dominate yourself and have self-control

Women are expected to be obedient, followers, and listeners

So in a love relationship

My girlfriend will be called Ma Zi

As if a man were a horse trainer

If any man is controlled by his girlfriend

My friends will laugh at me and call me a pony.

But why do men crave a sense of control?

It means he knows there are some things he can't control

What is something that a man cannot control?

not a woman

But other men

The reason why men want to enhance their status and sense of control

Actually, it’s because I’m afraid of being compared with other men.

Patriarchy is ostensibly the relationship between men and women

But the deeper driving force of paternity

In fact, it comes from the relationship between men

The sense of competition between men and the fear of losing to other men

Men must strengthen their dominance

In ancient tribal societies

Men are afraid that men from other tribes will invade their society

Steal your women and children

Do not be coy or stupid Persian you can afford neither in Sparta. Do not be coy or stupid Persian you can afford neither in Sparta.

Why is this woman qualified to speak when men are talking about things? What makes this woman think she can speak among men?

This sense of fear drives men to establish their authority in society

A woman who can control herself

This sense of male competition also appears in contemporary war relationships

President Kennedy once told the New York Times

One of the reasons why the United States launched the Vietnam War

Because when he met with Khrushchev in 1961

Khrushchev advanced arguments that have consistently challenged U.S. dominance

Make him feel like it's a loss to a man's face

America must toughen up

Show a real man

That's why we started the Vietnam War

The same thing happened in the life of Sandao Monkey

We see the protagonist constantly showing off his new car, his girlfriend, and making his boy friends jealous

Behind it is actually the insecurity driven by patriarchy.

Men need to constantly prove to others that they are strong

So the patriarchal system creates a hierarchy

If men don't climb up and gain power

There will be other men above him

He will feel threatened

As a result, men are unwilling to show weakness and want to seize power and control their status.

This becomes the fundamental driving force of the patriarchal system

But men think they have the power

Little does he know that in the process of participating in patriarchy, he paid a huge price:

they do not know

In fact, you can develop a different relationship with a man

Don’t dare to show your vulnerable side to other men

Dare not express friendship towards same-sex people

Worried that this would threaten his masculine dignity and sense of power

In "The Incredibles"

This highlights the serious consequences of this male competitiveness.

I just want to help you, I just want to help

What did you say to me in the end

Fly home Buddy, I will act alone

You broke my heart

But I learned a valuable lesson

Can’t rely on anyone

Especially you heroes

I shouldn’t have done this to you

I apologize

Look now you respect me

Because I am a threat

Mr. Incredible keeps refusing help from others

Until the little boy becomes a man capable of killing him

Only then does he recognize the other party

This sense of competition even appears in private sexual situations

Men don’t enjoy the moment

Rather, they care about size, durability, and whether performance is better than other men.

Sex becomes an occasion for men to compete with other men for their masculinity

Even if a girl wants a boy, she doesn’t have to worry about her performance in bed

Boys will still care about it

Because it’s not women who really stare at men’s sexual prowess

But the patriarchal system

But the subtleties of fatherhood

It’s not just about letting men compete with men

Also let them form a private alliance

Men crave affirmation of their masculinity from other men

If only the woman affirms you

But other men criticize you

You will think that you are not man enough

This is why many sex education programs continue to promote

Boys can also be very feminine

You can also play girls’ games

Such advocacy often does not reduce gender-based bullying in schools

Because in the process of growing up as a man

"What you should do to be like a man" is determined by patriarchal culture

rather than being decided by teacher education

Make sure you are a real man

It must be affirmed by the male group

So in Mulan

Hua Mulan was laughed at in the military camp at first

But when she learns to do what other men are doing

She starts to gain respect from other men

Boys doubt that they are not manly enough

usually from other men's stares

rather than a woman

This is why boys use sports, fraternities, and career achievements to prove themselves

These are all shown to the male group

So the patriarchal structure actually involves the relationship between men

The role of girls is more like an intermediary tool between men

For example

What does it take for a man to be seen as a winner by other men?

very simple

Fighting for and acquiring a woman is the mark of a successful man

Patriarchal society reduces women to men’s sexual assets

Causes men to only see women’s appearance

Can’t see women’s other abilities

But you're very beautiful. But you're very beautiful.

Oh screw beautiful. I'm brilliant.

If you want to appease me, compliment my brain. If you want to appease me, compliment my brain.

I like her intelligence

Have your own opinions

If a woman is not interested in a man, she is violating the rules of patriarchy.

People will say that this woman cannot achieve true happiness

It seems that you must have a partner of the opposite sex to be happy

Or further pathologize homosexuality and asexuality

Have they suffered any trauma?

Do you need to see psychological counseling?

It seems that if you are not heterosexual, your life is incomplete and flawed.

This is actually a kind of heterosexual hegemony

Presuming everyone should be heterosexual is part of how patriarchy works

then

Patriarchy can also use women to achieve male alliances

For example, if you make a joke about women, you can expect other men to laugh too.

to strengthen men’s friendships with other men

Why do women have breasts? Why do women have boobs?

So you got something to look at while you're talking to them.

This is why homophobia happens more often to straight men

Because when straight men make jokes about women to achieve male solidarity

Homosexuals don’t laugh along and don’t participate in patriarchal interactions

This challenges the social way that straight men are accustomed to

Patriarchy can also use women to maintain the illusion of gender identity

Like making men think they are independent

Sociologist Arlie Hochschild pointed out

Patriarchy deliberately creates the image that it is a man’s responsibility to support the family.

It actually makes women financially dependent on men.

Make women obedient

I am the head of the family, I decide what I do. I am the commander of this house. I decide what I do.

Quiet Woman Be quiet.

Go and cook cook.

When the woman makes more money

Boys will feel threatened

So when a dual-income family has children and housework to deal with,

In order not to hurt a man’s self-esteem

Usually it is the woman who gives up her career

The results of the study found

Married men are healthier than single men

Average age can lead to longer life

But the opposite is true for women

Married women are less healthy and live shorter lives than single women

Women’s lives and mental health are sacrificed

In exchange for the gender dignity of men

Patriarchy can also use women as psychological compensation for men

Because most men are actually dominated by other men at work

Lack of control at work makes them feel like less of a man

At this time, men can choose to challenge their superiors or go on strike, but the risk is too great

The risk is less and the way to regain male dignity

Just go home and be the head of the family

Find a woman to vent to

This can make a man feel

Although I am not as good as my male boss, at least I am still better than women.

It's like lower class white people

Although it is the lowest in the white world

But I can still comfort myself by saying: I am still better than people of color.

So racial discrimination helps alleviate class conflicts

The same patriarchy can use sexism to conceal class conflicts

No matter how humiliated men at the bottom of society are

Patriarchal societies allow men to vent their negative emotions on women as compensation

There is always a woman to take care of his needs when he returns home

It is precisely because patriarchy requires women to play this role

As a result, many women who have been victims of domestic violence are afraid to speak out.

Afraid of being accused of not loving family and not fulfilling responsibilities

Stop trying to justify this whole thing and admit you're in danger.

Who ​​do you think you are talking to? Who ​​are you talking to right now?

Do you know how much I earn in a year? Do you know how much I make a year?

You wouldn't believe it even if I told you I mean even if i told you you wouldn't believe it.

Do you know what would happen if I suddenly stopped working? Do you know what would happen if i suddenly decided to stop going into work.

You clearly don't know who you're talking to so let me clue you in.

I am not in danger, Skyler. I am the danger .

I am the one who knocks.

Finally, patriarchy can also develop a culture of misogyny and give men a sense of superiority

For example, the derogatory curse words we hear about women today

Many of them were actually words of praise

For example, whore, a slut, originally refers to a lover

Bitch was originally the hunting dog of Artemis, the goddess of hunting.

The witch was originally a midwife with knowledge of herbal medicine.

Until later, when men dominated scientific knowledge

Witch has become a term used to attack women

These words originally carry the power of women

But later it turned into a negative connotation

Allowing men to feel good about themselves by derogating women

You sissies can’t defeat me

Oh yes

Our vase can handle you

I don’t want to deal with anyone

Come on, don’t be like a woman

After introducing how paternity works, we want to respond to several common doubts

Whenever feminists criticize patriarchy

Many men will retort that

You all think of boys as evil and want to beat them down!

These people are haters of men and stir up gender antagonism! Create division!

This kind of thinking confuses "system" and "individual"

Thinking about fatherhood in individualistic terms

So when I point out that women are oppressed

You just thought you were saying that men are all bad

This eliminates the need to think about the deeper social roots

If you explain things from an individualistic perspective

cannot understand the whole society

For example, if a war occurs

You just think it’s because soldiers are very violent and want to snatch resources

But in fact those who go to war

Many people cannot find jobs in society and join the military service as a last resort.

The arms dealers and political groups who really profit massively from the war are the instigators behind it.

Or do you view company layoffs from an individualistic perspective?

You will think it must be because capitalists are evil

But in fact it is the rules of the capitalist game that force capitalists to do this

Otherwise, he will lose to other competitors and be eliminated from the market.

So what you want to change is not individual capitalists

but the structure of capitalism

same

If you look at fatherhood from an individualistic perspective

You will feel that criticizing patriarchy is just calling men bad.

But “patriarchy” refers to the way the system works

So those who think feminism is man-hating may want to reflect on this.

Do you have a deep identification with the patriarchal system?

So when patriarchy is criticized, you feel like you're being attacked

The second common response is: Fatherhood has nothing to do with me

I'm different from those "scumbags" and "evil men"

I have not subjected women to domestic violence or sexual harassment

I am a man who is very considerate to girls

But we must recognize one thing

No matter how nice you are to girls

It won't change the fact that you occupy a male position

So as long as you live in a patriarchal society, you will get male privileges and patriarchal dividends to some extent.

Many boys may not feel that they have any privileges

But just because you don't realize your privilege doesn't mean you don't have it

The way privilege works is that you are entitled to take things for granted

For example, a boy goes out in the middle of the night

Don’t worry about being harassed by other boys

But girls do not enjoy this freedom from fear

Will avoid going out in the middle of the night

This sense of security is a male privilege

Or when boys are talking

Can express one's thoughts completely without being interrupted

This is also a male privilege

Sociologists conducted experiments and found

It is more common for men to interrupt women than for women to interrupt men.

And when a man interrupts a man's speech, it's usually to give encouragement and support.

But when a man interrupts a woman, he usually gives a rebuttal

You think that only because you don't know any better.

This is something that men don’t even realize, but it happens every day.

There are also boys who can be steadily promoted in all walks of life, which is also a privilege.

Because most industries are dominated by men

It is difficult for women to get promoted and they have to face a lot of sexual harassment in the workplace

In the end, it makes it easier for women to leave their jobs and change careers.

Finally there is a privilege

It’s because men don’t need to understand gender issues

But women need to read feminism

Only then can we understand where our oppression comes from.

Hundreds of years of organizational movement must also be launched

Only then can we get the same equal rights as men

In the end, there is still a group of voices that will say:

Okay, we admit that paternity exists

But now everyone only emphasizes that women are oppressed

It’s basically the rise of women’s rights

Boys have become weak

Men start to be scared to move a certain way because you don't want to get judged or You get scared to move a certain way because you don't want to get judged or

or not recognized by your community out of the accepted part of your community.

I think that kinda has us in an uproar And i think that that kinda has us in an uproar

and we don't know where to be like where's this safe place to be for men.

Boys have to pay when they go out on a date

Boys will be treated as tools by girls

Boys need to make money to support their families, own cars and houses to be valued

These are men's dilemmas

Girls have an advantage

If we only look at the results, this is indeed the case.

But we must ask

Why do these demands on men appear?

That's because in a patriarchal society

Women are treated as men’s sexual assets

In order for women to survive in a patriarchal society

They have no choice but to use sex in exchange for wealth, power, and status

The man’s economic conditions will be magnified and displayed

It’s because in a patriarchal society

It is easier for men to obtain high positions and high salaries

I finally got here, can I meet the woman in power, your CEO? Since I came all this way, can I meet the woman in charge, your CEO?

Oh, that would be me .

Oh, You're CFO. Oh, You're CFO.

Me Me.

You're COO. You're COO.

Here . President of the Barbie division.

I am a man without power, so am I considered a woman? I'm the man without power, does that make me a woman.

Girls have princess disease, not because girls are born with it

It's because this society is dominated by "kings" and "princes"

So get to the bottom of it

The source of men’s suffering is actually not women

But patriarchy

If we lived in a truly gender-equal society

Women are no longer targets of sexual exploitation

Men no longer have economic advantages and monopolize power.

Then boys won’t just think about possessing women

He won't be treated as a tool

Girls can also be independent

No need to find a tool man

So if you think men are suffering too

You should oppose patriarchy even more

Should become a feminist

Because your pain is caused by patriarchy

It’s not the fault of feminists

You've had the wrong enemy all along

You think women are your enemies

But in fact, fatherhood is your real enemy

Finally, the author reminds us of a very important concept

Just every time we talk about fatherhood

There will be people who compare every argument that women are oppressed with the situation of boys.

It is said that men can also be domestically abused by women.

Women also make fun of men

This statement makes sense on the surface.

In fact, it is a mistake to equate the harm suffered by men and women.

For example, after the MeToo movement, many people will use the example of Johnny Depp to defend

You see, supporting the feminist movement gets men falsely accused!

This statement only applies to a few special cases of men

Deliberately ignoring that most victims are women

In fact, it reflects that you only care about men’s interests

So as long as one man is harmed

You can ignore that the other 99% of people are women

Refuse to change the status quo of gender oppression

This is actually typical patriarchal thinking

Thinking about things from a male-centered perspective

in fact

If you are really that afraid of men, you will also be subjected to domestic violence

You should support the gender equality movement and the Me Too movement

Encourage victimized men to come forward and speak out about their experiences

Oppose any form of gender oppression

rather than against the me too movement

Next, it’s time to talk about discriminatory jokes

Many people will say that men are also laughed at by women.

But actually

Any derogatory stereotype or joke about men

Just to make everyone laugh

It will not really undermine the interests of collective men.

The entire society is still dominated by men who hold most of the power

The loudest ones are still the men.

Women are still more vulnerable to sexual harassment and pornographic remarks

Compared to jokes that discriminate against men

Misogynistic jokes hurt more

Because these discriminations will strengthen patriarchal dominance

But a joke that discriminates against men

It doesn’t really challenge the father’s authority

Just the opposite

When girls use gender issues to mock boys

The logic behind these jokes is usually that men have deviated from society’s expectations of a “real man.”

When masculinity disappears, it becomes funny and funny

So these jokes that make fun of boys

On the contrary, it proves that we live in a patriarchal society

Rather than the rise of women’s rights

Finally, there is a false gender equivalence that says:

If we demand gender equality, why don’t girls serve in the military?

It’s basically a feminist buffet

This statement gets two things wrong

First of all, it is not because women oppress men that men should serve as soldiers on the battlefield.

It is the ruling class and military leaders who legislate military service and assign men to fight.

So military service is actually about upper-class men controlling lower-class men to serve as cannon fodder.

For example, 80% of the soldiers in the Vietnam War were men from the lower working class.

If a man finds it painful to be a soldier

You should point your guns at the ruling class and the country, not women

Many feminists actually side with men

I think the country should not force boys to serve as soldiers

Because military service often inflicts violence on men

Being in the military is a painful memory for many boys.

So does "only boys have to serve in the military" discriminate against men?

yes

There is no reason why a man should be tortured by the state's military

true gender equality

It’s not that girls are required to join the army and be abused too.

but regardless of gender

Neither men nor women should be forced by the state to serve as soldiers

In today's video, we introduce the history and operation of fatherhood.

There are also various sources of male dilemmas.

Not from women, but from patriarchy

So how do we dismantle the patriarchal structures that impact us every day?

We can emulate the 20th century feminist movement

These movements all originated from consciousness-raising groups

Originally it was just girls getting together to gossip.

Talk about trauma in your life

It turned out that everyone had a similar experience

Only then did I realize that the pain in life is not a personal problem

It’s a collective social problem

There must be a collective solution

Then take the initiative to read and understand the operation of the patriarchal system

After understanding how patriarchy oppresses women and men

We can think about how to respond to various patriarchal oppressions in our lives

When someone tells a misogynistic joke, do I laugh or not?

Because if no one laughs, a joke doesn’t constitute a joke

when group conversations

Are all the boys speaking, leaving no room for women to speak?

Do women often get interrupted by men when they are speaking, and then their attention is drawn back to them?

Actively listen to the female relatives and friends around you

Have you experienced discrimination or harassment?

Take the initiative to care for students with different gender temperaments on campus

Have you ever experienced being excluded or bullied?

Boys can reflect on

In a conversation with a male friend

How much of it is about competing with each other instead of actually caring about each other?

How long has it been since you took the initiative to care about your male friends?

Is there any way that men can provide each other with an outlet to vent their emotions?

When we proactively change the way we engage in fatherhood

It's about showing other people another possibility.

Let them see that they don’t have to compete with other men or see men as threats.

There is no need to belittle people of different genders or sexual orientations

You can also live a complete and fulfilling life

To show such a possibility is to dismantle patriarchy