How to get her to think about you nonstop

Summary

The video transcript discusses dating strategies and the complexities of attracting a partner. It features a debate over the advice given by a popular YouTuber, who suggests that men should not validate women's egos but rather challenge them, a concept likened to hunting a gazelle by learning from a lion. The conversation explores the role of social media in shaping self-esteem and attractiveness, the potential pitfalls of playing 'mind games' in dating, and the importance of straightforward communication. The participants express differing opinions on the effectiveness of these tactics, with some advocating for genuine interest and respect over manipulative approaches.

Takeaways

• 😀 The video script discusses the idea that to understand how to attract someone, one should seek advice from those who are successful in that area, not the object of desire itself.
• 🤔 The phrase 'if you want to learn how to catch a gazelle, don't ask a gazelle, ask a lion' is mentioned, suggesting that one should learn from the successful pursuer, not the pursued.
• 🧐 The script implies that societal norms and social media influence perceptions of attractiveness and self-worth, particularly for women.
• 🚫 It is suggested that men should not 'destroy' a woman's ego to attract her, but rather show genuine interest and kindness.
• 💬 The discussion points out that both men and women can play games in dating, and that it's not exclusive to one gender.
• 🤷‍♂️ The script questions the validity of certain dating advice, particularly from those who may have been hurt in the past and are projecting their experiences onto others.
• 👥 It mentions that women have more options in dating due to societal perceptions and that this can lead to inflated self-worth.
• 👍 The importance of being a gentleman and showing kindness stands out as a way to attract a partner, as it is less common in today's society.
• 🙅‍♀️ The script criticizes the idea of 'pullback methods' and playing games in dating, as it can lead to emotional distress and a lack of trust.
• 🤗 It emphasizes that genuine interest, investment, and communication are more effective in building a relationship than manipulation or ego stroking.
• 🤔 The conversation suggests that understanding and respecting individual differences in dating is crucial, as there is no one-size-fits-all approach to attracting a partner.

Q & A

What is the main theme of the video transcript?

The main theme of the video transcript revolves around the concept of dating dynamics, particularly focusing on the idea that men should not seek advice from women on how to attract women, but rather learn from those who are successful in attracting them.

What does the phrase 'If you want to learn how to catch a gazelle, don't ask a gazelle, ask a lion' imply in the context of the video?

The phrase suggests that one should seek advice from those who are successful in a particular area rather than those who are the subject of the area. In the context of dating, it implies that men should learn from men who are successful with women, not from the women themselves.

What does the speaker believe about women's options in the dating market?

The speaker believes that women have more options in the dating market than men do, which can lead to a sense of entitlement and higher expectations in terms of the partners they choose.

What is the speaker's opinion on the idea of 'destroying a woman's ego' to attract her?

The speaker disagrees with the idea of 'destroying a woman's ego' as a method to attract her. They believe that it's not about bringing someone down, but rather about showing genuine interest and being a good person.

How does the speaker view the role of social media in shaping women's self-esteem and dating expectations?

The speaker acknowledges that social media plays a significant role in shaping women's self-esteem and dating expectations, as it often leads to an inflated sense of self-worth based on likes and attention from others.

What does the speaker think about the advice given by popular YouTubers on dating strategies?

The speaker is critical of the advice given by some YouTubers, suggesting that it may be based on personal experiences or biases rather than universally applicable strategies, and may not always be in the best interest of building healthy relationships.

What is the speaker's stance on the idea that 'nice guys finish last'?

The speaker believes that being a nice guy does not necessarily mean one will finish last in dating. It depends on the individual and the context, suggesting that kindness and genuine connection are important.

What advice does the speaker give regarding not telling a girl who she can and cannot talk to during the dating stage?

The speaker advises against controlling who a girl can talk to during the dating stage, emphasizing that she is not yet exclusive to anyone and has the freedom to interact with others.

How does the speaker view the concept of playing mind games in dating?

The speaker views playing mind games in dating as unnecessary and potentially harmful, advocating for straightforward communication and genuine interest instead.

What does the speaker believe is the best approach for a man to attract a woman?

The speaker believes that the best approach for a man to attract a woman is to be kind, genuine, and a gentleman, as these qualities stand out and are less common in today's society.

What is the speaker's opinion on the effectiveness of the advice given in popular dating videos?

The speaker questions the effectiveness of the advice given in popular dating videos, suggesting that it may not resonate with everyone and may be based on the creators' personal experiences rather than proven strategies.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 Philosophical Dating Advice

The first paragraph discusses a popular YouTuber's perspective on dating, suggesting that men should not seek advice from women on how to attract them, likening it to asking a gazelle about hunting tactics. The speaker questions the idea of 'destroying her ego' to attract a woman, pointing out societal norms that may give women more perceived dating options. The discussion also touches on the impact of social media on self-esteem and the superficiality of validation through likes and comments. The speaker advocates for genuine interest and respect over manipulative tactics.

05:01

💬 The Art of Complimenting Without Feeding Ego

The second paragraph delves into the art of complimenting and showing interest in someone without inflating their ego. It explores the idea that men and women both seek validation through physical appearance on platforms like Instagram. The conversation highlights the importance of being genuine and not overly flattering. It also addresses the broader topic of how to attract a partner, suggesting that being kind and a gentleman stands out in today's society. The paragraph criticizes manipulative dating strategies, such as the 'pullback method,' and emphasizes the need for straightforward communication.

10:03

🚫 Avoiding Common Dating Mistakes

In the third paragraph, the focus shifts to common dating mistakes men should avoid, such as trying to control who a woman talks to or assuming she is exclusive to them during the dating phase. It emphasizes the importance of understanding that women, like men, will talk to multiple people and that this doesn't necessarily reflect on their interest in a potential partner. The paragraph critiques the idea of playing mind games and suggests that maturity and genuine interest are more attractive than manipulative tactics. It concludes with the notion that asking a girl directly about what they look for in a partner can provide more authentic dating advice than following the advice of those who have been hurt by relationships.

Keywords

💡Gazelle

A gazelle is a type of antelope known for its speed and grace. In the context of the video, it is used metaphorically in the phrase 'if you want to learn how to catch a gazelle, don't ask a gazelle, ask a lion,' suggesting that to understand how to attract someone, one should seek advice from those who are successful in that area rather than the object of desire itself.

💡Ego

Ego, in this video, refers to an individual's sense of self-importance. The script discusses the idea that women's egos are often inflated due to societal validation and that men should not contribute to this by excessively complimenting or 'stroking' their egos, as it may lead to unrealistic expectations or entitlement.

💡Validation

Validation in the video script is the act of affirming or approving someone's worth or actions, often through social media likes or comments. It is suggested that women receive a lot of validation, which may affect their perception of themselves and their interactions with men.

💡Sexual Market Value

Sexual Market Value (SMV) is a concept used in the video to describe an individual's perceived attractiveness or desirability in the dating market. It is mentioned to highlight the perceived imbalance in options between men and women, with the suggestion that women with lower SMV may still expect the attention of those with higher SMV.

💡Insecurity

Insecurity is a feeling of vulnerability or doubt in one's own worth or abilities. The script implies that men who feel insecure or have had their ego negatively affected by women may resort to tactics such as 'destroying her ego' as a way to cope with their insecurities.

💡Instagram

Instagram is a social media platform that is referenced in the video to illustrate how women receive validation through likes and comments on their posts, especially those that are physically revealing. It is used as an example of how social media can influence self-perception and validation-seeking behavior.

💡Compliment

A compliment is a positive statement expressing praise or admiration. The video discusses the idea that men should be cautious with compliments to avoid feeding into a woman's ego or contributing to her sense of entitlement.

💡Mental Game

Mental game refers to the psychological tactics or strategies used in dating to influence or manipulate another person's emotions or actions. The video suggests that men should not fall for 'ego stroking' or other mental games that women might play during the dating process.

💡Entitlement

Entitlement in the video is the belief that one inherently deserves certain privileges or treatment. It is linked to the idea that women, due to societal and social media validation, may develop a sense of entitlement to the attention or affection of men.

💡Nice Guys

The term 'nice guys' is used in the video to refer to men who are kind and gentlemanly, suggesting that they may not always be successful in dating due to the perception that they lack challenge or excitement. The video questions whether nice guys 'win' or are at a disadvantage in the dating scene.

💡Manipulation

Manipulation is the act of influencing someone to act in a way that benefits the manipulator. The video criticizes certain dating tactics, such as the 'pullback method,' as forms of manipulation that can cause emotional distress and is not a healthy approach to building relationships.

Highlights

If guys really want to know how to get a girl, they should ask a girl.

The concept of asking a lion how to catch a gazelle instead of asking a gazelle is discussed.

A woman is always going to have more options than men in today's society.

A woman's self-entitlement on the sexual market value scale is explored.

Destroying a woman's ego is suggested as a tactic.

The disagreement on the idea of destroying someone's ego as a strategy.

Discussion about whether men or women get their egos stroked more.

The effect of Instagram likes and validation on women's self-esteem.

The concept of using non-sexual attention to validate women.

Different perspectives on how to show interest without destroying someone's ego.

The idea that playing hard to get might make someone more interested.

Debate on whether nice guys finish last or can win in dating.

The rule that men should not tell women who they can or can't talk to while dating.

Discussion on whether women talk to multiple men during the dating stage.

The idea that dating is made too complicated with too many rules.

Whether being mysterious and giving short answers can make a woman more interested.

Discussion on whether playing games and creating emotional roller coasters is effective in dating.

The importance of being kind and a gentleman as a strategy for attracting women.

Different approaches to getting a girl's attention and making her chase you.

The impact of social media and public image on dating and attraction.

The idea that men and women both play games in dating.

How a guy treating a woman differently from others might make her more interested.

The concept of 'ghosting' and its effects on women.

The effectiveness of creating a sense of mystery and desire.

The idea that maturity and straightforwardness are more attractive than playing games.

The importance of being invested and showing interest in dating.

Comparison of dating advice from hurt or insecure men versus directly asking women.

Transcripts

i think if guys really want to know the

answer to why

or to how to get a girl or whatever ask

a girl

what do you think about the concept of

if you want to learn how to catch a

gazelle

don't ask a gazelle ask a lion do you

what do you think about that phrase

so this is my one of my favorite

youtubers steph is cole super funny i

think he says a lot of real stuff

you know some of his stuff everyone

might not agree with it he's not the

end-all be-all

word i wish to follow but i would be

curious to see what you guys think of

this so

so this is what we're going to talk

about today you have to

destroy her ego

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you know in this society that we live in

today one thing you got to understand

is a woman is always going to have way

more options than you it's going to have

a thousand

a billion more options to you because a

five

or four on the sexual market value

scale is entitled in her brain

that she deserves a 9 or a 10. i just

think that

honestly it's guys who are insecure or

whose ego's been

messed with a little bit by a girl who

say this type of stuff

just saying so what did you disagree

with that he said

i think the fact that saying that girls

deserve this and that what girl wants to

say yeah

i'm gonna go for a guy who's a four when

someone's genuinely a good

guy i know that sounds really cheesy but

that brings them up a lot higher i don't

think anyone should destroy anyone's ego

i think obviously he's been hurt by some

girl and is

getting better do you think it's fair to

say that women get their ego stroked a

lot

i don't it just it depends i think men's

ego gets struck a lot as well

you think men get their ego stroked as

much as women

depends on what you're talking about

appearance instagram okay appearance but

girls are that that's that's how it is

though it depends on what field you're

talking about there's a deep diverse

inside of her soul because when she

posts a picture and her cleavage is

showing

even if she's out of shape and she's fat

she's still going to get over 300 likes

quick question because a girl is a

certain weight does that mean that she

shouldn't be getting that amount of

likes

is there a definition of beauty well

that's true

i think uh a lot of people do like women

who are

not overweight but there's plenty of

people who do like overweight people

he's saying

even if they are overweight doesn't

matter they're still getting a lot of

juice

what's funny is that it's usually the

men that are liking this and it's a man

that is making this video so

how is his point valid he's saying he

doesn't he doesn't believe

in validating the women the same way a

lot of other men do

you get a little ego boost you know what

i'm saying

she's entitled to that type of guy

because she doesn't get just one of

those guys she gets 10 of those guys a

day

you know dm's are in our likes and if

the guy's liking the picture nine times

out of ten he won't hit that

like in a woman's picture is validation

is ego esteem boost telling the woman oh

my

that is her you letting her know that

use me for my non-sexual attention

please you have to never validate her

or validate her little to none like he's

kind of like assuming

yeah or like he just got hurt in some

type of way yeah like one girl

and he's like targeting her like every

girl and this is

opposed to guys who are trying to get

girls this isn't

video for girls obviously it's for guys

who are trying to get i guess more girls

or just have a better

relationship or trying to get women as i

think is the whole point of these do you

think that's not the right way to go

about it is destroying her ego

no no so what is the right way well tell

me another way that you would

show interest in someone that while

you're destroying their ego

while you're bringing them down how can

you make them feel good um i think the

whole

name of the game is what he's saying is

these girls constantly get their ego

boosted with instagram and all these

attractive guys dm in them and liking

their pictures and it makes them

makes these girls feel i'm beautiful i'm

pretty yeah this is the type of guy i

need i need some big ballers

so then when i come and say y'all y'all

you're not special

it makes the girl go yes i am and it

makes them the girl

want to prove themselves to the guy or

the girl because he's not treating me

like every other guy treats me i need to

win him over i like this guy now yeah i

know me personally if a guy is gonna

bring me down

i don't feel more fire to impress him

and that goes both ways i don't think

girls should do that either so you think

even if you're not like that do you

think other girls are

i think that doesn't matter i think

obviously in this day and age

social media and your public image is

a much more of a thing whether you like

it or not um but people have the choice

to put themselves out there and do what

they want to do

i don't think the way to go about it is

to bring someone down just because

otherwise i'm bringing down just because

other men like the look of this girl

i think it just shows that this is a

beautiful woman and you might need to

find more ways other than just

speaking certain words to compliment her

to win her over

and not bring her down just not

complimenting her not feeding into the

compliment train so i guess i think i

you can still show interest as a guy and

say good things about a girl without i

guess being overly overly complimented

do you think that's fair

or what is the best way to for a guy

who's struggling with

trying to find girls or trying to get

with a girl whatever what's the best way

to

win over a girl do you think that

there's a advice that guys should take

like this is how you get a female's

attention this is how you want to get a

female to chase you

kind of along with the question i can

repeat it if you need me too

i think guys tend to lust after girls a

lot for how they look and i think that's

just honestly part of

the science of humans that's i mean

if you look in animals like certain

animals will look a certain way put

themselves out a certain way to look

healthy

to look like this certain thing to

attract people so

i think that's what everyone naturally

wants is to look

healthy to look clean whatever to

attract

certain people i'm not saying that

everyone has to but i don't think that's

an

abnormal thing or something that

shouldn't be happening and also i feel

like

a lot of girls feel confident on

instagram but

like they could be the most insecure

girl how how do guys in today's

society get a girl to chase them that's

a very broad question

i mean girls are different i guess set

themselves up to be for me i think it's

just being kind and being a gentleman

because that's not very common nowadays

yeah that's what stands out to me but

yeah girls are different i think that's

cool so this one is called

why nice guys don't win and i think this

is brushes on

what you were talking about do you guys

think nice guys win no we're the same

and

oh nice guys finished last do you think

so

um depends on the girl and yeah where

they're at in life

yeah sure would a nice guy win with you

guys yes

never ever do these things while you're

in the dating stairs with a female we'll

give you three things you should never

you must be very educated because a lot

of guys don't get it

a lot of guys that don't hunt it's steph

is cold who is he he's

so the first thing the very first thing

right never

ever tell her who she can

and can't talk to when you guys are

dating

world number one she's not yours that's

not your girl that's not your wife you

are not exclusive

okay rule number two she's not going to

stop

talking to other guys when you guys are

dating because that's what she's

supposed to do

she's supposed to talk to other guys

she's supposed to entertain other guys

not in front of your face not being

disrespectful in front of you but

overall

fellas she is going to talk to other

guys so this is in the uh

talking and talking like aren't guys

also

entertaining other girls too well we're

talking this is specifically talking

about

girls entertaining so is that true that

girls entertain

a whole plethora of guys during a

talking stage if you're talking about i

mean you can't

girls are all different you can't you

can't really do that i think

are they able to if you guys are not

held down and

you're just hanging out do y'all tend to

talk to multiple people at once until

you kind of have one that you like

solidify or

no it's too much work for me yeah you're

never the only guy that she's talking to

in the dating stage but what do women do

remember to play mind games with you to

make it seem like you're the only one

and when you feel like you're only one

your ego is being stroked

that's all it is it's the ego stroking

tactic that you cannot let her get to

you

mentally game is all mental it's not

physicality if

here is not right you will not succeed

bruh i think he's making

dating like this huge game like it's

actually really complicated he's doing

way too many rules

like can we just like say what's up

straightforward and go from there in

each particular instance

does mj get right how to get her to

think about you non-stop quick

disclaimer if you haven't killed joe

bader and if you got a problem with

manipulating women this ain't for you

she wants to get to know more about you

she's like

well i want to know i want to figure out

more things about him she's asking these

questions you're putting them off or

you're

you know you're you're short answering

them that type of sh

and on top of that she's seeing you with

other women that actually causes her to

go on an

emotional roller coaster do not feel bad

about that because secretly all women

crave that

is that true a guy being mysterious

giving

shorter text messages not really giving

you a whole lot to work with

no i don't entertain that if you seem

like you're bored with me

then i'm gonna get bored with you i need

to feel like someone's invested

what about like the pullback method he

was talking about earlier where all

right you get the girl

attached to you and then ghost her i

feel like that creates

trauma yeah for all these girls like

yeah

all these issues with guys that's why

girls don't want to do stuff with guys

those guys just always want to play

games

so you think only guys wasn't playing

the games i didn't say that

okay i think girls play games too not

all of them some

do you don't see a goofy side of you she

sees

a nice masculine frame from you not evil

not

mad not angry a nice cool calm collected

frame and she sees

sexual desire that's what she has to see

around you

every single time so that's why you

flake

that's why you do all this stuff that

gives them okay

what is he doing instead of he must have

other person he must be with other girls

the guy you like now he's hanging other

girls

he's not texting back and you're

thinking what's he doing what

is that how gonna make you desire them

no

no no no no no no it just shows lack of

interest yeah and then it's like okay

so any guys that you've dated in the

past or anything they're bet they've

been more like i guess you could say

gentlemanly and didn't

uh do any pullback methods or any sort

of mysterious

i'd say so you're saying with you or not

um like the guy oh you don't know what

he's doing

oh where is he he's not hitting me back

why is he

that's just immaturity i feel like men

don't do that

and i don't look for boys it just hit me

i tried to look for maturity and like a

man that sums it up

that was it yeah you're two favorite

guys mj get right and

you know they're annoying i like putting

the batman who'd you like better stuff

is cold or nj

so the end-all be-all best way to get a

girl to like you

you know what my whole thing is how can

guys answer that question i think if

guys really want to know the answer to

why

or to how to get a girl or whatever ask

a girl

yeah because the girl's gonna tell you

straight up how to get uh

like they're gonna tell you what they're

looking for it's all these hurt

like bothered guys that have been broken

by girls

that are making these videos what do you

think about the concept

of if you want to learn how to catch a

gazelle don't ask a gazelle ask a lion

do you what do you think about that

phrase

i think that has nothing to do with

dating i think that has to do with

hunting and killing someone

so like if i there's a guy who gets a

lot of girls

and then there's a beautiful girl you

think the girl will give better advice

for how to get girls than the guy would

i think maybe you should just read your

woman's brain book and

maybe you'll figure it out well no that

was the quest i mean the other

what do you think about that i can't

answer these questions any longer

like you seem to think one way and

that's and that's fine

but good luck finding a girl who will

agree with that hey yo what the [ __ ]

yeah i don't i don't think it's very

common these videos are very popular

how do you think they do with women with

all these tests why do we put so much

effort into doing that i know you don't

think they

hurt yeah listen yeah let me repeat