7 Downsides to Being a Well-Dressed Man
Summary
TLDR视频探讨了穿着得体可能带来的负面效应。穿着考究可能会让其他人感到自卑,因为人们倾向于相互比较。此外,追求时尚往往需要更多的金钱投入,因为高质量的衣物通常价格不菲。维护得体的穿着也需要时间和耐心,比如干洗、熨烫和擦鞋。然而,精心维护的衣物可以持久耐用,给人带来自信。同时,穿着得体可能会引起他人的误解或过高的期望。尽管如此,作者认为这些潜在的负面效应并不妨碍他追求个人形象的提升,反而能带来积极的社交反馈和自我满足。
Takeaways
- 👔 穿着得体可能会让其他人感到自卑,因为人们总是会在某些方面与他人比较。
- 🤵♂️ 穿着过于讲究可能会在某些场合显得不合适,需要根据场合调整着装。
- 💰 追求时尚可能会花费更多金钱,因为高质量的服装往往价格不菲。
- 👕 穿着得体需要更多的维护,如羊毛、丝绸和皮革等材质需要特别的护理。
- 🛍️ 虽然追求时尚可能需要更多的投入,但通过购买二手衣物可以在预算内保持风格。
- 👖 穿着得体需要耐心,因为定制或寻找合适的服装可能需要较长的时间。
- 👨💼 穿着得体会提高个人标准,可能会在某些时候给自己带来额外的压力。
- 🧍♂️ 穿着得体可能会让他人对你有误解,例如认为你很保守或者有其他刻板印象。
- 👀 穿着得体会引起他人的注意,这可能会带来额外的好处,如吸引异性的注意。
- 🔝 穿着得体会提升你的个人形象,但也可能让你在某些时候感到不便,比如想要放松的时候。
Q & A
为什么穿着得体会让他人感到不安?
-穿着得体可能会让其他人感到自己不够成功或技能不足,因为衣着和整体外观是成功和技能的指标,这可能会引起他人的自卑感。
作者在蓝调俱乐部的经历说明了什么?
-作者在蓝调俱乐部的经历说明了即使他通常穿着得体,但遇到穿着更正式的人时,他也会感受到被超越,这揭示了人们普遍存在的不安全感。
为什么说穿着得体并不意味着过度着装?
-穿着得体意味着要根据场合适当着装,而不是与场合格格不入地过度着装。
作者提到了哪些品牌作为提升服装品质的例子?
-作者提到了Brooks Brothers和Suit Supply作为提升服装品质的例子。
为什么说穿着得体可能会增加个人开支?
-因为随着对风格的了解加深,个人会变得更加挑剔,倾向于购买更高品质和经典款式的服装,这些通常价格更高。
作者建议如何以预算内的方式穿着得体?
-作者建议通过购买二手服装,如在eBay上购物,来以预算内的方式穿着得体,同时不牺牲风格或质量。
为什么说穿着得体需要耐心?
-因为穿着得体往往涉及到定制服装,这需要等待制作和可能的修改,这个过程需要时间,体现了所谓的'慢时尚'。
穿着得体的人在维护衣物上需要做些什么?
-穿着得体的人需要对衣物进行更细致的维护,如干洗西装、熨烫衬衫、擦亮鞋子等,以保持衣物的质量和外观。
为什么说穿着得体可能会提高个人标准?
-因为一旦建立了穿着得体的声誉,人们可能会对自己有更高的期望,这可能会在某些时候成为一种负担。
作者如何看待他人对穿着得体的人的假设?
-作者认为,虽然他人可能会对穿着得体的人有一些正面或负面的假设,但这些假设并不总是准确的,可以通过个性化的风格来挑战这些假设。
作者提供一对一咨询服务的目的是什么?
-作者提供一对一咨询服务的目的是帮助人们提升他们的穿着风格,成为最佳版本的自己。
Outlines
👔 穿着得体的男性可能面临的挑战
本段讨论了穿着得体可能带来的一些负面效应。首先,作者指出,穿着得体可能会让其他人感到自卑,因为人们倾向于相互比较。当某人在某些方面更成功时,比如穿着更得体,可能会引起他人的低自尊和对自己成就的不满。作者通过自己在蓝调俱乐部的经历来说明这一点,他在那里被一个穿着完美西装的人比下去了。此外,作者还提到,虽然许多人认为穿着得体需要花费很多钱,但实际上,通过购买二手衣物,比如在eBay上,可以在不牺牲风格或质量的情况下节省开支。作者建议,为了个人形象,应该将净收入的10%用于购买衣物。
👕 维护得体着装所需的耐心与努力
第二段内容强调了穿着得体所需的维护工作和耐心。作者指出,高质量的衣物,如羊毛、丝绸和皮革,需要比廉价合成材料更细心的护理。例如,西装需要干洗,衬衫需要熨烫,鞋子需要擦亮。作者提到,虽然维护衣物需要时间,但这些努力会带来长期的好处,因为真正的衣物如果得到适当的维护,可以持续数十年。此外,作者还讨论了“慢时尚”的概念,即定制服装需要等待和调整,这要求消费者在购买时更加慎重和挑剔。作者还提到,尽管有些人可能不理解或对穿着得体的人有误解,但这种风格通常会吸引他人的注意,尤其是女性,他们对男性的精心打扮感到新鲜。最后,作者提到,穿着得体会提高个人标准,有时可能会成为一种负担,但总体上,作者认为这是值得的。
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Keywords
💡Dressing Well
💡Social Comparison
💡Clothing Maintenance
💡Budget and Expenses
💡Slow Fashion
💡Personal Presentation
💡Stereotypes
💡Overdressing
💡Self-Expression
💡High Standards
Highlights
穿着得体可以为男性的生活带来许多好处,但也可能有一些负面影响。
穿着得体可能会让其他人感到不舒服,因为人们总是以某种方式相互比较。
穿着得体可能会无意中提升自己的社会地位,这有时会让人感到不适。
穿着得体并不意味着过度着装,需要根据场合适当着装。
穿着得体可能需要更多的金钱投入,因为高质量的服装往往价格更高。
通过购买二手服装可以在不牺牲风格或质量的情况下节省开支。
建议将净收入的10%用于购买服装。
穿着得体需要更多的维护,如干洗、熨烫和擦鞋。
维护得当的高质量服装可以持续数十年。
穿着得体需要耐心,因为定制服装需要等待。
定制服装的过程允许创造性,为穿着得体的男士提供独一无二的服装。
穿着得体可能会让别人对你的个性产生误解。
穿着得体的人可能会被认为更成功、成熟和有品位,但也可能被看作保守。
穿着得体会提高你的标准,因为你将成为总是看起来整洁的人。
作者提供一对一咨询服务,帮助男士提升他们的着装风格。
Transcripts
I am a huge advocate for dressing well
and I think it can bring many benefits
to a man's life but in today's video I
thought it would be fun to explore the
downsides of being a stylish
gent the first downside to being
well-dressed is that it can make others
feel bad humans are always comparing
themselves to one another in some kind
of way when someone is more successful
better at a certain skill or drives a
nicer car it can cause others to have
low self-esteem and feel down about
their own accomplishments in the social
realm the clothes you wear and your
overall appearance are both indicators
of success and skill the skill of
putting an outfit together so when you
dress better than other people you put
yourself a peg above them which can
sometimes rub people the wrong way
despite normally being the best dressed
man in the room I recently experienced
this for myself I was at a blues club
with my friend I was wearing a
button-down collar shirt a knit tie and
a sports coat I was feeling very happy
with my outfit until in the restroom I
was there washing my hands and then a
man came next to me at the sink wearing
an Immaculate two-piece suit and tie I
felt like I'd been upstaged a little bit
and obviously that's my insecurity but
human beings all have irrational
insecurities the best remedy for this
problem is to remember that being
well-dressed doesn't mean being
overdressed you have to accommodate your
outfit to the occasion and not dress
outlandishly differently for example if
I were going to a bar with friends who
like to dress very casually turning up
like this wouldn't be being well-dressed
many influencers in the men's style
Community say it is a myth that being
well-dressed costs money but from my
experience I spend a hell of a lot more
on clothes now than I did before I was
interested in men's style for most men
clothes are just a basic utility like
food and housing but for the stylish Man
Clothing becomes a hobby and all Hobbies
can be expensive the more you learn
about style the more Discerning you
become as a consumer you realize that
affordable stores like H&M and Zara use
cheap fabrics and don't appreciate the
principles of classic Men's Wear so you
want to level up your shopping to Brooks
Brothers suit supply and you constantly
discover new items that you want to buy
perhaps it's an interesting Winchester
shirt a SE sucker blazer for summer or a
new tie however there is a way to dress
well on a budget without sacrificing
style or quality and that is to buy used
garments eBay is a gold mine of
affordable men's wear and I know many
men's style influencers have built their
closet on a shoestring budget this way I
don't have a lot of experience with eBay
yet but I plan on buying a secondhand
suit on eBay to see how it goes let me
know in the comments if you would like
to see a video about that also I would
argue that most men in General
underspend on clothes and they don't
realize the importance of personal
presentation when putting together their
budget as a rule of thumb I recommend
spending around 10% of your net income
on clothing you may choose to allocate
that to buying a larger quantity of used
items or fewer new items depending on
your
preference the third downside of Being A
well-dressed man is that it requires a
lot of Maintenance clothes made of wool
silk and leather must be washed and
maintained more carefully than cheap
synthetic clothes suits and separates
must be dry cleaned shirts must be
ironed shoes have to be polished and of
course buttons have to be reone on the
other hand the man who does not care
about his clothes will throw everything
in the tumble dryer and just toss it
away when it becomes damaged although it
takes time to maintain your clothes as A
well-dressed man your efforts will pay
dividends real clothes can last decades
if properly maintained and there is a
feeling of pride in taking care of your
garments and maintaining them properly
that will give you an extra boost of
confidence when wearing
them another downside to Being A
well-dressed man is that it takes
patience we hear a lot today about fast
fashion but the well-dressed man is a
consumer of what I like to call slow
style a man who orders bespoke garments
will have a waiting period of at least 6
weeks and then there are normally
alterations to be made so it's not
unusual for there to be a 2 to 3 Monon
gap between first ordering his clothes
and getting them in his closet even if
you don't go custom you are likely to
use a tailor As A well-dressed man
renowned tailor in busy cities of have
long wait times for example I've been
working with my tayor to get the fit
right on a blazer for 6 weeks now but
there is a big benefit to slow style it
requires you to be more deliberate and
Discerning in your purchases when you
remove the instant gratification from
the shopping experiences you have to
think more carefully about exactly what
you want and the bespoke process allows
for creativity providing the
well-dressed man with a garment that is
unique to him
another downside of dressing sharp is
that others might not understand it we
live in a time where personal
presentation is not as valued as it once
was the normal outfit for an adult man
today is no different to the normal
outfit for a 4-year-old and of course
this has changed women's perceptions of
how a man dresses so if you choose the
path of style wearing suits Blazers and
ties some people may have a hard time
understanding your choice they may think
you're only dressed like that to go to
work to go to a wedding or because
you're in the Secret Service some people
may ask outright why are you dressed
like that on the plus side this means
being well-dressed will make you stand
out you will catch people's attention
with your looks and draw them in from my
experience women are very happy to see a
man dressing sharp because it makes a
refreshing change from the way they
normally see men dress so I found that
the additional attention that comes from
being well-dressed to be an overall
positive not a
negative a downside of Being A
well-dressed man is that people make
assumptions about your personality when
people see a man dressed in a suit and
tie or even just a collared shirt they
make assumptions about him overall these
stereotypes are mostly positive the
well-dressed man is seen as more
successful capable mature and
sophisticated but he is also more likely
to be seen as conservative and perhaps a
little vanilla which may or may not be
true for you if a man dresses a little
more flamboyantly people might think
he's gay because so few straight men
care about their appearance if you want
to challenge these assumptions put a
personal spin on classic style maybe
that means wearing sneakers with your
suits wearing different colored suits or
accessories like jewelry or a
neckerchief now we come to the final
downside of dressing sharp and that is
it raises your standards when you dress
well you begin to develop a bit of a
reputation you're the guy who always
looks sharp this can become a slight
burden sometimes for example if you want
to run some errands before going to the
gym and you don't have time to change or
you just didn't feel like dressing well
that day and you wanted to lounge around
in a sweatsuit it's a bit like being a
woman who wears a lot of makeup if she
doesn't want to wear makeup one
particular day it's going to be a lot
more noticeable than it would be for the
woman who only wears minimum makeup but
overall I would rather set these high
standards for myself and occasionally
fall short of them than to have no
standards for my personal appearance at
all gentlemen I want to hear from you in
the comments what do you believe is the
biggest downside to dressing sharp is it
one of the points I mentioned or is it
something else I am opening up my
calendar to help men like you become the
best dressed versions of themselves if
you want to level up your your style you
can book a oneon-one consultation call
with me where we can go through what
you're currently wearing how you would
like to dress and how I can help you get
there I will take a look at your current
style see what is and isn't working and
offer my personal suggestions on how you
could improve so there is a link in the
description where you can book some time
with me I'm very excited for the chance
to work with you one onone and level up
your style so thank you for watching
today's video and I'll speak with with
you soon
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