Believe In Yourself

Summary

This episode emphasizes the power of taking action to build self-belief and confidence. Rob shares insights from his coaching calls, where clients often express struggles with confidence due to not following through on their commitments. He highlights that belief is not a prerequisite for action—by doing what you say you're going to do, even when it's difficult, you start building trust in yourself. Confidence is built through consistent action, not positive thinking alone. Rob also discusses how competence and confidence loop together, stressing that action is the key to unlocking both.

Takeaways

• 😀 Taking action, even without belief, is key to building self-confidence and trust in yourself.
• 😀 Doing what you say you will do—whether you want to or not—strengthens self-belief over time.
• 😀 Confidence is built through consistent action, not through waiting for the 'perfect' belief in yourself.
• 😀 Negative self-talk, whether you succeed or fail, erodes confidence and creates mental resistance to taking action.
• 😀 Your brain associates actions with emotions; positive or negative reinforcement influences future behavior.
• 😀 Belief in yourself isn’t a prerequisite to action; taking action leads to belief and confidence gradually.
• 😀 Success in any area, like weight loss or sales, comes from consistently taking the right actions, not from self-belief.
• 😀 Building confidence requires stepping outside your comfort zone, taking action, and seeing results, even if small.
• 😀 Competence and confidence feed each other: the more competent you become, the more confident you feel, and vice versa.
• 😀 Action creates results, and results naturally build belief in your abilities, fueling further action and growth.
• 😀 Positive self-talk amplifies the effects of action, reinforcing confidence and fostering a mindset shift toward success.

Q & A

What is the primary message of the script?

The primary message of the script is that confidence is built through consistent action, not by waiting for self-belief. Taking action, even when you don't feel confident, leads to results that build trust and belief in yourself over time.

How does doing what you say you're going to do help build confidence?

By following through with commitments, you demonstrate reliability to yourself, which builds trust. Every time you fulfill a promise to yourself, you reinforce the belief that you can count on yourself, thereby boosting your confidence.

Why is belief not a prerequisite for taking action?

Belief is not required to take action because taking action leads to results, which naturally builds belief over time. You don’t need to be fully confident to start; results from consistent action will gradually increase your confidence.

What does the 'Confidence-Competence Loop' refer to?

The 'Confidence-Competence Loop' refers to the cycle where increased competence (skill and ability) leads to greater confidence, and greater confidence leads to more action, which in turn further enhances competence. It’s a mutually reinforcing cycle.

What is the role of positive self-talk in building confidence?

Positive self-talk helps in rewiring your mindset to support your actions. It encourages a more supportive and constructive inner dialogue, which reinforces your belief in your ability to succeed and makes it easier to take action, even when facing challenges.

What are some examples where belief is not needed to take action?

Examples include losing weight, making sales calls, or writing a book. In each case, taking the necessary actions—such as going to the gym, dialing numbers, or writing daily—will yield results, regardless of whether you believe you will succeed at first.

How does action lead to results and eventually confidence?

Action leads to results because consistent effort in the right direction produces tangible outcomes. As you start to see these results, such as weight loss or successful sales, your confidence grows, proving to you that you can achieve your goals.

Can you give an example of how the process of building confidence works in sales?

In sales, making a set number of calls each day, regardless of belief in the outcome, will lead to sales over time. As a salesperson continues to take consistent action, they see results (sales), which then increases their confidence in their ability to succeed.

Why is it important to avoid negative self-talk when building confidence?

Negative self-talk can undermine your efforts and reinforce feelings of self-doubt, making it harder to take consistent action. Speaking positively to yourself helps maintain motivation and prevents discouragement, which in turn supports continuous action and growth.

What should you do if you're not yet confident but want to improve?

Start by taking small, consistent actions towards your goals. Focus on doing what you can, even if you don’t feel confident at first. As you accumulate positive results, your belief in yourself will grow, leading to greater confidence and competence.