Is Premarital Sex Wrong? | Sadhguru

Summary

In this video, Sadhguru addresses the complex issue of human sexuality, particularly in the context of premarital sex. He discusses how societal norms have evolved, and how emotional attachments were historically prioritized before physical intimacy. With modern life, education, and delayed adulthood, youth face hormonal urges that are often not properly addressed, leading to societal imbalances. Sadhguru emphasizes the importance of understanding the natural human drive to reproduce and calls for a thoughtful discussion on how to navigate these issues without disrupting societal structures. He advocates for research into balancing emotional and physical needs in a healthy manner.

Takeaways

• 😀 Emotional bonds were traditionally established early, before puberty, through arranged relationships.
• 😀 The traditional method aimed to emotionally bind individuals before physical intimacy to ensure stability.
• 😀 Puberty brings heightened hormonal activity, which influences attraction and emotional responses.
• 😀 Human beings are naturally driven by a desire for reproduction as part of species survival.
• 😀 Societal changes have extended the age at which people marry and settle down, pushing it later in life.
• 😀 The hormonal peak in humans occurs between ages 15-30, which creates challenges in emotional and physical regulation.
• 😀 Modern education systems extend the time before individuals can fulfill emotional and physical needs, which leads to tension in society.
• 😀 Traditional cultures aimed to address emotional and physical needs simultaneously, while modern society hasn't fully adapted to this shift.
• 😀 The lack of open discussions about sexuality creates unhealthy behaviors and societal problems, such as violence.
• 😀 Emotional fulfillment and physical connection are fundamental human needs that need to be openly addressed to maintain societal health.

Q & A

Why do students often move away from their homes, according to Sadhguru?

Sadhguru suggests that students move away from their homes to seek better career opportunities, leaving behind familial emotional comforts in pursuit of greener pastures.

How does Sadhguru describe the societal handling of human sexuality in the past?

In the past, society emotionally bound young individuals before physical interactions. For example, children were told from a young age that they would marry a particular person, creating emotional attachment before any physical contact.

What is the significance of puberty in the context of emotional attachment and sexuality?

Puberty marks the blossoming of physical possibilities, but emotional attachment was already established. This allowed individuals to handle their bodies and emotions responsibly as they were already emotionally connected to a partner.

How does modern life affect the timing of marriage and emotional attachment?

In modern times, education and career paths delay the age of marriage. People are often in their late 20s or 30s before settling down, which is much later than in earlier times when individuals married in their teens.

What is the peak age for human hormonal function, and why is it significant?

The peak of human hormonal function is between the ages of 15 to 30. This is significant because it aligns with the natural drive for reproduction, which is a key aspect of human survival and species continuity.

How does Sadhguru view the natural process of sexual desire during adolescence?

Sadhguru acknowledges that the surge in sexual desire during adolescence is a natural process, where hormones influence perception and emotional responses. He does not judge it as good or bad, but as a part of human development.

What challenges does society face when it comes to discussing human sexuality openly?

Sadhguru points out that society often fails to address human sexuality openly, which can lead to unhealthy expressions, such as violence, due to the lack of understanding and constructive conversations around human needs.

Why is emotional attachment considered important before physical intimacy, according to traditional views?

Traditional views emphasized emotional attachment as a foundation for responsible physical intimacy. This emotional bond was thought to prevent impulsive or destructive actions, as individuals were already connected emotionally before engaging physically.

What does Sadhguru say about expecting the entire society to transcend hormonal impulses?

Sadhguru explains that it is unrealistic to expect all individuals to transcend hormonal impulses, as this is a natural and universal process. Only a few individuals may succeed in transcending these impulses, but expecting it from the whole society is impractical.

What is the societal dilemma that Sadhguru identifies regarding sexuality and emotional attachment?

Sadhguru identifies the dilemma that, in modern society, while sexual needs and emotional attachments are significant, there is a lack of proper discourse and research on how to address these needs without disrupting societal structures and causing emotional harm.