Watch This Before Talking To Another Girl

Summary

This video offers a five-step guide to boost confidence and improve communication with women. It starts by challenging self-perception, using a study and sketch artist to show men are more attractive than they think. The script then covers recognizing signs of a woman's interest, choosing the right facial hair style, and grooming below the belt. Finally, it suggests associating with dogs to appear caring and desensitizing to rejection by approaching multiple women to reduce nervousness, culminating in the ability to confidently talk to any girl.

Takeaways

• 🧠 Rewire your brain: Understand that you are more attractive than you think, based on a study showing people rate themselves 20% less attractive than others rate them.
• 🎨 Perception difference: A sketch artist demonstrates the difference between how a person perceives themselves and how others perceive them, highlighting self-perceived flaws versus actual attractiveness.
• 💡 Indicators of interest: Learn and memorize the 10 subconscious signs that girls display when they find a man attractive to gauge their interest during conversations.
• 🧔 Facial hair matters: Experiments show that the right facial hair style can significantly impact attractiveness, with different styles preferred in different eras.
• 📈 Beard style experiment: A study was conducted to find the most attractive beard style, using dating profiles and swiping to measure matches and preferences.
• 🐾 Caring man appeal: Being seen as a caring man, such as owning a dog, can make flaws seem less significant and increase attractiveness, as shown by a University of Michigan study.
• 📸 Social media presence: Incorporate dogs into social media or dating profiles to appear more caring and attractive, even if it's a borrowed dog or dog-walking service.
• 💇‍♂️ Grooming below the belt: A meta-analysis reveals preferences for grooming styles, with the majority of women preferring a trimmed look for body hair.
• 🛍️ Grooming tools: A good beard trimmer and body hair trimmer are essential for maintaining attractive grooming styles, with a combo deal offered for both.
• 💓 Normalize rejection: To overcome nervousness when talking to girls, repeatedly approach women to desensitize the anxiety response and build confidence.
• 📊 Heart rate monitor: Using a heart rate monitor, the video shows that with practice, the physiological response to rejection diminishes, leading to a more relaxed interaction.

Q & A

What is the main goal of the video?

The main goal of the video is to guide viewers through a five-step process to prepare them to be able to confidently talk to any girl they are interested in.

What does the video claim about how people perceive their own attractiveness compared to how others perceive them?

The video claims that people tend to rate themselves as 20% less attractive than what others rate them, based on a study conducted in Scandinavia.

How does the video demonstrate the difference in self-perception and how others perceive you?

The video uses a sketch artist who draws a person based on their self-description and then draws the same person based on how a girl who just met them describes them, highlighting the discrepancy.

Outlines

00:00

😎 Rewiring Self-Perception for Confidence

The video introduces a five-step process to help men feel confident in talking to women. The first step emphasizes the importance of reprogramming one's self-perception to recognize personal attractiveness. A study from Scandinavia reveals that people tend to rate themselves 20% less attractive than others rate them. The video demonstrates this with a sketch artist who draws a man named Ben based on his self-description and then a woman's description of him after a blind date, showing a stark contrast in perception. This step aims to boost self-confidence by understanding that one is more attractive than they think.

05:02

🔍 Mastering the 10 Indicators of Interest

The second step in the process is learning to identify the '10 Indicators of Interest' that women display when attracted to a man. The video tests these indicators by having Ben interact with five different women during a supposed fragrance test, while the host steps out to observe natural interactions. The results are analyzed to determine which indicators were displayed. The video concludes that if a woman shows three or more of these signs during an interaction, there is a high likelihood that she is genuinely interested, thus equipping men with the knowledge to gauge a woman's interest accurately.

10:04

🧔 The Impact of Facial Hair on Attractiveness

The third step investigates the influence of facial hair on attractiveness. The video conducts an experiment with a man named Zayn, who tries out five different beard styles from different decades to determine which is the most attractive. The experiment uses dating profiles with each beard style as the main picture and tracks the number of matches received. The results show a preference for the full beard style from the 2010s, indicating its popularity among women. The video also promotes a beard trimmer from Manscaped as an essential grooming tool for achieving the desired facial hair style.

🐾 Leveraging Caring Imagery to Overcome Flaws

The fourth step discusses how to make a woman overlook one's flaws by portraying oneself as a caring man. A study from the University of Michigan is cited, which found that women found a man described as a cheater but with a dog more desirable than a kind, hardworking man without a dog. The video suggests three tactics: including dogs in social media, walking dogs in public spaces, and bringing dogs on dates to enhance attractiveness. It emphasizes the importance of caring imagery in making a positive impression on women.

💓 Normalizing Rejection to Reduce Anxiety

The final step focuses on reducing the anxiety associated with approaching women by normalizing rejection. The video demonstrates this by having Ben wear a heart rate monitor and participate in activities that increase his heart rate, such as riding a crowded subway and walking on a high building. After establishing a baseline, Ben approaches women to ask for their numbers, and it's observed that with each approach, his heart rate decreases, indicating reduced nervousness. The video concludes that approaching around 10 women can significantly diminish anxiety and build confidence in talking to any girl.

Keywords

💡Rewire your brain

The term 'rewire your brain' refers to the psychological process of changing one's mindset or perspective. In the context of the video, it is about altering one's self-perception to recognize personal attractiveness. The video uses scientific evidence from a Scandinavian study to support the idea that people tend to rate themselves less attractive than others rate them, which is a concept the video aims to change in its viewers.

💡Indicators of Interest

These are subconscious signals or behaviors that suggest a person finds someone else attractive. The video emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs when interacting with a girl. For instance, the script describes an experiment where a man interacts with women to identify these indicators, which are crucial for understanding if a girl is interested.

💡Facial Hair

Facial hair is a significant aspect of a man's appearance that can influence attractiveness. The video discusses how different beard styles from various decades were tested for attractiveness. It highlights the importance of having the right facial hair style to enhance one's appearance, as demonstrated by the dating profile experiment.

💡Beard Trimmer

A beard trimmer is a grooming tool used to maintain and style facial hair. The video showcases the importance of having a versatile beard trimmer that can achieve different styles, as seen in the experiment with different beard styles from various eras. It is presented as an essential tool for men to look their best.

💡Manscaped

Manscaped is a brand mentioned in the video that specializes in grooming products, particularly for facial and body hair. The term is used to promote the brand's beard trimmer and to emphasize the importance of grooming below the waist, as part of the overall attractiveness and preparation when talking to a girl.

💡Attraction

Attraction in this video refers to the physical and behavioral factors that draw one person towards another. The script discusses how understanding and displaying signs of attraction can increase the chances of being perceived positively by a girl, which is central to the video's theme of successful communication with women.

💡Self-Perception

Self-perception is how an individual views themselves, which can often be skewed compared to how others perceive them. The video uses the concept of self-perception to highlight the discrepancy between how a person sees their flaws and how insignificant those flaws are to others, encouraging viewers to have a more positive self-image.

💡Blind Date

A blind date is a social outing between two people who have not previously met, often arranged by a third party. In the video, a blind date is used as a scenario to test how a woman perceives a man, contrasting her observations with the man's self-perception to demonstrate the difference in attractiveness.

💡Confidence

Confidence is a key aspect of the video's message, emphasizing that having self-assurance can significantly impact how one is perceived by others. The video suggests that by following the steps outlined, including understanding indicators of interest and grooming, a man can approach women with more confidence.

💡Normalization of Rejection

The concept of normalizing rejection is about accepting the possibility of being rejected as a common part of social interactions. The video suggests that by repeatedly exposing oneself to the act of approaching women and facing potential rejection, one can reduce anxiety and become more comfortable in social situations.

💡Heart Rate Monitor

A heart rate monitor is a device used to measure the heart's activity. In the video, it is used as a tool to demonstrate the physiological effects of anxiety when approaching women and how repeated exposure can lead to a decrease in heart rate and increased comfort.

Highlights

A five-step process is introduced to prepare men for conversing with women.

The video aims to demonstrate proven methods for effective communication with women.

A study from Scandinavia reveals people perceive themselves as 20% less attractive than others perceive them.

A sketch artist's demonstration shows the discrepancy between self-perception and how others see you.

Real-time testing with men and women to evaluate communication effectiveness.

The importance of rewiring the brain to understand one's own attractiveness is emphasized.

A meta-analysis from 2020 discusses preferences in male grooming and body hair management.

Different beard styles from various eras are tested for attractiveness through a dating profile experiment.

The full beard style from the 2010s is found to be the most attractive in the dating profile experiment.

The role of facial hair in overall attractiveness and how to manipulate it for better first impressions.

A University of Michigan study shows that caring attributes can overshadow negative traits.

The impact of owning a dog on perceived attractiveness and relationship potential.

Techniques to hide flaws by projecting a caring image to potential romantic interests.

The physiological response to rejection and how to normalize it to reduce anxiety.

A heart rate monitor experiment demonstrates the desensitization to rejection over time.

Approaching around 10 women can significantly reduce nervousness and increase confidence.

Practical applications of the five-step process for men to improve their interactions with women.

Transcripts

if you clicked on this video there's

probably a girl you're interested in

talking to but you're un sure how to do

it good because in today's video I'm

going to walk you through a five-step

process that's going to prepare you to

be able to talk to any girl you come

across now the goal of this video is for

you not to just know how to talk to a

girl I'm going to show you how each step

is proven to help you talk to a girl by

bringing in guys and testing the results

in real time starting with number one

completely rewire your brain you see

before you even go out and talk to a

girl I need you to rewire your brain to

understand you're more attractive than

you think and I'm going to demonstrate

that the way that you see yourself and

the way that your crush sees you it's

completely different using my buddy here

my sketch artist friend you see you are

20% more attractive than you think you

are and no I'm not just saying that to

be a nice guy like I'm your mom that's a

scientific fact it was based in a study

at of Scandinavia conducted on 131 women

and 62 men during the study researchers

asked participants to rate themselves on

a scale from negative 5 to plus 5 then

they had large groups of people assess

each participant's attractiveness what

the finding showed is that participants

ended up rating themselves 20% less

attractive than what other people rated

them that's what you're doing to

yourself so that's why I brought out a

sketch artist we had Ben sit down with a

sketch artist who has not seen what he

looks like then proceeded to answer

questions to describe himself uh what's

your name uh my name is Ben Ben I'm

Brian how old are you just turned 27 27

nice how would you describe your facial

structure is it thin it's uh very wide

cheekbones so if you're at a little bit

higher body fat even just uh you know

let's say 12 13 14% which would be good

for most people because of my face

structure I look like I have chumpy

Cheeks is it something you're insecure

about maybe you're a bit more yeah yeah

I mean if I'm at like a higher body fat

yeah I don't want to be like you know

perceived as having chubby cheeks can

you describe a bit about your nose

probably a little bit wide tip I guess

is uh a little bit what they say like

bulbous it tends to be red and have some

black EDS cuz I have a little bit of

rosacea oh okay uh tell me one

insecurity you have about your your face

if there's something anything you would

want to change yeah yeah I mean

definitely want to continue improving my

skin quality but yeah it's more just

kind of like the redness due to the

rosacea I feel like my pores are kind of

enlarged a lot of people probably just

do not care about this stuff which I

totally get now to show you how powerful

this is I also brought and a girl to go

on a blind date with Ben and they spent

some time before they met up with the

sketch artist then we had the same woman

that met James an hour ago sit down with

the sketch artist and do the exact same

thing that Ben did the sketch artist

asked her questions about how Ben looked

and she would respond so can you tell me

about the guy you just saw yeah

good-looking dude very goodlooking dude

nice jawline very nice eyes nice smile

okay can you describe to me a bit more

about his eyes yeah they had like a very

I want to say like intense look almost

um just like very like strong eyes a

little bit on the smaller side kind of

like dark bluish almost like stormy

would you say it was definitely a

prominent feature of his face or was

there something else probably yeah his

eyes and eyebrows definitely like his

eyes definitely stood out to me and can

you tell me a bit about his nose shape a

little bit on the larger side but not in

a bad way very angular very like nice

nose is it a feature you think that may

have been a bit unattractive in his face

or was it something that kind of gave

him more character probably more

character is definitely very um like he

had nice facial Symmetry and fit his

face well and how would you describe his

skin clear any pimples acne you picked

up on by chance um fair skin but not

like pale like definitely it like gets

outside um not like any like noticeable

acne or anything mhm and I think you

mentioned he had a nice smile can you go

a bit more into detail about that yeah

uh it didn't show any teeth but just it

looked very like warm and biting mhm and

what would you say was the most attract

the future of him definitely his eyes

like that's like instantly like what

kind of uh stood out to me for sure bro

look at the difference between how Ben

perceives himself and how a woman

perceives Ben that's what most of you

are doing to yourselves you guys are

studs man and the reason we're doing

this as men is that our brains have

evolved to pay extra attention to any

threats including threats to our social

status every time you and I feel

insecure about something like a pimple

or a scar our brain reacts strongly to

that threat forcing us to think a lot

about it so this was your initial

description you mentioned a bit about

your nose kind of your hair you had some

I remember you mentioning not like Cay

skin so this was kind of my initial and

then reys the girl was describing you

after uh was a lot more descriptive in

your facial features and kind of

recognized some of the more aesthetic

more attractive qu of these you yeah

yeah no definitely they look pretty

different yeah I guess uh I I emphasize

kind of just my flaws with like my

uneven skin tone and redness and pores

and stuff just cuz that's what I see

when I get like up close in front of the

camera like raw unedited but then uh

yeah I mean the way that people see me

in real life tends to be more more

positive now with just step one I've

already primed your mind to change how

you think about yourself to understand

that you are more attractive but that's

not going to be enough for you to talk

to a girl I need you to follow all the

other five steps I'm going to have laid

out so you can go from feeling great to

doing great with women it stes us to

step number two you will study the 10

indicators of interest you see the 10

indicators of Interest are the things

girls subconsciously do when they find a

man attractive and you need to learn

them before you talk to a girl you like

now one indicator of interest on its own

it doesn't say much but when she does

multiple of them in a single

conversation this is a good sign now to

test these 10 indicators I plays in Ben

in a separate room with five different

women I wanted to see how these women

interacted with Ben all right um hi I'm

Ben Christina hey I'm Ben nice to meet

you Ben nice to meet you now the women

had no idea that we were testing

indicators of Interest instead I placed

five fragrances in front of them and I

had all the women believe that they were

coming in to just do a smell test for

one of my Brands then in the middle of

the smell test while I was interacting

with the girls I would act as if I had

an important phone call give me one

second guys forgot I had a call and I

would step out of the room and I would

leave them in the room room between 15

and 20 minutes actually wait I might be

wrong this might have been the one that

I

hated now yes at times things got

awkward without me being in

there but as time progressed they were

forced to interact leaning Ben's natural

confidence to come out and making it a

perfect opportunity to pick up on any of

these indicators of interest from women

how you like

getting uh not as good as here but

here's where it got even better at the

end of each interaction we would review

the clips and look at how many of the 10

indicators of interest each girl

displayed with Ben so once I would come

back I would tell the girls that the

test was over and they could leave all

right thank you then I would have James

run to catch up to the girl meet her at

the entrance ask for her number what we

found was interesting we found the girls

that displayed the most indicators of

interest from the list that I've already

showed you had the highest chance of

them being actually interested in giving

spend their number awesome it was nice

to meet you great meeting you yeah

seeing another job yeah definitely okay

all right have a good rest of your day

bye what does this mean for you is that

when you learn these 10 indicators of

Interest the next time that you're with

a girl if you see her do three or more

of any of these indicators of interest

you have a 90% chance of her actually

liking you so before you talk to a girl

I want you to study these indicators of

interest you have to memorize them that

way every time you talk to a girl you'll

know exactly if she likes you or not

step three use the right facial hair see

a lot of men believe that going to the

gym and getting big is what makes them

attractive but multiple Studies have

shown that attractiveness all boils down

to the face and the one area you can

manipulate is your facial hair so during

this experiment I wanted to see just how

much beard styles have changed and if

old styles are actually more attractive

than what we have today so I called up

my buddy this dude has a magnificent

beard and is the best guy for this

experiment and I had him try out five

different beard styles from five

different eras this led me to wonder

what is the most attractive facial

hairstyle in the last 100 years so I'm

decided to run an experiment with my boy

Zayn to prepare not only him but you to

be able to have the most attractive

facial hairstyle yet for the 70s decade

the disconnected goe came out for the '

80s we opted for the Chevron style

mustache for the '90s we chose the clean

shaven look for the 2000s we chose the

Five O Shadow and for the 2010s we went

for the full beard now to make each

beard style look perfect I'm only going

to trust my boy Zayn's beard with my own

beard trim which is a manscaped beard

hedger which comes with an adjustable

head that gives you 20 different sizes

giving you ultimate control to be able

to have any beard style you want now to

truly understand which beard style was

best we figured we would create five

different dating profile using each

beard style as the main picture we then

swipe a 100 times on each dating profile

and let it sit for 24 hours zann is

going through several beard

Transformations as we speak and

manscaped beard hedger flowed seamlessly

through each beard style allowing us to

get what we needed for instance

everything from trimming up a full beard

all the way to getting a clean shaven

look a trimmer like this is what every

guy needs in their bathroom I'm going to

be honest with you these results are

incredible all the matches with the

women revealed some interesting results

from previous Trends some of the old

Styles like the clean shaven look from

the 9s they actually rated pretty high

and here are the complete results for

each beer for the 1970s disconnect go we

had matches for the 1980s Chevron style

mustache we had matches for the 1990s

clean shaven look we had matches for the

2000 5:00 shadow look we had matches and

for the 20110 full-on beard look we had

matches meaning this was ultimately the

most attractive beard style look in the

end our experiment is Flawless it's

showing you exactly what you need to do

to look as attractive as possible but to

reach their own what you need is a good

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guys now while we understand that facial

hair is important there's other hair on

your body like the one below your waist

that's equally as important so to make

sure that you're fully prepared we ran

another study with our company manscape

there was a meta analysis done in 2020

to show you one of the most attractive

trim styles for below the belt only 6%

of women preferred some sort of creative

pattern 16% of women preferred zero hair

downstairs 20% of women preferred

everything just natural no shaving but

the remaining 58% of women preferred

some type of trim down look this means

that if you want to look your best

before you talk to a girl you need to

make sure you have the right beard style

and also control the body hair

especially below the waist and I got to

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out step number four you will hide your

flaws with this technique all women want

a caring man it's no secret we all have

flaws but there is one trick you can do

to make a woman Overlook all of your bad

flaws and that is make her believe that

you you are a caring man you see this is

so powerful in a study done in the

University of Michigan they offered 100

women two types of men the first type of

man was described as a cheater who would

always get into fights the second type

of man was described as kind and

hardworking interestingly enough when

both stories were told randomly and

mentioned that one man had a dog the bad

guy that owned a dog was rated as more

desirable and attractive over the good

guy that had no dog so here are three

ways that you're going to use this

finding for yourself first you need to

start adding a dog in your social media

pictures or dating profiles and if you

don't have one ask a buddy to let you

borrow one or go to a shelter second you

will start walking this dog as much as

possible especially to dog parks this

will dramatically increase your chances

of talking to women if you don't have a

friend that has a dog you can even use

dog walking apps where you'll actually

make money for walking somebody else's

dog and third if you finally have a dog

and you're going to take a girl on a

date remember I've always told you take

it to a coffee date make sure that

coffee bar allows pets if you pull up

with some cute dog to a coffee date bro

I promise you you're going to get that

second date but don't stop here yet cuz

this final step step number five will

seal everything you will lower your

heart rate by normalizing rejection when

I was younger I was terrified to talk to

girls and that's because every time you

get close to a girl your heart rate

spikes that's why you get nervous but I

realized this the more you did it the

easier it became so now that I've

prepared you with the four previous

steps this final step will prepare you

to talk to any girl and never get

nervous again to start I brought Ben

back and I strapped him with a heart

rate monitor and then I had him

participate in three activities that

would spike his heart rate just to try

to get a basine I had him ride a crowded

subway car then I had him dance in a

corner of a street and finally the dude

is petrified of heights I made him walk

on the highest building in New York City

let's just say his hary was out the roof

but now we had a Baseline as soon as we

were done with all of that I immediately

asked James to just approach the most

attractive women he could find in the

streets of New York City and then ask

for their number excuse me you know how

to get to the Oculus from

here now unsurprisingly of course his

heart rate spiked but what was the most

surprising thing for me now is that when

he approached his first girl his heart

rate was so elevated that it was equal

to him walking on the tallest building

in New York City while having a fear of

heights do you understand how

mindblowing that is now his heart R

spiked to a level that I didn't think it

was going to be that high so I had him

repeat the process multiple times

interestingly every time we did the test

with Ben the heart rate would spike less

and less by the time we did the final

approaches his heart rate was lower than

when he got into the subway car when it

was all crowded it was so impressive

that by the 10th woman he approached his

heart rate barely changed my dude was no

longer nervous which means that all you

got to do is approach around 10 women to

get rid of that anxiety and get to a

point that you're confident to talk to

any girl now go talk to your crush