How to Manipulate the Narcissist

Summary

The video script 'Malignancy Flower Narcissism Revisited' by Sun Bikini explores three manipulative strategies towards narcissists: withholding narcissistic supply, positioning oneself as a reliable source to foster dependence, and supporting their grandiose fantasies. It highlights the irony that narcissists, despite appearing shrewd, are gullible due to their false self and reality. The script delves into their vulnerability to magical thinking, reckless behavior, and susceptibility to scams, as well as their reaction to abuse, which includes denial, rage, and eventual acceptance, often without self-awareness or empathy.

Takeaways

• 😶 Narcissists can be manipulated through three main techniques: withholding narcissistic supply, becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply, and supporting their grandiose fantasies.
• 🔒 Withholding narcissistic supply involves not giving the narcissist the attention they crave until they are willing to meet certain conditions, thus gaining leverage over them.
• 🌟 Becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply means consistently providing the narcissist with the admiration and validation they need, which can lead to their dependence on the provider.
• 🎭 Supporting a narcissist's grandiose fantasy involves playing along with their inflated sense of self-importance, making them more amenable to the manipulator's wishes.
• 🤔 Despite their outward appearance of being shrewd and cunning, narcissists are actually more gullible than the average person due to their tendency towards magical thinking and a false sense of self.
• 🚫 Narcissists often consider themselves beyond the consequences of their actions, leading to reckless behavior and a susceptibility to scams and risky ventures.
• 💰 Narcissists feel entitled to wealth, power, and honors, often without the accomplishments or contributions to justify such entitlements.
• 😡 The lack of empathy and interpersonal skills in narcissists can provoke anger, resentment, and even hatred in others, leading to a higher likelihood of attracting abuse.
• 🔮 Narcissists' grandiosity and paranoia can be exploited to deceive and manipulate them, as they are prone to trust those who affirm their inflated self-image and delusions.
• 😤 When faced with abuse, narcissists experience trauma similar to other victims, going through stages of denial, helplessness, rage, and depression, but their reactions are amplified by their shattered sense of omnipotence.
• 😖 The narcissist's inability to acknowledge their own faults or the need for help, due to their self-image as infallible and superior, can exacerbate the effects of abuse and lead to further psychological distress.

Q & A

What are the three ways to manipulate a narcissist as mentioned in the script?

The three ways to manipulate a narcissist are: 1) Withholding narcissistic supply until they beg for more, 2) Constituting oneself as a reliable source of high-grade supply to foster the narcissist's dependence, and 3) Actively participating in buttressing the narcissist's grandiose fantasy to make them amenable to your wishes.

Why are narcissists considered more gullible than the average person?

Narcissists are considered more gullible because their self and reality are based on a false narrative. They live in a fantasy where they are the center of the universe, admired and respected, which makes them prone to magical thinking and easily persuaded.

How do narcissists perceive themselves in relation to the consequences of their actions?

Narcissists often consider themselves beyond punishment and the laws of man due to their grandiosity and magical thinking. They do not see themselves as being subject to the consequences of their actions or inaction.

What kind of behavior is a narcissist likely to exhibit when they feel entitled?

Narcissists who feel entitled may exhibit reckless behavior, assume risks, and expect miracles. They often find themselves on the receiving end of scams due to their belief in easy success and entitlement.

How do narcissists react when they are penalized for their misconduct?

Narcissists are rudely shocked when penalized for their misconduct because they believe they are entitled to a trouble-free, exalted, luxurious existence. They struggle with the reality that their actions have consequences.

What are the typical characteristics of a successful narcissist?

Successful narcissists are often targeted by stalkers and erotomaniacs, usually mentally unstable people who develop a fixation on them. They may also attract abuse due to their grandiosity and lack of empathy.

How do less prominent or less successful narcissists typically end up in relationships?

Less prominent or less successful narcissists often end up sharing life with codependents and with inverted narcissists, exacerbating their narcissistic tendencies.

What is the typical reaction of a narcissist when they find themselves on the receiving end of abuse?

A narcissist, when abused, goes through phases of denial, helplessness, rage, depression, and finally acceptance. Abuse breeds humiliation, which is a novel experience for them, leading to a shattered sense of omnipotence.

How do narcissists handle the emotional strain caused by conflicting needs during abuse?

Narcissists struggle to handle the emotional strain caused by conflicting needs during abuse. They try to preserve the integrity of their grandiose false self while seeking support, which can lead to acting out, temper tantrums, and loss of control.

What are the typical defense mechanisms used by narcissists and how do they fail in the face of determined abuse?

Narcissists typically use defense mechanisms such as idealization and devaluation, exploitation, and manipulation. However, these are useless when confronted with a determined, vindictive, or delusional stalker, as they cannot come to terms with their need for help or admit any faults.

Why is empathy largely absent in narcissists, even when they are victims of abuse?

Empathy is largely absent in narcissists because their self-image as infallible and superior prevents them from admitting any shortfalls, mistakes, or needs. This self-image also hinders their ability to feel remorse or develop self-awareness, even when they are victims of abuse.

Outlines

00:00

🌟 Manipulating the Narcissist: Strategies and Consequences

This paragraph discusses three primary methods to manipulate a narcissist. The first involves withholding narcissistic supply, causing the narcissist to seek it desperately. The second strategy is to become a reliable source of high-grade supply, fostering the narcissist's dependence and making them more amenable to your needs. The third technique is to actively support the narcissist's grandiose fantasy, making them more susceptible to your influence. The paragraph also highlights the irony that narcissists, despite appearing knowledgeable and cunning, are actually more gullible due to their false self and delusional reality. They are prone to magical thinking and often fall for scams due to their reckless risk-taking and sense of entitlement. The text further explores how narcissists react to being manipulated and deceived, noting their lack of empathy and interpersonal skills, which makes them prone to attracting abusive relationships.

05:01

😔 The Narcissist as a Victim: Abuse and Its Impact

This paragraph delves into the narcissist's reaction to being on the receiving end of abuse. Like any victim, they experience trauma, going through stages of denial, helplessness, rage, depression, and acceptance. However, their reactions are amplified due to their shattered sense of omnipotence. Abuse leads to humiliation, which is a novel experience for the narcissist, challenging their self-perception as all-powerful. The text describes how narcissists use defense mechanisms like idealization and devaluation, which are ineffective against determined abusers. The narcissist's inability to admit their own faults or the need for help further complicates their situation. As abuse progresses, the narcissist's defense mechanisms disintegrate, leading to acting out, loss of control, and in extreme cases, withdrawal or even psychosis. The paragraph concludes by noting that while narcissists can be victims of abuse, this does not typically lead to self-awareness, remorse, or empathy in them.

Keywords

💡Narcissist

A narcissist is an individual with an excessive or erotic preoccupation with oneself. In the context of the video, the author discusses strategies for manipulating narcissists, highlighting their susceptibility to certain behaviors due to their inflated self-image. The script mentions that narcissists are prone to magical thinking and are often more gullible than the average person.

💡Narcissistic Supply

Narcissistic supply refers to the admiration, attention, or praise that narcissists crave and require to maintain their self-esteem. The video script outlines strategies for manipulating narcissists by withholding or providing this supply, thereby influencing their behavior and decisions.

💡Grandiosity

Grandiosity in the video refers to the exaggerated sense of self-importance and superiority that narcissists possess. It is a key aspect of their personality that makes them believe they are beyond punishment and the laws of man. The script uses this term to explain how narcissists are easily manipulated by playing on their inflated sense of self.

💡Paranoia

Paranoia, as discussed in the video, is the irrational and excessive distrust or suspicion of others that narcissists often exhibit. It is a defense mechanism that impairs their reality test and leads to the creation of complex defenses against perceived threats. The script mentions that playing on a narcissist's paranoia can be a manipulation tactic.

💡Delusions

Delusions in this context are false beliefs or fixed ideas that narcissists hold about themselves or their reality. The video script suggests that narcissists are prone to magical thinking and have a distorted view of reality, which can be exploited to manipulate them.

💡Magical Thinking

Magical thinking is the belief that one's thoughts or actions can influence the physical world in ways that defy conventional understanding. The script highlights that narcissists are susceptible to this type of thinking, which makes them more likely to take risks and expect miracles, contributing to their vulnerability to manipulation.

💡Entitlement

Entitlement in the video refers to the narcissist's belief that they deserve special treatment, privileges, or rewards without necessarily having earned them. The script points out that narcissists feel entitled to money, power, and honors, regardless of their actual accomplishments.

💡Cognitive Deficits

Cognitive deficits, as mentioned in the script, are the impairments in cognitive functioning that result from narcissists' paranoia and grandiosity. These deficits lead to poor judgment and an inability to accurately assess reality, making them more susceptible to manipulation.

💡Stalkers

Stalkers in the video are individuals who obsessively follow and harass others, often developing a fixation on a narcissist. The script discusses how successful narcissists can attract stalkers, who may become vindictive and potentially violent when rebuffed.

💡Codependents

Codependents are individuals who have an unhealthy reliance on others, often forming relationships with narcissists. The video script mentions that less successful narcissists may end up in relationships with codependents, further exacerbating the narcissist's need for control and validation.

💡Abuse

Abuse in the context of the video refers to the mistreatment or harm that narcissists can inflict on others, as well as the mistreatment they may experience themselves. The script explores how narcissists react to being on the receiving end of abuse, highlighting their vulnerability and the potential for their defense mechanisms to break down.

Highlights

Three distinct strategies to manipulate a narcissist are discussed.

Withholding narcissistic supply as a method to gain control.

Becoming a reliable source of high-grade supply to foster narcissist dependence.

Participating in the narcissist's grandiose fantasy to influence their behavior.

Narcissists' susceptibility to magical thinking and their tendency to assume risks.

Narcissists' sense of entitlement despite a lack of accomplishments.

Narcissists' vulnerability to investment scams due to their reckless nature.

The irony that narcissists, despite appearing shrewd, are more gullible than average.

Narcissists' inability to accept the consequences of their actions or inaction.

How playing on a narcissist's grandiosity and paranoia can lead to manipulation.

Narcissists' attraction to abusive relationships and their poor interpersonal skills.

The paradox of narcissists being both abusers and victims of abuse.

Narcissists' difficulty in acknowledging their need for help and their infallibility.

The impact of abuse on a narcissist's sense of omnipotence and the resulting humiliation.

Narcissists' defense mechanisms like idealization, devaluation, and exploitation.

The ineffectiveness of narcissistic defense mechanisms against determined abusers.

Narcissists' inability to self-reflect and the lack of empathy even in the face of abuse.

The potential for narcissistic abuse to lead to severe psychological breakdowns.

Transcripts

my name is Sun bikini and the author of

malignancy flower narcissism revisited

all told there are three ways to

manipulate the narcissist

you can withhold narcissistic supply

from him until he comes hat in hand

begging for more and then you can name

your price

indicate the turns a second technique is

to constitute yourself as a reliable

source of high-grade supply in there by

fostering the narcissist dependence in

adherence to your minutest needs and

wishes we will be amazed how attentive

the novices can be to a good source of

narcissistic supply and then there's the

third trick need to take active part in

buttressing in upholding the narcissus

grandiose fantasy to collude in a shared

psychosis with him and thus rendered him

amenable to your wishes and priorities

as long as they seamlessly conform to

his delusional narrative right

the irony is technologies who consider

themselves worldly learning

knowledgeable shrewd cunning here

aligned in a stews

well these exact narcissists are

actually more gullible than the average

person

this is because gnosis is a fake their

self is false

their life is a confabulation their

reality list is long done not to sleep

in a fantasy land all their own in which

they are the center of the universe are

admired fearing held in awe and

respected for their own evidence and

omniscience

in short narcissists are prone to

magical thinking they hold themselves in

you into the consequences of their

actions or inaction therefore they

consider themselves to be beyond

punishment and the laws of man

narcissists are easily persuaded to

assume an

risks and to expect miracles to happen

they often find themselves on the

receiving end of investment scams for

example again because they are risk

thrown reckless narcissist feel entitled

entitled to everything money power

honors even though these are in

commensurate with their accomplishments

or thorium world God nation society or

their families co-workers employers even

neighbors oh them trouble free exalted

luxurious existence they are rudely

shocked when they are penalized for

their misconduct or when their fantasies

remain just that fantasies the masses

his beliefs that he is destined to

greatness or at least the easy life he

wakes up every morning fully ready for a

fortuitous lack a stroke of luck that

explains the narcissist reckless

behaviour in his lased

lack of self-discipline it also

explained why the narcissist is so

easily duped by playing on the

narcissist grandiosity and paranoia it

is possible to deceive and manipulate

the narcissist effortlessly just offer

the narcissist once assistive supply but

narration affirmation chelation and he

is all yours harm on the narcissus

insecurities and on his secretary

delusions and is likely to trust only

you and cling only to you for dear life

both paranoia and grandiosity impair the

narcissist reality test and engendered

cognitive deficits paranoia and

grandiosity lead to the erection of

complex and wasteful defenses against

usually non-existent threats than

enemies narcissists attract abuse they

are courting exploitative demanding

sensitive in quarrelsome narcissist tend

to draw opprobrium and provoke anger

pain even hatred sorely lacking in

interpersonal skills devoid of empathy

and steeped in Burke some grandiose

fantasies narcissists invariably fail to

mitigate the irritation and revolt that

they induce in others successful

narcissists are frequently targeted by

stalkers and erotomania usually mentally

any people who develop a fixation of a

sexual or emotional nature of the

narcissist when inevitably rebuffed by

the narcissist these people become

vindictive and in rare occasions even

violent less prominent narcissist

less successful ones end up sharing life

with codependents and with inverted

dosages the narcissus situation is

exacerbated by the fact that often the

narcissist himself is an abuser like the

boy who cried wolf people do not believe

that the perpetrator of egregious deeds

can himself for brain tumor treatment

people tend to ignore in this card the

narcissist cries for help they

disbelieve his protestations they assume

that he is guilty until proven innocent

not the other way around so how does the

losses is react when he finds himself on

the receiving end of abuse well like all

our victims he is traumatized he goes

through the phases of denial

helplessness rage depression and finally

acceptance

but the narcissist reactions are

amplified by his shattered sense of

omnipotence abuse breeds humiliation and

humiliation breeds helplessness and to

the narcissist helplessness is a novel

experience either to be considered

himself all-powerful God like abuse

reminds him that he is also human and

sometimes less than human

the

sadistic defense mechanisms in their

behavioral manifestations defuse range

idealization and devaluation

exploitation this defense mechanisms are

useless when confronted with a

determined vindictive or delusional

stalker that the gnosis is a flat is

flattered by the attention that he

receives from the abuser or the stalker

renders him even more vulnerable to the

formulas manipulation nor can the

narcissist come to terms with his need

for help

he cannot acknowledge that wrongful

behavior on his part may have

contributed and precipitated somehow the

situation the most is his self image as

infallible meiting all-knowing this self

image as he says him being far superior

to others this exact self image won't

let him admit any shortfalls any

mistakes any needs even need for advance

or for help nurses is considered

considered himself self-contained

self-sufficient as the abuse progresses

the narcissist feels increasingly : his

conflicting emotional needs to preserve

the integrity of his grandiose false

self even as he seeks much-needed

support while these conflicting leads

place an unbearable strain on the

precarious balance of his immature and

disorganized personality the

compensation is the disintegration of

the narcissist defense mechanism it

leans to acting out temper tantrums

outbursts loss of control and if the

abuse is protracted it leads to

withdrawal and even in extreme cases to

psychotic my pretzels

abusive acts in themselves are rarely

dangerous not so the reactions to abuse

above all the overwhelming sense of

violation in humiliation

so narcissus are actually classic

victims or abuse in many cases yet it

does not provoke in them

self-awareness let alone remorse or

empathy of which they are largely in

cable it is wasted of them yes even

abuse is wasted on the narcissist