How to find solutions to your problems (that really work!)

Summary

In this video, mental health counselor Jeremy explains how to shift from a problem-focused mindset to a solution-focused one, helping individuals overcome stress and overwhelm. He offers practical strategies such as clearly defining problems, shifting thoughts from 'Why me?' to 'What can I do?', using the 'Will this matter in five years?' test, and focusing on long-term well-being. By reframing challenges and employing techniques like reverse engineering, viewers can regain control, reduce stress, and make better decisions. Jeremy encourages viewers to tackle one problem with a solution-focused approach for a healthier mindset and improved mental health.

Takeaways

• 😀 Focusing on solutions, not problems, reduces stress and boosts motivation.
• 😀 Identifying the problem clearly allows for more effective solutions.
• 😀 Shift from a victim mentality ('Why me?') to a solution-focused mindset ('What can I do?').
• 😀 The 'Will this matter in five years?' test helps put problems into perspective and reduce their impact on mental health.
• 😀 Consider what your future self would appreciate to make smarter long-term decisions.
• 😀 Reframing decisions around future well-being helps avoid short-term relief that causes long-term stress.
• 😀 Use reverse engineering by starting with the desired outcome and working backwards to develop an action plan.
• 😀 Breaking down big problems into smaller, manageable parts makes them less overwhelming.
• 😀 Training your brain to look for solutions empowers you to take control of challenges.
• 😀 Every problem has at least one possible solution, even if it takes time or requires tough choices.
• 😀 Focusing on practical, actionable steps rather than the problem itself leads to progress and reduced stress.

Q & A

Why is it important to shift from a problem-focused mindset to a solution-focused one?

Shifting to a solution-focused mindset helps reduce stress, increase motivation, and improve mental health. It enables you to feel more in control by seeing options instead of obstacles, which allows for progress instead of feeling stuck.

How does focusing too much on problems impact mental health?

Focusing too much on problems keeps your brain in high-alert mode, elevating stress hormones and making small issues feel overwhelming. This can lead to a lack of motivation, procrastination, and overall mental exhaustion.

What is the first step in finding a solution to a problem?

The first step is to clearly define the problem. By identifying the exact issue you are dealing with, rather than vague concerns, you can focus your energy on solving it effectively.

How can you break down a problem to make it more manageable?

You can break down the problem into smaller, more specific parts and write them out. This helps in seeing the issue more clearly and makes it feel more manageable.

What is the 'Why me?' versus 'What can I do?' shift and why is it important?

The shift from 'Why me?' to 'What can I do?' helps you stop feeling like a victim and start taking action. By focusing on what's within your control, you move from frustration to productive problem-solving.

How does the 'Will this matter in five years?' test help with decision-making?

The 'Will this matter in five years?' test helps you gain perspective on the importance of a problem. If the answer is no, it helps you stop overvaluing the issue and regain peace of mind. If yes, it encourages investing effort into a meaningful solution.

What is the benefit of thinking about 'Future You' when facing a problem?

Thinking about 'Future You' encourages making smarter, long-term choices. By focusing on long-term wellbeing rather than immediate comfort, you can prevent future stress and avoid procrastination.

What is reverse engineering, and how can it help with solving problems?

Reverse engineering involves starting with the desired outcome and working backwards. This method helps bypass mental blocks by allowing you to break down the solution into actionable steps, making the problem feel more solvable.

Why is it important to train your brain to focus on solutions rather than obstacles?

Training your brain to focus on solutions helps you feel in control, improves motivation, and fosters progress. It shifts your mindset from being overwhelmed by problems to actively seeking ways to move forward.

How can someone identify if a problem is truly significant or if they're overvaluing it?

You can identify the significance of a problem by asking yourself if it will matter in five years. If it won’t, it's a sign to stop giving it excessive attention. If it will, then it's worth putting effort into solving it.