How to talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
Summary
TLDRThis video script offers nine conversation tips to enhance communication skills, focusing on three key aspects: confidence, connection, and actions. It starts with confidence-building techniques like achieving a deeper voice and cognitive priming to spark interest. The script then moves to connection, suggesting ways to engage in meaningful dialogues by recognizing peak emotions and handling negative conversations positively. Lastly, it covers actions, such as enhancing listening skills and using body language effectively to boost overall happiness and make conversations more memorable.
Takeaways
- 🎤 To achieve a deeper voice, project from the lower part of your throat at around 96 Hertz, which is more attractive to women.
- 🧠 Use cognitive priming to make others interested in what you're saying and to intensify your words.
- 👂 Practice active listening with your body to make the conversation more dynamic and to show that you are truly engaged.
- 🗣️ Learn to pick up on peak emotions in conversations to deepen connections and never run out of things to say.
- 🚫 Handle negative conversations by using 'yes and' to acknowledge feelings and steer the conversation positively.
- 💬 Understand feminine energy in communication to connect better with women and build chemistry.
- 🤝 Enhance your listening skills to boost overall happiness and well-being, as quality conversations can significantly improve mental health.
- 👋 Use hand gestures in sync with your speech to make your communication more memorable and engaging.
- 🎩 Master the art of baton gesturing to appear more confident and to make people want to hear from you.
- 🌟 Practice these conversation skills first by yourself, then with others to become a master at starting conversations with anyone.
Q & A
What are the three key elements happening during a conversation according to the script?
-The three key elements happening during a conversation are confidence, connection, and actions.
How can one achieve a deeper voice quickly as suggested in the script?
-To achieve a deeper voice quickly, one can project their voice from the lower part of their throat by placing three fingers under their Adam's apple and speaking while keeping the fingers there.
What is the recommended voice frequency for being more attractive to women as per the script?
-The recommended voice frequency for being more attractive to women is 96 Hertz.
What is cognitive priming in the context of conversation as discussed in the script?
-Cognitive priming in conversation is a technique that makes the other person aware that what you're about to say is important, which can make them more interested in you and intensify the impact of your words.
How can one ensure they never run out of things to say during a conversation?
-One can ensure they never run out of things to say by picking up on the 'peak emotion' in the other person's response and asking follow-up questions related to that emotion.
What is the recommended approach to handle negative conversations as per the script?
-The recommended approach to handle negative conversations is to use 'yes and' instead of 'yes but', acknowledging the other person's feelings and steering the conversation into a positive direction.
Why is it important to understand how women want to be talked to as mentioned in the script?
-Understanding how women want to be talked to is important because it helps in connecting with them on a deeper level by speaking in a way that matches their feminine energy, which is more flowing and less direct.
How can one enhance their listening skills to boost overall happiness as discussed in the script?
-One can enhance their listening skills by truly hearing and understanding the speaker, which not only boosts the speaker's happiness but also improves the listener's well-being.
What is the influence zone in the context of conversation as mentioned in the script?
-The influence zone refers to the ability to use hand gestures effectively during conversation to make speech more memorable and to appear more confident and impressive.
How can one make their speech more engaging through body language as suggested in the script?
-One can make their speech more engaging by practicing baton gesturing, which involves moving their hands in rhythm with their speech to create a pattern that is easy for others to follow and engage with.
What is the significance of practicing conversation skills alone before trying them with others as per the script?
-Practicing conversation skills alone before trying them with others allows one to become comfortable and proficient with the techniques, making it easier to apply them effectively in real conversations.
Outlines
🗣️ Enhancing Conversation Confidence
The first paragraph emphasizes the importance of confidence, connection, and actions in a conversation. It introduces three tips to boost confidence: 1) Achieving a deeper voice by projecting from the lower part of the throat, which is more attractive according to research indicating that a voice at 96 Hertz is preferable. 2) Using cognitive priming to make others interested by highlighting the importance of what you're about to say, which intensifies your words and makes the listener more engaged. 3) Practicing active listening with your body, which involves maintaining a calm and non-reactive stance to make the other person feel truly heard and to keep the conversation dynamic.
🔗 Building Connection Through Conversation
The second paragraph focuses on the connection aspect of conversations, offering tips to enhance this connection: 4) Identifying and responding to peak emotions in the conversation to deepen the interaction and avoid missing opportunities to connect. 5) Handling negative conversations by using 'yes and' instead of 'yes but', which helps to steer the conversation positively and acknowledge the other person's feelings. 6) Understanding how to communicate with women by adopting a more fluid and less direct conversational style that matches their feminine energy, which is key to building attraction and connection.
💬 Mastering Conversation Actions
The third paragraph concludes with advice on actions within a conversation: 7) Enhancing listening skills to boost happiness and well-being, as quality conversations can significantly improve one's mood and reduce stress. 8) Learning to use hand gestures in sync with speech to make communication more memorable and understandable. 9) Practicing baton gesturing, which involves moving hands in rhythm with speech, to appear more confident and engaging. The paragraph encourages practicing these skills alone and then with others to become adept at starting conversations with anyone.
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Keywords
💡Confidence
💡Connection
💡Actions
💡Cognitive Priming
💡Peak Emotion
💡BetterHelp
💡Feminine Energy
💡Listening Skills
💡Influence Zone
💡Baton Gesturing
Highlights
Understanding that conversations involve confidence, connection, and actions is crucial.
Achieving a deeper voice can be done quickly by projecting from the lower throat.
Voices at 96 Hertz are more attractive to women, according to research.
Cognitive priming can make others interested in what you're about to say.
Using phrases like 'listen very carefully' can prime the listener for important information.
Listening with your body, such as leaning back and not being overly reactive, can make conversations more dynamic.
Never run out of things to say by picking up on the peak emotion in a conversation.
Responding to peak emotions with relevant follow-up questions can deepen connections.
Handling negative conversations by using 'yes and' instead of 'yes but' can steer the conversation positively.
Practicing conversation skills with different tiers of social comfort can refine your abilities.
Speaking with feminine energy can help connect with women and build attraction.
Feminine energy involves a more flowing and less direct communication style.
Enhancing listening skills can boost overall happiness and well-being.
Using hands in conversation, known as baton gesturing, can make speech more memorable.
Practicing conversation skills alone and then with others can lead to mastery.
BetterHelp can provide professional guidance and a platform to practice social skills.
Transcripts
great conversations can make your life
exciting but they don't happen by
accident so today I'm going to give you
nine conversation tips every man should
follow and the best part you can
practice these by yourself first off you
need to understand that when you have a
conversation with someone three things
are happening confidence connection and
actions so today I will show you how to
enhance your conversations by giving you
three tips for each of those segments
let's start with the first part of a
conversation which is confidence number
one achieve a deeper voice in 5 seconds
if you want to make your voice deeper in
5 seconds just watch this as soon as you
do this your voice gets deeper when it
lift it up your voice starts to rise and
you can keep doing this and you'll
notice the difference in tonality all
I'm doing here is projecting my voice at
96 Hertz research shows that your voice
is more attractive to women when it
falls in that range of 96 Hertz and
achieving this is easier than you might
think all you need is three fingers you
see most people's voice comes from up
here this makes your voice higher
pitched your voice needs to come from
down here and this will make your voice
deeper so to do this I want you to grab
three fingers and place them right under
your atam Apple this will help you
locate the position from where your
voice should be projected from so next
you will speak out while keeping your
fingers on your throat this is going to
train you to use the lower part of your
throat if you train this exercise around
5 minutes a day within a week you will
have a deeper Voice number two learn to
make someone interested in you I want
you to listen very carefully to what I'm
about to say because what I'm about to
share with you will likely change your
life forever all right you saw what I
did there this is called cognitive
priming when you use cognitive priming
in conversation it lets the other person
know that what you're about to say is
super important this does two things
it'll make the other person interested
in you and two it's going to intensify
every word you say so I'm going to make
it simple for you I'm going to give you
a cheat code on screen I'm going to give
you three example phrases you can write
these down on your note app and next
time you're in a conversation and you
want to make the other person interested
in everything you're saying I want you
to use one of these three lines the more
you practice cognitive priming the
easier it'll be for you to get people
interested in you number three learn to
listen with your body here's a
conversation hack I guarantee will make
you more friends gain you more respect
and make you more attractive I want you
to look at these two interactions and
together we're going to analyze which
was the good one and which was the bad
boy hey man nice to meet you yeah I I've
seen you around but that that that's
really cool yeah I never got a chance to
stop by yeah yeah yeah where where do
you
work oh I hear bro I hear that job is
brutal that's really cool man that's
really cool yeah yeah yeah hopefully
I'll see you soon yeah yeah I'll see you
around hey what's up brother
how's it going cool cool cool yeah I've
never I haven't seen you around a
lot that makes sense you're a night
shift guy okay that's cool that's cool
yeah so what do you do for a
living
okay wow that's interesting did you
catch that who was having a better
conversation if you said the guy on the
left you were wrong you see this guy is
what we call overreactive notice he was
raising his eyebrows a lot he was
blinking a lot he was leaning in the
tonality in his voice was high
reflecting almost like he was seeking
something this is extremely needy and
reactive now the right side guy he was
more stoic notice he leaned back a bit
his weight is on his heels he smiled and
just let the conversation flow naturally
he wasn't forcing anything when you're
in a conversation do not be physically
reactive when you do this it makes the
other person truly feel heard and it
makes the conversation more Dynamic and
natural all right so far we've covered
the first pillar of a great conversation
which is confidence and this is the easy
one that everyone focuses on but if you
truly want to have great conversations
with anyone we have to move on to the
second pillar which is connection number
four never run out of things to say if
you ever get stuck on what to say when
you're talking to someone you need to
learn how to pick up their Peak emotion
let's say you're spending time with a
friend and you ask him how's it going
and your friend replies back with it's
been going good so far but I've been
feeling really tired lately did you
catch it what is the peak emotion in his
response I'm going to play it back one
more time in slow motion let's see if
you catch it it's big good so far I've
been feeling a little tired lately the
peak emotion and the response is tired
once you understand this you'll
understand that the worst thing that you
can do that destroys conversations is
responding with something like oh that
sucks hopefully you should feel better
soon this creates a missed opportunity
to connect with that person what you
need to do is connect with that Peak
emotion so as soon as you hear a peak
emotion in that conversation here are
three follow-up questions you can
instantly ask when you practice this
technique you will deepen connections
with any person you talk to and you'll
never run out of things to say now
having that emotional intelligence can
sometimes be difficult if you have
nobody to talk to if you yourself can't
express your emotions this is why I
always recommend our sponsor better help
if you don't have a friend a family
member or anybody you can confide in and
really get to express those emotions so
you can find Peak emotions in other
people's conversation you have to check
out better help which I'm going to have
a link down below number five handle
negative conversations the right way
this is the single best sentence you can
say whenever you're in a negative
conversation just say yes and blank
other guys when they're in a negative
conversation they'll do one of two
things they'll either ignore the problem
all together or they'll say yes but and
then try to defend themselves when you
do this you to affect your ability to
connect with someone instead of using
yes but use yes and and steer the
conversation into a positive direction
for example let's say a girl says oh you
never respond to my text you can respond
yes and the reason for that is blank
let's say a friend says oh you never
swipe up on my stories you could say
something like oh yes and the reason for
that is I've been really busy at work
when you say yes but you're reject their
thoughts and you end the conversation
when you say yes and you acknowledge
what they're feeling and you build on
top of that which builds positive
connection so far I've given you five
skills you can use to better your
connections your only job is to practice
these like I said you can practice these
by yourself but if you want to practice
with somebody here is a tier list of
people that I recommend you try this out
on in the CTI category practice with
that friend that has social anxiety that
can't talk to anybody not only are you
going to help them out but you're going
to feel way more comfortable in B tier
you have family mom dad cousin sister
brother the doesn't matter you already
feel somewhat comfortable with them and
you can practice these skills with them
in the a tier though it's the guys that
are like the Social Butterflies anybody
in your friend group that just can talk
to anybody practice these with them cuz
that's how you really refine your skills
now if you got none of these there's no
reason I'm going to put this in the S
tier practice with somebody that's a
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under understand how women want to be
talked to to Really connect with women
and make them attracted to you you need
to speak to them and their feminine
energy you see as men we're used to
speaking in a masculine tone we often
speak with fewer words and are direct
with what we want women on the other
hand they flow when they speak meaning
that if you try to speak to women like
this in that direct tone to try to build
chemistry it'll never work women easily
connect with men when they speaking that
feminine energy if you've ever had a
woman tell you yo they liked your Vibe
or that they connected with you and if
you didn't I promise you if you listen
to this TI they will but the reason
they'll ever say that to you is because
they were actually able to flow in a
conversation it wasn't as Direct in
clearcut and this is exactly what
feminine energy is now the trick here is
to only use feminine energy when you're
trying to connect with a woman there is
a point where you can use too much
feminine energy and then should just see
you as a friend so far we've covered two
aspects of a good conversation
confidence and connection this leaves
the last part of a great conversation
that everyone forgets it's what I call
actions number seven enhance the power
of your listening skills to boost
overall happiness listening to someone's
speak and truly hearing them is not only
the easiest way to boost their happiness
but it also boosts your own well-being
research reveals that just having one
quality conversation a day can
significantly increase your happiness
and lower your stress levels now face
Toof face conversations were found to be
the most significant but even phone
calls made a difference which is why
again if you have nobody on the top of
your head to talk to if you feel lonely
better help is such a great solution cuz
with better help you can contact them
through video calls you can contact them
through a call or you can talk to your
therapist over text you can choose how
you communicate with them so you never
truly feel lonely and you can always
talk to to somebody about whatever
you're dealing with that day that week
that's going to significantly improve
your happiness and boost your well-being
guys want to check out better help
they're going to be linked down below
number eight learn how to use your hands
in conversation this trick it makes your
speech more memorable it makes others
understand you easily when you master
this influence Zone you're going to look
confident and you're going to impress
any girl you talk to number nine make
people want to hear from you by Gest
gesturing to the rhythm of your speech
this is called baton gesturing or
gesturing to the rhythm of your speech
when you're not familiar with your body
language it can cause your body and
hands to move out of sync with how you
talk this is what makes you come across
this awkward because you appear confused
or unsure and you see humans love
patterns when humans see something that
doesn't fall in sequence or in a pattern
it like doesn't sit well with us and
that ends up distracting us from what
you're actually singing so go in front
of a mirror and start practicing moving
your hands with the rhythm of your word
it's going to engage whoever you're
talking to and it's going to make you
look more confident and now you have
finally mastered the three aspects of a
great conversation start practicing
these by yourself then try them on other
people and I promise you you'll be able
to start a conversation with anyone
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