China is beginning to see a lot of gold diggers!How do 'gold diggers' make men spend money？

Summary

The script discusses the tactics of 'gold diggers', individuals who manipulate relationships for financial gain. It outlines various strategies used, from feigning interest to creating sympathy, ultimately to extract wealth. The narrative includes real-life examples, highlighting the psychological traps set by such individuals. It warns of the signs to identify gold diggers and emphasizes that genuine relationships are not built on financial transactions but on mutual respect and shared values.

Takeaways

• 😌 A gold digger would not immediately ask for money but would instead build a facade of hard work to gain trust and elevate their status.
• 🤔 They would create a sense of emotional connection by showing interest, giving hints, and playing on your feelings without being too forward.
• 😢 Gold diggers may use vulnerability as a tactic, claiming past hurts to elicit sympathy and secure more investment from their targets.
• 💼 They might hint at their value by mentioning gifts from other suitors, subtly pressuring you to invest more to prove your interest.
• 💸 Once they've assessed your financial limit and taken enough, they may distance themselves, seeking the next target.
• 🔍 There are different levels of gold diggers, from those who openly ask for money to those who use emotional manipulation and charm.
• 💰 The most sophisticated gold diggers create an illusion of deep investment while rarely contributing substantially to the relationship.
• 🏠 In the example given, the woman's escalating financial demands and conditions for marriage suggest a gold digger's behavior.
• 💔 Gold diggers are unlikely to provide genuine loyalty and dedication, focusing instead on material gains.
• 🚫 The speaker advises against pursuing relationships where one party is only invested in the financial aspect.
• 🎯 Attraction and relationships should be based on mutual interests and qualities, not solely on financial impressing.

Q & A

What is the primary strategy a gold digger might use to gain someone's trust and affection?

A gold digger might present themselves as a hard-working person, making the other person feel at ease while subtly raising their own status, getting close, pretending interest, and giving sweet hints without taking the final step.

How does a gold digger manipulate someone's emotions to their advantage?

They might play on the person's emotions by sharing a story of past hurt, creating a sense of pity and security, which leads the person to invest more emotionally and financially.

What is the purpose of a gold digger hinting at the value of ceremonies and gifts from other suitors?

This is a tactic to influence the person to invest more in the relationship, by suggesting that they value grand gestures and material expressions of commitment.

How do gold diggers typically behave when they sense they have reached the financial limit of the person they are targeting?

They may become distant, causing the person to increase their financial efforts to regain the gold digger's attention, until the person is financially drained and then they move on to the next target.

What are the common tactics of the second type of gold digger mentioned in the script?

The second type uses a method of being intermittently warm and cold, creating an illusion of interest without genuine investment, and accepting gifts even after rejection of romantic advances.

How does the third type of gold digger make a person emotionally invested?

This type treats the person exceptionally well, using beauty and sincere behavior to guide them, making the person feel deeply invested and emotionally valuable.

What is the ultimate goal of the most high-level gold digger as described in the script?

The ultimate goal is to skillfully guide the person to believe that their needs are being considered, while the gold digger's true intention is to exchange emotional value and appearance for material gains.

What advice does the script give regarding the pursuit of a relationship based solely on financial investment?

The advice is to give up early on relationships that are based purely on financial investment, as such individuals are not worth pursuing and true relationships are not determined by money.

What is the significance of the 'Golddigger' training classes mentioned in the script?

These classes are significant as they allegedly teach young girls how to extract money from wealthy men, indicating a systematic approach to the behavior described in the script.

How does the script describe the behavior of gold diggers when they are about to achieve their goal?

Gold diggers may delay their commitment by creating excuses and using tactics that play on the person's gambler's psychology, making them reluctant to give up and continue investing.

What is the script's final advice on identifying and dealing with gold diggers?

The final advice is to be aware of how often a person mentions money and to not be deceived by the belief that someone might be an exception to the typical gold digger behavior.

Outlines

00:00

💰 Understanding Gold Diggers' Tactics

The first paragraph discusses the manipulative tactics of gold diggers, who present themselves as hard-working and gradually gain trust to extract money. It outlines three types of gold diggers: the basic type who openly asks for money, the sophisticated type who uses mixed signals to create illusions of affection, and the advanced type who provides emotional value to make the target emotionally invested. The paragraph also includes a personal story where a friend has spent over 100,000 yuan on a woman with increasing demands, suggesting that her intentions may not be genuine.

05:05

🤔 The Consequences of Financial Pursuit in Relationships

The second paragraph explores the issue of financial investment in romantic pursuits, warning against the unscrupulous behavior of some individuals who exploit others' affections for monetary gain. It tells the story of a friend who spent 200,000 yuan on a girl who demanded a 500,000 yuan car, illustrating the tactic of gold diggers to raise their perceived value. The paragraph also reveals the existence of 'gold digger' training classes in Shanghai, targeting wealthy men, and shares a story of a wealthy man who lost 2 million yuan to a trained gold digger.

10:07

🕵️‍♀️ Identifying and Avoiding Gold Diggers

The third paragraph provides insights on how to identify gold diggers by their frequent mentions of financial struggles or desires for luxury items. It shares anecdotes of a girl aggressively seeking wealthy men at a high-level gathering and successfully acquiring gifts and money from them. The paragraph emphasizes that genuine interest in a person does not revolve around material wealth and warns against the common excuses gold diggers use to delay commitment while exploiting their targets.

Keywords

💡Gold Digger

A 'gold digger' refers to a person, typically a woman, who is primarily interested in a romantic partner for their money or material wealth. In the video transcript, this term is central as it describes individuals who manipulate relationships for financial gain. The script outlines various tactics that gold diggers may use, such as feigning interest or playing on emotions to extract money from unsuspecting individuals.

💡Manipulation

Manipulation is the act of influencing someone's behavior or emotions in a deceitful or cunning way to achieve one's own ends. In the context of the video, it is how gold diggers control the narrative of the relationship to make their targets invest more emotionally and financially. Examples include pretending to be interested or using past heartbreaks to gain sympathy and financial support.

💡Bride Price

Bride price, also known as dowry, is a sum of money or property that is paid by the groom or his family to the bride's family upon marriage. In the script, the bride price is a significant point of discussion, with the woman increasing the amount she expects, which is indicative of her gold-digging behavior.

💡Materialistic

Materialistic refers to the quality of being primarily interested in money and possessions. The video discusses the stereotype of gold diggers as materialistic individuals who value wealth over genuine relationships. It also contrasts this with the behavior of 'normal girls' who are not primarily interested in material gain from their partners.

💡Emotional Investment

Emotional investment is the psychological engagement and attachment one develops in a relationship. The video transcript describes how gold diggers encourage emotional investment from their targets to increase their leverage and ability to extract financial support.

💡Ceremony

In the context of the video, 'ceremony' refers to the rituals and traditions associated with marriage, including the exchange of gifts and money. Gold diggers may use the importance of ceremony to hint at their expectations for expensive gifts or financial support.

💡Intermittently Warm and Cold

This phrase describes a behavior pattern where a person alternates between showing interest and being distant. In the script, it is used to describe a tactic employed by gold diggers to keep their targets emotionally engaged and uncertain, thereby maintaining control over the relationship.

💡Sympathy

Sympathy is a feeling of pity for someone else's misfortune. The video mentions gold diggers using stories of past heartbreaks to gain sympathy and financial support from their targets, playing on their emotions to achieve their goals.

💡Pseudo-Romantic Relationship

A 'pseudo-romantic relationship' is a relationship that appears romantic but lacks genuine emotional connection. The script describes how gold diggers maintain such relationships to continue receiving financial support without committing to a real emotional bond.

💡Gambler's Psychology

Gambler's psychology refers to the tendency to continue investing in a situation, hoping to recoup losses or achieve a desired outcome, even when the odds are against them. The video transcript mentions gold diggers exploiting this psychology by making their targets believe that further investment will lead to a committed relationship.

💡Red Envelope

A red envelope is a traditional Chinese gift that usually contains money, given during special occasions such as weddings. In the script, the expectation of receiving red envelopes with specific amounts of money is used as an example of the financial demands made by a gold digger in the context of marriage negotiations.

Highlights

Gold diggers avoid asking for money directly initially, instead presenting themselves as hard-working to gain trust and raise their status.

They get close, pretend interest, and give hints without taking the final step, waiting for the target to confess feelings.

Gold diggers may claim past hurt to seek pity and security, luring targets into their trap.

They hint at valuing ceremony and past suitors' gifts to manipulate the target into spending more.

Becoming distant makes the target seek the gold digger's enthusiasm by spending more money.

Gold diggers drain the target's resources and then move on to the next victim.

There are different types of gold diggers, from basic ones asking for money in various situations to more sophisticated ones using warm and cold tactics.

Advanced gold diggers treat the target exceptionally well, making them emotionally invested and spending money willingly.

High-level gold diggers skillfully guide the target to believe they are being considered, while their true intention is material gain.

Gold diggers are unlikely to provide loyalty and dedication that the target may mistakenly think they need.

The case of a man spending over 100,000 yuan on a woman who keeps raising demands for marriage, indicating potential gold-digging behavior.

Gold diggers use tactics of raising their value and playing on the target's gambler's psychology to keep them investing.

Gold diggers often make new demands once the target agrees to their requests, keeping them as a provider.

Attracting someone should rely on qualities, not impressing with money.

Existence of 'Golddigger' training classes in Shanghai teaching young girls to extract money from wealthy men.

A wealthy man discovered his girlfriend, who attended a golddigger training class, had been dating multiple men for financial gain.

A gold digger's blatant behavior at a high-level gathering, trying to extract benefits from powerful bosses.

Gold diggers often mention money and financial struggles to manipulate targets into providing financial support.

Gold diggers may test a target's wealth by asking about cars, houses, jobs, and income.

Gold diggers respond to confessions of feelings with delaying tactics, indicating they are fishing for more investment from the target.

Transcripts

If I were a gold digger, I definitely wouldn't ask you for money right away.

Instead, I would present myself as a hard-working person,

making you feel at ease while raising my own status.

I would get close to you, pretend to be interested, and give you some sweet hints,

but never take the final step.

When you couldn't help but confess your feelings,

I would tearfully tell you that I've been hurt before and need a lot of love to feel secure.

When you feel pity for me, you will have fallen into my trap. I would hint that I value ceremony,

mentioning what other suitors have given me. When you, influenced by my hints,

invest more and become more entangled, I would become distant. To seek my enthusiasm,

you would have to spend even more money. However, once I see your ceiling and have

drained you sufficiently, I would kick you aside and look for the next target.

There are several types of gold diggers. If you have a better condition, you might have

encountered these types. The first type is the most common and basic gold digger.

They will ask you for money in various situations. Asking for money when going out,

asking for money on dates, or even during a birthday party at home.

The lowest level gold diggers might even ask you to order takeout for them.

The second type of gold digger is more sophisticated. They will use a method of

being intermittently warm and cold to make you think they have feelings for you,

but they are not particularly invested. They might act cold when you are enthusiastic and

become warm when you are indifferent. They may give you some hints, such as leaning closer

during your time together, creating an illusion that they like you. Even if you confess your

feelings and are rejected, they will still accept your gifts.

The third type of gold digger is even more advanced. They treat you exceptionally well,

making you willing to spend money and provide emotional value,

leading you to become emotionally invested. They use their beauty and sincere behavior to guide

you, making you feel they are deeply invested. However, in reality, they rarely make substantial

contributions and might continually change your thoughts and perceptions. They might use their

past romantic experiences to gain sympathy, such as saying, "All my serious relationships ended

because the guys didn't cherish me." But the actual reason for the breakup was that her

ex found out she was trying to extract money from him.

The most high-level gold digger skillfully guides you to believe she is fully considering your

needs. Her true intention is to exchange emotional value and appearance for material gains.

You might end up suffering because you are unclear about what you truly need.

You may think you need just emotional value, but in reality, you need loyalty and dedication.

Gold diggers are unlikely to provide that.

Everyone, please help analyze if this woman is a gold digger.

Just now, my friend left a message on WeChat, asking me to help analyze whether this woman

has any problems and if she is normal or not.

He has been with the woman for a year and a half. He said he has transferred a total of about 90,000

yuan to her, and including the money spent on her, it totals around over 100,000 yuan.

When they talked about getting married, they initially agreed on a bride price of 88,000 yuan,

but now it has increased to 108,000 yuan. The woman said, "If you want us to get married in 2024,

the bride price should be 108,000 yuan. You need to buy a car worth no less than 300,000 yuan,

the house must be bought by the man in full, and the woman's name must be added to the title."

Additionally, when both parents and relatives meet, each red envelope given to these relatives

should not be less than 2,000 yuan.

Then, a separate red envelope with an auspicious amount of 10,001 yuan should be given to the

woman.

During the engagement, another 10,001 yuan red envelope should be given.

The three gold items for the wedding should not be less than 30,000 yuan.

She said that if he can meet all these requirements, they will get married in 2024.

If not, they should break up and not waste each other's time.

I think this woman's intentions are not pure.

I don't know what you all think about this, and you can also give him some advice on whether

he should continue with this woman or give up.

Anyway, my suggestion is to give up, as I think this woman's intentions are not pure.

Don't always say that we girls are materialistic.

You might not distinguish between laro-nu and normal girls.

For example, if a guy spends a lot of money on gifts for a girl,

and the girl says to him, "We're just friends, you're a nice person,"

a normal girl would decisively and clearly refuse if she doesn't like you.

Even a small gift would not be accepted if she knows you are pursuing her.

If you give her both big and small gifts, and she accepts them but still doesn't accept you

as a person, you need to consider whether the problem is with your own judgment.

Is it possible that the person you're pursuing has issues?

In fact, whether a boy or a girl likes each other isn't necessarily determined by money.

For instance, if I'm having a great and enjoyable time with someone,

I will like that feeling of interaction rather than measuring it with money.

So, if the other person purely lets you spend money without any boundaries,

I think it's better to give up early. Such a person is not worth it.

One of my friends has spent 200,000 yuan pursuing a girl.

The girl told him that if he buys her a 500,000 yuan car, she will agree to be with him.

My friend has been pursuing her for a month, and during this time, he has taken her out to

dinners costing over 1,000 yuan per person and given her gifts worth 5 figures. A few days ago,

he transferred 52,000 yuan to her and confessed his feelings. When I asked him why he was so

generous to this girl, he said it was because the girl had mentioned that when others initially

pursued her, someone had bought her a 500,000 yuan car, but she still didn't agree to be with

him because she didn't like him. My friend thought he should show more sincerity and

not be worse than other suitors, so he was willing to invest so much.

After listening to this, I realized that this is actually a tactic used by gold diggers.

They raise their value and show that they are not materialistic, but when you invest a lot of time

and money and are about to achieve your goal, they will delay because they fear you won't

cherish them. They use this method to make you prove your genuine interest.

Many men who have invested heavily might feel that they truly love the girl and are willing

to continue investing. These gold diggers take advantage of the gambler's psychology,

making you reluctant to give up.

In the end, I want to tell you that such girls often continue to make new demands.

Once you agree to their requests, you will immediately become the provider.

They might fulfill their promise but then find excuses to delay,

keeping you in a pseudo-romantic relationship while you continue to be the provider.

Ultimately, you will either be used as a tool or be ruthlessly abandoned after your value has

been drained. Remember, attracting a girl relies on other qualities, not on impressing her with

money.

I was really surprised to find out that there are actually "Golddigger" training classes

in Shanghai nowadays. These training classes mainly teach young girls how to extract money

from wealthy men. The tuition for these classes is very expensive. It is said to be 50,000 yuan

per hour. The girls attending these classes are usually between the ages of 20 to 28.

Their targets are entrepreneurs, company executives, second-generation rich kids,

or elite men from some trending industries.

Whether you are single or not, you are all their targets.

Recently, a netizen mentioned an incident.

A very wealthy man said that he had been dating his girlfriend for six months.

During these six months, the girl gradually asked him for cash transfers and expensive gifts

totaling 2 million yuan. After six months, the girl asked to get married.

At this point, the man felt that they had not been together long enough to get married

immediately, and the economic situations of their families were vastly different.

It was not a suitable match.

The man's parents also disagreed with them getting married so soon.

Seeing that marrying into a wealthy family was hopeless, the girl proposed breaking up,

and she refused to return the cash transfers and gifts she had received.

At this point, the man realized that he had been deceived.

Later, the man used some connections to find out that the girl was simultaneously dating

several men and even used the same phrases.

He then realized that this girl had attended a golddigger training class.

He later recovered part of the money through legal means.

I have seen an extremely straightforward gold digger, who made no effort to hide her intentions.

A few years ago, a young girl used her connections to follow a boss into one of our high-level

gatherings. These gatherings are held several times a year, initiated by the most powerful

bosses in the circle, and very few outsiders can participate. Upon hearing about the gathering,

this girl begged one of the bosses to bring her to learn. When introducing herself,

she claimed to be the business director of a certain company. Whether it was her keen sense

or some other reason, during the meal, she quickly identified the most powerful boss

present and ran over to toast him with her glass of wine.

To everyone's surprise, she directly sat on the boss's lap.

After being pushed away, she tried to sit again but was scolded by the boss,

and she dejectedly returned to her table.

That night, back at the hotel, she used the excuse of borrowing a powerbank to knock on my door,

saying she wanted to learn more about our industry.

I obviously understood her intentions, so I immediately refused her through the door.

Later, I learned that she went door to door knocking on several bosses' doors that night

and added several bosses' contacts.

The next day, she insisted on riding back with the second most powerful boss in the

circle but was also refused.

Do you know what happened next?

After returning, this girl continuously visited those bosses from the gathering.

I heard that she got a BMW from one of the bosses and received some money from two smaller

bosses, totaling hundreds of thousands of yuan in cash.

Just this trip alone, she probably harvested over one million yuan.

Those bosses who gave her benefits were later ridiculed by us.

In fact, such things are not uncommon in our circle, but wasn't her behavior a bit too

blatant?

Identifying a gold digger is actually quite simple, you just need to look at how often

she mentions money.

Think about it, when you like someone, don't you want to show your best side?

If she constantly says things like, "Oh, I owe for water, I owe for electricity, I owe

for service fees, I have to pay rent tomorrow, work isn't going well, I haven't made any

money recently, I can't afford to eat," regardless of whether she directly asks you for money,

if she keeps talking about her poor living conditions, she is likely a gold digger.

There are also some women you can identify as gold diggers without even meeting them.

If she immediately starts asking about your car, house, job, income, and so on, in 99% of cases,

she is testing how much money you have. At this point, you mustn't save face,

because in the end, you'll likely end up with nothing.

Another type of gold digger is one who constantly comments on how nice a bag looks,

how good a piece of clothing is, or how great a watch is. I want to tell you that if a girl

genuinely wants to date you, she would be too shy to ask for anything directly.

But why do so many people still get tricked?

Because what I'm most worried about is that you think she is an exception.

Finally, let me tell you how a gold digger usually responds when you confess your feelings.

A gold digger might say, "Hmm, I think we're moving too fast.

I want to get to know you better, see what kind of person you are.

I believe relationships should develop naturally and take their time.

When the time is right, we'll naturally be together."

If you think you've heard this response before,

congratulations, you're just a fish in her pond, she's fishing for you.