Tactics and Mind Games of the Female Covert Narcissist
Summary
TLDRCe script de vidéo éclaire les personnes impliquées avec un narcissiste, en particulier les femmes narcissiques couvertes, et explique les pièges et tactiques qu'elles emploient. Il détaille comment ces individus attirent et retiennent leurs partenaires grâce à des traits comme la protection, l'aide, l'intégrité et l'amour. Le processus englobe la phase d'attirance, de manipulation et d'ancrage, menant à un cycle de push-pull abusif. L'objectif est de sensibiliser à la reconnaissance des signaux d'alarme et de fournir des conseils pour se protéger et éventuellement se libérer de ce type de relation toxique.
Takeaways
- 🚫 L'auteur insiste sur le fait qu'il n'y a pas de fin heureuse dans une relation avec un narcissiste, surtout de type 'covert' féminin.
- 🔍 Le script met en lumière les pièges et tactiques utilisés par les narcissistes féminines couvertes pour attirer leurs partenaires.
- 🤝 L'auteur utilise l'acronyme 'PHIL' pour décrire les caractéristiques clés des personnes attirées par les narcissistes féminines couvertes : protecteur, aideur, intégrité et aimant.
- 🎣 La première étape de la stratégie du narcissiste est de vous attirer en vous montrant sa vulnérabilité et en vous faisant croire que vous êtes spécial.
- 💣 Le narcissiste utilise souvent le sexe comme une arme pour attirer et captiver l'attention de la personne cible.
- 🔐 Une fois que la personne cible est 'accrochée', le narcissiste 'donne du fil' pour que la personne s'accroche encore plus avant de la ramener plus près.
- 🗝️ L'intégrité est utilisée comme moyen d'ancrer la personne dans la relation, en lui faisant répéter des promesses pour renforcer son engagement.
- 🔄 Le cycle de pousser-tirer commence après que la personne soit complètement enchevêtrée dans la relation, avec des périodes d'attention et d'admiration alternant avec des attaques personnelles.
- 🧩 Le narcissiste travaille à briser l'individu pour le rendre dépendant et à son service, en le séparant de ses amis et sa famille.
- 🚫 L'auteur conclut en soulignant que rester dans une relation abusive pour des raisons telles que les promesses ou l'espoir d'aider est incorrect, et qu'il faut se dégager de telles relations.
- 📚 Pour ceux qui cherchent à en savoir plus sur le trouble de la personnalité narcissique, il est recommandé de visionner d'autres vidéos ou de consulter des playlists dédiées à ce sujet.
Q & A
Quel est le principal sujet du script vidéo ?
-Le script traite de la manière dont les narcissiques couverts féminins attirent et manipulent leurs partenaires, et comment les personnes peuvent se protéger de ces comportements.
Pourquoi les personnes ne s'éloignent-elles pas toujours lorsqu'elles voient les signaux d'alarme dans une relation avec un narcissique couvert ?
-Le script suggère que cela est dû à la vulnérabilité des personnes à tomber dans les pièges et tactiques du narcissique couvert, plutôt qu'à une incapacité à reconnaître les signaux d'alarme.
Quels sont les deux types de personnes que le narcissique couvert féminin cherche comme partenaires ?
-Les deux types sont un autre narcissique, via un processus de mated assortative, et une personne avec des caractéristiques clés décrites par l'acronyme FILH (Protecteur, Aide, Intégrité, Affectueux).
Quel est le rôle du protecteur dans la relation avec un narcissique couvert ?
-Le protecteur est quelqu'un avec un instinct protecteur fort, motivé naturellement à protéger les personnes qu'il aime.
Pourquoi un aide est-il attiré par le narcissique couvert ?
-Un aide est quelqu'un qui a tendance à aider les autres et à être de service, voire à être un héros, ce qui est attrayant pour le narcissique couvert.
Quelle est l'importance de l'intégrité dans le type de personne attirée par le narcissique couvert ?
-L'intégrité est importante car il s'agit de quelqu'un qui tient ses promesses, ce qui est essentiel pour l'ancrage dans la relation.
Comment le narcissique couvert utilise-t-il la vulnérabilité pour attirer son partenaire ?
-Elle montre sa vulnérabilité et s'ouvre à son partenaire de manière à ce qu'il se sente en mesure de la sauver, de la protéger et de la rendre en sécurité.
Quel est le but de la phase de pêche au narcissique couvert ?
-Le but est de faire croire à la personne cible qu'elle est spéciale et de l'attirer émotionnellement et sexuellement pour qu'elle se sente en sécurité et aimée.
Comment le narcissique couvert utilise-t-il la promesse pour ancrer sa victime dans la relation ?
-Elle obtient des promesses répétées de la part de sa victime, en jouant sur son intégrité et sa valeur des promesses, pour l'empêcher de quitter la relation.
Quel est le but de la phase de jeu de chat et de souris dans la relation avec un narcissique couvert ?
-Le but est de confondre la victime, de la faire douter de sa valeur et de son jugement, et de l'assujettir à la narcissique.
Quel conseil le script donne-t-il aux personnes qui se retrouvent dans une relation avec un narcissique couvert ?
-Le script conseille de ne pas retourner dans une relation abusive, de couper autant de liens que possible et, si nécessaire, de chercher de l'aide pour la co- parentalité avec un narcissique.
Outlines
🕵️♀️ Stratégies de manipulation de la narcissiste couverte
Le premier paragraphe expose les tactiques utilisées par les narcissistes couvertes pour attirer et maintenir leur proie. Il met en lumière le profil du partenaire idéal, désigné par l'acronyme PHIL (Protecteur, Aide, Intégrité, Affectueux), et explique comment ces individus sont piégés. La première étape de la stratégie de la narcissiste consiste à 'pister' sa victime en affichant sa vulnérabilité et son côté passionné, ce qui permet de déclencher la sympathie et l'empathie du partenaire potentiel. L'objectif est de provoquer une réaction protectrice et d'identifier les points faibles de la personne cible.
🎣 Phases de la manipulation dans une relation narcissique
Le deuxième paragraphe décrit les phases suivantes de la manipulation narcissique. Après avoir 'pris la morsure', la victime est 'tirée' vers la narcissiste qui simule un retrait pour accroître la dépendance. Cette 'prise' est renforcée par des promesses qui sont exploitées pour 'ancrer' la victime dans la relation. La narcissiste joue sur l'intégrité du partenaire, le forçant à répéter ses promesses pour apaiser les insécurités de la narcissiste. Ce cycle devient un jeu de chat et de souris où la victime est constamment testée et évaluée, se retrouvant dans une relation où elle est constamment évaluée et manipulée.
🚫 Conséquences et sorties d'une relation avec une narcissiste couverte
Le troisième paragraphe traite des conséquences néfastes d'une relation avec une narcissiste couverte et les raisons pour lesquelles il est difficile de s'en échapper. Il met en garde contre les erreurs courantes qui maintiennent les personnes dans une telle relation, comme le sentiment d'avoir promis ou d'aimer la narcissiste. Il insiste sur l'importance de ne pas retourner dans une telle relation et de couper tous les liens possibles. En outre, il invite à consulter d'autres ressources pour apprendre à gérer une relation de co-éducation avec une narcissiste.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Narcissiste couvert
💡Relation abusive
💡Protection
💡Aide
💡Intégrité
💡Affection
💡Manipulation
💡Vulnérabilité
💡Cyclone émotionnel
💡SEP
Highlights
Recognizing the tactics used by a female covert narcissist in relationships
Understanding why people don't leave despite seeing red flags
The importance of not blaming or shaming victims of narcissistic abuse
Identifying vulnerability to falling prey to a female covert narcissist
The two types of partners a female covert narcissist is interested in
The acronym FIL(P)HI as a descriptor for the ideal victim
The role of a protector in attracting a female covert narcissist
The significance of being a helper and its implications
The importance of integrity in the victim's profile
The desire for a loving partner by the female covert narcissist
The luring phase: how the narcissist attracts and hooks the victim
Using sex as a weapon in the luring process
The role of vulnerability in the initial stages of attraction
Mapping out the victim's emotional landscape for manipulation
The subconscious tactics of the female covert narcissist
Reeling in the victim with promises and commitments
The anchoring process to ensure the victim never leaves
The abusive push-pull cycle in the relationship
The confusion and self-doubt instilled by the narcissist
The impact on the victim's individuality and self-worth
The manipulation of the victim's social circle
The transformation of the victim into the narcissist's possession
The consequences of the victim's good qualities in the wrong hands
Advice on leaving the abusive relationship and not returning
Guidance for co-parenting with a narcissist
Encouragement to like, comment, share, and explore more on NPD
Transcripts
if you are in a relationship with a
narcissist especially if you've been in
more than one
then this information will help you
recognize the traps and tactics that the
female covert narcissist will use on you
and i will also explain the reasons you
don't always run when you see these red
flags
this information is not about blaming or
shaming you it's really about helping
you identify what makes you more
vulnerable to falling prey to the female
covert narcissist and how to protect
yourself from her
my videos on mental illness are for
educational purposes only
so if you are looking to learn more
about narcissistic personality disorder
and other mental illnesses
as well as how to handle and protect
yourself then you're in the right place
but if you need support please seek help
as much as npd is a serious mental
illness it does not give that person the
right to hurt you you are not put on
this earth to survive someone else's
abusive behavior
so the first thing i want you to know if
you are in a relationship with a female
covert narcissist there is no happy
ending
so i'm going to jump right in and first
i want to address
what she is looking for in a partner
i believe there are only two types that
she's interested in
one another narcissist which happens
through a process of assortative mating
which is the subject of another video on
narcissistic couples
but the second type of person they're
attracted to has key characteristics and
i'm going to use the acronym fill
p-h-i-l to describe this type of person
that is so appealing to the female
covert narcissist
and i will tell you why
not only do these types of people get
hooked and reeled in but they also get
anchored so that they can never leave
the p in phil stands for protector the
female covert narcissist wants someone
with a strong protective instinct
someone who is naturally motivated to
protect the people that they love
the h stands for helper this is someone
who is inclined to help others and to be
of service even
to be a hero
the i stands for integrity and this is
someone who does what they're what they
say they're going to do it's a person
who keeps their promises and this is
super important when it comes to
anchoring you
l stands for being loving the female
covert narcissist wants someone who is
going to love her wholeheartedly someone
who will give her attention affection
praise and make her feel special on
demand so here's how it all plays out so
the first phase in the process is where
she lures you
the narcissists believe she's special so
she has no problem making you believe it
too and she will come across as the most
energetic fun smart and sexy woman you
have ever met she will immediately fire
you up emotionally and she'll fire up
your sex drive
part of the female covert narcissist
lure is almost always using sex as a
weapon she will bring out that
passionate side in you and sexual
excitement that you didn't even think
existed in real life
she will sex bomb you that's like love
bombing but in the bedroom
but the real key to the luring stage is
showing you her vulnerable side and
opening up to you in a way that she's
never done before with anyone else
and she'll do this quickly
how you respond right here will
determine whether you make the cut or
whether she moves on to a more suitable
fish
when you give her lots of empathy and
compassion she knows she can easily cast
you into the hero role making you feel
like you are the only one in the whole
wide world who can save her protect her
and make her feel safe
you're the only one who understands her
you're the only one who can help
if you bite hard here
she knows that your protector helper
hero instincts are high and that your
need to be needed are strong enough to
keep you enrolled in the long game
in this luring stage she's also mapping
you out emotionally to find out what are
your insecurities
what are your deepest fears
what are those intimate secrets no one
else knows about you and in these deep
conversations where you feel so
connected where she's opening up to you
and you're opening up to her about
things you've never talked to anyone
else about before well
this will be used against you later
she's asking a lot of questions about
you
because
she's going to use the information to
manipulate you
now as you will learn if you watch my
video on myths about the female covert
narcissist
many of these tactics are subconscious
they are survival skills that she's
learned she's not planning out some evil
personal attack on you
at least not usually
and now
the second phase of the process now that
you've taken the bait before reeling you
in she needs you to bite even harder to
take the whole sinker so like any good
fisherman she will give you some slack
when she feels you're on the hook she'll
pretend to pull away
in reality she's waiting for you to come
back and when you do she will real real
real you in
she usually does this in one of two ways
either she creates a fake scenario to
make it look like you've done something
something to hurt her deeply
or she simply pulls away and when you
ask why she plays up her fears of being
hurt she talks about how she's been hurt
in the past and how she's afraid you'll
do the same
again
she's playing on your helper instincts
and you need to be needed she's trying
to elicit a response and the response is
a promise she wants you to promise and
profess that you are different you would
never do that to her and she will pull
out as many promises as possible from
you because she already knows you're
going to do everything in your power to
keep those promises
once those promises are made
that's hook line and sinker
but wait there's more
once she's reeled you in she needs to
anchor you
so that you never leave and she does
this by playing on your integrity even
more
because you are someone who values your
promises
she gets you to repeat those promises
over and over under the pretense that
she needs reassurance because she's so
afraid so vulnerable and here's the
caveat she actually is incredibly
sensitive and insecure
what she really needs here is for you to
feel like you can never ever break the
promises and commitments you've made to
her
hence the reason a smart sensible person
has such a hard time leaving this
abusive relationship
and then
she'll test you she'll throw a few bombs
in to make sure that you prove your
integrity and once you do the real game
of cat and mouse begins
in this case
if the game is still unclear to you
you are the mouse you're the one being
toyed with
here is where the abusive push-pull
cycle begins that hot and cold jekyll
and hyde or whatever you want to call it
it's thought back and forth between
pulling you in to meet her needs for
attention and admiration and then
crushing you
and she'll crush you by highlighting
your faults your weaknesses your
insecurities your fears and you will be
wondering where that sweet sexy goddess
went
don't worry she'll be back
only it will be for shorter and shorter
periods
the real goal in this stage is to
confuse you to make you question your
judgment your worth to make you lose
your individuality and blend right in
with her to make you feel like you are
lucky to have her and to ensure that you
keep her you will constantly
praise her and you'll never go against
her you'll stop holding your ground
because the consequences of standing up
for yourself are too intense and too
damaging so you'll start to shut down to
feel helpless maybe even anxious
depressed because she's eroding your
sense of self
breaking you down
and if you start to pull away she'll
sense that right away and she'll give
you a glimpse of what attracted you to
her
she might even build you back up
slightly like a cat who pretends to let
the mouse go just to pounce on it again
as it's getting away
and on top of all this she'll separate
you from your friends and family she'll
be insanely jealous when you give any
attention to anyone else even if it's
your kids she'll threaten to leave and
she'll do anything to exert more and
more control over you
you basically become her possession
that's responsible for keeping her happy
making her look good taking care of all
our needs while you get well
nothing
abused
and because you're a good person someone
who wants to protect and keep your loved
ones happy and safe someone who wants to
keep your promises
all these amazing qualities when in the
right hands
but when in the hands of the female
covert narcissist
these are
really really detrimental
to you so if you're staying because you
made promises or because you still think
you can help her or save her then you're
staying for the wrong reasons
if you're staying because you think it's
love
it is not and in my opinion the only
thing worse than being in an abusive
relationship is being in it for one more
day
and if you manage to break loose or get
discarded don't go back
there is no such thing as no strings
attached with a narcissist
cut as many ties as possible and if
you're unlucky enough to be in a
co-parenting relationship with a
narcissist then you'll want to check out
my video on co-parenting with a
narcissist
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