Emotionally Unavailable Men 101

Summary

This video discusses how to handle an emotionally unavailable man, particularly one who lets you chase him. It explains the dynamic of masculine and feminine energies in relationships and the frustration of pursuing someone who remains elusive. The advice given includes walking away from such situations, recognizing the fantasy versus reality, and focusing on self-love and emotional health. The video emphasizes that you cannot change an emotionally unavailable person and encourages viewers to seek genuine connections with those who reciprocate affection and commitment.

Takeaways

• 😀 Men who let women chase them often embody feminine energy in the relationship.
• 😀 A dynamic where the man is chased forces the woman into a traditionally masculine role.
• 😀 This type of man rarely makes the first move, instead trying to get women to pursue him.
• 😀 Women often feel like they are always chasing the man's commitment, attention, or affection.
• 😀 The best way to handle such a man is to not give in and remain stoic and immovable.
• 😀 Walking away without playing games is the healthiest option if you don't want to engage in this dynamic.
• 😀 Honest communication about feelings can help, but often, the best step is to move on.
• 😀 Many women struggle with letting go mentally after leaving such a relationship, clinging to fantasies of what could have been.
• 😀 Emotionally healthy women will not waste much time on such unavailable men.
• 😀 The phenomenon of longing for someone who doesn't reciprocate is often an emotional addiction to fantasy.
• 😀 Recognizing the unhealthy pattern can help women avoid getting caught up in it and seek healthier relationships.

Q & A

What is the main focus of the video?

The main focus of the video is how to deal with an emotionally unavailable man, specifically the type who lets you chase him.

How does the speaker describe the dynamic between a man who lets you chase him and the person chasing?

The speaker describes it as a Yin Yang energy dynamic, where the man takes on the Yin energy by making the other person chase, forcing them into a masculine (Yang) role.

What behavior characterizes a man who lets you chase him?

A man who lets you chase him rarely makes the first move, instead he tries to get your attention and then turns away, creating a dynamic where you are always chasing his commitment, attention, or affection.

What are the two options given for dealing with a man who lets you chase him?

The two options are either to walk away or to give him a taste of his own medicine by not giving in and remaining stoic.

Why does the speaker suggest that telling the man how you feel may not be effective?

The speaker suggests that telling the man how you feel may not be effective because he is unlikely to reciprocate, and it is more about the person’s own state of mind to feel they have laid everything out.

What is the main message about playing games in this type of relationship?

The main message is that if you are involved in such a situation, you are already playing games, and the only way to stop is to walk away.

What does the speaker say about the emotional state of women who get caught up with unavailable men?

The speaker says that women who get caught up with unavailable men are temporarily emotionally unavailable themselves because they are indulging in the fantasy of what could be rather than accepting reality.

How does the speaker suggest one should view the fantasy of a relationship with an unavailable man?

The speaker suggests that one should recognize the fantasy for what it is, a dead-end, and understand that it is an emotional addiction to longing or pain.

What does the speaker mean by 'flee they follow, follow they flee'?

The phrase means that people often want what they can't have, and when someone pulls away, the other person tends to chase them more, creating a perpetual cycle.

What is the speaker’s advice for finding a healthier relationship dynamic?

The speaker advises working on self-love and releasing negative emotional addictions to attract and choose a partner who provides feelings of peace and love, rather than one who needs to be chased.