How to Date 9s and 10s

Coach Kyle
20 Sept 202417:17

Summary

TLDRIn this video, the speaker shares his journey from social anxiety to dating confidence, emphasizing the importance of improving one's sexual market value (SMV) through various aspects like physical appearance, lifestyle, and social skills. He discusses the differences between men's and women's SMV and stresses the need for a holistic approach to self-improvement. The speaker provides actionable advice on enhancing looks, game, and lifestyle to attract and maintain relationships with higher caliber women.

Takeaways

  • 🚹 The speaker emphasizes that men often aspire to be with more attractive women and shares his personal journey from low self-confidence to feeling entitled to date higher caliber women.
  • 💪 The importance of improving one's physique is acknowledged, but it's also highlighted that physical fitness alone is not sufficient to attract a 'dream girl'.
  • 💰 The speaker clarifies that while money and status matter, they are not the sole determinants of one's sexual market value (SMV); it's the lifestyle they enable that's more significant.
  • 🧠 A shift in mindset is necessary for men to improve their dating life, and the speaker outlines the need to develop multiple qualities to enhance one's SMV.
  • 👥 For men, SMV is not just about looks but also involves factors like confidence, charisma, and the ability to create attraction and seduction.
  • 📈 The speaker shares his own experiences with improving his appearance, including regular grooming, fashion, and fitness routines.
  • 🌐 The environment and the lifestyle one leads play a crucial role in meeting and dating higher caliber women.
  • 🗣️ 'Game' is highlighted as an essential component of dating success, which includes confidence, charisma, and the ability to create emotional experiences during interactions.
  • 🔍 The speaker suggests that men should evaluate their current SMV and work on the areas that need improvement, such as looks, game, and lifestyle.
  • 📈 The process of improving one's dating life is incremental and requires consistent effort and daily habits to build character and SMV.
  • 🌟 The speaker concludes by encouraging men to work their way up the dating ladder, starting with accepting their current SMV and making a long-term commitment to self-improvement.

Q & A

  • What was the speaker's situation 10 years ago regarding his dating life?

    -Ten years ago, the speaker was at rock bottom with his social confidence and dating life. He felt anxious and afraid to approach women he found attractive, believing they were out of his league.

  • What does the speaker suggest is not enough to attract a 'dream girl'?

    -The speaker suggests that just having a good physique, or 'hitting the gym', is not enough to attract a 'dream girl'. He emphasizes that multiple qualities need to be developed collectively.

  • What is the term used to describe one's overall attractiveness in the dating market according to the speaker?

    -The term used is 'Sexual Market Value' or 'SMV', which refers to the overall attractiveness of an individual in the dating market.

  • How does the speaker differentiate between a woman's SMV and a man's SMV?

    -The speaker differentiates by stating that a woman's SMV is primarily made up of her physical look, while a man's SMV includes not only physical appearance but also survival mechanisms, which can be reflected in lifestyle, status, and social skills.

  • What are the key pillars the speaker identifies for improving one's SMV?

    -The key pillars identified are looks, lifestyle, and game (social confidence, charisma, and ability to create attraction).

  • Why is 'lifestyle' considered more important than just 'money' or 'status' according to the speaker?

    -The speaker considers 'lifestyle' more important because it encompasses how one lives, including the environment one is in, which can affect the opportunities to interact with attractive women, rather than just focusing on financial status or fame.

  • What does the speaker suggest about the importance of 'game' in relation to physical attractiveness and wealth?

    -The speaker suggests that even if a man is physically attractive and wealthy, without 'game' (the ability to communicate, flirt, and create attraction), he will not be able to maintain the interest and attraction of a woman.

  • What is the speaker's advice on how to improve one's physical appearance?

    -The speaker advises on improving physical appearance by working out with progressive overload, maintaining a low body fat percentage, grooming, fashion, and taking care of one's face and teeth.

  • How does the speaker recommend practicing and improving 'game'?

    -The speaker recommends practicing 'game' by interacting with strangers, cold approaching, and analyzing one's communication to optimize it. He also suggests going on dates to practice flirting, creating attraction, and leading a woman.

  • What is the process the speaker outlines for someone to date higher caliber women?

    -The process outlined is to first evaluate oneself honestly, work on the pillars of looks, lifestyle, and game, and then slowly work one's way up to dating higher caliber women by accepting one's current level and improving it step by step.

  • What is the time frame the speaker suggests for someone to see significant improvements in their dating life?

    -The speaker suggests that significant improvements in one's dating life can be achieved within 1 to 2 years of focused work on the mentioned pillars.

Outlines

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🚀 Transformation to Confidence in Dating

The speaker reflects on his journey from social and dating life insecurity at age 24 to a state of confidence and entitlement to date women he once considered out of his league. He shares his past anxiety about approaching attractive women and his belief that a combination of mindset shifts and practical actions can elevate one's dating life. He emphasizes that improving one's physique, while beneficial, is not the sole solution to attracting a partner. The speaker introduces the concept of Sexual Market Value (SMV), explaining that for men, it encompasses more than just physical appearance and includes lifestyle, status, and 'game' (social skills and charisma). He also points out the differences between men's and women's SMV, noting that while a woman's SMV is largely based on physical attractiveness, a man's SMV is a composite of various qualities.

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💪 The Importance of Physical Appearance and Grooming

The speaker discusses the significance of physical appearance in dating, advocating for a comprehensive approach that goes beyond just working out at the gym. He stresses the importance of progressive overload in exercise, maintaining a low body fat percentage, and regular grooming. The speaker shares personal grooming habits, such as frequent haircuts, skincare, beard maintenance, and dental care, including a hair transplant and orthodontic treatments. He also highlights the role of well-fitted clothing in enhancing one's physique and encourages the audience to identify and improve upon their own appearance-related shortcomings.

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🗣️ Developing 'Game' and Social Confidence

The speaker emphasizes the importance of 'game,' which includes communication skills, charisma, and the ability to create attraction and seduction. He acknowledges his own initial lack of social confidence and shares how he improved by practicing cold approaches, which helped him overcome social fears, make good first impressions, and become a better conversationalist. The speaker suggests that recording and analyzing one's own communication can help identify areas for improvement. He also stresses the need to practice flirting, leading, and maintaining attraction in interactions with women, even if they are not one's top choice, as a way to build skills that will be useful when dating higher caliber women.

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🌆 Lifestyle and Its Impact on Dating

The speaker argues that lifestyle plays a crucial role in one's ability to attract and interact with high-caliber women. He contrasts two hypothetical scenarios to illustrate how a man's environment and daily activities can significantly impact his opportunities for meeting attractive women, regardless of his looks or 'game.' The speaker suggests that living in a lively area, frequenting popular spots, and engaging in social activities can increase the chances of meeting desirable partners. He concludes by advising men to evaluate their current SMV and to work proactively on improving their appearance, game, and lifestyle to gradually attract higher caliber women, emphasizing that this is a long-term process that requires patience and consistent effort.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Confidence

Confidence in the video refers to the speaker's self-assurance and belief in his own abilities to attract and maintain relationships with high-caliber women. It's portrayed as a critical component of one's attractiveness and is something the speaker claims to have significantly improved over the years. The speaker suggests that confidence can be developed through various personal improvements and social practices.

💡Sexual Market Value (SMV)

Sexual Market Value is used in the video to describe an individual's overall attractiveness or desirability in the dating market. The speaker discusses how both men and women have different factors that contribute to their SMV, such as physical appearance, financial status, and social skills. The video emphasizes the importance of improving one's SMV to attract a partner who is perceived as 'out of one's league'.

💡Game

In the context of the video, 'game' refers to the social and romantic strategies that individuals use to attract and engage with potential partners. The speaker mentions that having 'game' involves confidence, charisma, the ability to flirt, and create attraction. It's highlighted as an essential skill that complements physical appearance and financial status in the pursuit of dating success.

💡Physical Appearance

Physical appearance is discussed as a significant factor in a man's SMV. The speaker shares his personal journey of improving his looks through fitness, grooming, and fashion. He emphasizes that while looks are important, they are not the sole determinant of dating success and should be balanced with other aspects like game and lifestyle.

💡Lifestyle

Lifestyle in the video is depicted as the environment and daily habits one lives, which can influence the caliber of romantic partners one attracts. The speaker argues that living a lifestyle that exposes one to a variety of social situations and environments can increase opportunities to meet and attract high-caliber women, even if one's looks or game is not at the highest level.

💡Progressive Overload

Progressive Overload is a fitness term mentioned in the video, referring to the gradual increase of stress placed upon the body during exercise to cause muscle growth and strength gains. The speaker uses this term to emphasize the importance of challenging oneself in the gym to improve physical appearance, which is a part of enhancing one's SMV.

💡Grooming

Grooming is highlighted as a part of optimizing one's physical appearance. The speaker discusses various grooming habits such as regular haircuts, skincare, and maintaining a well-groomed beard. These habits contribute to an individual's overall attractiveness and are part of the speaker's strategy for improving his SMV.

💡Cold Approach

Cold approach is a social skill mentioned in the video, which involves initiating conversations with strangers, particularly in romantic or dating contexts. The speaker suggests that practicing cold approaches can improve one's social confidence and communication skills, which are essential components of 'game'.

💡Status

Status in the video refers to an individual's perceived social standing or rank, which can influence their SMV. The speaker explains that status is not just about being famous or wealthy but can also be derived from one's environment or how they carry themselves in various social situations. A higher status can make an individual more attractive in the dating market.

💡Entitlement

Entitlement in this context refers to the speaker's belief that he deserves to be with the women he finds attractive due to his improvements in various aspects of his life. The video suggests that feeling entitled, or deserving, of high-caliber partners can be a result of enhancing one's SMV and is a mindset that can help in approaching dating with confidence.

Highlights

Men desire to be with more attractive, higher caliber women.

The speaker's personal transformation from social anxiety to confidence in dating.

Importance of mindset shifts and practical actions to improve dating life.

The speaker's past struggles with confidence and dating at age 24.

The misconception that improving one's physique alone can attract a partner.

The concept of Sexual Market Value (SMV) and its components for men.

Differences in SMV between men and women.

The multifaceted nature of SMV for men, including looks, money, status, and game.

The necessity of building multiple qualities to increase SMV.

The speaker's journey in enhancing each SMV pillar.

The significance of optimizing one's appearance beyond just physical fitness.

The importance of grooming, fashion, and overall appearance in attraction.

The role of game in creating attraction and maintaining interest.

Practical steps to improve social confidence and communication skills.

The impact of lifestyle on meeting and dating higher caliber women.

The necessity of being in environments where one can interact with desired partners.

The process of gradually increasing one's SMV to attract higher caliber women.

The importance of accepting one's current SMV level and working upwards.

The long-term benefits of consistently working on self-improvement.

The speaker's offer of help through his community for those seeking to accelerate their progress.

Transcripts

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almost every man I know wants to be with

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more attractive higher caliber women and

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10 years ago when I was 24 years old I

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was at rock bottom with my social

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confidence in my dating life and after

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going through all the concepts that I

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want to discuss with you guys in this

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video I can honestly say now I'm at a

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point where I feel very confident but

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more importantly entitled I feel very

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entitled to actually be with the girls

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that previously I genuinely felt like

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were out of my league I had anxiety I

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was afraid to approach these girls

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there's no way in hell I would be able

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to actually date one of these girls and

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feel secure being with one of these

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women so I want to show you guys how I

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made that transformation and more

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importantly how you guys could do the

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same to start leveling up your dating

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life so I want to talk about some

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mindset shifts that you're going to need

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to go through as well as what are the

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things you could start working on today

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to start getting results and I also want

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to just lay out the path that you're

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going to need to go down to really get

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your dream dating life so let's rewind

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10 years ago when my first girlfriend

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left me for another dude on my birthday

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it was my 24th birthday I was at rock

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bottom I didn't know what to do to

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actually increase my dating life and at

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the time all I thought was let's hit the

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gym and I think that's what most dudes

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are probably thinking let's hit the gym

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let's hit the dating apps and let's go

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out to the nightclubs and probably end

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up like getting drunk now obviously I am

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a big advocate for working on your

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physique but understand guys like

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getting jacked alone is not going to get

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you your dream girl and in fact that's

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going to be a recurring theme in this

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video there is no one thing that you

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could do that's going to land you your

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dream 10 cuz cuz a lot of dudes will ask

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me Kyle is it looks money status or game

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which one is it and honestly it doesn't

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matter which one you focus on it's not

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any one element that's going to get you

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the girl instead what you're going to

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need to do is actually build up multiple

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qualities of yourself that collectively

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raise your sexual market value AKA your

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smv Now understand guys a woman's smv

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versus a dude's smv are not the same

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thing and that's why a lot of dudes are

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fixated on the idea of just work on your

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look because as a dude when we look at a

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woman her smv actually is primarily made

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up of her physical look if you saw your

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complete dream 10 and she was exactly

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the way you like a girl you would be

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extremely excited you wouldn't be

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thinking I wonder what her personality

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is like no you would pretty much be sold

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right on the fact of just seeing that

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woman because from the dude's

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perspective a lot of women's value

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actually comes from her ability to

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replicate now for a man it's not exactly

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the same although replication is a part

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of it there's also a lot of survival

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mechanisms that come into place when

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we're talking about sexual market value

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and that's why for a dude it is not just

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about looks and it's also not just about

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money there are several factors and I

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want to go into them in this video about

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how I actually went through each one of

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these things and how you could do the

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same so yes guys your look is important

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it's not the end all Beall but it does

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matter money I don't think that the

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actual number in your bank account

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matters that much in fact most women

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aren't even going to know that number

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until you guys have been dating for a

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very long time so instead of instead of

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money I want you to look at it more of

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like the lifestyle that you could live

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as a means of having money and then when

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it comes to status I don't want you to

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think just about being a celebrity or

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having massive clout status is actually

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environmental so status online can be

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one form of Fame but status can also be

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within a job environment within a

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fitness environment within a club

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environment the way that you communicate

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can actually convey certain levels of

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status or actually low levels of status

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depending on how you're interacting so

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instead of money and stat St I want you

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guys to think more about lifestyle as a

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whole and then the last part of this is

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game and yes game is important too that

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would be your confidence your charisma

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your ability to flirt create attraction

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seduction being able to create emotions

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within the woman that she could

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experience when she's interacting with

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you because a dude who has looks and

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money if he can't interact with the girl

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a certain way to create emotions within

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her then he's not going to actually be

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able to get that girl he's not going to

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be able to arouse her or seduce her and

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ultimately date that woman so yes guys

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you're looking is important money and

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Status ultimately create a lifestyle for

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you and yes your game is very important

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too so now that we understand these

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pillars I want to talk to you guys about

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how I went through each one of these

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pillars and what I'm currently doing to

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try to Max these out because if you're

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talking to a woman and she genuinely

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thinks that she's a nine even though I

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don't like to play the numbers game of

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nines and tens but for the sake of this

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video and the title of it let's just use

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subjective numbers right so if she

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thinks she's a nine she needs to

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genuinely believe your sexual market

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value also equates to at least a nine

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maybe even higher than her girls are not

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going to be drawn to a dude who they

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genuinely believe is lower level than

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them unless they're just trying to take

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advantage of that dude and you as a man

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you want to attract a quality partner

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who genuinely looks up to you who will

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follow you and support you and admire

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you and that's why you're going to need

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to put in the work that I'm about to

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explain in this video so let's talk

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about the look itself I have worked a

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lot on my look over the years I'll throw

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some pictures up on the screen you guys

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can see how I used to look I'm 34 years

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old now and I actually take pride in my

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look at this point I have a lot of

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people that are in disbelief about my

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age and I will continue to maintain a

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healthy youthful appearance as I age

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into my late 30s into my 40s and even

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into my 50s and Beyond and most dudes

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when they think about their look I think

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the main concept that they believe is

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just let's hit the gym understand that

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is just one element of your look hitting

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the gym alone is Not By Any Means

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optimizing your look I see a lot of

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dudes who hit the gym but they're not

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actually doing a progressive Overload at

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the gym they're not triggering to their

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body that they need to build more muscle

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to get through their workouts they're

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also not calculating their calories and

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being in a deficit and maintaining a low

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body fat percentage I think personally

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myself I'm way more attractive at about

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a 10% body fat than I am at 13 or even

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15% I'll throw some pictures up on the

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screen you guys could see this is me at

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a variety of different body fat

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percentages I promise you the dude

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that's at this lower body fat is a way

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more attractive dude and I also just

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feel more physically attractive I feel

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more confident I feel more sexy when I'm

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walking around at this body fat versus

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the chubby fat dude over here it just

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says something about yourself if you

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want to FastTrack these elements you

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could actually click the link below get

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into the lower tier Community I have

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daily live coaching calls going on in

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there all the content is nice and

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structured out and you get an initial

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one-on-one call with me where I will lay

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out what you need to start doing this

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week to start leveling up your dating

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life and your social confidence you also

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want to work on your grooming your

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fashion your face your appearance as a

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whole so I get a haircut every one to

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two weeks I make sure I get a nice skin

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fade I personally line up my beard every

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couple of days I've gotten a hair

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transplant I also am on hair medication

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to make sure I maintain my hair I've

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gotten Invisalign I've gotten my teeth

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whitened and then I even more recently

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got my teeth done to really perfect my

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smile and then I also make sure I have

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well-fitting clothes that hug my body

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that accentuate my physical features to

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really optimize my look as a whole you

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need to figure out which one of these

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attributes in terms of your appearance

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are you lacking and start being more

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proactive with optimizing your look as a

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whole now let's move into your game okay

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your communication your Vibe your

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charisma your social confidence all of

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these factors are extremely important

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too I have a whole channel that I've

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built up that teaches these elements so

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I'm not going to nerd out for an hour on

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these Concepts in this video but watch

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the the videos on my channel so you get

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a better understanding of those things

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you need to have some level of of social

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confidence that way you could go up and

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actually interact with your dream girl

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when you see her if you can't hold eye

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contact or your communication's whack

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you can't create the right emotions in a

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conversation how are you going to

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attract that girl and keep her engaged

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and wanting to see you over time it just

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doesn't work like that the idea of just

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focus on yourself and your business and

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work on your look those are great things

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to build but I do think simultaneously

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you need to be working on your game my

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social comments was at a very low level

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the first thing that I started to do was

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go out and interact with strangers on a

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daily basis I would practice cold

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approach because it forced me to face my

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fear socially it forced me to learn how

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to properly communicate to somebody to

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make a really good first impression it

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also taught me how to be an amazing

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conversationalist I was putting into

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these situations over and over and over

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again so I learned how to carry a

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conversation in an engaging way how to

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inject teasing and flirtatiousness into

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an interaction to keep people engaged

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and how to carry that conversation all

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the way to get a phone number to set up

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a date to actually run a date and

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ultimately create attraction and seduce

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a girl long term and understanding cold

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approach alone is not the end all be all

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I am not saying just go all in on cold

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approach it's a great tool that you

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could practice on a daily basis by just

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putting in a couple minutes while you're

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going about your day and then also

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another element of game is just your

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communication and your Vibe there's a

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lot of dudes I talk to they're

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good-looking dudes they're in

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environments where they can meet women

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but they talk like emotionless they

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don't have expression or animation in

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their face and the way that they

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communicate is very stale and boring and

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monotone understand guys it's going to

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be very hard to create emotions with

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somebody you're interacting with when

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your communication is at a very low

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Bland level so what I recommend doing is

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analyze your communication record

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yourself on video record yourself in an

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interaction pay attention to the

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elements of your own communication that

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are lacking and be more proactive with

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tweaking your communication to optimize

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it and start interacting with women yes

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start interacting with women you need to

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consistently get into conversations with

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girls you're attracted to I would also

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recommend you start going on dates with

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women even if it's not the top tier that

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you want you need to start practicing

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flirting creating attraction being able

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to smoothly escalate being able to lead

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a woman properly being able to hold

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frame with a woman these are important

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factors that will ultimately lead to you

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having more confidence when it comes to

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dating higher caliber women and they

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noticed this [ __ ] man I promise you if

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you go up and you interact with a very

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high level girl she's unconsciously

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going to scan you she's going to know

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your your nervous mandar isms your

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failure to hold eye contact or the

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conversation just goes still cuz you

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can't make it fun and emotional and

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teasy and flirty to get her aroused and

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intrigued to want to get to know you on

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a deeper level so yes these elements are

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crucial if you really want to get higher

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level women in your life now that we

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understand looks and game I want to get

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into lifestyle itself and then I'll show

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you guys the process that you could go

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through to really Max all of these out I

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want to just show you an extreme example

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that will highlight these Concepts

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because let's say we take two of the

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same dude the first dude he's pretty

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good-look and he has a decent level of

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game maybe it's not maxed out but

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they're pretty good now let's say that

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dude was never in environments where

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there's attractive women around right he

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wakes up he does his his morning walk on

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his treadmill in his apartment he does

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his grocery shopping at the corner store

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Bodega where there's low-level people

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like crackheads hanging around out side

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and then he goes to the gym at the

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bodybuilder gym where there's just a

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couple Jack dudes and there's no women

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there and then he works remote at home

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and then he also on the weekends if he

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were to go out he just goes to the

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corner little Pub to shoot pool with his

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boys and nobody's really there and

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that's his week that dude even though

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he's goodlooking even though he has a

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decent level of game how many women that

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are attractive is he actually

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interacting with on a daily basis or

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weekly basis it's pretty much zero and

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that's what I see with a lot of dudes

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like they're not living the lifestyle

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where they could actually interact with

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the caliber of women they want now let's

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just say for extreme example purposes I

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take that same dude I make him slightly

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more ugly and he actually has a lower

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level of game but that dude now when he

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does his morning walk he actually walks

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through the busy downtown area of a

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major city right and then when he goes

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to go grocery shopping he goes to the

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popular Whole Foods that's right in the

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middle of that City and then instead of

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working at home remote half of his day

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he actually goes to the Busy Cafe and

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works remote at that cafe Cafe shop and

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then instead of working out at the

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bodybuilder gym where there's the two

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Jack dudes he goes to the the really

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busy Equinox and then one to two times a

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week he actually goes to the high-end

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restaurant that turns into a a little

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lounge or like Club later on so he eats

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dinner there and then he mingles for one

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or two hours on like a Friday evening or

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Saturday evening and then over the

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weekend he casually walks through the

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downtown area again now this dude even

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though his looks and his game are at a

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lower level than the first example this

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man will have a much higher chance of

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Landing his dream partner simply because

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of his lifestyle and that's what I was

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saying earlier guys it doesn't

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necessarily matter about the number in

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your bank account because that first

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dude could actually be a

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multi-millionaire but he's just not

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interacting with the attractive women

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the second guy could have less money but

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he paid a little bit extra to go to the

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gym that's at the highend spot he pays a

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little bit extra rent to live in The

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Busy area he pays a little bit extra to

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shop at Whole Foods pays a little bit

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extra to go out on the evenings and and

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walk around the busy places where he

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could interact with High Caliber women

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that is half the battle right there so

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each one of these pillars is going to

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ultimately dictate your sexual market

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value and the people that you have

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opportunities to interact with on a

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daily and weekly basis a good-looking

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dude who also lives the lifestyle he's

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going to get attention from women and

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get into interactions but if he has zero

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game he's not going to be able to create

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attraction or he might get a phone

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number and then the girl ends up

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ghosting him later on good-looking dude

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with game but no environment to be in

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well he's not going to really get that

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much attention from nines and T because

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there aren't any of of them around so

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he's just getting attention from the

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sixes sevens 7.5 that are at his gym or

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he might encounter a couple of these

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type of girls throughout his day-to-day

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dude who doesn't look that good and

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doesn't have game but is in the

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environments he might actually clean up

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a little bit just because he's in these

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environments but still it's going to be

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very hard to keep those girls attraction

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long term because of his lack of

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physical attraction and his lack of

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understanding of how to keep the

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attraction through game and confidence

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and for that reason all three of these

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pillars are very important so now that

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we understand those do an evaluation of

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yourself guys because I talk to a lot of

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dudes on my consultation calls and with

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every guy that I talk to they're missing

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one or two of these pillars they have

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some of them like they're not bad

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looking their game's okay but then they

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never get out the house to to actually

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interact with their dream growth or

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they're in these environments and they

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look okay but then their communication

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and their confidence is just whack so

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figure out which parts of your own

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character is lacking and you want to

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start to be more proactive with building

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those things and that comes down to the

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Daily actions the daily habits you're

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doing every single day to build the

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character the final part I want to

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discuss with you guys is you need to

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start to work your way up to dating

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higher caliber women you're not just

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going to go today from the S you watch

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this video and suddenly you're dating a

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10 it just doesn't work that way you

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need to accept and be real with yourself

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about where you're at on this scale

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there's nothing worse than a picky ass

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dude who's a six or a seven and he feels

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entitled to having the eight the nine or

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the 10 and I'm looking at the dude and

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I'm like why do you feel entitled to get

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this woman you don't look up to par your

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confidence isn't that high you just make

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some money so you think you're the [ __ ]

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but you haven't put in in the work on

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these other areas so accept wherever

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you're at take an unbiased look at your

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life based on the experiences the work

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you've put in the way you look and your

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environment figure out where you're at

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right now and now we need to start to be

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proactive to slowly work your way up if

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your sexual market value collectively as

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a whole is a seven you are not ready to

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go out and get a 9 or 10 even if you got

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a 10 from that girl you're not going to

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be able to keep her you're going to be

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freaking the [ __ ] out you don't feel

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entitled you have no evidence supporting

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the fact that you should be with a woman

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like that and that's honestly why a lot

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of dudes fly to third world countries

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because the Dude who's like a seven in

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the USA a white dude if he's in [ __ ]

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Colombia suddenly he's one to two points

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higher and now he gets attention from

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those kind of women that's why a lot of

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dudes are trying to go with passport

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Bros to like go around the idea of

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putting in the [ __ ] work to really

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level up your character it doesn't need

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to take 10 years all right you could

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achieve most of the things I'm talking

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about in 1 to 2 years and honestly would

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you really want it any other way

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honestly like if you really want to be

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with your dream partner the girl that

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you are so attracted to and she looks up

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to you and she idolizes you and admires

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you for the man that you've become and

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wants to be with you long term dude

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that's going to take a little bit of

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time go in with the right mindset that

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this may take a little bit of time but

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it's extremely fruitful every step of

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the way because as you start to level up

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you're going to you're going to get more

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bought into the idea of optimizing your

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look you're going to enjoy hitting the

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gym you're going to enjoy putting in the

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hard work on a daily basis cuz it's

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fulfilling you feel good at the end of

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the day you feel proud you feel excited

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and ambitious as a man that's growing

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and expanding and that's ultimately what

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attracts these people into your life

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more to make you feel entitled enough to

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be to be around hot women and to be with

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highlevel dudes okay so work your way up

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slowly understand it's a long-term play

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but it's really fulfilling when you

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start to get to higher and higher and

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this video Let's level the [ __ ] up

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fellas see you in the next one peace out

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