WHY WOMEN get TURNED OFF by men who ATTEMPT to ACT VERY MASCULINE in relationships (female nature)

Summary

In this video, the speaker explains how women's interpretation of masculinity differs fundamentally from men's, especially in dating. While men focus on traits like providing, protecting, and leadership, women value emotions and feelings created by these actions. The speaker emphasizes that women are drawn to men who prioritize themselves, act slightly disinterested, and maintain focus on their own future. This self-centered approach leads to attraction because it conveys leadership and direction, contrary to traditional ideas of masculinity that focus on external validation or effort. Ultimately, understanding these differences is key to improving romantic relationships.

Takeaways

• 😀 Women's interpretation of masculinity is centered around emotions and feelings, while men typically view it through logic, purpose, and facts.
• 😀 Men often assume masculinity is about providing, protecting, and leadership, but women focus more on the emotional impact these traits create.
• 😀 Women tend to reward men who prioritize themselves and demonstrate self-centeredness in a healthy way.
• 😀 Women are attracted to men who act slightly disinterested and don't fully reveal their interest level in a relationship.
• 😀 Men who try to lead or control women often face disinterest because the emotional connection feels transactional to the woman.
• 😀 The most attractive men are those who focus on their own future and life for their own sake, not just for a potential partner or family.
• 😀 Men who get caught up in daily, trivial tasks lose attraction from women because it signals a lack of vision and direction in life.
• 😀 Bad boys or players often attract more women because they focus on what they want and live their lives freely, without trying to lead others.
• 😀 When a man leads his own life and focuses on his own goals, women naturally follow his lead without him having to try.
• 😀 The key to lasting attraction is to have a strong sense of self-worth and clear direction, which makes you inherently more attractive to women.

Q & A

What is the primary difference between men's and women's interpretation of masculinity in dating?

Men typically focus on logical aspects like providing, protecting, and leadership when they think about masculinity. Women, however, focus more on the emotional response that masculinity creates for them, and how it makes them feel in the relationship.

Why do men who prioritize providing and protecting often face romantic difficulties?

While men focus on logical traits like providing and protecting, these actions can feel transactional to women. This leads to emotional disconnection, and women may not find these traits compelling in the long run, especially if they feel their emotions are not being prioritized.

What is the significance of 'controlling' behavior in the context of relationships?

'Controlling' behavior, as perceived by women, is not about making rules or demands but about the emotional manipulation that can occur through excessive gifts or acts of kindness meant to secure affection. It often feels like the man is trying to control the emotional dynamic of the relationship.

How do women typically respond to men who prioritize themselves?

Women are more likely to be attracted to men who prioritize their own needs and life first. When a man leads himself and focuses on his own goals and desires, it creates an aura of self-sufficiency, which in turn increases the woman’s desire to follow his lead.

What is the importance of self-centeredness in masculinity according to the script?

Self-centeredness, in this context, means that the man focuses on his own future and goals. This self-prioritization makes him appear as a leader, and women are more likely to be drawn to men who are self-sufficient and independent.

Why do men who are too focused on their partners or everyday life struggle to maintain attraction in their relationships?

When men get caught up in everyday tasks or become overly focused on their partner's needs, they lose their sense of direction and vision for their future. Women are naturally attracted to men who maintain a sense of purpose and leadership in their own lives.

What qualities do women reward in men based on the script?

Women tend to reward men who prioritize themselves, act slightly disinterested, and never fully reveal their level of interest. These men appear to be self-assured and independent, which makes them more attractive.

How does a man’s self-centeredness influence the dynamics of a relationship?

A man’s self-centeredness, when focused on his own life and future, naturally leads to a dynamic where the woman is drawn to follow his lead. This is because he is not trying to force a connection but is instead focused on his own path, which creates a more attractive, leadership-driven relationship.

What is the role of emotional connection in the interpretation of masculinity?

For women, the emotional connection and how masculinity makes them feel are much more important than the logical aspects that men typically focus on. Men often miss this emotional layer and may assume that providing and protecting are the key traits, when in fact, it is the emotional dynamics that truly drive attraction.

Why do 'bad boys' and players often attract more women than traditional, logical men?

Bad boys and players attract women because they act on their own desires and are not focused on leading or controlling the relationship. Their disinterest or unpredictability sparks emotional attraction, which women often find irresistible compared to men who try too hard to lead or provide logically.