Bolehkah Memaksa Anak Masuk Pesantren?!
Summary
TLDRThis video script discusses the challenges parents face when enrolling their children in religious boarding schools (pondok pesantren), particularly when the child is resistant. The parents are concerned about their lack of knowledge in educating their child in Islamic teachings. The script emphasizes the importance of learning the Quran and Arabic, despite the difficulties. It advises persistence, patience, and communication with the school to accommodate the child's interests, such as sports. Ultimately, the message is about overcoming challenges in religious education for long-term spiritual growth.
Takeaways
- 📚 Sending children to Islamic boarding schools (pondok) is considered a way to protect them from the fires of hell by teaching them religious knowledge.
- 🤔 The parents feel that they lack the knowledge to educate their children at home, so they chose to send them to a sunnah-based boarding school.
- 😔 The child, however, is unhappy at the school, struggling with memorizing the Quran and learning Arabic, and missing their old activities, like volleyball.
- 🏠 Recently, the child left the school without permission and returned home, expressing dissatisfaction with the rigorous schedule.
- 🧠 The speaker emphasizes the importance of learning the Quran and Arabic, acknowledging the difficulty but stressing the rewards of seeking knowledge.
- 💡 The speaker encourages parents to be patient with their children’s resistance, recognizing it as part of their learning and growth process.
- 🎯 Children may not always understand the benefits of their parents' decisions, and it is essential for parents to gently guide them with love and discipline.
- 🏐 The speaker suggests that schools should consider incorporating extracurricular activities, like volleyball, to help children feel more at ease.
- 💪 The struggle of learning, especially in a boarding school environment, is acknowledged as challenging, but over time, students will adapt and thrive.
- 👥 Building friendships and community within the school is presented as one of the key benefits of staying in a pondok, offering social and spiritual growth.
Q & A
Why did the parents decide to send their child to a religious boarding school (pondok)?
-The parents decided to send their child to the pondok because they felt they lacked sufficient knowledge to educate their children in religious matters at home. They hoped the pondok would help in learning the Qur'an and following the sunnah.
What are the child's main reasons for not wanting to stay at the pondok?
-The child expressed discomfort due to the need to memorize the Qur'an and learn Arabic. Additionally, the child missed being part of a volleyball club, which contributed to their feelings of not wanting to stay.
How do the parents feel about their decision to send the child to the pondok?
-The parents feel conflicted. While some people encouraged them to remain patient and continue with the decision, others criticized them for forcing their child into the pondok. The parents are unsure if they made the right decision.
What advice is given regarding the child's resistance to staying at the pondok?
-The advice given is for the parents to approach the pondok and inform the teachers about the child's interests, such as volleyball, so that the child can find ways to stay engaged. It was also suggested that the parents should stay patient, as the child may not fully understand the benefits of being at the pondok yet.
Why is forcing the child to stay at the pondok considered necessary by some?
-Forcing the child is considered necessary because children often don't understand what's best for them. Just like giving money to a child, they may not know how to use it wisely. The discipline of the pondok is seen as beneficial, even if the child doesn’t like it initially.
What are some difficulties associated with studying at the pondok as described in the transcript?
-Studying at the pondok is described as challenging, with long hours dedicated to learning, memorizing the Qur'an, and doing other studies. Students also face different living conditions, such as waiting in line for food, which contrasts with the comfort of home.
How is the struggle of learning at the pondok compared to other forms of work or worship?
-Learning at the pondok is considered more difficult than other forms of work or worship. While people can take breaks from their jobs or rest at home, studying religious knowledge and memorizing the Qur'an requires continuous effort and perseverance.
What are the long-term benefits of studying at the pondok according to the speaker?
-The speaker mentions that, over time, the child will come to appreciate the benefits of the pondok, such as making friends and developing a deeper understanding of religious teachings. The experience of overcoming the initial discomfort will lead to personal growth and discipline.
What is suggested to help the child cope with the challenges at the pondok?
-It is suggested that the child be encouraged to take things slowly, rest when necessary, and ask Allah for strength to endure the challenges. The speaker emphasizes the importance of perseverance and faith during difficult times.
What does the speaker say about balancing religious education with personal interests like sports?
-The speaker acknowledges that it’s fine for the child to enjoy playing sports like volleyball, but stresses that religious education should take priority. He suggests that sports can be a secondary activity while the primary focus should be on becoming knowledgeable in religious matters.
Outlines
🌱 Parental Concern and the Decision to Send Their Child to a Religious School
The parents are grappling with the decision to send their child to a religious boarding school (pondok pesantren) as they believe it is essential for the child’s spiritual development and protection from negative influences, particularly since they themselves are newly learning about the Sunnah. Despite their son’s reluctance to attend, they enrolled him in hopes of his future benefit. However, their son recently left the school without permission and returned home, expressing dissatisfaction with the school's structure, which focuses on Quran memorization and learning Arabic. The parents are torn, as they face mixed reactions from others—some encouraging them to remain steadfast in keeping him at the school, while others criticize their decision. The parents seek guidance on both the merits of their son’s religious education and how to maintain patience in dealing with his resistance.
💪 Overcoming the Hardships of Religious Study and Building Resilience
The paragraph shifts focus to the inherent difficulty of religious education, particularly in a boarding school environment. The speaker highlights that while religious study, including Quran memorization, can be challenging and rigorous, it is a highly rewarded form of effort in Islam. The comparison is made between the structured life in a boarding school, where students endure long hours of study and strict schedules, and the ease of home life. This struggle is framed as part of the journey toward spiritual and intellectual growth. Parents are advised to recognize the hardship as a necessary part of their child's development, and the speaker emphasizes that enduring these challenges helps build resilience and ultimately leads to greater success. The process, though tough, is rewarding, and the child will eventually appreciate the effort as part of their spiritual journey.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Pesantren
💡Al-Quran Memorization
💡Arabic Language
💡Parental Responsibility
💡Patience (Sabar)
💡Volleyball (Voli)
💡Religious Sacrifice
💡Sunnah
💡Socialization in Pesantren
💡Seeking Knowledge (Ilmu)
Highlights
Parents admit they lack sufficient knowledge to educate their children at home, which led them to enroll their child in a religious boarding school.
The child dislikes the boarding school due to the heavy focus on memorizing the Quran and learning Arabic.
The child has a strong attachment to his volleyball club at home, adding to his discomfort at the boarding school.
Parents seek guidance on how to deal with the child's complaints and their own uncertainties regarding their decision.
Some community members encourage the parents to be patient, while others criticize their decision to send the child to the boarding school.
The speaker advises that sometimes children need to be pushed to do things they may not like, as they do not yet understand the long-term benefits.
The speaker recommends parents communicate with the school to find extracurricular activities, such as volleyball, to keep the child engaged.
Learning the Quran and seeking knowledge is framed as a challenging but highly valuable pursuit, even more so than charity or pilgrimage.
The speaker explains that it is normal for children in boarding schools to struggle with homesickness and the new routine but encourages perseverance.
The speaker shares personal experiences of adjusting to difficult routines during their own time in a religious boarding school.
Parents are encouraged to have discussions with the school and teachers to ensure the child’s well-being and to possibly introduce them to friends who can help them adjust.
The child is reminded that the path they are on is one of great virtue, even though it is difficult.
The speaker mentions the importance of sabr (patience) for both the child and the parents as they navigate this challenging period.
The speaker highlights the long-term benefits of learning the Quran, emphasizing that the struggle is part of a spiritual journey toward wisdom.
The speaker advises the child to rest when necessary but to continue climbing the metaphorical ladder towards becoming a scholar, rather than focusing solely on sports.
Transcripts
Apakah memasukkan anak ke pondok adalah
termasuk salah satu cara menjaga anak
anak dari api neraka karena anda dan
suami baru belajar sunnah Kami merasa
tidak punya cukup ilmu untuk mendidik
anak-anak kami di rumah
maka kami memasukkan anak kami ke pondok
sunah
meskipun Sebenarnya dia tidak mau
beberapa hari yang lalu anak kami keluar
tanpa sepengetahuan Pondok pulang ke
rumah saat ini dia ada di sini ikut
kajian
dia selalu mengeluh tidak betah di
pondok karena harus menghafal Alquran
dan belajar bahasa Arab
saat ini dia masuk kelas
dia juga berat karena harus meninggalkan
klub voli yang ada di rumahnya mohon
pencerahannya Ustadz untuk anak kami
mengenai keutamaan-keutamaan mempelajari
Alquran dan bahasa Arab
ada juga pohon pencerahan untuk kami
agar kami sabar dalam menghadapi
kerewelan dia yang sudah tidak mau di
pondok karena sebagian ada yang
menguatkan kami untuk tetap bersabar dan
sebagian lagi ada yang menyalahkan
dengan keputusan Kami memohon anak ke
pondok ayo
anak-anak Itu banyak belum tahu dengan
maslahat dia
Antum kalau kasih duit sama anak 10 juta
1 jam habis
itu anak
dia masuk ke minimarket semua
anak yang masih kecil itu anak selalu
kasih dia duit 2000
dengan 2000 dia bisa beli segala-galanya
karena sama Bapaknya yang ngambil ini
makanya dia waktu itu pokoknya minta
duit berapa Rp2.000 kalian 2.000 bisa
beli semuanya kata dia Iya bapaknya yang
bayarin dia enggak tahu itu Ana enggak
tahu dengan duit dia dia enggak tahu
anak itu dengan masalah dirinya dia juga
enggak tahu
makanya kadang kala anak itu perlu
dipaksa
tapi orang tua juga perlu
pendekatan dengan anak itu
kalau bicara anak itu punya kesenangan
main voli Bahkan dia perlu tuh cari di
pesantren mungkin sampaikan ke pesantren
anak ini suka main voli jadi harapannya
Pesantren ada Eskul yang berkaitan
dengan voli jadi tetap bisa tersalurkan
tapi memang ini buat anaknya dan semua
anak-anak yang hadir di sini belajar itu
berat
maka yang menuntut ilmu itu amalan yang
tidak bisa ditandingi dengan amalan lain
mau antum sodako mau Antum berangkat
haji mau antum apa yang sunat-sunah ya
menuntut ilmu itu nggak tertandingi
jamaah karena menuntut ilmu itu berat
bicara menghafalkan Quran
orang kalau kerja kalau kerja dari pagi
sampai sore dia datang ke rumah
istirahat
tapi kalau kita di pondok dulu jamaah
pagi udah sekolah sore murojaah malam
murojaah sebelum subuh dibangunin lagi
habis subuh Rojak terus kita dikerjain
ya memang seperti itu
tapi sebenarnya
Allah bisa karena biasa
Mas saya belum biasa aja
ada orang yang kerja jamaah ini orang
tua yang mengantarkan Anaknya sekolah
kemarin ada kawan cerita anak-anak
[Musik]
jadi pulang satu jam setengah Berapa
sudah 3 jam jemput satu jam setengah
balik lagi 6 jam
itu karena orang tua cinta sama anaknya
tapi anak kadang kala kan
nggak merasakan itu suatu saat anak itu
akan mengatakan Ya Allah ternyata benar
orang tuanya dulu sayang ketika anak ini
keluar dari pesantren
engkau butuh membiasakan diri
karena waktu di pesantren sama enggak
betah
masuk pesantren
apalagi kalau di pesantren itu jamaah
makannya ngantri kita biasa di rumah
meja makan langsung makan ke pesantren
lapar
100 orang Allahu Akbar
kita sambil goyang-goyang kaki kita
murojaah surat apa Juz Amma belum
nyampe-nyampe
itu terjadi Ana waktu di Madinah pun
Subhanallah
ngantrinya jamaah murojaah itu
sampai al-mursalat baru nyampe ke depan
yang ngasih-ngasih ya Allah mungkin
memang kayak gini
seperti itu perjuangan tapi lama
kelamaan senang
pakai orang tua datang ke pondok ngomong
sama gurunya
kemudian carikan teman buat anaknya ini
kadang kala dia sendirian di pondok
karena dia memang enggak mau ke
pesantren dia berpikir bagaimana kabur
dari pesantren
ketika dia kabur Dia merasakan itu
kesenangan dia coba dulu balik ke
pesantren ngomong sama ustaznya dan sang
anak juga tadi sabar di kepala Bentar
dulu waktu kita mau pulang banyak di
pesantren itu
7 hari kita udah mau pulang dari
pesantren kata ustaznya Ya Allah semoga
Allah menjaga Ustaz Ana ini
tunggulah Syafi'i
coba seminggu coba seminggu Kalau nggak
betah pulang
mau pulang nggak ada sudah karena kita
mulai berinteraksi sama teman-teman kita
dan di pesantren ini nikmat sekali
Kenapa kita punya sohib banyak
kawan kita banyak sekali
kalau di rumah kawan kita kadang kala
handphone
orang tua nggak ngawanin kita Ibu sibuk
dengan kerjaannya Bapak juga seperti itu
kalau di pesantren Masyaallah Maka insya
Allah buat sang anak ini engkau sedang
meniti jalan menuju ke sebuah kemuliaan
tapi tangga itu naik enggak turun
ketika kau capek berhenti sebentar kau
minta ya Allah Bantulah aku ya Allah
mudah-mudahan aku betah bersantai Ya
Allah naik lagi pelan-pelan
karena kita tahu jamaah
pewaris para nabi itu bukan pemain voli
tapi
para ulama engkau nanti jadilah ulama
yang main voli
ini sampingan dong kesenangan nggak papa
nggak papa karena itu hal yang bagus
juga olahraga itu juga masuk mungkin
persiapan kita untuk jihad fisabilillah
fisik kita niatkan untuk itu
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