CAN LOVE SURVIVE WITHOUT SEX?

Summary

The transcript discusses the importance of communication in relationships, emphasizing the need for partners to express their feelings and desires clearly. It explores the idea that compatibility isn't just about finding someone who naturally understands your needs, but also about teaching them how to love you in the way you desire. The conversation delves into gender dynamics, particularly how men's appreciation for acts of service versus sexual gratification may change as they become more successful, potentially leading to less fulfilling relationships.

Takeaways

• 🗣️ Communication is key in relationships; partners should express their feelings and needs clearly to avoid misunderstandings.
• 💡 Providing solutions to issues is more effective than just expressing anger; it helps in resolving conflicts constructively.
• 🤔 The belief that if one has to explain how to love them, their partner may not be compatible, is a misconception; everyone needs to learn how to express love.
• 🗓 Regular communication sessions can help maintain a healthy relationship by addressing unmet needs and maintaining individual identities.
• 👚 Men appreciate feeling appreciated, which can lead to positive outcomes such as intimacy and acts of service.
• 👤 Personal experiences and societal expectations can shape perceptions of what men value in relationships, often focusing on appreciation and sex.
• 💸 Success can change a person's priorities and desires in a relationship, sometimes leading to a focus on superficial aspects like physical appearance.
• 🤝 Acts of service and emotional intimacy can become less valued as a person becomes more successful, with a shift towards seeking stress relief through sex.
• 💔 Relationships among the '1%' can be less fulfilling due to the prioritization of lifestyle and stress relief over deeper connections.
• 💰 Success and wealth can sometimes lead to relationships with individuals who are more interested in material benefits than genuine connection.
• 🧐 Personal values and lifestyle choices play a significant role in determining what one seeks in a partner, with some preferring meaningful relationships over superficial ones.

Q & A

What is the main issue discussed in the transcript regarding relationships?

The main issue discussed is the importance of clear communication in relationships, particularly in expressing what one needs and appreciates from their partner, rather than resorting to negative accusations or assumptions.

Why is it suggested that explaining how to love one's partner is necessary?

It is suggested because everyone has different preferences and ways they like to be loved, and these need to be communicated to ensure compatibility and understanding in a relationship.

What is the role of communication in maintaining one's identity in a relationship?

Communication helps in expressing what one is not getting or what they are worried about, which is crucial for maintaining individual identity and addressing issues in the relationship.

How often should one communicate their feelings and needs in a relationship according to the transcript?

The transcript suggests that it could be beneficial to have regular, perhaps weekly or monthly, communication sessions to discuss feelings, needs, and concerns in a relationship.

What is the perspective on men's appreciation in relationships as discussed in the transcript?

The transcript suggests that men appreciate feeling appreciated, which can lead to a deeper connection and other positive outcomes, and that this appreciation is not just about sex but also about acts of service and emotional support.

How does the transcript view the role of sex in men's appreciation?

The transcript implies that while sex is important, it is the appreciation and acknowledgment of men's efforts and contributions that truly matter, and that this appreciation can lead to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

What is the impact of a man's success on his relationship dynamics according to the transcript?

The transcript suggests that as men become more successful, they might focus more on stress relief through sex rather than seeking deep, meaningful relationships, leading to a potential imbalance in relationship dynamics.

What are the challenges faced by successful men in maintaining healthy relationships as per the transcript?

The challenges include the reduced ability to maintain normal healthy connections due to increased stress and busy lifestyles, leading to a focus on superficial relationships that provide immediate stress relief.

How does the transcript describe the relationship dynamics among the '1%' earners?

The transcript describes the relationships among the '1%' as being far worse than those of the general population, with a focus on sexual capabilities as a primary means of stress relief rather than deeper emotional connections.

What advice is given in the transcript for men to ensure they are the best possible option for their partners?

The advice given is to treat the partner in a way that makes their life easier, better, and more pleasurable, which in turn makes the man the best possible option in the partner's life.

What is the importance of selection in relationships as discussed in the transcript?

Selection is crucial as choosing a partner who is looking for a loyal, loving relationship aligns with the goal of having a fulfilling and lasting partnership.

Outlines

00:00

🗣️ Communication in Relationships

The first paragraph emphasizes the importance of clear communication in relationships. It suggests that partners should not only express their feelings and frustrations but also provide solutions to issues. The speaker argues that compatibility in a relationship is not just about finding someone who inherently knows how to love you the way you want, but also about teaching your partner through regular communication. This includes discussing personal needs, maintaining individual identity, and addressing concerns. The speaker also touches on the misconception that if you have to communicate your needs, your partner might not be the right one, but counters this by stating that communication is essential in any relationship. Additionally, the paragraph delves into gender dynamics, suggesting that men appreciate feeling appreciated, which can lead to deeper connections and intimacy. The speaker also discusses the challenges faced by highly successful men, who may prioritize sexual satisfaction over other forms of appreciation as they become busier and more stressed.

05:03

💰 Success and Relationship Dynamics

The second paragraph continues the discussion on relationships, focusing on how success can impact the dynamics between partners. The speaker observes that as men become more successful, their social interactions and relationships may change, often leading to a decrease in meaningful connections. They note that successful men might be more likely to engage with partners who are primarily interested in their wealth and status, rather than seeking deep, meaningful relationships. The speaker also comments on the tendency of some successful men to attract the wrong type of partners due to their flashy lifestyles. The paragraph concludes with the speaker's personal approach to relationships, emphasizing the importance of making oneself the best possible option for a partner by treating them well and making their life easier and more pleasurable. The speaker suggests that careful selection of a partner who values a loyal and loving relationship is crucial for a successful partnership.

Keywords

💡Communication

Communication is the process of exchanging information, ideas, or feelings. In the context of the video, it is emphasized as essential for expressing one's needs and desires in a relationship. It is highlighted that without clear communication, partners may not understand how to fulfill each other's emotional or physical needs, as seen in the script where it is suggested to tell your partner what you would appreciate or what you would like them to stop doing.

💡Compatibility

Compatibility refers to the state of being suitable or able to exist together harmoniously. In the video, it is mentioned that some people might feel if they have to explain how to love them, their partner might not be compatible. However, the script argues that communication is necessary in all relationships to learn how to love each other effectively.

💡Appreciation

Appreciation in this context means recognizing and expressing gratitude for the good qualities of someone or something. The script suggests that men, in particular, value feeling appreciated, which can lead to a more satisfying relationship dynamic. It is used to illustrate the importance of acknowledging and expressing thanks for acts of service or other gestures of love.

💡Sex

Sex, within the video's narrative, is portrayed as a significant aspect of a relationship, especially for men. The script discusses the idea that some men may prioritize sexual fulfillment over other forms of appreciation or acts of service in a relationship, especially as they become more successful.

💡Stress Relief

Stress relief refers to the reduction of stress through various means. In the script, it is suggested that for some men, particularly those in the '1%', sex serves as a form of stress relief, becoming a primary focus in their relationships.

💡Outsourcing

Outsourcing is the practice of hiring an outside company or individual to perform services that were traditionally performed in-house. In the context of the video, it is mentioned that as men become more successful, they can outsource acts of service such as cooking and cleaning, which may diminish the value of these acts in a relationship.

💡Identity

Identity refers to the characteristics determining who or what a person or thing is. The script touches on the importance of maintaining one's identity within a relationship, suggesting that communication is necessary to ensure that individual needs and identities are respected and integrated into the partnership.

💡Femininity

Femininity is the quality of being feminine. The video script encourages women to lean into their femininity and discusses how traditional feminine acts of service, such as cooking and cleaning, may be perceived differently as men become more successful and can outsource these tasks.

💡Success

Success, in the video, is associated with various factors such as financial prosperity, social status, and lifestyle. It is suggested that as men become more successful, their priorities and relationship dynamics may change, often focusing more on sexual fulfillment and less on traditional acts of service or emotional connection.

💡Jaded

To be jaded means to be cynical or no longer excited by something that once was appealing. The speaker in the script uses this term to describe their feelings and perspective after working with the '1%' and observing the changes in relationship dynamics as men become more successful.

💡Gold Diggers

A 'gold digger' is a term used to describe someone who seeks to marry or form a relationship with a wealthy person for financial gain. In the script, it is mentioned that as men become more successful, they may be more likely to encounter or be attracted to 'gold diggers', highlighting a potential negative aspect of their changed relationship dynamics.

Highlights

Communication is key in relationships - explain what you're upset about and provide solutions.

People may feel that if they have to explain how to love them, their partner is not compatible.

Everyone needs to learn how to love and be loved - communication is essential for this.

Having regular communication sessions can help address relationship issues.

Some people believe that if they have to instruct their partner, they are not the right person.

Men appreciate feeling appreciated, which can lead to sex and other positive outcomes.

Acts of service like cooking and cleaning may not be as valued by successful men.

Successful men may outsource acts of service and focus more on sexual needs.

Relationships among the 1% can be less fulfilling, with a focus on sexual stress relief.

As men become more successful, their appreciation for acts of service decreases.

Successful men may be more likely to marry gold diggers or escorts.

The speaker's personal experience suggests that successful men prioritize sexual satisfaction over other traits.

Different types of successful men may have different relationship needs and preferences.

The speaker has noticed a pattern of successful men seeking less meaningful relationships.

The speaker believes that as men get busier, their social battery decreases, leading to less meaningful connections.

The speaker suggests that some successful men may be content with superficial relationships.

Making oneself the best possible option for a partner can pave the way for a successful relationship.

Transcripts

explain exactly what you're upset about

but then give your partner this this the

solution I would really appreciate it if

you did XY Z or it would mean a lot to

me if you would stop doing x y and Zed

rather than you're this you're that and

they're just screaming and shouting so

giving your partner the solutions a lot

of people feel like um if they have to

explain to their partner how to love

them then they're not the compatible

partner but with everybody in life you

have to communicate how you like to be

loved they need to learn it from you but

you almost need like a a an hourly

session a week every week or so every

month at least yeah to explain what

you're honestly feeling yeah or what

you're not getting or what you're yeah

you know whether whether it's

maintaining your own ident identity in

in the relationship or talking about the

things you want and you're not getting

or what you're what you're worried about

it's like if you don't communicate these

things if you can't communicate these

things they'll never get addressed and

and also how do you view giving the

instructions some people think if I have

to communicate it they're not the right

person but sometimes you might need to

tell your wife like I really appreciate

it if you wear lingerie once in a while

it makes it different or telling your

husband that you know you can be a

little bit more assertive you can make

the decisions don't rely on me it's the

inability to express yourself but then

expecting the person to know how to mold

to your needs is what's going to cause a

breakdown in communication I I I can't

speak for women but I can speak for men

I think What Men really

appreciate

is feeling appreciated yeah and so many

people think men just want sex but I

think I think feeling appreciated you

know that'll lead to sex it'll lead to

all kinds of wonderful things which way

around do you think it is because as I

was saying I've become a bit jaded and I

used I'm a big advocate of like showing

men appreciation like you know even if

it's acts of service cooking cleaning I

have no objections with that and I

really encourage women to lean into

their femininity but having worked with

so many men over the years I feel like

until they get the sex they can't

appreciate the other acts of service and

so it's almost like the Baseline so what

I mean by this is no you can you can

with the with the right woman you you

totally would appreciate her responding

to your act of kindness or your help or

your whatever you're doing for her so

say if she cooks and cleans but she

doesn't sleep with you would you still

feel appreciated how what what time

period are we talking about let's say

every 3 months every every month every

month and I don't know what's a lot for

men for men is get frustrating that

would be what about if she sleeps with

you every night but doesn't cook

everything in life is a balance you know

what I realize and this is where I

become jaded yeah where I become J don't

yeah because again like I said I work

with the 1% as a man becomes more and

more successful he can Outsource acts of

service so he can order food he can have

a cleaner he can have somebody dry clean

all his clothes so the normal acts of

service and signs of appreciation a

woman can provide he doesn't require and

even that emotional intimacy when he's

so busy all day every day does he really

have time to talk about her day or and

what's been going on so when they get to

the 1% and they start becoming 1%

earners all the other acts of service

that are really feminine and beautiful

they become less valuable and the

primary focus is her sexual capabilities

are the are the relationships among

amongst the uh you calling it 1% yeah

the 1% wow um are the relationships

amongst that 1% any happier and more

fulfilling than the the the rest of us

yeah is far worse far far worse and I

would say that on both ends it's far far

was particularly for men particularly

for the male end of things because um

they're bringing a lot to the look to

get the lifestyle the 1% create it's

traveling it's jet lag it's uh years of

college it's lots of bills it's lots of

stress it's lots a negotiation for a

woman to then access that all it is is

she has to know what he likes sexually

and he she will access that life it's

that simple for her and she doesn't even

have to be she doesn't have to be

somebody who is traditional she doesn't

have to be somebody who is respectful

she doesn't have to be somebody who

knows how to cook or is a good mother

when the men become the 1% they get less

critical and less focused on all the

other traits and they just focus on

their stress relief and women and sex

becomes their stress relief so that's

what they go for and as a man becomes

more successful I in my personal

experience they are far more likely to

marry and invest in gold diggers and

escorts they are not looking for wives

as they get to the top they actually

looking for wom human kind of stress

relief in the form of just whoever

pleases them sexually is that really

jaded yeah well you sound you look

confused I think because you're working

with that 1% and it's a very distorted

it's very distorted segment of society

it's very distorted and and the other

thing is it's a real hump like because

it's the opposite of what you get told

men want online and it's the opposite of

why I used to teach I used to be very

much like you you know being um you know

reserved being loyal being being

sexually loyal to your man uh cooking

and cleaning this all matters I realize

that it doesn't matter as they get more

successful you'll see Drake having a

baby with a porn star you'll see Chris

the rappers they all have pregnant get

like dancers and strippers pregnant

because as they become busier their

social battery decreases so much that

the ability to maintain a normal healthy

connection which involves vetting her

getting to know her um communicating

with her that all goes down so all they

need is somebody who is quite empty and

a bit of a bimbo but as long as she

looks great and performs great they

relatively happy with

that yeah you you're you're living in a

Stratosphere really is that have you not

noticed that as men get more successful

their Taste of women gets less and less

meaningful yeah I guess I I don't know

no I i' I've always been really lucky so

I don't know yeah and but also I would

imagine it also depends on the

flashiness of the man the more flashy he

is with the lifestyle the more he

attracts that you attra the wrong of

yeah it's how he makes his money also

matters how he makes his money and what

how he spends his money matters but if

he just happens to be a successful man I

think he'll still look for a deeping

meaningful a relationship but if he's

one of those men that is in a constant

pursuit of money and Flash he is totally

fine with

the bimbo that he gets to his sleep with

and I don't see anything wrong with it

it definitely works out in her favor

because she gets a great life but um

this is what I've noticed which has been

a real kind of um humbling experience

for me which I didn't realize men were

like this yeah see for for me it's

like when I find a female that that I

really can get serious about yeah I just

make it clear that I am the best

possible option in her life how do you

do that just by the way I treat her but

what I would I do to make her life

easier better MH uh more pleasurable

whatever

yeah and and that and that just paves

the way for things to work out and I

think that's really important but

selection is everything if you're

choosing a woman who is looking for her

best option and wants that a loyal

loving relationship that works perfectly