How to deal with bullies and haters
Summary
TLDRIn this empowering video, Liz shares her insights on dealing with haters and bullies, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and not engaging with negativity. She advises to avoid giving power to detractors by not reacting, to show no empathy for bullies, and to mirror their energy without stooping to their level. Liz encourages viewers to focus on self-improvement and healing, asserting that the strongest among us rise above bullying, and that haters can often be the most devoted fans in disguise.
Takeaways
- ๐ซ Avoid engaging with haters and bullies by not reading comments or giving them your energy.
- ๐ช Recognize that haters and bullies only have power if you give them a reaction; remove this power by not responding.
- ๐ง Understand that successful, confident people do not engage in bullying or spreading negativity.
- ๐ค Reflect on the motivations behind bullying, often rooted in jealousy and envy.
- ๐ Embrace the idea that haters are a form of 'super obsessed fans' who give attention to your work.
- ๐ Do not share personal information with bullies, as it can be used against you.
- ๐ค Mirror the energy of bullies without escalating the situation; be distant and do not engage.
- ๐ โโ๏ธ Stop trying to be nice to bullies, as it often backfires and can lead to more aggression.
- ๐ฎโโ๏ธ Report incidents of bullying to authorities when they become physical or threatening.
- ๐ Change your environment if it is negative or harmful to your well-being.
- ๐โโ๏ธ Focus on healing and self-improvement to overcome the effects of bullying and build self-worth.
Q & A
How does Liz handle haters and bullies now?
-Liz does not deal with haters anymore. She avoids reading comments and getting involved in what is being said about her, focusing on her own life and the people she loves.
What power do haters and bullies have over individuals according to Liz?
-Haters and bullies only have the power that individuals give them through their reactions. If individuals do not give them a reaction, they have no power.
What does Liz suggest about the nature of people who spread negativity about others?
-Liz suggests that people who spread negativity, such as creating rumors or writing nasty comments, are often miserable and envious, rather than successful and self-confident individuals.
How does Liz view haters in relation to her success?
-Liz considers haters as her 'super obsessed fans' because they pay so much attention to her, even if it's to find something to criticize.
What advice does Liz give about dealing with bullies and haters at school or work?
-Liz advises not to have empathy for bullies, to stop trying to be nice to them, and to mirror their behavior without engaging or getting closer to them.
Why does Liz believe that being nice to bullies might not work?
-Liz believes that being nice to bullies might not work because they do not understand kindness and may see it as a threat, which could make them more upset.
What should one do if they are being physically bullied, according to Liz?
-Liz suggests making a big deal out of it, such as yelling, seeking help, or involving authorities, to ensure the bullying does not continue.
How does Liz feel about sharing personal information with bullies?
-Liz advises against sharing personal information with bullies, as they will use it against you. She emphasizes having no fear and not giving them any power through your fear.
What does Liz recommend doing if the bullying becomes unbearable?
-Liz recommends changing environments, such as schools or jobs, or even moving to a different city or country, to find peace and healing.
How does Liz view the transformation of haters into fans?
-Liz believes that haters can become fans, as she has experienced people who once hated her now becoming fans, showing that emotions can be manipulated.
What is Liz's final advice for dealing with haters and bullies?
-Liz's final advice is to focus on oneself, heal from the trauma caused by bullying, and build self-worth and confidence. She emphasizes that the strongest individuals are those who have been bullied and have overcome it.
Outlines
๐ซ Dealing with Haters and Bullies: The Power of Disinterest
Liz discusses her personal approach to dealing with haters and bullies, emphasizing that she no longer engages with them by reading comments or allowing their negativity to affect her. She believes that the only power such individuals have is the reaction they elicit from others. Liz suggests that successful and self-confident people do not engage in hateful behavior, and that most haters act out of jealousy or envy. She also shares an anecdote about a friend who dismissed false rumors about Liz, highlighting that she does not let haters bother her and views them as her 'super obsessed fans.'
๐ Lack of Empathy for Bullies: Choosing Not to Continue the Cycle
In this paragraph, Liz explains her shift from empathy to a lack of empathy for bullies, drawing from her own experiences of being bullied and abused. She argues that people who have suffered should not perpetuate the cycle of abuse. Liz believes that showing kindness to bullies is ineffective and can even provoke them further. Instead, she advises to mirror the energy that bullies put out, without engaging or trying to befriend them. She also stresses the importance of self-empathizing and focusing on personal healing rather than on the bullies' issues.
๐ Protecting Yourself from Bullies: No Fear, No Personal Sharing
Liz advises against sharing personal information with bullies, as it can be used against you. She encourages taking back power by not fearing the bullies, as their strength lies in the fear they instill in others. Liz shares her experience with an abusive parent and how speaking up and defending oneself can diminish the bully's power. She also suggests being dramatic if a bully becomes physically aggressive to ensure the incident is taken seriously and to avoid any future occurrences.
๐ Changing Your Environment to Escape Bullying
In the final paragraph, Liz talks about the importance of changing one's environment to escape bullying, whether it's changing schools, jobs, or even relocating to a different city or country. She emphasizes that it's not weak to seek a better environment for mental peace and healing. Liz encourages focusing on self-improvement and healing from the trauma of bullying. She concludes by stating that haters and bullies often become fans over time and that strength comes from overcoming these challenges.
Mindmap
Keywords
๐กHaters
๐กBullies
๐กEmpathy
๐กSelf-worth
๐กJealousy
๐กFear
๐กMirroring
๐กConfidence
๐กManipulation
๐กHealing
๐กSelf-improvement
Highlights
Liz no longer engages with haters and focuses on her own life and well-being.
She emphasizes that haters only have power if you give them a reaction.
Successful and confident people don't engage in bullying or spreading rumors.
Liz views haters as her 'super obsessed fans' who pay close attention to her.
She advises not to be bothered by what people say and to live in silence.
Liz suggests that bullying is often a result of jealousy and envy.
She recounts a story where a friend dismissed false rumors about Liz.
Liz believes that haters can be turned into fans through strength and self-confidence.
She shares her personal experiences of being bullied and abused, and how she overcame it.
Liz advises not to have empathy for bullies, as they choose to act negatively.
She suggests mirroring the energy of bullies without engaging or provoking them.
Liz warns against trying to be nice to bullies, as it often backfires.
She emphasizes the importance of not sharing personal information with bullies.
Liz encourages taking action against physical bullying and reporting it to authorities.
She advises changing environments if they are negative or toxic.
Liz stresses the importance of healing from bullying and seeking professional help.
She concludes by stating that haters are easy to manipulate and that strength comes from self-confidence.
Liz ends with a message of hope, stating that those who have been bullied often become successful.
Transcripts
these days everyone has been asking me
Liz how do you deal with your haters how
do you deal with bullies
okay listen to me first of all I do not
deal with haters anymore I think I used
to be very much like more involved but
as if right now I do not read my
comments I don't know what is being said
about me I mean sometimes I hear it but
I'm not really involved with them why
because I don't want to give them my
energy I don't want to hear it I don't
want to see it I'm in my own little
bubble with my just the people I love
with my cats I'm good you know I'm good
I'm minding my own business I'm doing my
own stuff I'm upgrading my live in
silence I'm not bothering anyone so why
should I allow someone to bother me no
okay the only Power haters have over you
or bullies have over you is the power
you give them by you giving them a
reaction but if you take that away they
do not have any power over you it can
only make you feel bad if you allow them
to make you feel bad top of that with
haters I realize you know someone in
somebody that's successful somebody
that's beautiful somebody that has a lot
of self-confidence self-worth will never
go and like write something nasty or
like create rumors or do like very nasty
stuff nobody who's actually living a
successful and happy life does that it's
always the miserable
ugly looking Gremlins that want to talk
but baby instead of worrying about other
people's faces about other people's life
look at your own most of the time is
jealousy it's Envy everything that's
involved but at the end of the day I do
not care for them
no recently I went to visit my family in
the country where I grew up and I met up
with a friend that I hadn't seen in a
long time and she basically told me
um about like a girl who reached out to
her again who knew that me and her were
friends uh she basically told my friend
like all these stuff about me that
people were saying and then my friend
told her she was like but why are you
telling me all this you know like it's
all obviously a lie and then why are you
telling me this and then she goes like
yeah just so you just so you can tell
Liz what people say about her
and what will I do now will I Cry
like I like the fact that I talked about
do you guys not get it I want to be
talked about I think haters are my
biggest fans you have my regular fans
and then you have my super obsessed fans
AKA haters because they will watch a
video and they will constantly watch it
until they find something that they can
take out of context and they can run for
like years and years and say oh my God
she said that she said this but like my
other fans were just normal they'll just
watch it think whatever they want and
they'll leave like chilly like what will
I do now oh my God no people are talking
about me why am I on social media to not
be talked about are you insane that's so
dumb I saw a painting that said uh
there's one thing worse than being
talked about and that is not being
talked about and that made me really
realize how true that is because imagine
nobody talked about me nobody even cared
for who I was or what I did like I would
not be successful in this video I will
show you how you can deal with bullies
haters bullies you can have in school
you can have uh at your job this is
literally a very good video for anyone I
have been bullied uh in my own home by
abusive parents and always in school
like I was always bullied so I can give
you the best advice hi guys my name is
this and welcome back to my channel okay
let's get right into it first things
first do not have empathy for them
listen I really I am a very empathic
person so I am the kind of person I
would always put myself in other
people's shoes right so I had this girl
she used to bully me uh when I was in
high school and constantly she was
bullying me she would make fun of my
looks everything
and I always felt bad for her because
everyone was saying like yeah it's
because her dad like left them she's
very traumatized because of that then
I'm thinking oh that's so sad for her
but now I'm thinking like I literally
the same at the same time I was growing
up with an abusive parent that was
abusing me every single day and I did
not act like that towards anyone so at
the end of the day I do not have empathy
for them anymore because you can
literally decide what you do with what
happened with to you yes life is unfair
things happen uh you did not deserve it
but how can I just because I was abused
as a child and all these things go on to
grow up to do that to someone else I
would never because I know how it feels
I know how damaging that is even saying
something to someone I do not feel good
if I made someone upset because of my
words because of anything I literally
would not be able to sleep at night
these are the type of people they feel
comfortable in this you know like people
say like yeah but it's hard for them you
know they grew up like very harsh
whatever no you know it's actually hard
get growing up that way growing up in an
abusive household or like being trumped
as whatever and then choosing to not be
like that because that's the only thing
you know but if you choose to be like
you know what I am not gonna do this I
am not going to continue this that is
actual strength doing the same thing
that you have been taught because that's
the only thing you know at all victim
mindset so sorry that this happened to
me yeah actually nobody cares what
happened to you true you should take
responsibility for what happened and you
should deal with that and you should not
go out and Bully other people or hate on
other people because you have issues
that is not my issue or anyone's else
issue that is for you to fix do not have
empathy for them have that empathy for
yourself they are putting you through
something that is not okay they are
putting into something that is not nice
regardless of their situation I could
not care less about their situation
I do not care
you should look at yourself and be like
am I being treated badly have empathy
with yourself another thing is stop
trying to be nice to them this is a
mistake we make because we think oh if
they're bullying us like we should be
nice to them maybe they'll be nicer to
us kill them with kindness this never
works this does not work why these
people do not know what it means to be
kind these people do not know what
niceness is I actually tried this once
with my abusive parent
um I grew up and
I was sitting down uh with this person
at the table and I was like okay maybe
you know what like I should just be
nicer to this person because then this
person will like me more
so then I remember we were having a
conversation and stuff and I was just
being normal and whatever and then I
said something nice to this person which
I hadn't tried before I swear I never
got scolded more in my life the reaction
was insane like literally and I I
literally left the table crying like
this person completely turned because I
was nice to them these people do not
know what nice is to them it's a threat
so if you're trying to be nice to them
that will actually make them even more
angry and make them even more upset but
what do you do instead instead every
single person whether it's a bully
whether it's a guy whether it's whoever
you mirror them the same energy they
give to you you give to them
same with bullies like they're called to
you they're they're distant they they're
mean to you whatever I'm not saying go
provoke them and be mean back but keep
your distance then do not try to get
closer to them okay you keep your
distance you do not engage with them you
you just be on your own whatever but
mirror them do whatever they do to you
if you're texting a guy right and this
guy's being cold and dry to you whatever
and you're trying to be nice and then
like I have conversation going no you
are cold and dry as well you give them
exactly what they give you this works
like gold like gold I had this one
friend of mine he has like issues at his
job whatever and this one guy who was
working with him his co-worker he
constantly was like uh digging at him
and throwing dicks at him whatever and
he would like he would let it slide
slide and he was just trying to be nice
to him so he would like him right but
then I told him you should start
mirroring him do exactly what he does to
you give him the same energy right so uh
with that I meant like if he's being
passive aggressive so he makes like
comments that are like not nice but he
says it in a way where you can't really
say hey that was not nice you know being
past Progressive you are being passive
aggressive back to him you give him the
same way he's treating you in a cold
manner you treat him in a cold matter
when people start to mirror them that's
when actually the person also starts to
see what he is doing wrong now this
thing is don't tell them anything about
you do not share anything personal do
not share anything pictures nothing do
not do not try to befriend your bullies
or whatever do not do not go there like
I said in my last video about friends
and all these things these people are
nobody's friends these people don't like
themselves
when somebody doesn't like themselves
they will not like you it doesn't matter
they will betray you they will do
whatever you will be in so much trouble
do not share anything personal with this
person because anything you say will be
used against you imagine you shared
something or or you already have already
know something about you or they want to
expose something about you or a picture
they have or a video or whatever
have no fear tell them lick it do it
you take your power back by having no
fear
when somebody is not scared of anything
they have nothing nothing on you because
at the end of the day the only thing
they feel powerful of is your fear the
only thing they're feeding off right now
is your fear
I had I learned this with my abusive
parent uh when I was younger all of my
siblings and we would all get abused we
were so scared of this person everything
but then when we grew up we started to
really like uh speak up for ourselves
and we started to defend ourselves and
defend our other siblings when anything
happened and that's why and that's when
it really showed how small this person
was like he was not powerful at all we
made him powerful because we gave him
constant like oh we're scared of you
we're scared of you we gave him like
that constant fear so he was feeding off
of that but when we started to speak up
for ourselves he totally lost his power
is there was no more fear and that's
also when he left only thing they have
over you is your fear of them
fear nothing the thing is take nothing
lightly listen when uh bullies when they
become physical with you right and even
if it's like a little push or whatever I
had
um this one friend of mine and she
basically nobody would ever bully her
because this girl one time we were in
class and this one of this guy like he
pushed her but playfully this girl went
down on the floor and started yelling ah
he hurts me Miss he heard me I'm in so
much pain I'm a heart patient and like a
whole like I've never seen something
like this before by the way this girl is
still my best friend like I love her so
much but it was insane and after that
nobody ever dared to touch her because
she made it so big and even though like
the principal came everyone was like oh
my God is she okay like everyone was so
stressed because she made it so big and
I for example I would like that common
slide I would like like even them
hitting me I would slide oh yeah it just
jokes it just jokes it's not jokes okay
you are the joke you are a joke
literally they're making fun of you so
now if I would be in high school again
and I would do it all over oh I would be
the biggest drama queen ever anything
they say to me I'll go to the principal
and be sit there for like 10 hours I
don't care like complaining all day I
will get police involved I would do
anything literally like I have no shame
literally if you feel uncomfortable
about something I don't care if you go
on onto the floor cry your eyes I'll
start yelling whatever you do anything
that is so dramatic that it will not
ever happen again and don't think it's
like weak to appear like that in front
of other people or oh like you lost the
fight honey I'll lose your fight any
single day because I do not fight I
literally don't fight with who am I
gonna fight why why should I fight I'll
fight you in court yes but I don't have
physical with anyone imagine they do
something to my face or something or
they break something that's disgusting
tell people in Authority tell your boss
tell your principal tell the police I do
not care hair go to people in Authority
don't think that is weak don't think
that it's snitching no people lose their
lives over this this is your life your
life is important okay you can actually
do something about this when you tell
people in authority and you should
bother these people because sometimes
even people in Authority will not help
you they're like oh yeah whatever it's
not that big of a deal no bother them
bother them bother them until you
actually get what you want change
schools change your working environment
change your city your environment your
country
anything where you feel like you're
being treated in a negative way anything
where you feel is a negative environment
for you where you cannot drive where
you're being bullied you change that
place it is not weird to like go to a
different country where you feel better
it is not weird to change schools no
whatever you need to do to have mental
peace and to have peace in your life and
to actually start healing from the
things they put you through
that is amazing and you should actually
actually do that because that's what's
best for you do not think that it's weak
or that you're running awake or or that
they will think you're weak or whatever
the weakest human beings are the ones
that bully others they're so weak
they're so pathetic they're so ugly come
on focus on upgrading yourself Focus On
Healing yourself
um a lot of times we don't understand
what kind of trauma and bullying brings
we just uh shrug it off oh whatever it
was in high school whatever no those
things actually leave an imprint on you
even uh in your adult years and whatever
happens so Focus On Healing that focus
on talking to people talking to a
therapist writing it down journaling
um and focus on really creating a higher
sense of self-worth of self-confidence
upgrading yourself in every single way
possible
focus on anything that you feel like is
best for you and at the end of the day
haters and Bullies will become fans
literally the people that have believed
me literally the people that have hated
me are literally fans now and it's just
embarrassing like you know what haters I
love haters they're so easy to
manipulate if you can make someone hate
you for no reason you know how strong of
an emotion hate is like I can make them
love them love me as well like so quick
I'm just like I love to manipulate these
people like I can say anything and
they're mad and triggered and then they
send all their energy to me just because
I made them mad but they're so easy to
make mad I think any day is a good day
when I hate a cries anyways guys don't
let yourself get discouraged like make
yourself feel bad about these
ugly low-life people like genuinely
um just focus on yourself focus on doing
every single possible to keep your
safety because that's the most important
thing you are actually the strongest one
out there and all the people that were
bullied before are successful now it's
always like that because God really
blesses you and he did that with me and
he will do that with you so do not worry
it will all be okay and do not fear them
because of your fear you're giving them
power okay guys thank you so much I love
you guys so much I hope you guys learned
something and yeah I love you I see you
in the next video bye-bye
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