7 Actionable Ways to Achieve More in Life

Ali Abdaal
1 Nov 202315:15

Summary

TLDR本视频介绍了Matthew Dicks的书籍《总有一天就是今天》,分享了作者通过三次濒死经历后的人生转变和实用建议。视频总结了书中的七个行动指南,包括适应不完美的工作环境、利用碎片时间、以跳跃式方法处理大项目、设定宽泛的远景目标、避免过于详细的五年计划、从百岁老人的角度做决策以及追求有意义的软目标,旨在帮助观众实现生活中更多的愿望。

Takeaways

  • 📚 书籍《总有一天是今天》由Matthew Dicks撰写,提供了实用的建议帮助人们实现生活目标。
  • 🚀 作者Matthew Dicks经历了三次濒死经历,从而改变了他的生活轨迹,从破产到成为畅销书作家。
  • 🅿️ “停车场练习”鼓励在任何环境中都能进行创造性工作,而不是等待完美的条件。
  • 🕒 “分钟心态”强调利用碎片时间,而不是按小时计划,以提高效率。
  • 🌿 “荷叶方法”提倡在多个项目之间跳跃,根据心情和动力选择不同的任务。
  • 🌅 “地平线习惯”建议设定一个大致方向的目标,而不是过于具体的压力重重的目标。
  • 🎹 “钢琴先例”警告过于详细的五年计划可能会因不可预见的事件而失败。
  • 👴 “100岁计划”建议在面临选择时,想象自己100岁时会给出的建议。
  • 🎯 “有目的的方法”强调生产力不仅仅是工作,还包括那些对我们有意义的“软目标”。
  • 💡 通过提高工作效率,我们可以释放更多时间去做生活中真正重要的事情。

Q & A

  • 《总有一天是今天》这本书的核心主题是什么?

    -这本书的核心主题是如何通过实际可行的建议来实现生活中我们想要达成的目标。

  • Matthew Dicks是如何从困境中崛起,最终成为畅销书作家的?

    -Matthew Dicks经历了三次濒死经历,包括一场严重的车祸和22岁时被持枪威胁,这些经历迫使他重新审视自己的生活和成就。他从一贫如洗、住在车里、在麦当劳工作的状态,通过不懈努力,最终成为了畅销书作家、世界故事冠军和获奖记者。

  • 在《总有一天是今天》中提到的“停车场练习”是什么?

    -“停车场练习”是指在任何环境中都能进行创造性工作的能力,而不是等待完美的环境。Matthew Dicks通过自己在牙医诊所外的停车场写作的经历,强调了真正的生产力并不需要完美的条件。

  • Matthew Dicks在书中提到的“分钟心态”是什么?

    -“分钟心态”是指将时间规划和利用细化到每一分钟,而不是以小时为单位。这种思维方式鼓励人们珍惜时间,利用日常生活中的零碎时间进行有意义的工作。

  • “荷叶方法”是如何帮助人们克服大型项目的难题?

    -“荷叶方法”鼓励人们在面对大型项目时,不必按部就班地从开始到结束,而是可以根据自己的心情和感觉跳跃性地进行工作,像青蛙在荷叶上跳跃一样,这样可以减轻压力,提高工作效率。

  • 什么是“地平线习惯”?

    -“地平线习惯”是指设定一个大致方向性的目标,而不是具体、可衡量的目标。这种方法减轻了目标设定的压力,允许人们灵活地追求自己的激情和兴趣。

  • 为什么Matthew Dicks建议避免制定过于详细的五年计划?

    -因为过于详细的五年计划可能会因为生活中不可预测的变化而变得不切实际。他建议人们应该有一个大致的方向,但同时保持灵活性,以应对生活中的变化。

  • 如何运用“100岁计划”来做出生活中的决策?

    -“100岁计划”是指在面临生活抉择时,想象自己100岁时会给现在的自己什么建议。这种方法可以帮助人们从长远的角度考虑问题,做出更有意义和价值的决策。

  • Matthew Dicks如何定义“软目标”?

    -“软目标”是指那些可能看起来不具有传统生产力意义,但对于个人来说却非常有意义和满足感的目标。这些目标是个人刻意追求的,能带来目标感和成就感。

  • 如何将生产力提升应用到个人生活中?

    -通过提高工作效率和生产力,减少不必要的时间浪费,人们可以为自己真正关心的事情腾出更多的时间和精力。这包括优化工作时间、家务时间等,以便有更多时间投入到对自己来说真正重要的事情上。

Outlines

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📚 书籍介绍与作者背景

本段介绍了一本名为《总有一天是今天》的书籍,作者是Matthew Dicks,他通过三次濒死经历,包括严重的车祸和被持枪威胁,重新审视了自己的生活。书中提供了实用的建议,帮助人们实现生活中想要达成的目标。作者从无家可归、在麦当劳工作的困境,成长为畅销书作家、世界级故事讲述者和获奖记者。

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🚗 停车场练习:适应任何环境

这一部分讲述了作者在创作时对环境的依赖,以及Matthew Dicks如何改变这一观念。Matthew认为真正的生产力并不需要完美的环境,他通过在停车场写作的例子,强调即使在不完美的环境下也能保持生产力。他提醒我们,等待完美的时机或环境来实现目标是不现实的,成功的人是在不完美的环境下采取行动的人。

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⏰ 分钟心态:珍惜每一分钟

在这一段中,作者强调了珍惜每一分钟的重要性。Matthew通过一个关于他与一位想要写书的女士的早餐会面的故事,说明了即使只有几分钟,也可以用于创作。他提倡利用零碎时间进行小步骤的工作,而不是等待完美的几个小时来完成任务。这种方法可以帮助我们在日常生活中更有效地利用时间。

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🍀 荷叶方法:灵活的创作路径

这一部分介绍了Matthew的荷叶方法,这是一种非线性的创作方式。他鼓励人们不要从项目的开始就着手,而是可以根据自己的心情和感觉跳跃性地进行创作。这种方法可以帮助人们在面对庞大项目时,避免感到压力和不知所措,而是通过灵活的方式逐步实现目标。

🌅 地平线习惯:设定宽泛的目标

在这一段中,作者讨论了设定目标的问题,特别是SMART目标可能带来的限制。Matthew提出了地平线目标的概念,这是一种更宽泛、更灵活的目标设定方式。地平线目标允许我们在追求目标的过程中保持灵活性,而不是被具体的数字或时间限制束缚。

🎹 钢琴前瞻:避免过度规划

这一部分讲述了过度规划的风险,Matthew用“5年计划是邀请宇宙在你头上掉下钢琴”的比喻,来说明过度规划可能导致无法适应生活中不可预见的变化。他提倡制定一个大致的计划,但同时要为命运的不确定性留出空间。

👴 百岁计划:长远的视角

在这一段中,作者介绍了Matthew的百岁计划,这是一种从长远角度考虑问题的方法。通过想象自己100岁时会给现在的自己什么建议,可以帮助我们做出更有意义和价值的决策。这种方法鼓励我们考虑长期的影响,而不是仅仅基于短期的紧迫性。

🎯 有目的的方法:生产力的真正意义

最后一段讨论了生产力的真正含义,强调生产力不仅仅是工作或经济产出,而是关于如何有效地利用时间来做对自己真正重要的事情。Matthew提倡设定软目标,这些目标可能在传统的生产力定义中看起来不那么“生产力”,但对个人来说却是有意义和满足感的。

📖 生产力书籍总结

作者提到自己对阅读生产力书籍的热爱,并推荐了一个视频,该视频总结了他阅读的107本生产力书籍,提炼出一个九步框架,帮助观众提升生产力,做更多对自己重要的事情。

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Keywords

💡生产力

生产力在视频中指的是个人完成任务和目标的能力。它不仅关乎工作效率,还包括如何有效地利用时间来实现生活中真正重要的事情。例如,视频中提到通过提高工作效率来释放更多时间去做重要的事情,如与家人共度时光。

💡停车场练习

停车场练习是指在不完美的环境下进行创造性工作的一种方法。它强调的是,真正的生产力并不需要一个完美的环境,而是可以在任何地方、任何时间开始行动。这个概念来自于作者Matthew Dicks在牙医诊所外的停车场写作的经历。

💡分钟心态

分钟心态是指将时间分割成更小的单元来提高效率和利用时间的一种思维方式。这种心态鼓励人们珍惜每一分钟,而不是仅仅按小时来计划和工作,从而在日常生活中找到更多的创造性和生产力。

💡荷叶方法

荷叶方法是一种非线性的工作方式,它允许人们在多个项目或任务之间跳转,而不是按顺序完成。这种方法认识到,有时候从项目的中间部分开始,或者根据情绪和动力跳到不同的任务上,可能会更有效率和动力。

💡地平线习惯

地平线习惯是指设定一个大致方向性的目标,而不是具体、可衡量的目标。这种方法减轻了目标设定的压力,允许人们在追求目标的过程中保持灵活性和适应性。

💡钢琴先例

钢琴先例是指避免制定过于详细和长期的计划,因为生活中不可预测的事件可能会破坏这些计划。这个概念鼓励人们有一个大致的方向,但同时保持对变化的适应性和灵活性。

💡100岁计划

100岁计划是一种通过想象自己在未来的样子来做出当前决策的方法。这种方法鼓励人们从长远的角度考虑,思考未来的自己会给现在的自己什么建议,从而做出更有意义和价值的选择。

💡有目的的方法

有目的的方法是指在生活中有意识地安排时间,以便更有效地完成工作和琐事,从而为真正重要的事情腾出更多时间。这种方法强调的是,生产力不仅仅是为了工作或经济产出,更是为了能够享受生活中真正重要的事情。

💡软目标

软目标是指那些可能不符合传统生产力定义的目标,但对个人来说却非常重要和有意义的目标。这些目标可能不会直接提高工作效率,但它们对个人的满足感和幸福感有着重要影响。

Highlights

本书《总有一天是今天》由经历过三次濒死经历的Matthew Dicks撰写,提供了实用的建议帮助人们实现生活中想要达成的目标。

作者Matthew Dicks从破产、无家可归到成为畅销书作家、世界级讲故事者和获奖记者的转变,展示了他生活观念的重大改变。

Matthew在22岁时被持枪威胁的经历让他深刻反思生活,意识到自己对未能实现梦想的遗憾。

书中提出的“停车场练习”鼓励人们在任何环境下都能进行创造性工作,而不是等待完美的条件。

Matthew强调真正的生产力并不需要看起来漂亮,而是要实际产出。

“分钟心态”教导我们珍惜每一分钟,而不是仅仅按小时计划生活。

通过利用碎片时间,即使是几分钟,也可以有效地推进创造性工作。

“荷叶方法”鼓励创作者在项目中跳跃式前进,而不是按部就班。

Matthew建议通过设定“地平线目标”来减轻目标设定的压力,允许灵活性。

“钢琴先例”提醒我们不要过于详细地规划生活,因为不可预见的事件可能会破坏计划。

想象自己的“100岁计划”可以帮助在生活十字路口做出更有意义的决策。

生产力不仅仅是关于工作,还包括我们想要投入时间的有意义的活动。

书中提倡的“软目标”是指那些可能看起来不生产性,但对个人来说却非常有意义和满足的目标。

通过最大化工作效率,我们可以释放更多时间来专注于对我们真正重要的事情。

作者分享了他如何在全职医生工作的同时,通过利用零碎时间增长YouTube频道的经验。

书中的故事和建议都是基于作者个人经历和对时间价值的深刻理解。

Matthew Dicks的书提供了七个实用的建议,帮助人们在生活中实现更多的愿望。

Transcripts

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hey friends welcome back to the channel

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so this is one of my favorite books it's

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called someday is today and it's filled

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with incredibly actionable helpful

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practical advice for achieving more of

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the things we want in life it's written

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by an incredible guy called Matthew

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dicks who has survived three near-death

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experiences including a ridiculously bad

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car crash and also being held at

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gunpoint at the age of 22 and these

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experiences forced him to reconsider

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what he was doing with his life and what

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he achieved and he went from being

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someone who was completely broke living

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in his car and working at McDonald's to

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becoming a best-selling author world

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champion Storyteller and award-winning

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journalist I was sure that I was going

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to die that day and I will tell you that

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I did not feel fear or sadness or anger

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the only feeling I was consumed with was

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regret I was 22 years old and I had

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failed to do anything with my life that

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I had wanted to do that was a quote from

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a podcast that I did with Matthew a few

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months ago incredible episode but in

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this episode of book club which is the

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ongoing series will be distill and

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discuss highlights and summaries from

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some of my favorite books I'm going to

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talk through seven actionable tips that

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I took from his latest book Sunday is

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today these are seven tips that will

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help you achieve more of what you want

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in life let's get into it tip number one

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the parking lot practice so when I first

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started writing my book feel good

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productivity uh I felt like I had to do

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it in the right environment I felt like

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I had to go into a coffee shop and have

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my little latte next to me and my

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headphones on and I wanted the

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environment to be perfect otherwise you

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know for some reason I felt this

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writer's block and I felt like I

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couldn't do the thing but Matthew's

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approach to this is completely different

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and his approach is actually change the

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way that I approach my creative work and

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I think you can get a lot of value from

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this as well and one of my favorite

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quotes from the book is that product ity

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is not pretty now we've all seen those

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examples of like you know the students

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that are like doing the notes in like

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the most elaborate colorful method

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possible we've seen those sketch notes

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we've seen all these people with their

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like incredibly pretty desks and

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everything and it just looks like such a

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productive Vibe and it looks very pretty

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but the point that Matthew is making is

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that true productivity does not have to

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look pretty and the example that he

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talks about in the book is where he was

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early for a dentist appointment and so

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instead of just sort of waiting in the

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car or like scrolling Tik Tok or

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whatever the thing was instead of doing

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that he decided to just sit on the side

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of the road in the parking lot lot get

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out his laptop and continue writing some

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more of the novel that he was working on

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during World War I there were men in

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trenches wearing gas masks artillery

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exploding over their heads and they were

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scribbling in little books in journals

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hoping that if they survive this battle

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and the many battles that were to come

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someday they might publish something so

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thank goodness that the writers of the

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1910s did not require Starbucks smooth

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jazz and 2hour quiet blocks of time for

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them to get their work done his point is

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that there's never going to be a perfect

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place or a perfect setting to get things

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done especially when your life is

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chaotic especially when you have kids I

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don't have kids but he does and so he

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would know and if you're always waiting

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for the right time or the right

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environment to be able to do a thing

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that propels your creative life forward

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or to do a thing that you really want to

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do you're going to be waiting for a very

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very very long time it's the same with

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eating healthily it's the same with

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going to the gym it's the same with

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building a business the timing is never

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going to be right the time is now the

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time is never and the people who can

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take action on the things that they want

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to do despite the imperfect environment

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are the ones who ultimately succeed and

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timately move forward with what they

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want in life tip number two the minut

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mindset so the point here is that when

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we plan out our day we tend to think in

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blocks of hours but thinking in hours

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can actually cause us to waste quite a

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lot of time now in the book he talks

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about this and this is one of my

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favorite stories in any book that I've

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ever read he talks about how he was

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meeting up with a person who wanted to

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write a book and he was meeting up with

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her for breakfast she met me at the

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McDonald's and she was late and so when

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she sat down I said tell me what you're

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planned what you're doing and she

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started describing this book and then

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eventually I said as I always say to

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writers I say so how much have you

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written and so often almost always the

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answer is oh well I haven't started

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writing anything yet and I then I said

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to her I said well you were 7 minutes

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late today and she said I'm sorry you

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know she I'm so sorry I'm like no no no

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my point was not that you were 7 minutes

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late and I was upset my point was I used

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the 7 minutes that you were late to

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write some sentences you know I turned

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my computer I said this is what I wrote

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in the 7 minutes that you were late and

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I just absolutely love this approach

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like after Matthew's near-death

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experiences he says that he realized the

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profound value of time and he didn't

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want to come to the end of his life with

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regret for failing to achieve the things

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that he actually wanted to do and so

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what he tries to do now is he tries to

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get the most out of every single minute

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rather than every single hour I I tell

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all of the creative people of the world

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10 minutes is precious to you it doesn't

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mean in 10 minutes I can write a chapter

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in 10 minutes I can reread the last

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three paragraphs I wrote earlier today

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and see if they're okay and clean them

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up a little bit or I can write five good

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new sentences and this is actually how I

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was able to grow this YouTube Channel

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while I was working for 2 years

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full-time as a doctor this book hadn't

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come out yet but at that time I had a

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similar attitude in that in between

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patients or in my lunch break or in a

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random break here and there when I had a

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few minutes of time I would get out my

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phone or I would go on notion on the

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Windows computers at work and I would

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just make a few more notes on a video

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that I was working on and so what that

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meant is that in these little blocks of

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time here and there throughout the day

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where other people around me were

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scrolling Tik Tok on their phones or

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whatever in those moments I was writing

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more bullet points for a video or

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fleshing out some title ideas or

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figuring out a thumbnail and in this

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context me and Matthew are absolutely

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not saying that there is no time for a

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break and that you should never ever

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recharge and relax in fact my whole the

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whole final three chapters of my book

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Feelgood productivity are all about the

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power of rest and relaxation to make

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things sustainable over time but the way

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to think about this is that what do you

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find yourself doing in those pockets of

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time do you wait until it hits like 5:00

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to be able to do something because you

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have to start on the hour what if you

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just had 3 minutes or 5 or seven or 9

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minutes left could you do something

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intentional and effective and enjoyable

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with that time rather than wasting that

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time on scrolling whatever thing that

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you tend to default to oh and by the way

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one of the productiv tools that I use

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every single day that really helps me

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make the most of my time is what I call

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the year at a glance spreadsheet it's

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basically a Google sheet that has the

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entire year laid out and it's a way of

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visualizing the calendar that you just

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don't really get within calendar apps

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and there's going to be a link in the

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video description where you can download

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this completely for free if you want a

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better way for planning your year as

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well all right tip number three is the

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lily pad method now in the book Matthew

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writes that the only real failure for

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any Creator is to stop making stuff now

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by making stuff it could be writing it

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could be YouTube videos it could be

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studying for your exam it could be

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learning to code it could be starting

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that business or working on your sales

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scripts so you know this all of this

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stuff is what I would call Creative in

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some ways but sometimes doing this stuff

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can feel really overwhelming especially

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with everything else going on in our

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lives and especially if you have a big

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project that you're working on like

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trying to study for a massive exam or

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like trying to write a novel or trying

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to start a business and get it off the

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ground there's often a lot of little

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steps involved in that thing but if you

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look at the whole thing it can seem like

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a mountain that feels very daunting to

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climb now normally the conventional path

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towards working towards our goals is to

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do things in sequence in order one at a

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time but the lily method is kind of

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Matthew's approach to this which is to

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recognize that you don't actually need

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to start at the beginning and you don't

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need to finish at the end you can in

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fact jump around I think sometimes

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people see a goal or a dream as a linear

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process Like A to B to C and I think

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that's always a mistake too so I was

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working with someone yesterday who said

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I want to write a memoir and I said

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we'll start writing a memoir and she

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said I don't know where to start and I

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said do you have some good moments that

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you know you want to include she said oh

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yeah I said well write those she said

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don't you have to start a book at the

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beginning I said no you write something

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just write chapter 15 if that's what you

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can write today so seeing your dream as

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stepping stones but you get to touch

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whichever one you want at any point cuz

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you're going to have to touch all of

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them eventually that's really helpful so

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if you figure out what is the goal that

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you're trying to go for and then you

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break it down into these tasks but

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instead of seeing these tasks as things

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that that have to happen in sequence if

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you can think of them as almost like

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lily pads where you can sort of Leap

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Frog around these different lily pads

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depending on your mood and depending on

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how you're feeling then in those moments

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where you feel overwhelmed by a

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particular task or you feel like you

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don't have the motivation or the

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discipline or whatever you want to call

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it you can then just Leap Frog to

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another lily pad and you can make

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progress in that direction I also did an

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interview with writer Mo Gat who's

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written a bunch of books he's amazing

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he's like an World expert in happiness

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happiness research stuff like that but I

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asked him about his writing habit and

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how he managed to write so many books

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and what he said was that he always

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works on like five or six different

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books in parallel and so every day he

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spends a few hours writing I wake up

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sometimes in the morning and I write for

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3 4 5 hours but every morning he asks

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himself which is the project that I feel

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most pulled right now to be working on

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and he just works on that one I loved

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the Journey of writing it I loved the

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Journey of exploration I loved the

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analysis the research I love the

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conversation I had with a friend to say

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does this make sense to you I love all

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of that and it's you know what it's it's

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hours of my life that are filled with a

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joy he's not forcing himself to stick to

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one particular project or one particular

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task in a way he Leap Frogs around

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depending on how his energy is going on

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a particular day and so the question to

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ask yourself to take something away from

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this point is when it comes to the goals

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that I'm pursuing how might I be able to

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start in the Middle with some of them

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rather than necessarily starting at the

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beginning and in moments where I feel

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overwhelmed with a particular task is

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there a way I can leap frog that

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particular task and do something else

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that takes me towards my goals okay tip

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number four is the Horizon habit now

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you've probably heard of smart goals

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which is goals that are specific

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measurable attainable or assignable

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realistic or relevant and te for time

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bound but the problem with setting these

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sorts of goals is that often we can set

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them towards things that are actually

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outside of our control like if you want

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to start a YouTube channel but you set a

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specific goal of hitting a million

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subscribers which is specific and

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measurable and time bound and all that

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kind of stuff it's a goal that's kind of

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out of your control and so it can be

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very demotivating trying to get there

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and so the way Matthew thinks about this

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is setting Horizon goals instead and I

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really like this way of thinking about

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it because the way I think about goals

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is that goals are ultimately just a

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destination they don't actually help us

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get there they're just the destination

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and so Horizon goals are just a way of

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taking the pressure off of the idea of

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goal setting and explicitly allowing us

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to set a General vague directional goal

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that's like over there on the horizon

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but it's not really that specific I like

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to identify that IDE of I'm going to be

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a Storyteller but that I'm going to be a

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Storyteller also allows cuz it's on the

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horizon to be maybe I'll teach

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storytelling someday maybe I'll be a

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consultant about storytelling maybe

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maybe an advertising company will allow

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me to inject storytelling into their car

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commercials which is what I've done

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right all of those things are sort of on

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the storytelling Horizon but it affords

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me the opportunity to be flexible in

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terms of what ultimately is going to

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happen so if your goal is to be a

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musician you might think about all the

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other ways you can incorporate that

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dream into your career you could become

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a band member but you could also try

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songwriting or DJing or radio presenting

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you could learn how to produce music and

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become a technician or a background

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singer who picks up an event management

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job or a teacher or an online Creator

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sharing insights into the music world

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all of these jobs are crucially on the

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music Horizon but this flexibility gives

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you both freedom and also resilience

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which brings us to the next point in the

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book which is tip number five the piano

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precedent and there's a great quote from

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the book which is that 5-year plans are

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inviting the universe to drop a piano on

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you basically if you try and

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meticulously plan out your life then

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it's inevitable that something is going

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to happen that will completely ruin your

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plans now that's not to say that

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planning is not important because making

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a plan is generally quite helpful and

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we've talked about setting a horizon

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goal as your destination so you can

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start working towards it and generally

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you know when I find people come to me

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for Life advice and I ask them well what

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do you actually want they don't really

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have a vision of where they actually

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want to go and it's like that quote from

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Louis Carol's Alice in Wonderland if you

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don't know where you're going then any

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road will get you there but I just

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wanted to ask you which way I ought to

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go well that depends on where you want

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to get to oh it really doesn't matter as

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long as I then it really doesn't matter

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which way you go and there's a graph

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that I really like I think I think it's

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from Darren Brown's book happy which is

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basically all about stoicism which is

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where you've got your plans on one axis

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and then you've got Fate on the other

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axis and the path that your life takes

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is sort of somewhere in between these

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two things you're very unlikely to

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always be going in the same direction as

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your plans but equally having some sort

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of plan will allow you to not just be

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completely buffeted by The Winds of fate

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and you'll be able to sort of chart your

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ship in those in those Waters of Fate

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tip number six the 100-year old plan now

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in Matthew Dix's thingy I think it's one

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of the early chapters in his book which

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I really liked which is that when you're

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at a Crossroads in life try to imagine

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your 100-year-old self and think to

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yourself what advice would my

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100-year-old self give to me right now

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now the example that he uses is where

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he's sitting at his desk and he's

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writing and he's got deadlines and he's

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got work and he's got stuff to do but

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then his son comes up to him and asks

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him to play tag now one option in that

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path is to continue with work because

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you got to be disciplined and you can't

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be distracted and you've got to focus

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but then thinks what would his

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100-year-old self want him to do and his

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100-year-old self is always going to say

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look man go play with the kid because

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there's going to come a day where the

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kid no longer wants to play with you and

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you want to take advantage of the

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moments when the kid is actually Keen to

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play tag with you now similarly Alex

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homo's approach to this he calls it the

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Solomon project is when he does

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journaling but he imagines the

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journaling session as a conversation

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between him and his 86-year-old self a

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practice that I started doing which is I

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have a coaching session with myself

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weird I have a conversation with my

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future self who's 85 and I ask him for

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advice on what I should do now and he

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knows that the 86-year-old has context

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on where where he is at right now and

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what his goals are and what he needs and

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he knows that the advice that the 86y

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old gives him is going to be well the

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right advice and again there's so much

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value in this kind of thinking right

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because the more shortterm we think of

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our life trajectory and the more

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short-term our decision- making the more

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we tend to make decisions based on

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what's urgent rather than what's

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actually important honestly this is

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still something I really struggle with

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far too often when it's a choice between

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friends and work I'll think oh but works

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really fun and I've got this deadline

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I've got you know I've I've got all this

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stuff and so I'll choose work when

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actually I know that my older self would

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have wanted me to choose friends or

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family or relationships or health in

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that moment and tip number seven is the

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purposeful approach now often when we

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talk about productivity and this is

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fundamentally a productivity book it's

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easy to default to thinking that

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productivity means work or hustling or

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business or money you know that kind of

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stuff but sometimes we need to take a

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step back and really think about why we

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want to get things done efficiently so

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when people say productivity sort of

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grinds you down I think of productivity

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is it's the thing that you want to be

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doing that you should be doing more of

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so let's Max imiz our life the things we

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have to do in order to sustain life in

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order to get to the things we want to do

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so we don't have to think of

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productivity in terms of work so the way

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I think of it is that I want to be

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making the most of my time not for its

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own sake or not because I want to

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maximize economic output but actually by

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making the most of my time it frees me

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up to be able to spend my time doing the

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things that truly matter to me and this

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is why Matthew is a big fan of what he

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calls soft goals which are things that

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aren't necessarily productive if you

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look at like the standard definitions of

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productivity but that are intentional

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and that are meaningful to us anyway so

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the action point here is figure out what

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are the soft goals that you want to aim

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for in life what are the things that

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like someone else looking at it might

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not think it's particularly productive

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but for you it's very intentional it's

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very satisfying and it brings you the

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sense of meaning and fulfillment I was

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talking to a client the other day and I

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said well what's your horizon goal and

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she said I want to see the 50 greatest

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movies of all time there's a list in the

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world I have the list and I want to sit

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on my couch and watch the 50 greatest

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movies she said but that doesn't feel

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super productive and I said that sounds

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incredibly productive to me

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because it's your dream let's make sure

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we maximize your work time your chore

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time let's take away all of those little

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black holes of your life that you're

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wasting and make sure that we use all

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that so you can get your ass on the

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couch more often with your husband

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watching black and white movies and so

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now if you can be really productive in

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the areas of your life like your work or

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like your studies or whatever the thing

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might be you free yourself up you unlock

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a lot more time and energy to be able to

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give to the things that truly matter to

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you now as you might know I am

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completely obsessed with reading

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productivity books which is why I ended

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up actually writing one link down below

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but if you're interested in my top

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insights from most of the productivity

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books I read check out this video over

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here which summarizes 107 productivity

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books that I've read into a nine-step

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framework that you can use to level up

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your productivity and do more of the

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things that matter to you so thank you

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so much for watching and I'll see you

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hopefully in the next video bye-bye

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