Do You Have the “Agreeableness” Personality Trait?
Summary
TLDRThe script discusses the complex personality trait of agreeableness, contrasting it with neuroticism and extroversion. It highlights the positive and negative aspects associated with different levels of agreeableness, emphasizing the importance of compassion and politeness. The speaker also explores the implications of agreeableness in professional settings, such as salary negotiations and leadership roles, and notes the gender differences in this trait.
Takeaways
- 😐 Agreeableness is a complex personality dimension often confused with neuroticism and extroversion due to its association with being easy or hard to get along with.
- 🤔 The trait of agreeableness is divided into two aspects: compassion and politeness, which are generally perceived as positive but can have negative counterparts.
- 📊 Agreeableness is normally distributed, with positive and negative features at every point on the distribution, challenging the notion of one trait being universally better than another.
- 📝 The Big Five personality test includes questions to gauge agreeableness, such as interest in others' problems and willingness to take advantage of others.
- 👥 Women tend to be more agreeable than men, with significant differences at the extremes of the distribution, affecting societal outcomes like prison rates.
- 💼 Being agreeable can be advantageous in team settings and in giving credit to others, but it may come at the cost of not effectively advocating for one's own interests.
- 💰 Agreeableness is negatively correlated with salary over time, suggesting that those who are less agreeable may be more successful in negotiating higher pay.
- 💁♀️ Women may be particularly affected by the downsides of high agreeableness, including lower pay and underestimation of their own value in business settings.
- 🤝 High agreeableness can lead to conflict avoidance and a desire to be liked, which can be a double-edged sword in positions of authority.
- 🔄 The balance between being agreeable and disagreeable is crucial for successful negotiation and career advancement.
- 🧐 Self-perception, especially for those high in negative emotion, can impact negotiation outcomes, with agreeable individuals potentially undervaluing their contributions.
Q & A
What is the personality dimension discussed in the script?
-The personality dimension discussed in the script is 'agreeableness'.
Why is agreeableness considered a difficult personality dimension to understand?
-Agreeableness is considered difficult to understand because it is hard to dissociate from neuroticism and extroversion, and both agreeable and disagreeable traits can manifest in behaviors that may seem similar to those traits.
What are the two main aspects of agreeableness mentioned in the script?
-The two main aspects of agreeableness mentioned are compassion and politeness.
How does the script suggest that agreeableness is related to neuroticism?
-The script suggests that when emotions flare in contentious issues, it usually has more to do with trait neuroticism than with disagreeableness per se.
What does the script imply about the distribution of agreeableness traits?
-The script implies that agreeableness traits are normally distributed, with both positive and negative features at every point on the distribution.
What is the average difference in agreeableness between men and women according to the script?
-Women are more agreeable than men by about half a standard deviation.
How does the script relate agreeableness to salary and career progression?
-The script suggests that being agreeable can negatively predict salary over time, as agreeable people may not be as effective at putting forward their own interests, which can impact their earning potential and career advancement.
What is the potential downside of being agreeable in a business setting according to the script?
-The potential downside is that agreeable people may not be as good at advocating for their own interests, which can lead to less opportunity for promotion and revenue generation.
How does the script differentiate between the agreeable and disagreeable ends of the trait distribution?
-The script differentiates by suggesting that agreeable people are more likely to bargain on behalf of others, while disagreeable people are more focused on their own interests.
What is the script's view on the importance of extremes in the distribution of agreeableness?
-The script views the extremes as important because they often matter more than what's in the middle, with all the most agreeable people being women and all the most disagreeable people being men.
How does the script relate agreeableness to conflict avoidance?
-The script suggests that agreeable people are conflict avoidant, as they are primarily motivated by maintaining intimate positive relationships.
Outlines
🤔 Understanding Agreeableness and Its Complexity
The first paragraph delves into the intricacies of the personality trait 'agreeableness,' discussing its difficulty to comprehend due to its overlap with neuroticism and extroversion. It highlights agreeableness as a spectrum with both positive and negative aspects, rather than a simple virtue or vice. The paragraph introduces the concept of agreeableness being divided into compassion and politeness, and it emphasizes the importance of recognizing that traits are normally distributed, meaning every point on the spectrum has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. It also touches on the gender differences in agreeableness, noting that women are generally more agreeable than men, and this difference is particularly pronounced at the extremes of the distribution.
💼 The Impact of Agreeableness on Professional Life
The second paragraph explores the implications of agreeableness in professional settings, particularly in terms of salary and career progression. It suggests that agreeable individuals, who are often good team players and give credit to others, may struggle to assert their own interests, which can negatively affect their salary over time. The paragraph also discusses the tendency of agreeable people to avoid conflict and the challenges this presents in negotiations and leadership roles. Furthermore, it points out that women, who are generally more agreeable, may underestimate their own value in business due to a higher inclination towards negative emotions, which can impact their success in negotiations and promotions.
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Keywords
💡Agreeableness
💡Conscientiousness
💡Neuroticism
💡Extroversion
💡Trait Normal Distribution
💡Compassion
💡Politeness
💡Disagreeableness
💡Gender Differences
💡Negotiation
💡Responsibility
Highlights
Agreeableness is a complex personality dimension difficult to understand, often confused with neuroticism and extroversion.
Agreeable people are likable, but this trait is not synonymous with extroversion or emotional stability.
Disagreeable people can be perceived as hard to get along with, similar to those high in neuroticism, but for different reasons.
Agreeableness is characterized by two main aspects: compassion and politeness.
The trait of agreeableness is normally distributed, with both positive and negative features at every point on the scale.
Agreeableness is associated with a range of questions from the Big Five personality test, providing insight into an individual's tendencies.
Being interested in other people's problems is a sign of compassion, a facet of agreeableness.
Agreeableness is not merely a virtue; it has trade-offs, and being disagreeable is not entirely negative.
Women, on average, score higher in agreeableness than men, with significant implications for societal roles and expectations.
Extremes of agreeableness and disagreeableness are more pronounced and impactful than the average levels.
Low agreeableness is a strong predictor of criminal behavior, with a higher prevalence among men in prison.
The concept of agreeableness can be understood through the lens of trading games, where one's bargaining strategy reflects their level of agreeableness.
Agreeable individuals may struggle to assert their interests, which can negatively impact their salary and career progression.
Women's higher agreeableness may contribute to the gender pay gap and underestimation of their own value in business settings.
Agreeable people's desire to be liked can make them conflict avoidant, which may affect their performance in positions of authority.
Striking a balance between agreeableness and assertiveness is crucial for effective negotiation and career advancement.
The transcript emphasizes the importance of understanding the nuances of agreeableness for personal development and societal interactions.
Transcripts
agreeableness conscientiousness and
openness we're going to talk about
agreeableness today agreeableness is a
very difficult personality Dimension to
understand I think partly because it's
difficult to dissociate from neuroticism
and and as well from
extroversion because agreeable people
like you and so that kind of sounds like
extroversion and disagreeable people
sound like they're hard to get along
with and they sort of are but people who
are high in neuroticism are hard to get
along with too and they tend to be
volatile and irritable and so most of
the time if you're engaged in a
contentious issue with someone and
emotions flare it usually has more to do
with trait neuroticism than with
disagreeableness per se so what I'm
going to do is try to describe to you
what the agreeable trait is on both of
its dimensions and also to lay out the
pros and cons of existence on that
normal distribution trait normal
distribution at more or less every point
because I think my the way I look at it
anyways is that of all the traits
agreeableness is the one that seems to
come with the most marked positive and
negative aspects features let's say so
we don't confuse it with aspects the
most positive and negative features at
each point on the distribution it's a
very complex seems to be a very very
complex Dimension so I'll read you some
of the questions from the big five
aspect scale and that'll give you kind
of a initial uh rule of thumb estimate
about whether or not you're agreeable or
disagreeable and so here here are some
of the questions U imagine that you're
answering these for yourself on a scale
from 1 to five strongly disagree to
strongly agree so the first question
is am not interested in other people's
problems so if you are interested in
other people's problems that tilts you
towards agreeableness and I believe
that's a agreeableness is divided into
compassion and politeness which also
sound like very positive things right
because everyone wants to be
compassionate and everyone wants to be
polite and so you might say well is is
that a virtue are those virtues with the
other end being actually negative to be
not compassionate not polite it's
certainly worded that way and that's
actually a mistake because we know that
these traits are normally distributed
roughly speaking right and that that
means that there has to be positive and
and negative features at every single
position on the distribution and so to
make the make the presupposition for
example that being extroverted is being
better than being introverted or that
being emotionally stable is necessarily
better than being neurotic is to make a
a kind of a Kind a confusion of of moral
uh what obligation with trait with with
trait position you have to assume that
there's advantages and disadvantage all
all the way along or or the distribution
wouldn't have set itself up that way
especially because these seems seem to
be biologically instantiated traits so
anyways um if you're interested in other
people's problems they like to unburden
themselves to you you care about it
that's a mark of compassion if you're
more or less indifferent to other
people's stupid problems and you wish
they just get on with it uh then you're
less compassionate you're harsher and
and more and more um well at the Extreme
More
kous ah let's
see respect authority that's politeness
that's part of
agreeableness
um rarely let's see
where feel others emotions
compassion inquire about others
well-being
compassion can't be bothered with others
needs take advantage of others that's
disagreeable
obviously sympathize with others
feelings avoid void imposing my will on
others wait for others to lead the way
okay I think I I think all of those were
associated with trait agreeableness or
disagreeableness so let's let's think
about this for a minute so I'm going to
tell you how I conceptualize
agreeableness the first thing you want
to know is that women are more agreeable
than men about half a standard deviation
and that's approximately enough so that
if you took a random male and a random
female out of the population and you
tried to guess who was more agreeable
and you guessed the female you'd be
right about 60% of the time so and but
what what what's interesting about that
and this is something also to keep in
mind is about normal distributions you
know so imagine you have a normal
distribution so that most people are in
the middle and then you have another
normal distribution male and female and
mostly they overlap but you see out here
and out here they don't overlap at all
and so even though on average men and
women don't just don't aren't that much
different in terms of their levels of
agreeable by the group if you go out and
you look at the extremes they're very
different so all of the most agreeable
people are women and all of the most
disagreeable people are men and the
thing is the extremes are often what
matter rather than what's in the middle
and so one of the ways that's reflected
in in society by the way is there's way
more men in prison and the best
personality predictor of being impr
prisoned is to be low and agreeableness
it makes you callous now you might think
well what's the opposite of compassion
and politeness and the answer to that is
I think it's best sort of conceptualized
as a as a trading game so let's say that
we're going to play repeated trading
games and if you're very agreeable then
you're going to bargain harder on my
behalf than you're going to bargain on
your own behalf whereas if you're very
disagreeable you're going to do the
reverse you're going to think I'm in
this trading game for me and you are
going to take care of your own interests
where an agreeable person is going to
say no no at best this is at at worst
this has to be 50/50 but I'd like to
help you every way I can okay now the qu
okay so you kind of you kind of
understand that now the advantage to
being agreeable then is that you're good
in teams and you're very much likely to
give other people credit the bad the
downside of being agreeable is that
you're not very good at putting forward
your own interests and so one of the
things that predicts salary across time
for example is agreeable to us and it
predicts it negatively and so it's part
of the reason why women get paid less
than men and this is something for the
women in the class to really listen to
because you how you get paid across time
depends on a very large number of things
right it depends on your skills and your
abilities and your position and your
social network and all of that but the
other thing it depends on is whether or
not you actually go ask for money or
maybe that you don't even ask because
actually you don't ask for money you
tell people that you need to be paid
more or something they don't like will
happen and I don't mean as a threat I
mean that you have to be willing when
you're negotiating to have an
alternative you go talk to your boss who
isn't going to give you money because
everyone wants money right it's a
competitive game you're going to have to
be you're going to have to go there and
say look here's what I do here's why
it's useful here's why you have to give
me more money and this is my
opportunities if you don't and then
you're not taking your boss's money
anyways because it's very s very
frequently the case that he's working
for a whopping big company but he needs
an excuse to give you money because
everyone's asking for money all the time
and so you have to put your case forward
powerfully and disagreeably now you
don't want to do it too disagreeably
because then he's going to think that
you're a son of a and maybe he's
not going to give you anything and maybe
you'll get fired for being mouthy and
all of that and that certainly happens
to people who are too disagreeable you
got to get the balance right but it's
definitely the case and the other thing
that happens to women that's also worth
noting and this is probably because
they're higher in negative emotion is
they tend to underestimate their own
utility in business settings right
because if you're trying to evaluate
what you're like and you're more tilted
towards negative emotion then the things
that you do that are wrong are going to
stand out more more on the foreground
than the things that you do that are
right so if you go into a negotiation
and you're uncertain already because you
have self-doubts and then you're
agreeable in the negotiation what's
going to happen is that you're not going
to win as often and winning in in a
business setting or in a career
development setting means more
opportunity for promotion and more
revenue generated now the downside of
that of course is as you climb the
business hierarchy is that you also have
to take on more responsibility and that
responsibility is sometimes unpleasant
as well especially to people who are
agreeable because you're not necessarily
liked if you're in a position of
authority and agreeable people really
like to be liked it's their primary
motiv motivator because they're
concerned about the maintenance I would
say of of of of intimate positive
relationships that also makes them
conflict
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