5 Lessons From One Of The Best Books I've Ever Read
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the speaker shares insights from Barbara Sher's book 'Wishcraft', focusing on how to identify and achieve personal goals. The discussion covers creating a conducive environment for success, envisioning an ideal day, and setting specific, achievable goals. It also emphasizes the importance of emotional touchstones, long-range planning, and the surprising benefits of embracing negative thinking to overcome fear and move forward. The speaker encourages viewers to take action towards their dreams, using the book's lessons as a guide.
Takeaways
- 🌟 Creating an environment that supports personal growth is crucial for achieving one's goals.
- 🌱 Visualize an ideal environment where you can't help but flourish, free from constraints.
- 📅 Plan your ideal day to clarify what you truly desire and what your perfect life would look like.
- 💡 Identify 20 activities you love to do as a way to fill your ideal day with joy and fulfillment.
- 🎯 Choose one primary goal to pursue with all your energy, as focusing on one thing can lead to broader progress.
- 🔥 Embrace the fear and uncertainty that come with pursuing your dreams; they are signs of growth.
- 🏡 Understand the emotional core of your goal, or 'Touchstone', to stay motivated and energized.
- 📍 Set smaller, achievable goals that are steps towards your larger aspirations and provide immediate satisfaction.
- 📈 Engage in backward planning, starting from the end goal and working towards actionable daily tasks.
- 🌪 Harness the power of negative thinking by acknowledging fears and doubts as part of the creative process.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the book 'Wishcraft' by Barbara Sher?
-The main theme of 'Wishcraft' is about identifying what you truly want in life and then creating a systematic action plan to achieve those desires.
What does the author suggest as the first step in creating a life you love?
-The first step suggested by the author is to create an environment that fosters success and allows you to bloom, which involves imagining an ideal setting where you naturally thrive.
How does the author recommend visualizing your ideal day?
-The author recommends visualizing your ideal day by considering what activities you would engage in if you had no constraints, such as financial limitations or the need to perform mundane tasks.
What is the significance of writing down 20 things you love to do in the context of the book?
-Writing down 20 things you love to do is significant because it helps you identify activities that bring you joy and can be incorporated into your ideal day, providing clarity on what you truly want in your life.
Why is it important to choose one goal to pursue first according to the book?
-Choosing one goal to pursue first is important because it allows you to focus your energy and efforts, making it more likely that you will achieve that goal, which in turn can help other related goals fall into place.
What does the term 'emotional touchstone' refer to in the context of goal setting?
-The 'emotional touchstone' refers to the emotional core of your goal, which is what you love best about it and what you want and need from it. It's the part of the goal that excites and motivates you.
Why is it suggested to set a first target or smaller goal on the path to a larger goal?
-Setting a first target or smaller goal is suggested because it provides a more immediate and achievable milestone that can give you a sense of progress and motivation towards the larger, more distant goal.
How does the book address the concept of long-range planning?
-The book addresses long-range planning by suggesting that planning should go backwards from the distant future to the present, breaking down the large goal into smaller, manageable steps that can be taken starting from the next day.
What is the significance of having a 'Sunday night planning meeting' as mentioned in the book?
-Having a 'Sunday night planning meeting' is significant because it sets the stage for the week by allowing you to plan and prepare for the actions needed to move closer to your goals, ensuring that you have a clear direction and purpose for the upcoming days.
How does the book discuss the power of negative thinking and its role in achieving goals?
-The book discusses the power of negative thinking by suggesting that it's natural to feel scared or overwhelmed when pursuing dreams, and instead of fighting these feelings, one can acknowledge them and then proceed with action anyway, using the negative thoughts as a catalyst for action rather than a deterrent.
Outlines
📚 Wishcraft: Crafting Your Ideal Life
The speaker introduces 'Wishcraft' by Barbara Sher, a book that teaches readers how to identify their true desires and create a life that fulfills them. The book, now in its 30th-anniversary edition, is recommended for those lacking motivation or needing a boost. It emphasizes the importance of creating an environment conducive to personal growth and success, where one naturally 'blooms'. The speaker suggests imagining an ideal environment and planning an ideal day to understand what one truly desires. Exercises like listing 20 things you love to do can help clarify your vision. The book also encourages focusing on one significant goal to pursue, acknowledging that fear accompanies creative action, and that self-confidence comes from mastering tasks.
🗓️ Setting Goals and Harnessing Negative Thinking
The second paragraph delves into the process of setting and achieving goals. It discusses the importance of identifying the emotional core of a goal, or the 'Touchstone', which is the emotional reason behind pursuing it. The speaker advises setting a first target, a smaller, achievable goal that serves as a stepping stone towards a larger objective. The concept of backward planning is introduced, where one plans from the future to the present, breaking down the goal into manageable steps. The speaker also shares the power of negative thinking, suggesting that it's normal to feel scared or overwhelmed when pursuing dreams. The advice is to embrace these negative feelings, use them as motivation, and continue taking action towards your goals.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Wishcraft
💡Clarity and Vision
💡Systematic Action Plan
💡Environment
💡Ideal Day
💡Constraints
💡One Thing
💡Emotional Touchstone
💡Long-Range Planning
💡Negative Thinking
💡Self-Confidence
Highlights
Introduction to the book 'Wishcraft' by Barbara Sher and its focus on identifying and achieving life goals.
The importance of creating an environment that fosters personal growth and success.
The concept of envisioning an ideal life where one naturally thrives without constraints.
The exercise of planning an ideal day to clarify personal desires and aspirations.
The suggestion to list 20 activities that one loves to do as a means to understand personal passions.
The advice to choose one significant goal to pursue initially to avoid spreading oneself too thin.
The idea that fear is a natural part of the creative process and should not deter one from pursuing goals.
The explanation of self-confidence as the feeling of certainty in tasks one is well-practiced in.
The strategy of selecting a primary goal that excites and motivates to initiate action towards other aspirations.
The concept of identifying the emotional touchstone of a goal to understand its core significance.
The recommendation to set a first target or smaller goal that is both a step towards the ultimate goal and a victory in itself.
The method of long-range planning by working backward from the future to the present to break down goals into manageable tasks.
The importance of regular planning meetings with oneself to maintain progress towards goals.
The exploration of the power of negative thinking as a tool to overcome initial resistance and fear.
The advice to embrace negative thoughts as a natural part of the process and then proceed with the task at hand.
The summary of the book's impact and its alignment with personal development and goal achievement.
Transcripts
today I want to give you five lessons
from one of the best books that I have
read in years it is wishcraft how to get
what you really want by Barbara share so
it's basically how to know what you want
what your wishes even are and then craft
a life to get that thing so it's all
about identifying what do you actually
want what's your Clarity and vision for
your life and then how to actually make
a systematic action plan to get it so if
you are feeling in a slump or if you're
not motivated or you need like an extra
you know boost of motivation I really
recommend you read this book it came out
in the' 70s this is the 30th anniversary
Edition I want to share Five Lessons
From what I learned so the first lesson
that she talks about is creating an
environment that creates winners you're
a winner when you have a life you love
so that you wake up every morning
excited about the day ahead and
delighted to be doing what you're doing
even if you're sometimes a little
nervous and scared and as of right now I
want you to start taking it very very
seriously if a seed is given good soil
and plenty of water in Sun it doesn't
have to try to unfold it just unfolds as
a matter of fact it can't help unfolding
we wouldn't order a seed to sprout on a
bare desktop and yet that is exactly
what we have been demanding of ourselves
imagine yourself in full bloom so she
asked you go through this activity and
what kind of environment could you just
not help but Bloom so she even goes on
further to say like if if there's
laundry to be done you have magic elves
and they're coming and they're doing it
for you so don't say any of these things
as like a problem that you need to fix
see it as a design problem in this
imaginary world where other things can
fix it and what would that imaginary
environment be and that's important
because this exercise is all about
removing constraints so that you can
think bigger get your head up in the
clouds and the next exercise she has you
do is planning then your ideal day so
you still have constraints like there
aren't magic elves who could come be
doing things for you but what would your
ideal day be you have all the money in
the world you could live wherever you
want to live so it's still it's on Earth
there's no elves but it's still what is
your ideal it's a Tuesday a random day
what is your ideal day and this is an
exercise that's so important to map out
and one thing that you can use to jog
your memory she has this exercise in
here of writing 20 things that you love
to do I would even challenge you maybe
to write it longer to make a Divergent
brainstorming list what do you really
love to do 20 things love to do and
filling like filling your IDE ideal day
with that like for me it was paddle
boarding and reading and starting my day
off in that way and just crafting what
your ideal day would look like and this
is the very important first step in
figuring out what is this imaginary
environment where you would be in full
bloom because in the next exercise that
she has you do you go about trying to be
a little more specific about getting it
the second lesson and exercise from this
book is figuring out what is the one
thing to go after it's easy to dream
with just a little encouragement you can
close your eyes and conjure up a whole
new life for yourself but if you want to
make that life come true you will have
to start by choosing one piece of it and
deciding that that's the one you're
going to go for first choose the goal
that sounds the most exciting to you
even if it's the most impossible fear is
the natural companion of creative action
there's only one way to live free of
fear and that is to live without hope
change or growth do you want to know
what self-confidence really is just
think about how you feel when you're
doing something you've done so many
times you could do it in your sleep like
tying your shoes that is self-confidence
and that's all it is is know how verging
on boredom you want to feel nervous
excited and unsure so this is an idea
that you look at kind of that ideal life
and what is the one thing that is
missing from your life right now and
pick the biggest thing and a lot of
times people you know they like okay I
want to do this I want to do this and I
want to do this but you need to pick one
and pick all your energy to go after it
because there's that phrase a rising
tide lifts all boats and so whenever you
pick one once you get that thing it
actually lifts these other things like I
think about I picked for a while my
number one thing was I want to move to
San Francisco and I didn't really focus
on anything else but in moving to San
Francisco it's then helped like fitness
goals and being more active CU I'm just
able to do it more often as you pick
what is most exciting to you and what
really lights you up when you go after
that one thing other things will fall
into place if you just go after that but
you'll have more progress when you pick
one thing the third thing she has you
look at is the emotional Touchstone of
your goal your Touchstone is the
emotional core of your goal what you
want and need from it what you love best
about it it's the sweet Center of that
goal for you the sooner you start
getting some of what you really want the
more energy you'll have to go for the
rest of it when you have a long range
Target you can and should set a date to
it that will help make it real but it
isn't a goal you can plot your path to
reach out and grab at least not soon
enough to give you Joy and hope so you
will need to set yourself a first Target
a smaller goal that's both a step on the
road to your ultimate destination and a
little Triumph in its own right so when
I'm thinking about this goal of like
wanting to buy a house for example
trying to get beneath that is what do I
really want is it that I'm wanting grow
growth and progress in a certain
direction most of all is it I want space
most of all is it that I want stability
most of all you know when you buying a
home there's a lot of different you know
what's underneath that thing so if maybe
you have a goal and it's like okay I
don't know if I'm going to be able to
buy a house for years this feels like
it's really a ways from now what is
something on the way to that thing that
would help you reach that thing maybe a
little reward for making progress if you
just want space or you just want
expansiveness is you rent an Airbnb for
a weekend that has that space and
expansiveness it's a little reward also
you want something that is kind of a
step in its own right so you kind of
Chunk backwards and maybe if space is
what is important then something on the
way to that thing is okay well I can't
get a house right now maybe I could get
a bigger apartment or something that has
space and it's a smaller Target that
still keeps you motivated the fourth
takeaway is all about long range
planning basic mistake is thinking that
just because action goes forward from
present to the Future planning has to go
forward too but it can't planning has to
go backwards from the distant future to
tomorrow from the intimidatingly large
to the reassuringly small from the whole
vision of your goal to its component
parts little things you can do one by
one so you're going to have a Sunday
night planning meeting it may take as
much of an hour or even more but it's
vitally important no sensible business
would proceed without planning meetings
and you've got to learn to treat getting
what you want as top priority business
so she has a very similar process to my
goal setting process if you've seen my
segmentation basically you take the
whole thing and you segment it down to
smaller and smaller steps until you have
something you can do tomorrow but it's
so important to not not just move
forward kind of like randomly like you
don't want to just make this plan and
never look at it again you need to have
a weekly planning meeting with yourself
where you say what do I need to get done
and then also a daily time with yourself
where you say what am I doing tomorrow
and is there anything I need to do
tonight to prepare for it and the final
lessons she has are on the power of
negative thinking there is nothing in
this world that's worth doing that isn't
going to scare you the moment you make
the commitment to going for your dreams
you've begun to venture into the unknown
Comfort is one of the things you can
forget about right now you're not going
to have it anymore excitement company
help and support yes Comfort no so what
do you do you do what every actress with
her salt does before she goes out on
stage on opening night you have a fit
you kick Stomp and cry the lights are
ghastly the lines are awful the
playwright should be shot the director's
an idiot I'm not ready I cannot go on I
will not go on I'm leaving and then you
walk on stage under those lights and
you're fine so on this the power of
negative thinking what I really like
that she emphasizes is when you're
starting to do something like you just
have all these feelings like I just
don't want to do this I don't want to do
this when I sit down to film like I I
there's hardly a time ever when I
actually want to sit down to film but I
like how she says okay just throw a fit
say how everything sucks it's terrible
it's terrible everything's terrible but
then sit down to do it anyways and
likewise set goals for yourself like I'm
just going to write one bad page and
it's so much more Liberty when I tell
myself I'm just going to make four bad
videos I'm going to write four bad
outlines and I just do this and that's
like how I convince myself to get
through it you can actually harness the
power of negative thinking as opposed to
trying to make yourself positive all the
time so this book is one of the best
books that I've read in a long time it's
really like right up my alley if you're
interested in more books that I like I
just came out with a video about the
three books that Chang my life some my
three favorite books so if you're
interested in that video check it out
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