Self-Confidence: Caileigh Lydon at TEDxYouth@ParkCity

TEDxYouth
23 Nov 201306:15

Summary

TLDRThis TED talk emphasizes the significance of self-confidence in overcoming fear and achieving success. The speaker highlights that many TED speakers share the common trait of self-confidence, which allows them to share their ideas despite initial fear. Through practice and perseverance, anyone can build self-confidence, enabling them to express their opinions, take on challenges, and make a positive impact. The talk also addresses the importance of self-confidence in combating bullying and reducing teen suicide rates, urging listeners to believe in their worth and potential to change the world.

Takeaways

  • 💡 TED talks are united by speakers' self-confidence despite their fears.
  • 👂 Self-confidence counters negative whispers and self-doubt.
  • 🔄 The key to self-confidence is practice and repetition.
  • 👀 Practicing speeches repeatedly, even to pets, builds confidence.
  • 🧠 Consistent positive self-talk is crucial for maintaining self-confidence.
  • 🔓 Self-confidence unlocks potential and allows individuals to voice opinions.
  • 💪 With self-confidence, people can say 'yes' to new opportunities and challenges.
  • 👨‍🏫 Self-confidence enables students to participate actively in class.
  • 🛡️ Self-confidence helps stand up against bullying and supports others.
  • 🌟 Self-confidence empowers individuals to believe in their importance and potential.

Q & A

  • What is the common factor among all TED Talks speakers?

    -The common factor among all TED Talks speakers is self-confidence, which motivates them to come up on the stage and share their ideas.

  • What does the speaker refer to as 'The Whispers'?

    -The speaker refers to 'The Whispers' as the constant negative self-talk or self-doubt that tells individuals they are not good enough or capable.

  • Why is self-confidence considered important according to the speaker?

    -Self-confidence is considered important because it allows individuals to overcome self-imposed limitations, voice their opinions, and accomplish their goals without fear.

  • What is the key to building self-confidence as mentioned in the script?

    -The key to building self-confidence, as mentioned in the script, is practice. The speaker emphasizes the need to practice repeatedly to achieve self-confidence.

  • How did the speaker prepare for their TED Talk?

    -The speaker prepared for their TED Talk by practicing their speech repeatedly, reading it until they knew every word by heart, and practicing in front of a mirror, family, and even their cats.

  • What is the speaker's advice on dealing with negative self-talk?

    -The speaker advises to keep telling oneself that they are awesome and to keep blocking out the negative self-talk or 'The Whispers'.

  • How does self-confidence enable individuals to respond to opportunities?

    -Self-confidence enables individuals to say 'yes' to opportunities, adapt to change, and take on challenges without hesitation or fear.

  • What role does self-confidence play in the context of bullying?

    -Self-confidence plays a crucial role in bullying as it empowers individuals to stand up against it and help others, potentially preventing further harm.

  • How does the speaker relate self-confidence to the issue of teen suicide?

    -The speaker relates self-confidence to teen suicide by suggesting that if more teens felt important and believed in their self-worth, the number of suicides might be lower.

  • What is the final message the speaker wants to convey to the audience?

    -The final message the speaker wants to convey is to encourage the audience to be confident, recognize their importance, and have the courage to make a difference in the world.

  • What does the speaker suggest is the power of self-confidence?

    -The speaker suggests that self-confidence is the power of knowing one can make a difference, change the world, and overcome the fear of others' opinions.

Outlines

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🗣️ Overcoming Self-Doubt Through Practice

The first paragraph discusses the common thread among TED speakers: self-confidence. It emphasizes that despite the fear of public speaking, they overcome it by practicing their speeches repeatedly. The speaker shares their personal experience of practicing in front of mirrors, family, and even pets to build self-assurance. The paragraph highlights the importance of self-confidence in breaking self-imposed limitations, enabling individuals to voice their opinions, and take on challenges. It also touches on the impact of self-confidence in schools, suggesting that it can help in preventing bullying and supporting those who are bullied. The paragraph concludes with a powerful message on the importance of self-worth and the potential to change lives if individuals believe in their own value.

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🌟 Embracing Self-Confidence as a Power

The second paragraph continues the theme of self-confidence, framing it as a powerful tool that enables individuals to make a difference in the world. It encourages people to stop second-guessing themselves and to overcome the fear of judgment from others. The speaker advocates for self-assurance as a means to pursue one's aspirations without needing external validation. The paragraph also addresses the potential positive impact of self-confidence in reducing teen suicide rates, suggesting that a strong sense of self-worth could prevent such tragic outcomes. It concludes with a call to action for the audience to be confident, extraordinary, and to recognize their inherent importance.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Self-confidence

Self-confidence refers to the belief in one's own abilities and worth. In the video, it is presented as the key to overcoming self-doubt and achieving personal success. The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-confidence in allowing individuals to voice their opinions, make decisions, and take actions without fear of judgment or failure, as illustrated by the example of saying 'yes' to opportunities and challenges.

💡Practice

Practice is the act of repeatedly performing an activity to improve or master it. The speaker uses the concept of practice to explain how one can develop self-confidence, suggesting that it is not a one-time event but a continuous process. The example given is the preparation for a TED Talk, where the speaker had to rehearse their speech multiple times to feel ready and confident on stage.

💡The Whispers

In the context of the video, 'The Whispers' symbolize the negative self-talk or internalized doubts that tell individuals they are not good enough. The speaker describes these as constant mutterings that can undermine self-confidence. The video encourages the audience to block out these whispers and instead focus on positive self-affirmation.

💡Bullying

Bullying is the act of using force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others. The video discusses bullying as a serious issue in schools and suggests that individuals with self-confidence can help to combat it by standing up for those who are being bullied. The speaker implies that self-confidence can be a powerful tool in preventing and addressing bullying.

💡Opportunities

Opportunities are chances or situations that present a possibility for advancement or progress. The video uses the concept of opportunities to illustrate how self-confidence can empower individuals to seize life's chances, such as accepting a job offer that requires relocation or taking on a challenging task.

💡Fear

Fear is an emotional response to perceived threats or dangers. The speaker talks about how self-confidence can help individuals overcome fear, particularly the fear of what others might think. This is exemplified by the reluctance to raise one's hand in class for fear of appearing nerdy, a behavior that self-confidence can help to overcome.

💡Self-imposed limitations

Self-imposed limitations are constraints that individuals place on themselves due to self-doubt or a lack of belief in their capabilities. The video suggests that without self-confidence, people are trapped by these limitations, preventing them from achieving their full potential. The speaker encourages breaking free from these limitations through self-confidence.

💡Suicide

Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one's own death. The video mentions suicide as a tragic consequence of low self-esteem and self-confidence, where individuals may feel worthless and see no meaning in their lives. The speaker posits that self-confidence could potentially reduce the number of suicides by fostering a sense of self-worth.

💡Power

Power, in the context of the video, refers to the ability to effect change and make a difference. The speaker argues that self-confidence is a form of power that enables individuals to step out of their comfort zones and impact the world positively. It is the power to change one's circumstances and to influence others.

💡Extraordinary

Extraordinary means being beyond what is usual or expected, often implying exceptional quality or ability. The video concludes by encouraging the audience to be confident and extraordinary, suggesting that self-confidence can lead to exceptional achievements and a life that stands out from the ordinary.

💡Consent

Consent in this context refers to the approval or permission one gives to oneself to act or believe in one's own abilities. The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-consent, as it is the internal validation that allows individuals to pursue their goals without seeking external validation or approval.

Highlights

TED Talks share a common element that unites speakers from diverse backgrounds.

The key to overcoming fear and speaking confidently is self-confidence.

Self-doubt and negative self-talk can hinder one's ability to express themselves.

Practice is essential for building self-confidence and mastering any skill.

The speaker practiced their TED Talk extensively to ensure a confident delivery.

Self-confidence cannot be achieved through a one-time effort or wishing for it.

Ignoring negative self-talk and affirming one's self-worth is crucial for building self-confidence.

Lack of self-confidence can limit one's potential and prevent them from achieving their goals.

Self-confidence empowers individuals to voice their opinions and make decisions.

Confident people are more likely to say 'yes' to opportunities and challenges.

Self-confidence can help students overcome the fear of speaking up in class.

Bullying can be reduced if individuals develop self-confidence and stand up against it.

Bullies often lack self-confidence and seek power through dominating others.

High self-confidence can potentially reduce the number of suicides among teens.

Self-confidence is the power to make a difference and change the world.

Individuals should give themselves permission to be confident and believe in their importance.

The speaker encourages the audience to be confident, extraordinary, and to believe in their self-worth.

Transcripts

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so by now I'm sure all of you have seen

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a TED talk and maybe you've noticed

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something that they all have in

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common while they might be by different

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people and on different topics there's

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something that unites them

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together something that motivates them

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to come up on the stage and speak to you

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guys something that allows them to come

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up and share their idea because frankly

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this is pretty Terri

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Teri but then how how do they come up

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here and do what they have done it's

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pretty simple but it's something not a

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lot of people have

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self-confidence I'm sure all of you have

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heard The Whispers the constant

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mutterings in your ear that you're not

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good enough you're not up to the

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standards things like you can't do that

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you can't do this who do you think

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you're trying to be being different and

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the worst

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no one wants to hear what you have to

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say the reason why so many people are

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self-conscious the reason why so many

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people lack

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self-confidence really the key to

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self-confidence fits the lock to most

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things practice practice practice you

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can't do something unless you practice

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at it right I couldn't have just gotten

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on the stage on a whim and S my speech

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to you guys I had to practice oh over

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and over

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again I read my speech until I could

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knew I could see every word of my eyes

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closed and I practice it in the mirror I

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practiced it to my family I even

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practiced it to my cats sounds a little

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crazy but I promise you I'm not that bad

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self-confidence is the same

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way you can't do it once and hope for it

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to stick and you can wish and wish for a

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magic button or a level up that will

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suddenly give you a perfect self-esteem

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but you're never going to get it you

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just got to keep telling yourself you're

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awesome and keep blocking out those

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Whispers which of course is easier said

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than done but isn't most

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things and

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self-confidence truly is important

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without it you're trapped in your own

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self-imposed limitations never able to

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be who you can truly be never able to

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accomplish what you truly can

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accomplish but with it you have the

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power to voice your own opinion have

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your own saying things do what you want

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to do stop what you think isn't right

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and do what you think

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is and most importantly you have the

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power to say yes have you ever heard

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someone go oh I don't know I I don't

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think I can I I

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can't but with self-confidence you have

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the power to say yes that question hey

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you want to go climb a mountain yeah

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sure I can do that uh hey I'm offering

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you the job of your dreams but you have

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to move what do you think yeah I can do

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that I can adapt to

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change and for all you students out

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there I'm sure when a teacher asked a

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question you thought at least once oh I

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know the answer to that but I don't

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really want to say anything I look like

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a nerd oh I want to teach strolling down

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the aisle looking for their next Target

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you've gone oh don't call on me don't

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call on me don't call on

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me without

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self-confidence you're loow to the

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ground always

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afraid but with it you stand tall ready

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to Take On The

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World we've been talking about bullying

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in our schools lately we've had several

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anti-bullying campaigns and in the words

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of my vice principal Mr Macintosh we do

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not tolerate buling in any of our

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schools we're

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lucky there are many schools where kids

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are bulled

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constantly where kids hear The Whispers

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In Their Heads spoken out

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loud but if one person has the

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self-confidence to stand up and help

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that person then all that pain is

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over also what kind of people do you

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think bully others

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the type of people who need reassurance

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that they are powerful but what if they

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had that reassurance from within

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themselves suicide is the third leading

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cause of death among teens the

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third but imagine if some of those kids

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hadn't thought that they were worthless

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hadn't thought that their life didn't

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have any

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meaning what if they thought that they

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were important like they truly are maybe

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that number would have been a little

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lower and self-confidence truly is power

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the power of knowing you can walk out of

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a doorway and change the world the power

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of knowing you can make a difference you

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don't always have to be second guessing

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you don't always have to be in constant

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fear of what people around you are

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thinking about

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you because

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truthfully nothing anybody says about

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you is going to change the fact that you

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are

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important you can do whatever you want

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you don't need anybody's consent but

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your

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own so give yourself that consent walk

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out that doorway and change the world

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answer those questions with a yes not an

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I

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can't tell yourself you're awesome tell

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yourself your important because you

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truly

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are so go out be confident and be

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extraordinary thank

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you

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