How to Date 9s and 10s

Summary

In this video, the speaker shares his journey from social anxiety to dating confidence, emphasizing the importance of improving one's sexual market value (SMV) through various aspects like physical appearance, lifestyle, and social skills. He discusses the differences between men's and women's SMV and stresses the need for a holistic approach to self-improvement. The speaker provides actionable advice on enhancing looks, game, and lifestyle to attract and maintain relationships with higher caliber women.

Takeaways

• 🚹 The speaker emphasizes that men often aspire to be with more attractive women and shares his personal journey from low self-confidence to feeling entitled to date higher caliber women.
• 💪 The importance of improving one's physique is acknowledged, but it's also highlighted that physical fitness alone is not sufficient to attract a 'dream girl'.
• 💰 The speaker clarifies that while money and status matter, they are not the sole determinants of one's sexual market value (SMV); it's the lifestyle they enable that's more significant.
• 🧠 A shift in mindset is necessary for men to improve their dating life, and the speaker outlines the need to develop multiple qualities to enhance one's SMV.
• 👥 For men, SMV is not just about looks but also involves factors like confidence, charisma, and the ability to create attraction and seduction.
• 📈 The speaker shares his own experiences with improving his appearance, including regular grooming, fashion, and fitness routines.
• 🌐 The environment and the lifestyle one leads play a crucial role in meeting and dating higher caliber women.
• 🗣️ 'Game' is highlighted as an essential component of dating success, which includes confidence, charisma, and the ability to create emotional experiences during interactions.
• 🔍 The speaker suggests that men should evaluate their current SMV and work on the areas that need improvement, such as looks, game, and lifestyle.
• 📈 The process of improving one's dating life is incremental and requires consistent effort and daily habits to build character and SMV.
• 🌟 The speaker concludes by encouraging men to work their way up the dating ladder, starting with accepting their current SMV and making a long-term commitment to self-improvement.

Q & A

What was the speaker's situation 10 years ago regarding his dating life?

Ten years ago, the speaker was at rock bottom with his social confidence and dating life. He felt anxious and afraid to approach women he found attractive, believing they were out of his league.

What does the speaker suggest is not enough to attract a 'dream girl'?

The speaker suggests that just having a good physique, or 'hitting the gym', is not enough to attract a 'dream girl'. He emphasizes that multiple qualities need to be developed collectively.

What is the term used to describe one's overall attractiveness in the dating market according to the speaker?

The term used is 'Sexual Market Value' or 'SMV', which refers to the overall attractiveness of an individual in the dating market.

How does the speaker differentiate between a woman's SMV and a man's SMV?

The speaker differentiates by stating that a woman's SMV is primarily made up of her physical look, while a man's SMV includes not only physical appearance but also survival mechanisms, which can be reflected in lifestyle, status, and social skills.

What are the key pillars the speaker identifies for improving one's SMV?

The key pillars identified are looks, lifestyle, and game (social confidence, charisma, and ability to create attraction).

Why is 'lifestyle' considered more important than just 'money' or 'status' according to the speaker?

The speaker considers 'lifestyle' more important because it encompasses how one lives, including the environment one is in, which can affect the opportunities to interact with attractive women, rather than just focusing on financial status or fame.

What does the speaker suggest about the importance of 'game' in relation to physical attractiveness and wealth?

The speaker suggests that even if a man is physically attractive and wealthy, without 'game' (the ability to communicate, flirt, and create attraction), he will not be able to maintain the interest and attraction of a woman.

What is the speaker's advice on how to improve one's physical appearance?

The speaker advises on improving physical appearance by working out with progressive overload, maintaining a low body fat percentage, grooming, fashion, and taking care of one's face and teeth.

How does the speaker recommend practicing and improving 'game'?

The speaker recommends practicing 'game' by interacting with strangers, cold approaching, and analyzing one's communication to optimize it. He also suggests going on dates to practice flirting, creating attraction, and leading a woman.

What is the process the speaker outlines for someone to date higher caliber women?

The process outlined is to first evaluate oneself honestly, work on the pillars of looks, lifestyle, and game, and then slowly work one's way up to dating higher caliber women by accepting one's current level and improving it step by step.

What is the time frame the speaker suggests for someone to see significant improvements in their dating life?

The speaker suggests that significant improvements in one's dating life can be achieved within 1 to 2 years of focused work on the mentioned pillars.