How To Improve Your Decision Making

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Summary

TLDRIn this insightful video, Rob Dial Jr. shares five strategies for making better decisions amidst life's overwhelming choices. He emphasizes finding your 'North Star'โ€”a clear life plan to align your choices with your long-term goals. Dial also advocates trusting your gut, backed by neuroscience showing our 'second brain' in the gut influences cognition. He suggests embracing the power of pause, using the 10110 Rule for perspective, and recognizing the paradox of too many choices. These techniques aim to bolster confidence in decision-making and reduce the fatigue of constant choosing.

Takeaways

  • ๐ŸŒŸ Identify Your North Star: Create a clear vision for your life to guide your decisions and actions towards what you truly want to achieve.
  • ๐Ÿงญ Align Actions with Your Goals: Ensure every decision aligns with your North Star to maintain direction and purpose in life.
  • ๐Ÿ’ฐ Money as a Byproduct: Recognize that wealth is often a byproduct of pursuing your passion rather than the primary goal.
  • ๐Ÿ”‹ Follow Your Energy: Pay attention to where your energy is drawn; it can indicate what you are genuinely passionate about.
  • ๐Ÿšซ Practice Saying No: Develop the skill of declining opportunities that do not align with your North Star to stay focused on your path.
  • ๐Ÿค” Trust Your Gut: Intuition, backed by neuroscience, can be a powerful tool in decision-making, especially in assessing situations or people.
  • ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ Embrace the Power of Pause: Take moments of reflection to allow your brain to shift from a reactive to a more logical state before making decisions.
  • ๐Ÿ—“๏ธ Apply the 10/10/10 Rule: Gain perspective by considering how you will feel about a decision in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years.
  • ๐Ÿ’†โ€โ™€๏ธ Listen to Your Emotions: Emotions and instincts are not unreliable; they can provide valuable insights into your decisions.
  • ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ Strengthen Decision-Making Confidence: Use the strategies discussed to bolster confidence in your choices and reduce second-guessing.
  • ๐Ÿ“š The Paradox of Choice: Recognize that too many options can lead to decision fatigue and paralysis by analysis, and sometimes less is more.

Q & A

  • What are the five simple strategies mentioned in the video for making better decisions?

    -The video does not explicitly list five strategies, but it emphasizes finding your North Star, trusting your gut feeling, embracing the power of the pause, using the 10/10/10 rule, and understanding the Paradox of Choice as key approaches to improve decision-making.

  • What is the significance of finding your North Star in decision-making?

    -Your North Star represents your long-term goals and values. It helps you align every decision with what you truly want in life, providing a clear direction and making it easier to say 'no' to things that don't align with your vision.

  • Why is it important to create a plan for what you want your life to be?

    -Creating a life plan helps you to filter your decisions through your long-term goals and aspirations, ensuring that your choices are consistent with the life you are trying to create.

  • What does the term 'gut feeling' refer to in the context of the video?

    -In the video, 'gut feeling' refers to intuition, which is supported by recent neuroscience research showing that it might be a powerful tool in decision-making, especially in assessing situations or people.

  • How does the speaker suggest using your gut feeling in conjunction with your intellect?

    -The speaker suggests not blindly following your gut but using it in tandem with your intellect. It implies taking a moment to breathe, reflect on how a decision feels, and then making a decision that is informed by both your emotions and rational thinking.

  • What is the '10/10/10 rule' and how can it help with decision-making?

    -The '10/10/10 rule' is a method to gain perspective by asking how you will feel about a decision in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years. It helps to break the immediate emotional response and encourages long-term thinking.

  • What is the Paradox of Choice and how does it relate to decision-making?

    -The Paradox of Choice suggests that an abundance of options can lead to decision paralysis and analysis. It implies that having fewer choices can sometimes lead to better decision-making by reducing decision fatigue.

  • How does the speaker describe the relationship between the gut and the brain?

    -The speaker describes the gut as having a complex system that can influence both physiological and psychological processes in the brain. There is a bidirectional communication between the gut and the brain, allowing them to influence each other.

  • What is the role of the inter-nervous system (ENS) in decision-making according to the video?

    -The ENS, often referred to as the 'second brain,' is a network of neurons in the digestive tract. It can influence cognitive function and memory, making it a significant factor in how our gut feelings can affect decision-making.

  • How does the speaker suggest using the power of the pause in decision-making?

    -The speaker suggests taking a moment of reflection, such as a few minutes or deep breaths, before making a decision. This pause allows the brain to shift from a reactive state to a more logical and reasoned state, leading to better decision-making.

  • What is the mindset Mentor plus and how does it relate to the podcast?

    -Mindset Mentor plus is an additional resource designed by the speaker to help listeners actively integrate the podcast's teachings into their lives. It includes detailed worksheets, journaling questions, challenges, assignments, and monthly Q&A sessions.

Outlines

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๐ŸŒŸ Finding Your North Star for Decision Making

The speaker introduces five strategies to improve decision-making, starting with the concept of finding your 'North Star'โ€”a guiding vision for life that aligns all decisions with one's long-term goals. This involves creating a plan for what you want your life to look like in the future and filtering decisions through this vision. The speaker emphasizes that a North Star is not just about making more money but about what you are passionate about and want to dedicate your life to. They share personal examples, such as shutting down an Amazon business to focus on podcasting and coaching, illustrating how following one's passion can lead to fulfillment and success.

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๐Ÿค” Trusting Your Gut for Better Decisions

The second strategy discussed is the importance of trusting one's gut feelings in decision-making. The speaker explains that gut feelings are not just mystical but have a scientific basis, rooted in the enteric nervous system (ENS), which is often referred to as our 'second brain.' The ENS communicates with the brain and can influence cognitive function and memory. Studies show that trusting gut instincts can lead to better predictions and judgments compared to relying solely on facts. The speaker encourages listeners to pay attention to their gut feelings and use them in conjunction with intellect to make informed decisions.

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๐Ÿง˜ Embracing the Power of the Pause

The speaker introduces the concept of 'the power of the pause,' which involves taking a moment of reflection before making a decision. This pause allows the brain to shift from a reactive state, driven by the amygdala, to a more logical state governed by the prefrontal cortex. The speaker suggests that even a brief pause can help in making better decisions by reducing decision fatigue and allowing for clearer, more rational thought processes. They also mention the 10110 Rule, created by Susan Welch, as a method for gaining perspective by considering how one will feel about a decision in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years, thus promoting long-term thinking over immediate reactions.

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๐Ÿ”ฎ The 10110 Rule for Decision Perspective

This paragraph delves deeper into the 10110 Rule, a technique for evaluating decisions by considering their impact at different time frames. The speaker provides examples of how to apply this rule, such as evaluating a job decision's effect on family time and financial status in the short and long term. By projecting feelings and outcomes into the future, the 10110 Rule helps to break the immediate emotional response and encourages a more thoughtful, long-term approach to decision-making.

๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ Understanding the Paradox of Choice and Decision Fatigue

The final strategy presented is understanding the 'Paradox of Choice,' which suggests that having too many options can lead to decision paralysis and reduced satisfaction. The speaker references interviews with older individuals who express that modern abundance of choices can be overwhelming. They mention Jeff Bezos' approach to limit the number of important decisions made per day to maintain decision quality. The speaker concludes by reiterating the importance of identifying one's North Star and using the discussed techniques to filter decisions effectively, thus improving overall life choices.

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Keywords

๐Ÿ’กDecision Making

Decision making is the cognitive process of selecting a course of action from multiple alternatives. In the video, it is the central theme, focusing on how individuals can improve this process to align with their life goals. The script discusses strategies such as finding a 'North Star' to guide decisions, which exemplifies the concept's relevance to personal growth and alignment with one's values.

๐Ÿ’กNorth Star

In the context of the video, the 'North Star' is a metaphor for a guiding principle or goal that directs all of one's decisions and actions. It is described as essential for creating a life plan and ensuring that every choice made is in alignment with one's long-term vision, such as where one wants to be in 5 or 20 years.

๐Ÿ’กGut Feeling

Gut feeling, also known as intuition, is an immediate emotional response or instinctual reaction to a situation. The video emphasizes trusting one's gut as a valuable tool in decision making, supported by neuroscience research that shows the gut's interconnection with the brain and its influence on cognitive function.

๐Ÿ’กIntuition

Intuition is the ability to understand or know something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. The script describes intuition as a powerful decision-making tool, particularly when assessing situations or people, and suggests that it is rooted in the body's nervous system, specifically the enteric nervous system.

๐Ÿ’กEmotional Compass

The term 'emotional compass' is used in the video to describe the role of emotions and intuition in guiding one's decisions. It suggests that emotions are not just unreliable influences but are integral to understanding one's true feelings about a situation, and should be considered alongside rational thought.

๐Ÿ’กParadox of Choice

The 'Paradox of Choice' refers to a phenomenon where having too many options can lead to decision paralysis and reduced satisfaction. The video mentions this concept to illustrate that an overabundance of choices can complicate the decision-making process and potentially lead to inaction or regret.

๐Ÿ’กDecision Fatigue

Decision fatigue is the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual as a result of making many decisions in a short sequence. The script uses this term to explain why it's beneficial to limit the number of decisions one makes in a day, focusing on the most important ones to maintain decision quality.

๐Ÿ’กPause

In the video, 'pause' is advocated as a beneficial action in the decision-making process. It suggests taking a moment of reflection before making a decision, allowing the brain to shift from a reactive state to one that is more logical and reasoned, which can lead to better decision outcomes.

๐Ÿ’ก10110 Rule

The 10110 Rule is a decision-making technique mentioned in the script that involves considering how one will feel about a decision in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years. This method is designed to provide perspective and long-term insight, helping to mitigate the effects of immediate emotional responses on decision quality.

๐Ÿ’กMindset

Mindset, in the context of the video, refers to an individual's mental attitude or inclination toward certain aspects of life, such as personal growth, learning, and decision making. The script discusses the importance of mindset in aligning one's decisions with their passion and life goals.

๐Ÿ’กPerspective

Perspective, in this video, is the ability to view situations or problems from different angles or timescales. The 10110 Rule is introduced as a way to gain perspective and make more informed decisions by considering the short-term and long-term emotional impacts of choices.

Highlights

The importance of finding your North Star, a guiding plan for life, to align decisions with your life goals.

Creating a North Star involves envisioning what you want your life to look like in 5 or 20 years and dedicating your life to it.

The misconception that making more money should be the North Star, when it's actually a byproduct of pursuing your true passion.

The value of following your energy and passion, like the speaker's preference for teaching mindset over other potentially lucrative activities.

Practicing the art of saying 'no' to opportunities that do not align with your North Star.

The story of the speaker's life-changing decision to close his Amazon business and pursue podcasting and coaching, illustrating the power of aligning with one's North Star.

The concept of trusting your gut as a tool for decision making, backed by neuroscience.

The role of the enteric nervous system (ENS) as our 'second brain' in the gut, influencing cognitive function and memory.

The bidirectional communication between the gut and the brain, and its impact on decision making.

The paradox of choice, where too many options can lead to decision paralysis and reduced decision quality.

The 10/10/10 rule as a method for gaining perspective on decisions by considering short-term and long-term feelings.

The benefits of embracing the power of the pause, allowing the brain to shift from reactive to logical reasoning.

The recommendation to limit daily decisions to focus on the most important ones, as practiced by successful individuals like Jeff Bezos.

The introduction of Mindset Mentor Plus, a program designed to help integrate podcast lessons into listeners' lives with additional resources.

The emphasis on improving decision-making by understanding and applying the discussed strategies to align with one's North Star.

A call to action for listeners to share the podcast and join the Mindset Mentor Plus community for further growth and connection.

Transcripts

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welcome to today's video today I'm going

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to give you five simple strategies to

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help you make better decisions let's

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dive in as a human especially now we

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have so many choices what do we do

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what's the right choice and so what we

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need to do is we need to figure out how

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can we make choices that are better for

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what we want for the life we're trying

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to create and after we make those

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choices how do we stand firmly in those

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choices versus getting like buyers were

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more or oh my god did I make the wrong

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decision you start questioning yourself

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okay so I'm going to give you a couple

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different tips to help you with that the

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first one is to find your North Star I

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think this is really important and this

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is something that people don't speak

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about enough and I think it might be one

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of the most important things that you

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ever do which is actually create a plan

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of what you want your life to be so that

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you can find every single action that

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you take every decision that you make if

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it is in alignment with what it is that

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you're trying to create and so what you

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want to do is you want to find your

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fourth star of what it is that you're

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doing where you're going what you're

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trying to create and then filter all of

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your decisions through that so like

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where do you want to be in your life if

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you fast forward 5 years or 20 years

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what do you want your life to look like

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maybe most important is what do you want

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to dedicate your life to you want to

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create this North Star and then all

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decisions filter through that North Star

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and if it's just I want to make more

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money that's not what you want that's

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not a North star that's just you know

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money is just just a byproduct of what

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you do along the way of this this

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journey to your Northstar cuz there's a

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million ways to make a million dollars I

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always say like for me like I'm I'm good

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at a few things like I'm really good in

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sales because I've been in sales for a

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long time I've trained over 2,000 sales

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reps I know a lot about watches I love

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watches uh I know a lot about sports I

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know a lot about these things and I

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could sure I could probably start a

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podcast on Sports if I wanted to I could

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probably go buy and resell watches and

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make a lot of money doing that I could

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probably be a sales coach if I wanted to

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do that I could probably make great

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money doing any of those things but I

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don't want to do that that's just not

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what I want to do like many times people

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have been like Rob you've been

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podcasting for so long why don't you

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create a course on podcasting it's

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because like I don't want to that's not

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I'm not I'm not passionate about

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teaching other people to grow a podcast

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nothing else makes me come alive as much

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as mindset and understanding what makes

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people tick and then teaching that to

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other people that is the thing that I

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love the most and so what you want to do

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is you want to follow your energy for

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that when I look at like teaching people

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sales is that what I want to do uh not

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really what does my energy say my energy

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saying

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no do I want to buy and resell watches

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no not really follow my energy my energy

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is not rich in that one do I want to

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start a sports podcast or a sports blog

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H not really much energy there do I want

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to help people with their mindset B yes

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that's what it is okay cool I'm

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following my energy and I'm going to

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limit my choices based off of what it is

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that I think I might want to do you know

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and and then what it comes down to is if

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it's not in my North Star it's a no it's

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a no it's just easy and get better at

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saying no like back in the day it was

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actually crazy yesterday we ended up

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getting a new house and on the way back

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from getting the keys to the house I

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stopped in at a Starbucks that I haven't

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been in in a very long time I Haven been

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there probably 8 years and the last time

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I was there was when I made the decision

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to shut down my Amazon company this was

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8 and a half years ago I made the

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decision to shut down my Amazon business

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and to go fully 100% into podcasting

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into

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coaching and it was crazy to think oh my

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God I just closed on this house which I

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absolutely love it's my dream housee

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I'll probably never leave that place and

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I was able to purchase it because I

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followed my passion and I followed the

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thing and I was in the Starbucks where I

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made the decision to go 100% into

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coaching into podcast casting and to get

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out of running an Amazon business it was

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just a great it was like the time kind

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of warped and I was sitting there I was

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like man this is wild I'm so glad that I

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made that decision because it's created

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the life that I have now and so maybe

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for you like being a great parent is

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your North Star being the best parent

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you could possibly be as your North Star

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will then filter all of your decisions

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through that maybe you get a job offer

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making double what you're making right

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now oh my God that's amazing amazing but

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you have to travel for half of the

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month okay you'd be away from your

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children in their early years does that

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line up with your North Star you might

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make more money but you be away from

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your children in their formative years

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would you rather have more money or

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would you rather have more time with

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your children okay well that makes it

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really easy well I guess maybe not

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really easy it makes it easier if you're

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North Stars I want to be the best parent

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that I possibly can be and if if you

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think okay well being the best parent I

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possibly can be means I want to be with

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my children as much as possible okay

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well then even though I'm going to make

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twice as much as I am now I'm going to

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have half the amount of time that I have

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right now with my children I don't know

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if this lines up with my

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Northstar that will help you make better

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decisions but it will also give you more

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confidence in your decision making after

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you make them so you don't constantly go

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back to oh did I make the right choice

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did I screw up did I do the wrong thing

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it's like no my Northstar is being the

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best parent spend as much time as I

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possibly kid can with my children in

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their formative years I made the right

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choice if it lines up with your North

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Star you made the right choice so that's

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the first thing find your Northstar the

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second thing is to check in with your

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gut you've probably heard the phrase

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before trusting your gut right your gut

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feeling has you get a gut feeling about

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something or you get a gut feeling about

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someone trusting your gut feeling can

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seem like oo woo wooy and mystical and

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very unscientific in decision decision

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making but you know I love science and

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going into it and I also love studies

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about this stuff Recent research in

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Neuroscience show that this isn't just a

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theory it's actually a fact it turns out

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that your gut feeling or your intuition

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might actually be a really powerful tool

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when you make decisions especially when

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it comes to assessing situations or

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people and so we're often taught like

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hey we need to rely on facts we need to

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rely on your intellect and we need to

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make rational decisions right as if our

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emotions and our instincts are something

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we shouldn't pay attention to oh yeah

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our emotions those are unreliable our

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instincts are unreliable you can't trust

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those things but there's a PHA there's a

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a phrase that says the heart knows what

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the Mind cannot understand sometimes we

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can't fully comprehend how we feel about

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a certain person or a situation it's

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just a feeling we get that feeling and

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that feeling is really important it's

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worth your

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consideration hey real quick I want to

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shows that our gut feeling or intuition

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is actually rooted in our physical

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bodies and there's actually a part of

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your your nervous system it's actually

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called the inter nervous system enss and

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it's a network of neurons that are

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located in the walls of your digestive

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tract huh holy this is real and

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neurologists refer to the ens the inter

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nervous system as your gut or your

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second brain because there's so many

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neurons in it and there's a study that

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was published in the Journal of American

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scientist in 1999 by Michael D Gerson

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who's a professor of anatomy and cell

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biology at Columbia University and he

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actually found that the gut functions as

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a separate and independent nervous

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system from your central nervous system

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and your gut has over 500 million

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neurons your gut can also influence your

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cognitive function and your memory as

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well so your gut is a complex system

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that's capable of influence both both

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your influencing both your physiological

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and your psychological processes in your

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brain and so there's a communication

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that happens between the ens and the

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brain and its bidirectional which means

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they can both kind of talk to each other

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this basically means that your gut can

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influence your brain and there's a ton

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of studies that are coming out now about

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how much your gut and your gut uh you

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know system and everything that's in it

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actually influences your brain and your

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brain can then also influence your gut

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so this is why you often experience uh

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physical Sensations in your stomach when

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you're nervous or you're anxious right

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what do they call that you got

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butterflies so what's interesting about

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the gut is also connected to the amydala

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which is the part of your brain that

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processes all of your fear and so the

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part of the brain that processes your

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your fear and all of that um when you

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look at it you can look at it and it's

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actually your your fight or flight

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response and so that means that our gut

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is not just this this vague sense of

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unease or uncertainty that we feel but

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it's actually a physi uh not

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physiological it's a physical response

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to a perceived threat in your life or

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even an opportunity and so when you do

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get I'm saying all this just to

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hopefully for those of you guys that are

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very analytical to go huh maybe I should

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pay attention to my gut feeling maybe I

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should pay attention my my intuition

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when you get a gut feeling about someone

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or something you should probably pay

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some attention to it maybe just maybe

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it's because your body's trying to alert

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you to maybe a danger that's coming up

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maybe a opportunity that maybe your

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conscious mind just hasn't been able to

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register yet and so Studies have shown

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that people who trust their gut

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instincts are often able to predict

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outcomes and make better accurate

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judgments than people who just go solely

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off of facts and figures so even if you

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don't have all the information just take

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a step back take a second and just think

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about it and feel into it how does it

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feel you know okay yeah this makes sense

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for me to go and take a job that pays me

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twice as much how do I feel though it

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doesn't feel right I don't know why it

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doesn't feel right okay well maybe your

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brain's going to catch up and go that

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means less time with my children yeah I

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guess maybe that's maybe that's why I

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didn't feel so right and so it doesn't

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mean that you should just blindly follow

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your gut that's not what I'm trying to

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say and just ah just blindly follow your

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gut but you can also use your gut and

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you can use your intellect together and

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make the best decisions you possibly can

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and so it's the it's just really like I

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always say your gut and the feelings of

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your gut is your emotional compass and

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you should always take a step back to

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look at it and follow it if it feels

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right so take six deep breaths I've got

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a really big decision I'm going to take

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six deep breaths and then close your

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eyes and just feel what is it what do I

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feel like I should do and see if that's

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something that you can trust okay the

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next thing is to embrace the power of

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the pause and what does that mean you

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know we live in a really fastpaced life

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sometimes it's really good instead of

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like always making decisions immediately

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take a step back Sometimes the best

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decisions come from a pause a moment of

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reflection and neurologically taking a

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step back allows the brain to shift it's

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processing from a more reactive amydala

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to the prefrontal cortex which is you

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know so that the amydala is the fear so

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it can immediately make a decision out

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of fear let me take a step back let me

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think about this for a minute it doesn't

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have to be you know you don't always

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have to sleep on it or take three days

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to think about it let me take three

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minutes real quick and what happens is

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your brain shifts from the amydala A lot

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of times to the prefrontal cortex which

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is the part where you have logical

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reasoning and you have planning and so

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you know for significant decisions don't

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immediately make a decision just say hey

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I'm just going to take a couple minutes

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I'm just going to take a real quick

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break take two minutes do six deep

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breaths see how you feel about it just a

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little bit of that pause will help you

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as well next thing that you can do to

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help you make better decisions is to use

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the What's called the 10110 Rule and so

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it was created by a woman named Susan

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Susan Welch and the 10110 rule is a way

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to help you gain perspective in your

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life and so it involves what it what it

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it involves is that you sit there and

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you start to think about the decision in

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the immediate future then you push it a

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little bit further out and then you push

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it way out into the distant future

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and so what you do is this is you ask

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yourself three questions how will I feel

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about this decision in 10

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minutes and you Journal through it or

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you allow yourself to answer it talk to

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yourself out loud if there's no one else

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around so you don't look cooky right

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just how do I how I feel about this

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decision in 10 minutes okay let's let's

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talk about the let's talk about the the

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child the being around your children and

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the the job we've been talking about

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right okay how will I feel about this

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decision in 10 minutes if I take this

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job and I spend way less time with my

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children but I make a whole lot more

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money well I might be excited in about

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10 minutes okay cool how will I be

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feeling in how will I feel about this in

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10 months hm okay well in 10 months I'll

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be with the company for about n and a

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half months at that point I'll probably

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be maybe excited because I'm making more

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money I might be a little bit stressed

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because I'm not spending much time with

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my children I don't know I might I might

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be kind of stressed because you know in

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10 months from now Stacy's going to

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start soccer and I might not be around

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for soccer as much as I want to be okay

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well that's probably how I feel in about

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10 months my wife might be a little bit

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stressed out cuz I'm not around the kids

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as much as I used to be and I might not

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be able to help them with homework so I

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might put a lot more weight on her

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shoulders so it might be stressful for

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her I might be feeling that stress as

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well okay how will I feel about it in 10

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years oh well in 10 years two of

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the kids are going to be out of this

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house I'm not they might be out of the

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house it might be at College at that

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point damn I don't know if I'm going to

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be happy about this decision in 10 years

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because I'm going to think to myself I

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shouldn't have taken that job because I

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wish I had more time with the children

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and now they're out of the house so it's

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how will I feel about it in 10 minutes

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how will I feel about it in 10 months

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how will I feel about it in 10 years and

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the method helps breaking the immediate

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emotional response to something and

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allow you to kind of really think a

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little bit more long term towards

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something and so that might be really

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perfect for you to kind of take a step

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back another example be like let's say

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you want to end a long-term relationship

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and so you know you have a a fiveyear

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relationship that you've been in it's

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had its ups and its downs and you think

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how will I feel in 10 minutes okay right

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after making decision I might feel a

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mixture of relief I might actually feel

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like oh man this is this is good I might

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be sad that I'm not with them anymore I

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but also at the same time I don't have

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to deal with their BS anymore what about

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10 months how am I going to feel well

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I'm going to have to get used to being

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single again I'm going to have to go on

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those dating apps I'm going to have to

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ReDiscover

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myself uh I might love my choice of

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being single I might miss them okay how

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am I going to feel in 10 years 10 years

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from

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today will I feel that this led to a

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happier more fulfilling life uh would I

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feel like I made the right choice so

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that I could pursue personal happiness

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and growth or do I feel like there be

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regrets about like things not working

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out and so what happens is you start to

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look at this and you break it down in 10

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minutes 10 months 10 years and you can

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kind of put yourself into the future and

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start to see what it might be and then

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the last thing I'm going to tell you

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guys is to understand that there's a

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really big Paradox of choice too many

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options can be overwhelming I love

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watching interviews with people who are

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like in their their 70s their 80s their

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'90s and what they they always say the

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same thing they're like oh children now

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and Kids now and people now like it'd be

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really hard for me to be in their their

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circumstance cuz they've got so many

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options they got so many choices like

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when I married my wife you know 65 years

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ago I lived in a town of 400 people now

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they have these dating apps where they

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can get 400 choices of women to date and

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they're like it's too much or like

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there's so many things to watch there's

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so many things to do there's so much

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things to to occupy your time with it

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seems like when it was simpler people

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were happier a lot of times and that's

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the the Paradox of choice you know a

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book that's actually called the Paradox

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of choice and it suggests that all of

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this abundance of choices can actually

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lead to paralysis by analysis and so

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sometimes it's better to limit your

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choices have less choices because it's

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going to limit your decision fatigue is

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what they call it so as far as decision

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fatigue is as there's too many decisions

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you have to make at one time it can be

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really toxic on your brain and Jeff

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Bezos who's you know always going

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between number one and number two and

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number three the richest men in the

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world he owns Amazon he he says that he

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only makes three important decisions per

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business day and so he puts all of his

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mind into those three big decisions

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instead of saying hey let's go to a

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meeting and ask me as many questions you

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possibly can I'll help you make

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decisions the more choices that you're

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forced to make in a shorter amount of

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time the less quality of your decisions

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as well so maybe you just say hey I'm

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going to make less decisions I'm going

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to make less decisions but I'm going to

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concentrate on the most important

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decisions and so that's really what it

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comes down to all tips to make better

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choices because ultimately and I think

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the most important one is before you do

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any of them is figure out what your

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North Star is who do you want to be what

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do you want to be what you what do you

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what do you want your life to be and

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then try to filter all of your decisions

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through that and then also use the rest

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these techniques to help you make better

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decisions as well so that's what I got

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