How to Manipulate the Narcissist
Summary
TLDRThe video script 'Malignancy Flower Narcissism Revisited' by Sun Bikini explores three manipulative strategies towards narcissists: withholding narcissistic supply, positioning oneself as a reliable source to foster dependence, and supporting their grandiose fantasies. It highlights the irony that narcissists, despite appearing shrewd, are gullible due to their false self and reality. The script delves into their vulnerability to magical thinking, reckless behavior, and susceptibility to scams, as well as their reaction to abuse, which includes denial, rage, and eventual acceptance, often without self-awareness or empathy.
Takeaways
- ๐ถ Narcissists can be manipulated through three main techniques: withholding narcissistic supply, becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply, and supporting their grandiose fantasies.
- ๐ Withholding narcissistic supply involves not giving the narcissist the attention they crave until they are willing to meet certain conditions, thus gaining leverage over them.
- ๐ Becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply means consistently providing the narcissist with the admiration and validation they need, which can lead to their dependence on the provider.
- ๐ญ Supporting a narcissist's grandiose fantasy involves playing along with their inflated sense of self-importance, making them more amenable to the manipulator's wishes.
- ๐ค Despite their outward appearance of being shrewd and cunning, narcissists are actually more gullible than the average person due to their tendency towards magical thinking and a false sense of self.
- ๐ซ Narcissists often consider themselves beyond the consequences of their actions, leading to reckless behavior and a susceptibility to scams and risky ventures.
- ๐ฐ Narcissists feel entitled to wealth, power, and honors, often without the accomplishments or contributions to justify such entitlements.
- ๐ก The lack of empathy and interpersonal skills in narcissists can provoke anger, resentment, and even hatred in others, leading to a higher likelihood of attracting abuse.
- ๐ฎ Narcissists' grandiosity and paranoia can be exploited to deceive and manipulate them, as they are prone to trust those who affirm their inflated self-image and delusions.
- ๐ค When faced with abuse, narcissists experience trauma similar to other victims, going through stages of denial, helplessness, rage, and depression, but their reactions are amplified by their shattered sense of omnipotence.
- ๐ The narcissist's inability to acknowledge their own faults or the need for help, due to their self-image as infallible and superior, can exacerbate the effects of abuse and lead to further psychological distress.
Q & A
What are the three ways to manipulate a narcissist as mentioned in the script?
-The three ways to manipulate a narcissist are: 1) Withholding narcissistic supply until they beg for more, 2) Constituting oneself as a reliable source of high-grade supply to foster the narcissist's dependence, and 3) Actively participating in buttressing the narcissist's grandiose fantasy to make them amenable to your wishes.
Why are narcissists considered more gullible than the average person?
-Narcissists are considered more gullible because their self and reality are based on a false narrative. They live in a fantasy where they are the center of the universe, admired and respected, which makes them prone to magical thinking and easily persuaded.
How do narcissists perceive themselves in relation to the consequences of their actions?
-Narcissists often consider themselves beyond punishment and the laws of man due to their grandiosity and magical thinking. They do not see themselves as being subject to the consequences of their actions or inaction.
What kind of behavior is a narcissist likely to exhibit when they feel entitled?
-Narcissists who feel entitled may exhibit reckless behavior, assume risks, and expect miracles. They often find themselves on the receiving end of scams due to their belief in easy success and entitlement.
How do narcissists react when they are penalized for their misconduct?
-Narcissists are rudely shocked when penalized for their misconduct because they believe they are entitled to a trouble-free, exalted, luxurious existence. They struggle with the reality that their actions have consequences.
What are the typical characteristics of a successful narcissist?
-Successful narcissists are often targeted by stalkers and erotomaniacs, usually mentally unstable people who develop a fixation on them. They may also attract abuse due to their grandiosity and lack of empathy.
How do less prominent or less successful narcissists typically end up in relationships?
-Less prominent or less successful narcissists often end up sharing life with codependents and with inverted narcissists, exacerbating their narcissistic tendencies.
What is the typical reaction of a narcissist when they find themselves on the receiving end of abuse?
-A narcissist, when abused, goes through phases of denial, helplessness, rage, depression, and finally acceptance. Abuse breeds humiliation, which is a novel experience for them, leading to a shattered sense of omnipotence.
How do narcissists handle the emotional strain caused by conflicting needs during abuse?
-Narcissists struggle to handle the emotional strain caused by conflicting needs during abuse. They try to preserve the integrity of their grandiose false self while seeking support, which can lead to acting out, temper tantrums, and loss of control.
What are the typical defense mechanisms used by narcissists and how do they fail in the face of determined abuse?
-Narcissists typically use defense mechanisms such as idealization and devaluation, exploitation, and manipulation. However, these are useless when confronted with a determined, vindictive, or delusional stalker, as they cannot come to terms with their need for help or admit any faults.
Why is empathy largely absent in narcissists, even when they are victims of abuse?
-Empathy is largely absent in narcissists because their self-image as infallible and superior prevents them from admitting any shortfalls, mistakes, or needs. This self-image also hinders their ability to feel remorse or develop self-awareness, even when they are victims of abuse.
Outlines
๐ Manipulating the Narcissist: Strategies and Consequences
This paragraph discusses three primary methods to manipulate a narcissist. The first involves withholding narcissistic supply, causing the narcissist to seek it desperately. The second strategy is to become a reliable source of high-grade supply, fostering the narcissist's dependence and making them more amenable to your needs. The third technique is to actively support the narcissist's grandiose fantasy, making them more susceptible to your influence. The paragraph also highlights the irony that narcissists, despite appearing knowledgeable and cunning, are actually more gullible due to their false self and delusional reality. They are prone to magical thinking and often fall for scams due to their reckless risk-taking and sense of entitlement. The text further explores how narcissists react to being manipulated and deceived, noting their lack of empathy and interpersonal skills, which makes them prone to attracting abusive relationships.
๐ The Narcissist as a Victim: Abuse and Its Impact
This paragraph delves into the narcissist's reaction to being on the receiving end of abuse. Like any victim, they experience trauma, going through stages of denial, helplessness, rage, depression, and acceptance. However, their reactions are amplified due to their shattered sense of omnipotence. Abuse leads to humiliation, which is a novel experience for the narcissist, challenging their self-perception as all-powerful. The text describes how narcissists use defense mechanisms like idealization and devaluation, which are ineffective against determined abusers. The narcissist's inability to admit their own faults or the need for help further complicates their situation. As abuse progresses, the narcissist's defense mechanisms disintegrate, leading to acting out, loss of control, and in extreme cases, withdrawal or even psychosis. The paragraph concludes by noting that while narcissists can be victims of abuse, this does not typically lead to self-awareness, remorse, or empathy in them.
Mindmap
Keywords
๐กNarcissist
๐กNarcissistic Supply
๐กGrandiosity
๐กParanoia
๐กDelusions
๐กMagical Thinking
๐กEntitlement
๐กCognitive Deficits
๐กStalkers
๐กCodependents
๐กAbuse
Highlights
Three distinct strategies to manipulate a narcissist are discussed.
Withholding narcissistic supply as a method to gain control.
Becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply to foster narcissist dependence.
Participating in the narcissist's grandiose fantasy to influence their behavior.
Narcissists' susceptibility to magical thinking and their tendency to assume risks.
Narcissists' sense of entitlement despite a lack of accomplishments.
Narcissists' vulnerability to investment scams due to their reckless nature.
The irony that narcissists, despite appearing shrewd, are more gullible than average.
Narcissists' inability to accept the consequences of their actions or inaction.
How playing on a narcissist's grandiosity and paranoia can lead to manipulation.
Narcissists' attraction to abusive relationships and their poor interpersonal skills.
The paradox of narcissists being both abusers and victims of abuse.
Narcissists' difficulty in acknowledging their need for help and their infallibility.
The impact of abuse on a narcissist's sense of omnipotence and the resulting humiliation.
Narcissists' defense mechanisms like idealization, devaluation, and exploitation.
The ineffectiveness of narcissistic defense mechanisms against determined abusers.
Narcissists' inability to self-reflect and the lack of empathy even in the face of abuse.
The potential for narcissistic abuse to lead to severe psychological breakdowns.
Transcripts
my name is Sun bikini and the author of
malignancy flower narcissism revisited
all told there are three ways to
manipulate the narcissist
you can withhold narcissistic supply
from him until he comes hat in hand
begging for more and then you can name
your price
indicate the turns a second technique is
to constitute yourself as a reliable
source of high-grade supply in there by
fostering the narcissist dependence in
adherence to your minutest needs and
wishes we will be amazed how attentive
the novices can be to a good source of
narcissistic supply and then there's the
third trick need to take active part in
buttressing in upholding the narcissus
grandiose fantasy to collude in a shared
psychosis with him and thus rendered him
amenable to your wishes and priorities
as long as they seamlessly conform to
his delusional narrative right
the irony is technologies who consider
themselves worldly learning
knowledgeable shrewd cunning here
aligned in a stews
well these exact narcissists are
actually more gullible than the average
person
this is because gnosis is a fake their
self is false
their life is a confabulation their
reality list is long done not to sleep
in a fantasy land all their own in which
they are the center of the universe are
admired fearing held in awe and
respected for their own evidence and
omniscience
in short narcissists are prone to
magical thinking they hold themselves in
you into the consequences of their
actions or inaction therefore they
consider themselves to be beyond
punishment and the laws of man
narcissists are easily persuaded to
assume an
risks and to expect miracles to happen
they often find themselves on the
receiving end of investment scams for
example again because they are risk
thrown reckless narcissist feel entitled
entitled to everything money power
honors even though these are in
commensurate with their accomplishments
or thorium world God nation society or
their families co-workers employers even
neighbors oh them trouble free exalted
luxurious existence they are rudely
shocked when they are penalized for
their misconduct or when their fantasies
remain just that fantasies the masses
his beliefs that he is destined to
greatness or at least the easy life he
wakes up every morning fully ready for a
fortuitous lack a stroke of luck that
explains the narcissist reckless
behaviour in his lased
lack of self-discipline it also
explained why the narcissist is so
easily duped by playing on the
narcissist grandiosity and paranoia it
is possible to deceive and manipulate
the narcissist effortlessly just offer
the narcissist once assistive supply but
narration affirmation chelation and he
is all yours harm on the narcissus
insecurities and on his secretary
delusions and is likely to trust only
you and cling only to you for dear life
both paranoia and grandiosity impair the
narcissist reality test and engendered
cognitive deficits paranoia and
grandiosity lead to the erection of
complex and wasteful defenses against
usually non-existent threats than
enemies narcissists attract abuse they
are courting exploitative demanding
sensitive in quarrelsome narcissist tend
to draw opprobrium and provoke anger
pain even hatred sorely lacking in
interpersonal skills devoid of empathy
and steeped in Burke some grandiose
fantasies narcissists invariably fail to
mitigate the irritation and revolt that
they induce in others successful
narcissists are frequently targeted by
stalkers and erotomania usually mentally
any people who develop a fixation of a
sexual or emotional nature of the
narcissist when inevitably rebuffed by
the narcissist these people become
vindictive and in rare occasions even
violent less prominent narcissist
less successful ones end up sharing life
with codependents and with inverted
dosages the narcissus situation is
exacerbated by the fact that often the
narcissist himself is an abuser like the
boy who cried wolf people do not believe
that the perpetrator of egregious deeds
can himself for brain tumor treatment
people tend to ignore in this card the
narcissist cries for help they
disbelieve his protestations they assume
that he is guilty until proven innocent
not the other way around so how does the
losses is react when he finds himself on
the receiving end of abuse well like all
our victims he is traumatized he goes
through the phases of denial
helplessness rage depression and finally
acceptance
but the narcissist reactions are
amplified by his shattered sense of
omnipotence abuse breeds humiliation and
humiliation breeds helplessness and to
the narcissist helplessness is a novel
experience either to be considered
himself all-powerful God like abuse
reminds him that he is also human and
sometimes less than human
the
sadistic defense mechanisms in their
behavioral manifestations defuse range
idealization and devaluation
exploitation this defense mechanisms are
useless when confronted with a
determined vindictive or delusional
stalker that the gnosis is a flat is
flattered by the attention that he
receives from the abuser or the stalker
renders him even more vulnerable to the
formulas manipulation nor can the
narcissist come to terms with his need
for help
he cannot acknowledge that wrongful
behavior on his part may have
contributed and precipitated somehow the
situation the most is his self image as
infallible meiting all-knowing this self
image as he says him being far superior
to others this exact self image won't
let him admit any shortfalls any
mistakes any needs even need for advance
or for help nurses is considered
considered himself self-contained
self-sufficient as the abuse progresses
the narcissist feels increasingly : his
conflicting emotional needs to preserve
the integrity of his grandiose false
self even as he seeks much-needed
support while these conflicting leads
place an unbearable strain on the
precarious balance of his immature and
disorganized personality the
compensation is the disintegration of
the narcissist defense mechanism it
leans to acting out temper tantrums
outbursts loss of control and if the
abuse is protracted it leads to
withdrawal and even in extreme cases to
psychotic my pretzels
abusive acts in themselves are rarely
dangerous not so the reactions to abuse
above all the overwhelming sense of
violation in humiliation
so narcissus are actually classic
victims or abuse in many cases yet it
does not provoke in them
self-awareness let alone remorse or
empathy of which they are largely in
cable it is wasted of them yes even
abuse is wasted on the narcissist
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