Lower vs Higher Self - Understanding Your Two-Faced Nature
Summary
TLDRIn this enlightening episode, Leo from Actualised.org discusses the concept of the 'lower self' versus the 'higher self,' likening them to a light switch that can be toggled between two states. He explains that the lower self emerges in times of fear, selfishness, and pettiness, contrasting with the higher self's calm, kind, and selfless demeanor. Leo emphasizes the importance of recognizing the triggers that lead to this switch, often occurring unconsciously, and the detrimental effects it can have on personal and societal levels. He offers two key insights: the boundary between these states is threatened when one feels threatened, and mindfulness can help identify the emotional body's activation before it spirals into the lower self. Leo provides actionable steps to cultivate awareness and avoid negative outcomes stemming from the lower self.
Takeaways
- 🔄 The human self can switch between a 'lower self' characterized by fear, meanness, and selfishness, and a 'higher self' embodying calmness, kindness, and selflessness.
- 🐾 The 'lower self' is likened to an animalistic or beastly aspect of humans, which can be more damaging than actual animals due to the destructive actions it can lead to.
- 🔑 There is a boundary between the lower and higher self that is often unconscious, and it is threatened when one feels threatened, leading to a shift into the lower self.
- 💡 The first key insight is recognizing the existence of this boundary and understanding that threats can push us into our lower self, often unconsciously.
- 🌟 The second key insight is the realization from meditation that our emotional body can rev up in response to threats, and mindfulness can help us notice and manage this before it escalates.
- 📋 Keeping a journal can help identify personal triggers that send one into the lower self, aiding in self-awareness and growth.
- 🚫 Commit to never making decisions from the lower self and develop the awareness to recognize when you cross into this state.
- 🤝 Practice disengaging from people when in the lower self to prevent negative interactions and decisions.
- 🧘♂️ Regular meditation and mindfulness exercises can train you to notice the early signs of the emotional body revving up and help calm it before it leads to the lower self.
- 🔧 Consider making structural changes in your life to remove or reduce triggers that cause you to enter the lower self, such as changing jobs or neighborhoods.
- 📚 Seek coaching or therapy to help identify and address deep-seated triggers that cause you to revert to the lower self, as external guidance can be beneficial in these cases.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video by Leo from Actualised.org?
-The main topic of the video is the concept of the 'lower self' versus the 'higher self', explaining the two modes of human behavior and how one can switch between them.
What characterizes the 'lower self' according to Leo?
-The 'lower self' is characterized by fear, meanness, pettiness, untruthfulness, selfishness, and is likened to the animalistic or beastly aspect of a person.
How does Leo describe the 'higher self'?
-The 'higher self' is described as a state of calmness, kindness, nobility, generosity, truthfulness, and selflessness, embodying the noble aspects of humanity.
What does Leo suggest is the key to distinguishing between the lower and higher self?
-Leo suggests that the key to distinguishing between the lower and higher self is awareness and mindfulness, particularly recognizing when one is being threatened and thus more likely to operate from the lower self.
What insight does Leo credit to Eben Pagan regarding the lower and higher self?
-Leo credits Eben Pagan with the insight that the boundary between the lower and higher self is threatened when one is threatened, which often leads to unconscious behavior that can create problems.
Why is it important to recognize when we are in our lower self, according to the video?
-It is important to recognize when we are in our lower self because decisions, actions, and plans made from this state are likely to be disastrous and can lead to regret and negative outcomes in life.
What are some examples of triggers that can send a person into their lower self?
-Examples of triggers include physical danger, financial threats, family issues, intimate relationship problems, career challenges, reputation concerns, and threats to one's belief systems.
What action does Leo recommend to help individuals stay aware of their emotional state?
-Leo recommends practicing mindfulness and meditation to become more aware of the emotional body revving up, and to notice when one is transitioning into the lower self.
What is the 'emotional body' as described in the video?
-The 'emotional body' refers to the internal emotional state that can be triggered and rev up in response to threats or stressors, potentially leading to reactions from the lower self.
What practical steps does Leo suggest to manage the activation of the lower self?
-Leo suggests several steps: committing to never make decisions from the lower self, disengaging from people when in the lower self, practicing mindfulness of the emotional body, changing the structure of one's life to remove triggers, and seeking coaching or therapy to address deep-seated triggers.
How can journaling help in understanding and managing the lower self?
-Journaling can help by allowing individuals to record instances when they were triggered into their lower self, analyze the situations and triggers, and reflect on their emotional responses to better understand and manage their reactions in the future.
What is the role of physical threats in triggering the lower self?
-Physical threats, such as being in danger or perceiving physical harm, can immediately trigger the lower self by activating the fight-or-flight response, causing a person to react from a place of fear and self-preservation.
How does Leo suggest changing the structure of one's life to reduce triggers?
-Leo suggests identifying the specific triggers in one's life, such as a hostile work environment or unsafe living conditions, and making structural changes to eliminate or reduce these triggers, which could involve moving, changing jobs, or seeking new relationships.
What is the significance of the wasp experiment mentioned in the video?
-The wasp experiment is a mindfulness exercise where one meditates near a wasp nest to observe the emotional body's reaction to the perceived threat. This helps in developing the ability to notice the activation of the lower self in real-time.
Why is it beneficial to commit to not engaging with people when in the lower self?
-It is beneficial because when in the lower self, a person is more likely to behave negatively, selfishly, or untruthfully, which can lead to regrettable actions and damaged relationships. Disengaging allows the emotional state to stabilize before interacting.
What is the purpose of the Actualised.org newsletter mentioned by Leo?
-The Actualised.org newsletter aims to provide subscribers with regular updates on personal development content, including videos, articles, and courses, to support their growth and help them build a more fulfilling and successful life.
Outlines
🔄 The Dual Nature of Self: Lower and Higher Selves
Leo from actualised.org introduces the concept of the lower and higher self, explaining that humans operate in two distinct modes. The lower self emerges in response to fear, selfishness, and pettiness, akin to an animalistic or 'beast' mode. In contrast, the higher self is characterized by calmness, kindness, generosity, and selflessness, representing humanity's noble qualities. He emphasizes the importance of awareness in recognizing when one switches between these states, as the lower self can lead to damaging actions with severe personal and societal consequences. Leo credits Eben Pagan for highlighting the boundary between these states and the impact of threats on crossing it, often unconsciously.
🧠 The Impact of Unconscious Threats on Decision Making
The speaker discusses how threats, whether physical or more subtle, can trigger a transition from the higher self to the lower self. He outlines various categories of threats, including financial, family, intimate relationships, career, reputation, and belief systems, which can unconsciously activate the lower self. Leo suggests that being aware of these triggers is crucial to prevent making poor decisions, taking disastrous actions, or setting harmful life goals. He encourages developing mindfulness and keeping a journal to identify personal triggers that cause this shift.
🐝 The Emotional Body and Mindfulness Practice
Leo shares insights from a meditation retreat about the emotional body and its role in activating the lower self. He uses the analogy of wasps during meditation to illustrate how the emotional body can 'rev up' in response to threats, even minor ones. He describes the physical sensations associated with this activation and how it can escalate into a full-blown lower self response if not checked. Leo emphasizes the importance of mindfulness in recognizing the early signs of this emotional response to prevent it from spiraling out of control.
🛑 Recognizing and Controlling the Emotional Avalanche
Continuing the discussion on emotional responses, Leo explains how the emotional body's reaction can snowball into an uncontrollable avalanche, representing a full descent into the lower self. He suggests that mindfulness and meditation can help in observing these reactions before they escalate. Leo also proposes an experiment involving wasps to practice noticing the emotional body's response, advocating for the development of the 'mindfulness muscle' to manage these emotional triggers effectively.
🚫 Action Steps to Avoid Lower Self Decision Making
Leo provides actionable steps to prevent decisions and actions taken from the lower self. He advises building awareness to recognize when one has shifted into the lower self and suggests various techniques, including meditation and journaling, to develop this awareness. Leo also recommends disengaging from people when in the lower self to avoid negative interactions and stresses the importance of changing life's structure to eliminate triggers that lead to the lower self.
🔨 Structural Changes and Personal Development
The speaker discusses the need for structural changes in one's life to remove triggers that cause a shift to the lower self. He suggests practical steps like changing one's neighborhood, securing the home, or even considering a job change if the work environment consistently triggers the lower self. Leo emphasizes the importance of identifying personal triggers and taking active steps to mitigate them, whether through therapy, coaching, or self-help resources.
📚 Embracing Personal Development and Growth
In the concluding paragraph, Leo encourages viewers to embrace personal development as a habit, suggesting that consistent effort over time leads to significant growth and self-improvement. He invites viewers to sign up for his newsletter at actualized.org for ongoing support and resources, including life purpose courses. Leo highlights the importance of the insights and distinctions provided in his videos for achieving a more fulfilling and successful life.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Lower Self
💡Higher Self
💡Emotional Body
💡Mindfulness
💡Triggers
💡Meditation
💡Threat
💡Personal Development
💡Awareness
💡Action Steps
Highlights
Introduction to the concept of lower and higher self as two modes of human behavior.
Definition of the lower self as the manifestation of fear, meanness, pettiness, dishonesty, and selfishness.
The higher self is characterized by calmness, kindness, nobility, generosity, truthfulness, and selflessness.
The human organism compared to a machine with a switch that can toggle between lower and higher self states.
The lower self likened to an animalistic or 'beast' mode, with a note on the unfairness to animals.
The higher self represents the pinnacle of humanity's noble qualities.
The societal and personal problems often stem from the activation of the lower self.
The importance of being conscious of the switch between lower and higher self states.
First key insight: The boundary between lower and higher self is threatened when one feels threatened.
The unconscious reaction to threats leading to the lower self and its negative consequences.
The role of emotional intelligence and awareness in recognizing the shift to the lower self.
Examples of subtle triggers that can activate the lower self, such as financial stress or family issues.
The practice of mindfulness and journaling to identify personal triggers for the lower self.
Second key insight: Understanding the mechanism of the lower self activation through emotional body awareness.
The experience of a meditation retreat revealing the process of emotional body activation.
The importance of observing the emotional body's response to threats without judgment.
Action steps for managing the lower self, including commitment to awareness and structural life changes.
Recommendations for meditation and mindfulness practices to develop emotional body awareness.
The suggestion to seek coaching or therapy to address deep-rooted triggers of the lower self.
Encouragement to make personal development a habit for long-term growth and self-improvement.
Transcripts
hey this is Leo for actualised
org and in this episode I'm going to
talk about the lower versus the higher
self you are like a light switch meaning
that you have basically two modes on
which you can run on and off or in other
words the lower self and the higher self
what is the lower self the lower self is
who you are when you're fearful when
you're mean when you're petty when
you're untruthful when you're selfish
the higher self is when you're calm when
you're kind noble generous truthful and
selfless and in the human organism if we
think of the human organism as a machine
it's like you have this switch and the
switch can be flipped at any time and
can send you from the regular place that
you're at which is usually the higher
self it can send you down into the lower
self and this is really the difference
between the animal inside you and the
human inside you the lower self is like
the animal the Beast although in a sense
it's kind of a slight and a slander on
animals to say that because it's
interesting you know with the human
organism the human is capable of being
like hyper human and embodying
everything that's the most noble about
humanity when you're in your highest
self but when you're in your lowest self
it's like the flip opposite of that 180
degrees and in fact you're much worse
than an animal and the things that a
human being does from the lower self are
really damaging both to
the individual who does it but also to
the people around that person and also
to society at large right and most of
the issues and problems that we have in
in society any like really serious
problems we have in our own personal
lives often come from the fact that this
switch gets flipped and we're not
conscious to the fact that the switch is
getting flipped so I want to talk a
little bit about that here right now and
I'm going to give you two key insights
here in this episode and the first key
insight is the following there is a
boundary between the lower and the
higher self and this boundary is
something that you probably have never
thought about and you're totally
unconscious of but here's the insight
this boundary is being threatened when
you are threatened you go into your
lower self and the crazy thing is that
this happens for most people
unconsciously they're not aware that
this is going on and that creates a lot
of problems I want to give a credit to
eben pagan for introducing me to this
insight here it's a very very powerful
and rare insight that most people do not
make in their lives and this creates all
sorts of problems which is why it's so
important so think about this if you're
making a decision from your lower self
chances are it's going to be a
disastrous decision also if you're
trying to take some action in your life
from the lower self it's probably going
to be a disastrous action or behavior
and if you're making some sort of plans
for your life or setting goals for your
life from a position of the lower self
and that's going to be a disastrous plan
that you're making so why is this issue
important well for these reasons because
we don't want you making bad decisions
bad behaviors and bad plans right and um
you know people who really screw their
is up um one of the most common ways is
this issue right here something happens
they get pissed off or they get really
afraid they get threatened in some way
they get sent down from their usual high
self which is you know nice and then
they get sent down to this mean petty
brutal person and then they do something
or say something that they really regret
and can never take back
and then this destroys their life and
really you know that could happen once
or twice but it's really bad when it
keeps happening repeatedly and you don't
understand that it's going on with you
and the crazy thing is that you can be a
very intelligent person and still not be
conscious and aware of the fact that
this is happening to you so there's a
distinction to be made here between
intelligence which is one thing which is
not really that important but on the
other hand like emotional intelligence
and awareness which is completely
crucial to the results that you get in
your life so when we say that the the
threat that you experience sends you
from a higher solvent to the lower self
what are we talking about well clearly
we're obviously talking about physical
danger if you get into a situation where
you are in physical danger for example
maybe you're driving your car and then
all of a sudden something happens and
you you realize that oh [ __ ] you're
you're really in trouble here in the
next couple of seconds right you had one
of those moments while driving even if
something bad happens to you ultimately
still you sense that physical danger and
all of a sudden it sends you into that
flight-or-fight response right it's a
physical threat so that's obvious stuff
or if you know if there's someone
stalking you in a dark parking lot then
you're going to sense that you're in
physical danger and you're going to get
flipped into your lower self but what's
interesting is that there's a there's
also triggers that are more subtle and
these are the ones you really got to
watch out for because the physical
danger stuff you know most of us aren't
really always like in physical danger
that's a rare situation that happens to
us and actually a lot of times you know
we respond fine to that the problem
is when you start responding or just
reacting from your lower self to some of
these other threats so here's some
categories for you so for example money
a whole category of threats can be
subsumed under that so money threats
there's triggers there that could
trigger you right so what do you do if
you're going broke you feel like
someone's going to steal some money from
you or you feel like you're not going to
be able to make more money in the future
something like that how about family
triggers the family category huge how
many of us are triggered by stuff
relating to our family that we don't
like you know what we're going to see
that person we're going to have to talk
to this person I'm going to have to
negotiate something there and those
triggers send us into the lower self
also intimate relationships is a huge
category career is a huge category
reputation is a huge category think
about situations where your reputation
is on the line and that's a trigger for
sending you into your lower self or also
think about belief systems think about
if you hold a religion or you have
religious dogmas or if you have some
sort of scientific background or you
have scientific dogmas and beliefs and
you have to defend all that and whenever
those come under threat then you feel
like you have to defend and when you're
doing that defending you're dropping
into your lower self so the question is
are you aware of what triggers you to
cross this boundary the the idea of this
entire episode is very simple right it's
just that there's this boundary and
you're crossing it and this boundary is
just a threat but you need to actually
get mindfulness and awareness around
this in your own life and you need to
see what are the individual
idiosyncratic triggers that you
personally have because each of us has a
unique constellation of triggers that
send us into this
kind of fear mode the question is what
is that for you you need to start
identifying that and getting more and
more clear about it and one of the best
ways is just maybe to keep a journal or
a diary and any time that you actually
do get sent down into your lower self
and you later notice it you write down
the situation so maybe you come home
after work and you're you're in a
conversation with your spouse and you
you two are talking about something and
all of a sudden some issue comes up and
it's like that's the issue that triggers
you to go from higher self to lower self
what of that is maybe it's money
maybe it's the in-laws maybe it's you
know the discussion about having a
children or maybe it's about you know
some religious view usually what would
happen is that you would just get sucked
in to the lower self and not even
realize that that's what happened you
just how you to just have a big argument
and you'd kind of know why it happened
but on the other hand you didn't really
understand why it happened right and
from that lower self maybe you did
something nasty or stupid or mean that
then ruined your relationship so that's
just one example right I'm sure you can
fill in the blanks and come up with your
own examples of how this works so you
need to start to do this work of
actually identifying this stuff not just
taking it as a theory because as a
theory you know this is nice but when
you identify it that's when it really
hits home to you when you actually see
it in action and here's the second key
insight that I want to give you here
what's the actual mechanism by which
this lower self gets activated sure
there's this boundary you get threatened
but how is it actually happening what
happens when you're in your lower self
this key insight came from my meditation
retreat what I wish I just done came
back from and what I noticed there was
something very interesting first of all
I heard the facilitator talking about
the emotional body and he said a very
curious thing which really piqued my
interest he said that one of the most
important ways in which mindfulness can
help us as human beings in everyday life
is to make us more aware
how our emotional body revs up and that
may be very curious and in fact he said
that the way he designed his whole
system and the way that he uses the
language to explain mindfulness to make
certain distinctions in your mind his
whole model for mindfulness was
basically kind of you know one facet of
it was designed in such a way that it
would help you to be able to identify
this within yourself while it's
happening and I didn't quite you know I
kind of intellectually understood what
he meant but I didn't get like an
experiential sense of what he meant
until I was meditating and I was
meditating outside for most of the
retreat
next to this little nice beautiful
wooden chapel just like this small
little private chapel and there was a
bench and I was sitting outside and it
was this place kind of near the woods so
there's a lot of insects flying around
and I was sitting there meditating for
the whole week and what I noticed is
that there's a man there's a lot of
wasps flying around me and at first it
just kind of see like I'll just you know
random wasps here and there that's
normal but then I looked around as I was
you know setting up my bench one morning
and I discovered that oh [ __ ] there's a
there's a wasp nest right behind me as
I'm sitting on my bench and it's kind of
near the ground and I'm sitting on this
balcony and no wonder all these wasps
are flying around me when I'm meditating
it's because I'm sitting in their flight
path it's like they're flying to and
from their home and I'm like right in
the middle of it sitting there trying to
meditate but you know it was a beautiful
spot so I wanted to keep the spot didn't
want to move and what I did is I just
said okay I'm just going to kind of deal
with it I'm gonna sit through it but the
very interesting thing that happened to
me is that see the problem is that the
emotional body revs up inside of you
probably many times a day in your life
but you don't actually notice it you're
not mindful enough you don't have enough
awareness this is a muscle that needs to
be developed so when I was sitting there
I got a really interesting kind of
science experiment just fall on my lap
because I was sitting there and I was
meditating and I was good getting into a
place record I could really totally calm
myself down and if you ever get into
that kind of meditative place where you
calm yourself
completely and you get a real clear
sense of what's going on in your body
emotionally like you get in touch with
all the different sensations in your
body what you're going to notice is that
there's a very clear and palpable sense
like oh I'm relaxed and everything is
normal and cool and I can just be calm
and you notice that there's like a lack
of any kind of churning emotions or any
kind of like churning sensations in the
stomach or in the chest or any kind of
like tingling sensations in in your
limbs stuff like that but then when a
threat presents itself and this is
actually the interesting thing here
because usually when you're meditating
you don't get threatened very often but
this was interesting because the wasp as
I meditated with my eyes open the wasp
flies by my face and I can't help but go
into an emotional reaction even though
like I'm not doing it consciously it
just happens to me right because in
humans were hard-wired to have phobias
of spiders and snakes and and various
insects so this was very curious because
I was sitting there and I was totally
peaceful and calm but then this wasp
just flies and hovers near me and all of
a sudden I can see like holy [ __ ]
my emotional body just lit up like a
Christmas tree right I could see it it's
like it's like it's getting going and
getting going and getting going right
and it starts as like a sensation in
your lower abdomen and then maybe it
moves up into your chest and maybe your
your hands and feet get involved and
your limbs get involved and then your
mind gets triggered and your mind starts
flashing pictures to you of a wasp like
biting you in the eye or you know biting
your eyeball out or landing on the back
your neck when you're meditating and and
stinging you multiple times in a row or
something like that right you start
getting these like fantasies of a killer
wasp out hunting for you or maybe the
whole family of wasp is going to come
join this one wasp and they're all going
to sting you to death
that's literally what your mind starts
coming up with once the emotional body
revs up more and more and more and
what's fascinating is if you ever get
the chance to just sit there and watch
how your emotional body revs up
and then also revs back down and then
revs back up and then revs back down
then you start to really get this sense
like oh man this is a really important
skill to develop is this ability to to
sense when this emotional body is doing
what now I was sitting there this was
like a perfect science experiment
because I was sitting there and almost
like this lab setting where I could
isolate the variables the problem is
that most people in their lives they
don't get this kind of opportunity and
in fact just the other day I was sitting
and doing some work right and only
because I've been meditating a lot over
the last couple of weeks after I
finished the work and I just took a
little break sat down on the couch I
realized lies holy [ __ ] I was just
working for 50 minutes and my entire
emotional body was like lit up like a
Christmas tree but I wasn't really aware
of it until I just came out of that work
session and into my break and now I've
my prime sitting here trying to practice
a little bit of mindfulness and now I
can actually see like oh man there's all
this like emotional weird emotional
sensation happening in my in my lower
abdomen and I can really feel it and
it's there and it's not that easy to
just let it all go I actually have to
sit there and practice meditation for
maybe two or three minutes just to start
to get it to rev down and rev down and
rub down and kind of just put me into a
really nice calm even grounded place
now that's something that you get when
you do meditation practice and
mindfulness practice which is what most
people are missing out on right they
think that meditation is just going to
give them you know something or some
calming of the mind but they don't
understand that they're going to get
these critical distinctions that now you
can apply to places in your life right
and it's like a muscle you have to build
up this mindfulness muscle so what I'm
talking about here this this inside of
the emotional body revving up I don't
mean that just as soon as it revs up
that instantly you're in your lower self
usually what happens that it revs up and
you're still cool but then it revs up a
little bit more and a little bit more a
little bit more and after a certain
point you know it revs up enough that it
it just kind of like becomes this some
this snowball that's rolling down the
hill and it's totally lost control it's
turn into an avalanche which is now this
powerful thing is unstoppable and that's
when you're in your lower self when that
avalanche you know when that snowball
turns into an avalanche and so why
mindfulness is so powerful in meditation
is such a powerful practice is that you
can start to see when the snowball
starts rolling when it's still a little
baby snowball before it turns into an
avalanche and you can prevent it from
becoming an avalanche not even by trying
to control it necessarily by just simply
by observing it it's crazy that just
simply observing what's happening in
your emotional body is enough to make it
dissipate and go away whereas when
you're not observing it and you don't
even know that this is happening inside
you what happens there tends to be this
just runaway effect and you just get
blindsided by this thing so one thing I
recommend is that if you do have a
hornet's nest near your house then go
try this out this is a really cool
experiment go try meditating outside and
make sure you're sitting there with your
eyes wide open so you can see all the
wasps flying around you maybe you want
to even put some some food for them that
they can come near you right and just
see how your emotional body revs up it's
a really cool exercise to do but also
you know not everyone has a hornet's
nest near them so a little hard to
engineer that all right so that's the
two key insights now you might ask okay
I get the theory now what do I do with
this Leo well here are some action steps
for you number one is make sure that you
make a commitment right now and for the
rest of your life - never make decisions
when you're in your lower self now of
course this implies that you have the
ability to be aware of when you're
actually in your lower self
so what that means in practice if you
want to actually honor this commitment
is that you have to build your awareness
muscles so that you can see when that
line is actually crossed and when you do
step down into your lower self there's a
couple of ways you can do this one way
is to just let it happen to you and
you're only going to be able to tell
after the fact right so maybe your
spouse says something nasty to you and
that sends you into your lower self and
you don't realize it for a day and you
have this huge blowout argument with
your spouse but then you know the next
day in the morning you realize like oh
[ __ ] I got sent into my lower self and I
didn't even realize it but at least I
realize it now okay so that's how it
happened
and you kind of retrace your steps so
there's that way that's kind of like the
trial and error approach you know not
the best way but that one works for four
people in a pinch so you can use that
you got to remember though to do that
right otherwise you're going to forget
maybe keep a journal or a log of all
these incidents that happen to you of
crossing the line so that's one way
another way is just practicing more
meditation another way might be doing
this wasp this wasp experiment that I
told you right so there's there's
multiple little techniques you can you
can employ to do this the other thing
you should do as an action step is make
a commitment to disengage from people
when you're in your lower self we don't
want you making decisions when you're in
your lower self we also don't want you
engaging with people why not
because probably you're not going to
have something nice to say when you're
in your lower self probably going to be
a dick probably you're going to be a
[ __ ] probably you're going to say
something nasty probably you're not
going to really be generous or
magnanimous or very truthful or very
honest right probably gonna be quite
selfish so all these things we'd like to
avoid in our lives because there's a lot
of bad fallout that comes from behaving
that way so one simple solution is just
to disengage from people and actually
you can tell them
Hey I'm in my lower self right now so I
don't want to engage you so maybe you
know your spouse is talking to you you
guys are in the middle of a conversation
and you're sensing that it's getting
heated and you sense that oh I just
crossed the line and if you have enough
of awareness of that then you can just
tell your spouse hey you know let's just
cut this conversation off right now um
I'm going to go you know watch some TV
for an hour because I sense that I just
got triggered into my lower self and I
don't want to say or do something that
I'm going to regret and just actually
say that to your spouse and just see
what happens
you'll probably get a much better
reaction than you normally would right
or if you're engaging with your boss
at work with your employees same kind of
deal right as soon as you sense yourself
getting triggered into your lower self
find a way just to distract yourself to
not have to deal with that situation
right there so that you can just take a
little bit of time off your emotional
body can rev down and then you can come
back clear-headed and deal with the
situation in a more empowering way so
make that commitment to also practice
mindfulness of the emotional body
revving up this is a more subtle thing
than actually crossing the line and this
is something you can do on a daily basis
just after you know go go work for a
couple of hours and then get off of work
and then just come come sit on your
couch or sit in a chair at your office
and just meditate for five minutes and
just see calm yourself down and just see
where were you ad before and where are
you at now what you're probably going to
notice that you're so stressed during
the day and you don't even notice that
you're stressed because it just becomes
like you know like you're a fish and
water you don't notice the water it's
only when you calm yourself down and
actually put yourself into a meditative
state you can actually finally realize
by way of contrast like oh damn I was
stressed for two hours and only now I
can realize why I was stressing the fact
that it's happening somewhere in my body
and you're going to get more and more
experience with that and then you're
going to get better and better mindful
this muscles so that's a that's a good
way to to practice that another thing
you should do is change the structure of
your life if you need to to remove the
triggers that send you into a threat
mode so if you're living in a part of
town where there's gangs and violence
then you probably not don't understand
it there and get accustomed to that you
probably actually want to go and change
your neighborhood or you know if you're
living in some third-world country where
there is some some safety issues and you
feel like you're in physical harm you
probably want to change your location or
maybe change where your house is
positioned something like that maybe get
some stronger locks on your door I mean
it's okay to actually go out and take
some action to fix this stuff right it's
not just all mental but also you know
beyond the physical danger stuff you
need to get more awareness around the
triggers that you have so money family
relationships you know all that stuff we
talked about career your reputation and
once you know those triggers then you
got to actually change the structure of
your life to remove the worst triggers
because if you're living your life in
this way where you're constantly
triggered by these things all the time
and that's just a function of the
environment that you've created for
yourself then you know what you know all
the personal development in the world is
not going to really help you because you
do need to work on these triggers so
maybe you have a boss that's always
yelling at you and berating you at work
and maybe that's always sending you into
your lower self because you always feel
threatened when he's yelling at you okay
well you probably want to consider
changing jobs or moving to another
department at work right that's what I
would call a structural change to your
life but before you can do that first
you need to recognize what are the
triggers so the last action that I want
you to take is go get some coaching or
some therapy or if you can't afford that
then sit down and really do some serious
journaling yourself and ask yourself
this question what are the most
common triggers for me that send me into
my lower self that's the key question
for you and this might be something you
can sit down and think about right now
and come up with some examples but also
it might be something you gotta actually
do over the weeks and months because
you're probably not going to be aware of
these triggers until they actually start
happening to you and now you know these
ideas that I've talked to you about
right now you have these distinctions
which you didn't have before so sit down
and slowly progressively make this list
of triggers so you know what they are
and you know you can get coaching on
those and get therapy on those you can
go buy some self-help books that will
help you to deal with those
you basically have to unwire them which
you're going to discover that a lot of
those triggers they probably go back far
into your past the roots of that trigger
stem all the way back you know to your
childhood somewhere maybe to your
earliest memories or maybe to the
dysfunctional relationship you had with
your mother or with your father or with
your sister or your brother or something
like that that's usually what it is and
you know those can involve some work to
unwire that's why therapy is so popular
because therapy does that that's why
coaching is popular because coaching
helps you to do that and it can be
difficult to unwire or trigger like that
all by yourself because usually what
happens is that you're so sucked into
the trigger that again you're like a
fish and water you don't notice that
this trigger is actually not a part of
you is kind of like an artificial
dysfunctional part of you so a lot of
times it helps a third person to look at
your situation to kind of give you some
guidance which is why therapy or
coaching can be so effective but you can
do it yourself if you're very determined
all right so that's it those are action
steps go ahead and do this and I will
see you soon this is Leo I'm signing off
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