How To Pursue Women Who Have High Interest

Summary

In this video, the speaker addresses the delicate balance between pursuing a woman too much or too little, emphasizing that both extremes can lead to losing attraction. He discusses how women’s attraction can be influenced by ‘feminized’ dating norms and how some women, not following these norms, may appreciate more direct or consistent pursuit. The key is to gauge when to initiate contact without overdoing it and maintain a sense of mystery while respecting her desire for communication. The speaker also advises making bold statements and avoiding excessive validation to avoid losing attraction.

Takeaways

• 😀 Women can be turned off by both over-pursuing and under-pursuing them. Striking the right balance is key.
• 😀 There is a small percentage of women (about 5%) who haven't been influenced by modern feminist perspectives and still follow traditional dating dynamics.
• 😀 Giving a woman your number (even if she doesn't take yours) can prevent misunderstandings about delayed responses and helps set clear expectations.
• 😀 If a woman reaches out to you first, it indicates either high attraction or that she hasn't been feminized by modern dating expectations.
• 😀 If a woman has high attraction or hasn't been feminized, prioritize her and set up a date quickly to avoid losing her interest.
• 😀 Avoid excessive pursuit if the woman is overly feminized and expects you to do all the work. Balance is necessary to keep attraction high.
• 😀 When a woman complains about you not initiating contact, it's okay to pursue her a bit more, but don’t start blowing up her phone.
• 😀 It's important to make statements (not questions) when texting to avoid coming off as overly eager or needy.
• 😀 If a woman texts you first but starts complaining about delayed responses, it's a sign that she's becoming needy, and you should pull back.
• 😀 Keep phone calls short and schedule them in advance so she is the one pursuing you, while still maintaining a bit of communication to keep the attraction alive.
• 😀 Don’t be available all the time. If you respond to texts immediately, you risk lowering her attraction because she’ll see you as too available and needy.

Q & A

What is the main difference between over-pursuing and under-pursuing a woman in dating?

Over-pursuing is when a man shows too much interest too quickly, which can turn a woman off. Under-pursuing, on the other hand, happens when a man doesn't show enough interest or makes minimal effort, which can also lead to losing her attraction.

What does the term 'feminized' refer to in the context of dating?

'Feminized' refers to the societal influences that shape women's expectations in dating, often encouraging them to be passive and expect men to do all the pursuing. The script suggests that most women are feminized, but a small percentage are not influenced by these norms.

How can you tell if a woman hasn't been feminized?

A woman who hasn't been feminized may initiate contact with you or show interest by reaching out first. This indicates either high attraction or that she's not adhering to the societal rules of passive behavior in dating.

Why is it important to give a woman your number, even if she doesn't take yours?

Giving a woman your number, even if she doesn't take yours, shows confidence and positions you as someone on a purpose. It also gives her the opportunity to contact you if she chooses to, without you appearing overly eager or pursuing too much.

What should you do if a woman complains about you not calling enough?

If a woman complains about you not calling enough, it's okay to initiate contact, but do so in a controlled manner. Avoid overdoing it—send a simple message like 'Good morning, hope you have a productive day.' Wait a few hours before responding to avoid appearing too available.

How can you avoid coming across as needy when pursuing a woman?

To avoid being seen as needy, you should limit your responses and avoid constantly validating her or replying immediately. Giving her space to miss you, while still showing interest, keeps the dynamic balanced and prevents you from appearing desperate for attention.

What is the key difference between a woman wanting more communication and being needy?

A woman who wants more communication might just want to feel connected, but if she starts complaining about delayed responses or demands constant attention, she may become needy. It's important to recognize when her expectations are unrealistic.

How should you handle phone calls with women you're dating?

If a woman asks to talk on the phone, set a specific time and keep the conversation short—no longer than 10 minutes. This shows you're busy and have a purpose, while still respecting her desire to connect. Avoid long, drawn-out phone calls to maintain your independence.

Why is it important to maintain a balance in texting and calling a woman?

A balance in texting and calling is important because if you're too available, it can reduce her attraction. On the other hand, if you're too distant, she may lose interest. You want to stay mysterious and maintain the right level of engagement.

What should you do if a woman initiates contact but complains about how long it takes you to respond?

If a woman initiates contact but complains about your response time, it's a sign she may be becoming needy. In this case, maintain a consistent response time—wait a few hours before replying, and don't feel pressured to respond immediately. This helps keep the attraction intact.