How A Man Processes His Feelings And Realizes You're The One (Or Pulls Away).

Summary

Dating coach Elliot Scott debunks the myth that men pull away to process their feelings when they like someone. He explains that emotionally available men who desire a relationship won't retreat but will communicate openly. Pulling away is often a sign of emotional unavailability or fear of commitment. Scott advises that if a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he will avoid risking losing her and will invest in the relationship rather than playing games.

Takeaways

• 😀 Attraction is crucial in relationships; without it, a man might not commit or invest in the relationship.
• 🔗 The link to an ebook is provided for maximizing attraction, which is essential for a man's commitment.
• 🚫 Contrary to a common myth, emotionally available men who want a relationship won't pull away to process their feelings.
• 🧠 It's counterintuitive for a man to pull away when he's emotionally available and wants a relationship; it's a risk to the connection.
• 🤔 Men are risk-averse, and pulling away when things are going well can create uncertainty and jeopardize the relationship.
• 🚷 When a man pulls away, it's often due to emotional unavailability rather than a lack of attraction.
• 💭 Men who are unsure about a relationship might pull away to avoid the risk of commitment.
• 🗣️ Communication is key; a man who is emotionally available and wants a relationship will communicate his intentions.
• 🚨 Pulling away can be a sign of uncertainty about the relationship, not necessarily about the person.
• 💔 If a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he won't risk losing her by pulling away.

Q & A

What is the main topic of the video transcript?

The main topic of the video transcript is how men process their feelings when they like someone and the relationship is potentially becoming more serious.

What does Elliot Scott, the dating coach, believe about men pulling away to process their feelings?

Elliot Scott believes that emotionally available men who want a relationship will not pull away to process their feelings. He suggests that it's counterintuitive for a man to pull away when he wants a relationship.

According to the transcript, what is the role of attraction in a relationship?

Attraction is described as the foundation of a relationship. Without enough attraction, a man might not invest, initiate, or maintain contact.

What does the dating coach suggest is the real reason men pull away in relationships?

The dating coach suggests that men pull away due to a lack of attraction or emotional unavailability rather than to process their feelings.

What does the term 'context' refer to in the transcript?

In the transcript, 'context' refers to the things a couple does and says over time that creates an atmosphere of seriousness or a relationship vibe.

Why does the dating coach say it's risky for a man to pull away when things are going well?

The dating coach says it's risky because the masculine energy is about providing, satisfying, and protecting. Pulling away can risk all of that and create uncertainty.

What does the dating coach mean when he says men are 'risk-averse'?

The dating coach means that men typically avoid situations that could lead to loss or harm, such as pulling away from a relationship that is progressing well.

What advice does Elliot Scott give for women who think a man is pulling away to process his feelings?

Elliot Scott advises that if a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he won't put himself in a position to lose her. He suggests that women should consider that he might not want the relationship rather than assuming he is processing his feelings.

What does the dating coach suggest is the key to understanding a man's behavior in a relationship?

The dating coach suggests that communication is key to understanding a man's behavior in a relationship. If a man is emotionally available and wants a relationship, he will communicate his intentions.

What does the dating coach imply about high-value men and their approach to relationships?

The dating coach implies that high-value men are more likely to communicate openly and invest reciprocally in a relationship without playing games or pulling away unnecessarily.

What is the final message from the dating coach to women in the transcript?

The final message is that if a man truly likes a woman and wants a relationship, he will not put himself in a position to lose her. Women should be cautious of making excuses for men who pull away and consider that they might not want a relationship.