one whole year of self-love reflection

Summary

El video refleja sobre el año 2021, en el cual la creadora habla sobre sus experiencias, aprendizajes y su enfoque en el amor propio. A pesar de haber sido su año más solitario, también fue el más transformador y estable. Relata cómo los desafíos de 2020 la motivaron a mejorar en 2021, estableciendo rutinas saludables como la meditación, ejercicio, lectura, y un menor uso de redes sociales. Además, destaca su crecimiento personal, como su incursión en el periodismo y su enfoque en priorizarse a sí misma. La creadora cierra hablando de sus expectativas para 2022.

Takeaways

• 🌟 El año 2021 fue el mejor año de la vida de la narradora, lleno de crecimiento personal y experiencias positivas.
• 🐾 La narradora experimentó un crecimiento significativo después de un 2020 difícil, marcado por la soledad y relaciones tóxicas.
• 📅 La narradora estableció el tema de autoamor para 2021, lo que la llevó a enfocarse en su bienestar emocional y físico.
• 🌅 Se comprometió con una rutina matutina que incluía afirmaciones positivas, meditación, aprendizaje del francés y ejercicio.
• 📚 La narradora descubrió su pasión por la lectura y la escritura, lo que la inspiró a perseguir una carrera en escritura y periodismo.
• 📈 Se estableció como objetivo mejorar su estilo de vida, reduciendo el tiempo en el teléfono y aumentando su independencia y autoconfianza.
• 💪 Se unió al gimnasio y encontró alegría en hacer ejercicio, lo que mejoró su salud mental y le ayudó a mejorar su rutina de ejercicio.
• 🎯 Como objetivo profesional, la narradora creció como creador de contenido en redes sociales, trabajando con marcas de sus sueños y mejorando su habilidad fotográfica.
• 🏆 En su educación, la narradora se esforzó por obtener buenas calificaciones y se enorgulleció de obtener un sobresaliente en su segundo año de universidad.
• 🌍 Viajó a varias ciudades, hizo nuevos amigos y apreció el tiempo con su familia, maximizando sus experiencias después del confinamiento del 2020.
• 💖 La narradora se comprometió con prácticas de autoamor, como salir con ella misma y conectarse con su niño interior, lo que le ayudó a superar sus inseguridades y a tener más compasión por sí misma.

Q & A

¿Qué fue lo que motivó a la creadora del canal a hacer este video?

La creadora del canal quería reflexionar sobre el año 2021, sus experiencias, aprendizajes y crecimiento personal, especialmente en torno al tema del autoamor.

¿Cómo describió la creadora su año 2021?

La creadora describe 2021 como su mejor año hasta la fecha, a pesar de haber sido su año más solitario, ya que experimentó un crecimiento personal significativo.

¿Qué sucedió en enero de 2020 que marcó el tono para el año para la creadora?

En enero de 2020, la creadora terminó con una relación tóxica y perdió a su gato, lo que sumió el año en dolor y tristeza desde el principio.

¿Cuál fue la lección principal que la creadora aprendió de sus experiencias en 2020?

La creadora aprendió la importancia del autoamor y cómo este debe ser un componente constante en su vida para atraer relaciones y experiencias más positivas.

¿Qué cambios en su rutina diaria implementó la creadora en 2021 para mejorar su estilo de vida?

La creadora implementó una rutina matutina que incluía afirmaciones positivas, meditación, aprender francés, ejercicio y leer.

¿Cómo afectó el ejercicio a la creadora y por qué lo continuó?

El ejercicio le proporcionó alegría y mejoró su salud mental. La creadora encontró placer al ver su progreso y decidió continuar con él.

¿Qué descubrió la creadora sobre su futuro potencial después de leer muchos libros en 2021?

Después de leer muchos libros, la creadora descubrió su pasión por la escritura y la periodismo, lo que la llevó a escribir artículos para la revista estudiantil de su universidad.

¿Cómo ayudó el diario a la creadora en su viaje de autoamor?

El diario ayudó a la creadora a liberarse de la necesidad de buscar consejo u opiniones externas, proporcionándole un lugar para expresar sus problemas y preocupaciones.

¿Qué cambios realizó la creadora en su relación con las redes sociales durante 2021?

La creadora decidió pasar menos tiempo en su teléfono y realizar un detox de las redes sociales, lo que le permitió ver el contenido de una manera más positiva y inspiradora.

¿Cómo se sintió la creadora al final del 2021 en comparación con el inicio del año?

Al final del 2021, la creadora se sintió extremadamente satisfecha y en paz con su vida, a pesar de haber vivido el año más solitario, pero con un crecimiento personal significativo.

¿Qué planes tiene la creadora para el 2022?

La creadora planea continuar con la mentalidad y las rutinas establecidas en 2021 y compartirá sus resoluciones y objetivos para el nuevo año en su próximo video.

Outlines

00:00

🌟 Reflexión sobre 2021 y el crecimiento personal

El video comienza con el presentador saludando y explicando que este video será más relajado y reflexivo, centrado en su año 2021. Describe sus experiencias, aprendizajes y crecimiento personal, destacando que, aunque fue su año más solitario, también fue su mejor año hasta ahora. Expresa su entusiasmo por grabar el video y menciona que su tema para el año fue el autoamor. Reflexiona sobre cómo su vida cambió radicalmente a partir de 2020, un año lleno de dolor y desafíos que le dieron la determinación para transformar 2021 en algo mejor. Detalla eventos difíciles como la ruptura de una relación tóxica, la muerte de su gato y su vida universitaria caótica. Al final del año pasado, se dio cuenta de que necesitaba trabajar en el autoamor y establecer límites para tener relaciones más saludables.

05:01

📅 Mejores hábitos y enfoques de vida en 2021

El presentador habla sobre sus objetivos de 2021 y cómo los logró. Uno de ellos fue mejorar su estilo de vida, lo que incluyó establecer un rutina matutina con afirmaciones positivas, meditación, aprendizaje del francés y ejercicio. También se enfocó en la lectura y el descubrimiento de su pasión por la escritura y el periodismo, escribiendo artículos para la revista estudiantil de su universidad. Otro objetivo fue reducir el tiempo que pasa en su teléfono y mejorar su bienestar mental. Describe cómo estos cambios en su rutina diaria contribuyeron a su crecimiento personal y a una mejor calidad de vida.

10:03

💼 Enfoque en la carrera y la realización de sueños

El video continua con el presentador hablando sobre su enfoque en sus metas y crecimiento profesional como creador de contenido en redes sociales. Al final de 2020, creó un tablero de visiones con metas específicas como ganar dinero, colaborar con marcas de sus sueños y ser su propio fotógrafo. Describe su crecimiento como influencer y las colaboraciones con marcas como ASOS, Pretty Little Thing y Colgate. También menciona su compromiso con sus estudios y cómo su enfoque en la educación le llevó a obtener calificaciones excelentes en su segundo año de universidad. Además, destaca la importancia de crear recuerdos y experiencias, viajando a diferentes ciudades y disfrutando de su vida estudiantil.

15:03

💖 Practicas de autoamor y conexión con el yo interno

El presentador concluye el video hablando sobre sus prácticas de autoamor y cómo le ayudaron a sanar heridas del pasado y a conectarse con su niñez interior. Explica cómo la autoamor no es solo algo que se practica entre relaciones, sino que es un proceso continuo de amor y cuidado por uno mismo. Describe su experiencia de 'salirse a dating', lo que significó para ella hacer experiencias solas en lugares que disfruta, como Londres, y hacer compras para sí misma. También menciona la importancia de la compasión y la ternura consigo misma, viendo sus errores y fracasos desde la perspectiva de su 'niño interior'. Finalmente, expresa su alegría por el año que tuvo y la paz que siente al terminar 2021, y se muestra emocionada por llevar sus rutinas y enfoques a 2022.

Keywords

💡autoamor

Autoamor se refiere a la práctica de cuidar, respetar y amar a uno mismo. En el vídeo, el autoamor es un tema central, ya que el narrador describe su viaje personal de crecimiento y aprendizaje a través de la realización de su propio valor y la importancia de tener una relación positiva con uno mismo. Se menciona que el autoamor no es solo para llenar vacíos entre relaciones, sino que es una práctica continua que se debe mantener a lo largo de la vida.

💡crecimiento personal

El crecimiento personal implica el desarrollo y mejora de las habilidades, la autoconfianza y la comprensión de uno mismo. En el vídeo, el narrador habla sobre su crecimiento personal a través de la superación de relaciones tóxicas y la adquisición de nuevas rutinas que promueven la salud mental y física, lo que demuestra cómo el crecimiento personal puede transformar la vida de una persona.

💡rutas diarias

Las rutinas diarias son una serie de actividades que se realizan regularmente para mejorar la vida y el bienestar. En el vídeo, el narrador menciona que estableció rutinas matutinas que incluyen afirmaciones positivas, meditación y ejercicio, lo que muestra cómo las rutinas diarias pueden ser esenciales para el bienestar y el éxito personal.

💡soltería

La soltería se refiere al estado de no estar en una relación romántica. En el vídeo, el narrador describe su decisión de pasar un año soltera para enfocarse en el autoamor y el crecimiento personal, lo que demuestra cómo la soltería puede ser un período de reflexión y desarrollo personal.

💡memoria

La memoria se refiere a los recuerdos y experiencias que una persona ha vivido. En el vídeo, el narrador destaca la importancia de crear memorias positivas y disfrutar de las experiencias, como viajar a diferentes ciudades y pasar tiempo con la familia, lo que subraya cómo las memorias pueden enriquecer la vida de una persona.

💡estabilidad

La estabilidad se refiere a una sensación de seguridad y predicibilidad en la vida. En el vídeo, el narrador menciona que 2021 fue un año estable, lo que sugiere que la estabilidad puede ser esencial para el crecimiento y la realización de objetivos personales.

💡paz

La paz se refiere a un estado de tranquilidad y armonía interior. En el vídeo, el narrador describe cómo 2021 fue el año en el que experimentó la mayor cantidad de paz en su vida, lo que indica que la paz interna puede ser un indicador de bienestar y felicidad.

💡desarrollo de la mente

El desarrollo de la mente implica la mejora de la comprensión y la perspectiva personal. En el vídeo, el narrador habla sobre cómo el desarrollo de su mentalidad positiva y las rutinas que estableció han cambiado su vida por mejor, lo que demuestra cómo el desarrollo de la mente puede influir en la dirección de la vida de una persona.

💡independencia

La independencia se refiere a la capacidad de una persona de manejar su vida sin depender de otros. En el vídeo, el narrador menciona que el autoamor y el crecimiento personal le permitieron recuperar su independencia, lo que muestra cómo la independencia puede ser un componente clave del autoamor y la autosuficiencia.

💡trabajo en equipo

El trabajo en equipo se refiere a la colaboración con otras personas para lograr un objetivo común. En el vídeo, el narrador habla sobre sus colaboraciones con marcas de sueños como parte de su crecimiento como creador de contenido, lo que demuestra cómo el trabajo en equipo puede ser una parte importante del éxito profesional.

💡detoxificación de las redes sociales

La detoxificación de las redes sociales implica tomar un descanso de las plataformas de redes sociales para mejorar la salud mental. En el vídeo, el narrador describe cómo redujo el tiempo que pasa en su teléfono y las redes sociales, lo que sugiere que la detoxificación de las redes sociales puede ser beneficiosa para el bienestar y la productividad personal.

Highlights

Reflecting on 2021 and setting a theme of self-love

2021 was the best year yet despite being the loneliest

Growth and stability in 2021 brought constant peace

2020 was a catalyst for change due to a series of negative experiences

Cutting off a toxic relationship and the death of a pet cat in early 2020

Realization of being in an unhealthy relationship and lack of personal practices

The journey of self-discovery and the importance of self-love

Starting 2021 with a commitment to self-improvement and letting go of past emotional connections

Goal to have a healthier lifestyle with a morning routine

Incorporating positive affirmations, meditation, and learning French into the daily routine

Joining the gym and finding joy in exercising

Reading books led to the discovery of a potential career in writing

Getting into journalism by writing for a university magazine

The benefits of journaling for mental health and personal growth

Reducing phone usage and detoxing from social media for mental health

Setting professional goals as a social media content creator

Achieving goals by working with dream brands and becoming a better photographer

Committing to academic success and achieving a first-class grade

Making memories and traveling to different cities in 2021

Prioritizing self-love and making oneself a priority

Dating oneself as a form of self-love and self-discovery

Healing past traumas and connecting with the inner child through shadow work

The impact of self-love on personal relationships and dating experiences

Looking forward to continuing the self-love journey into 2022

Transcripts

[Music]

hello everybody and welcome back to my

channel today i'm going to be doing a

little bit more of a chilled out video

we're basically going to be reflecting

over 2021 what it's been like my

experiences the memories i made was a

good budget um what i've learned what

i've grown from and most importantly the

theme i set for this year which was

self-love disclaimer i have a lot of

energy right now and i think it's

because i'm so excited to film this

video when i started 2021 i had this

video that i'm sat down to film right

now in my mind so i'm talking a bit fast

and a bit loud sorry if it's annoying

i'm just highly excited and i'm so proud

of myself

2021 was honestly my best year yet which

is such a weird thing to say because it

was my loneliest year um but i just grew

so much and i had incredible experiences

and it was a very stable year and it was

the first time in my life that i had the

most like

constant amount of peace in my life i

feel like the mindset that i developed

and started this year is one that's

going to stick and it has honestly

changed my life for the better i've

completely transformed from who i was in

previous years because of what i've

learnt this year and because of the

routines i put into practice

so before i go into detail about what

all that stuff is and how all of that

came into practice it's necessary for me

to first explain why i started this um

which takes us back to 2020 how that

year went for me and how that triggered

me to become the person i am now so the

reason that 2020 gave me the

determination and motivation to make

2021 my best year yet was because 2020

was a horrible year it was horrendous

from the get-go let's take it back to

january 1st 2020 um new year's day which

i spent crying my eyes out all day long

i was in so much pain because that was

the day i finally cut off a toxic axe

for good out of my life a couple days

after that so still early january my cat

died this cat was my baby it was my

child he just turned five years old he

passed away very unexpectedly which just

resulted in more heartbreak a couple

weeks later at the end of january i went

back to uni for my second semester of

first year where i met someone and

instantly started dating this person

unfortunately things escalated very very

quickly and i found myself in a

relationship that i wasn't actually

ready for because i didn't think too

much about it i spent majority of my

second semester just before lockdown

here partying pretty much every single

day neglecting my uni work

and following the crowd pretty much

every single day i don't think i had

much sense of self at that point um i

had no kind of personal practices not a

lot of independence i was just always

with a group of people

and just having a good time which

honestly i don't regret i think

everything happens to a reason um but by

the time locked down here and i was

forced to be on my own all the time

i realized how the hell did i get here

why am i in a relationship with a person

that isn't for me because somehow i'm

stuck kindness for love and that is a

serious issue and that is something that

i need to now fix because there's

something going on internally where i am

accepting the bare minimum

and praising it for some reason once i

had that realization i then ended that

very short-term relationship

and at this point my social media

journey had just begun until at the end

of summer i met somebody else and i

started dating again because for some

reason i still had hope i was still in a

relationship with somebody who

was not emotionally available at all and

yeah i was still in a relationship with

them why i don't know um and could not

give me the bad minimum which just led

my mental health to decline even more my

sense of worth was very low and because

of all of this i was starting to give up

on the social media stuff i wasn't

posting as consistently i wasn't posting

youtube videos at the end of november in

2020 i finally walked away from that

relationship because i was sick and

tired of having to beg somebody to act

right and treat me right and actually be

able to show emotions

and i knew somewhere deep down that i

deserved better than that so i spent all

of december 2020 trying to figure out

where i went wrong and why i kept

finding myself in these situations it

was so repetitive i kept finding myself

in the exact same situation where i was

with somebody who wasn't treating me

right and for some reason i was

tolerating it and i knew that was my own

issue and i couldn't be the victim in

this situation anymore there was

something internal that was going on

with me that was allowing this to happen

to me and life kept throwing this same

situation at me which resulted in

heartbreaks over and over and it was

going to continue doing so until i

learned the lesson

and i figured out that that lesson was

self-love and it wasn't going to be

until i worked on myself

realized what my sense of self was

got my independence back and got my

confidence and self-worth up that i

would start having better

relationships and experiences with other

people so all of december 2020 i made a

plan and i said you know what 2020 was a

write-up from the get-go it was pretty

horrendous and painful and it has been

throughout i lost friends i went through

breakups i just my mental health was

really bad 2021 i am changing that and

2021 i am staying on my own throughout

so i journaled and journaled and i wrote

and i let go of all of those emotional

connections and i officially started

fresh on january 1st 2021. okay now that

that little 20 20 recap is over and done

with hopefully you guys have a clear

idea of the mental state i was in and

how i was pretty much sick and tired of

everything i had gone through so now

let's get into the main section of the

video which is talking about what 2012

was actually like for me what were my

goals did i achieve them how did that

all go down so my first main goal was to

have a healthier lifestyle um and this

was centered around having a morning

routine i've never really been a morning

person but i wanted to be committed to

practicing that so i made a routine for

my morning and that was going to be wake

up early

do positive affirmations that was then

followed by meditation following on from

that i started to learn french so i have

this little app called memrise on my

phone and i do five minutes of french a

day i am still getting there it's not

something i really stayed that

consistent with i was definitely

consistent with it for the first half of

the year

and now i'm doing it here and there but

for 2022 i'm still going on with it um

and it's nice to know that you're doing

something productive and you're learning

something the second that you wake up

even if it's just five minutes following

on from that the next step in my morning

routine was to exercise i have never

been consistent with working out i've

never found any joy in it and 2021 was

the year that i actually joined the gym

and i did stay somewhat consistent with

it i've actually found joy from it i

found that as soon as i do a gym session

i feel so happy it's really good for my

mental health and i find so much joy

actually seeing progress that i'm making

from working out

and then my other positive lifestyle

routine changes that i wanted to

implement in 2021 and successfully did

was one reading i've read so many new

books um i was

constantly been at the bookshop this

year buying new books learning new

things one really exciting thing that

has come from reading a lot is i found

that i think i want to be a writer i've

never actually known what i want to do

with my future

but the thought of writing a book myself

really excites me and that's not

something i would have figured out about

myself beforehand um so i actually got

into journalism this year and i started

writing articles for my university

student magazine um which is crazy i

never thought i would be into journalism

i've only written two articles so far i

only started this semester at university

but it's given me a lot of hope and

excitement about the direction i'm going

in and where the future's going to take

me i also got into journaling this year

which has been such an amazing addition

to my life i don't feel like i have to

really go to anybody about my problems

or rant about anything or ask for advice

because the second that you write down

everything that's on your mind whether

it's good or bad into a journal

it's so crazy i know it sounds stupid

but everything really is just off your

chest and it's like a huge weight has

been lifted off your shoulders this is

the journal that i wrote in all of 2021

and some of 2020 as well um and i was

just rereading some of the pages and

some of the goals i set um i'm reading

that at the end of the year knowing that

i actually set those goals and looking

at earlier entries from the beginning of

the year or 2020 and looking at where i

am now at the end of this year is just

incredible and it's so motivational so i

really recommend doing this because in

five years time you're going to want to

read what you're going through it's

really really a good source of

motivation and lastly my final positive

lifestyle change that i put into

practice all throughout 2021 was less

time on my phone

i knew that social media not only for me

but for everybody is a huge

just energy draining source it really

isn't great for your mental health and

just spending time on your phone in

general is just the biggest waste of

time and i wanted to get out of that

habit i would actually leave my phone in

another room

all throughout summer and it was

incredibly freeing and because of that

two months social media detox

coming away from that and in the second

half of 2021

i now look at it in a completely

different way i've unfollowed a bunch of

people i've muted a bunch of people and

now my social media is such a positive

place and it just inspires me and it

makes me happy because all of the

content i see on there is inspiring and

it's positive and it teaches me things

so

that has been a really really great

lesson and takeaway from this year okay

let's get on to the second main goal of

2021 and that is focusing on my goals

and growth particularly around my job

which is a social media content creator

on tiktok youtube and instagram at the

end of 2020 i actually made my first

vision board a lot of this was centered

around you know i want to make money i

want to be able to provide more for

myself and not just rely on student

finance i want to collab with my dream

brand i've had some collaborations with

some of my dream brands consistently

throughout this year it's been an

amazing year um in growing as a content

creator i've worked with brands like

asos who are on my vision board as well

as pretty little thing i've worked with

revolve which was such a dream come true

i've worked with colgate i just worked

with colgate a couple of weeks ago that

was surreal i wrote in this journal i am

my own photographer and i wrote that

before

i even learned how to take my own photos

in public i wrote it in the present

tense because that is what i was trying

to manifest and all throughout 2021 as

scary as it was in the beginning i took

my tripod and i took my little bluetooth

clicker and i went out into the streets

of leicester derby you name it and i

would be in the city center with cars

driving past people walking past giving

me weird locks cat calling me i got so

much of that but i continued with it

because my goal was to be consistent

with social media and my confidence just

grew so much as a resort taking photos

by yourself of yourself in public is so

so scary um

but i did it and i met that goal and it

allowed me to grow my social media and

be able to work with those amazing

brands another one of my 2021 goals was

to make memories and also

be more committed as a student

throughout my first year it was pretty

much just enjoyment 24 7 and partying

all the time which i didn't regret that

year didn't actually count anything

towards my grade at the beginning of

this year i was in second year and i was

studying from home and i told myself

just to bang it out every single day i

was literally sat in bed working on

essays when i wasn't making content and

as a result in summer 2021 i found out i

got a first class grade in my second

year of uni which was amazing and i was

honestly quite close to dropping out of

uni at one point so knowing that i was

actually doing well and i knew what i

was doing was so motivational and it

inspired me to stay committed as a

student in my third year where i am now

um and that's resulted in me actually

waking up at eight o'clock in the

morning so i can make my 9 a.m lectures

and going to every single lecture in

seminar i'm not skipping them alongside

this one of the main goals for 2021 was

also to make as many memories as

possible and have incredible experiences

given that 2020 was a lockdown um so i

really wanted to make the most of this

year and i'm so happy to say that i did

i traveled to different cities i went to

leeds liverpool

birmingham

london so many times i visited new

people i made new friends i also spent a

lot of quality time with my family

especially my grandparents and just

maximizing the time i have with them

and going out to dinners with them

making the most of student lifestyle

because this is the last year that i'm

going to have it going out clubbing as

often as i can

just partying with my friends really

enjoying and being grateful for the fact

that we're not on a lockdown anymore

loving myself and realizing i don't need

anybody outside of myself everything i

need is already within me and it's time

for me to start giving that to myself

and realizing that so to start i started

making myself a priority and committing

to myself with everything else i've

already mentioned in this video me just

prioritizing my morning routine and

there were so many mornings where i woke

up and i didn't want to do it and i

didn't want to wake up early and i just

wanted to stay in bed for two hours and

scroll on my phone but telling myself

you got this this is gonna do you so

good in the long run just get up make

yourself a priority commit to having a

better future and getting up and doing

this

that's a form of self-love it's making

yourself a priority and giving up a

short-term comfort for long-term results

and benefits for your future self

another thing i put into practice for my

self-love journey was dating myself

which was such a game changer and

something i will forever do

i'm such a big advocate for this

especially doing this even if you are

dating and if you are in a relationship

self-love what i've realized is it's not

a bridge between relationships it is

something ongoing is a forever thing you

are your own soulmate and your self-love

needs to stay consistent for the rest of

your life nobody has got you like you

got you even if you've met your true

love even if you're married you still

need to prioritize and commit to your

alone time and feeling good in your own

skin by yourself without having any need

for external validation one of my

favorite self-love dates was taking

myself to london

um central london is my favorite place

ever it's really like a second home for

me and i took myself there i went to my

all-time favorite restaurant which i've

been eating at since i was nine years

old and there's a lot of nostalgia there

for me and i just love the food and

there's a lot of memories in that place

and it holds a lot of meaning to my

heart so i went and i sat there on my

own

and ate my favorite food i then went to

a museum i had a museum date i then took

myself to a bookshop and bought myself a

favorite book and just walking the

streets of london

just with my thoughts

was an incredible experience the last

self-love practice i implemented this

year was connecting with my inner child

healing from past traumas and pains and

doing shadow work if you're not sure

what this is it just takes a quick

google search and the thing that really

got me into it was googling

shadow work journal prompts there are

quite a few entries in here with

literally just numbered lines one two

three four five answering questions um

from google images where they show you

how to heal your inner child how to heal

your past traumas really diving inwards

figuring out my triggers where certain

insecurities come from and working on

those um which led me to accept myself

the way i am and connecting with my

younger self was such a game changer as

well i'm someone who i'm just very

critical of myself i have a lot of self

doubt i can be so hard on myself when i

make a mistake or when i do something

wrong when i'm not productive when i

procrastinate and i beat myself up about

it and the one thing that's really

gotten myself out of that habit and

that's led me to having the highest

level of compassion patience and

kindness for myself is looking at myself

as my five six-year-old self because i

am still that girl just in a bigger body

we are all still our inner

children we are our younger selves and

that's why we need to have the highest

level of compassion for ourselves and

not be as hard on ourselves once you see

yourself still as that little kid that's

still just going through life trying to

be the best virgin he or she can be

learning and trying to improve yourself

you will be a lot more patient with

yourself and have a lot more love for

yourself so to conclude as the person i

am right now sitting here filming this

video in december 2021 i am so happy to

say

that this was honestly the best year of

my life it was the year that i realized

i don't need anybody outside of myself

and having that realization has

attracted better people into my life i

have better relationships and

friendships

i attract people that treat me with more

respect because that's the way i look at

myself i actually started dating again

in september of this year after 10 whole

months of

not dating or talking to anybody and

having started dating again after

everything i've learned

i've had such a better experience there

are no toxic people that are coming into

my life trying to do me wrong anybody

that i have spoken to

and i've noticed a red flag i cut them

off instantly because i know my worth

and i've set the bar so high and if you

can't meet that that is absolutely fine

i am no longer dependent on anyone i

don't feel like i need someone to come

into my life and save me or give me some

sort of pleasure and joy

i can cut off and distance myself from

anybody i do not get attached when i'm

dating because i have a great time on my

own because of what i've gone through

this year i don't need to date anybody

if it goes south and i need to cut them

off after the second date that's fine

because i can date myself and know that

i'm having an incredible time so it's

really also helps me master detachment

um and that's pretty much it for this

video i hope you guys enjoyed it and you

enjoyed watching and hearing the journey

that i went through this year and all of

the lessons that i've learned and the

growth i've experienced it's been

amazing i feel so happy and at peace

where i am in life right now um and i'm

so excited to continue

the mindset and routines i've

established this year on into next year

in 2022 if you enjoyed this video please

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actually be me talking about 2022 and

what all of my resolutions and new year

goals are going to be so stay tuned for

that and i'll see you guys in that video

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