How to use CAN, COULD and MAY to ask for permission

Summary

This lesson explores the nuances of asking for permission using 'can,' 'could,' and 'may.' While all three phrases serve the same function, 'may' is the most formal, 'can' is informal, and 'could' sits in between. The script highlights the evolution of usage, showing that 'can' is now more common than 'may.' Additionally, it provides examples of polite responses to permission requests and demonstrates how to say no graciously. Overall, the video emphasizes the importance of context and politeness in communication.

Takeaways

• 😀 'Can I', 'Could I', and 'May I' are all phrases used to ask for permission.
• 🤔 'May' is the most formal way to ask for permission, while 'Can' is the least formal.
• 🗣️ 'Could' is more formal than 'Can' but less formal than 'May'.
• 📈 Contemporary usage shows that 'Can I' is ten times more common than 'May I'.
• 🎤 'May I' is still important in formal contexts, such as speeches or customer service.
• 👌 Common polite responses include 'Sure' and 'Why, certainly.'
• 🙅‍♂️ A gentle way to say no is using 'I’m afraid' followed by a reason.
• 🚫 Firm refusals can include phrases like 'Not on your life' or 'In a word, no.'
• 🤝 Understanding the appropriate context for each phrase improves communication skills.
• 🔗 Learning these distinctions helps navigate social situations more effectively.

Q & A

What is the primary focus of this lesson?

The lesson focuses on the differences between the phrases 'can,' 'could,' and 'may' when asking for permission.

How do the phrases 'can,' 'could,' and 'may' differ in terms of formality?

'May' is the most formal, 'could' is slightly more formal than 'can,' which is the most informal.

Why is it important to know when to use 'may'?

'May' is still relevant in formal situations, such as public speaking or when providing a service to a customer.

What example illustrates the use of 'can' in a casual context?

An example is asking, 'Can I park here?' which is direct and informal.

What kind of response is appropriate when someone asks 'May I leave work early?'

A polite response would be 'Yes, you may' or a simple 'Yeah, OK.'

How has the use of 'may' changed over time in everyday speech?

The use of 'may' has declined, with speakers now ten times more likely to use 'can' instead.

What does the phrase 'I’m afraid' imply when responding to a request?

'I’m afraid' softens a negative response, making it a gentle and polite way to say no.

Which two responses are considered the most formal when accepting a request?

'Why certainly' and 'Please do' are the most formal ways to say yes.

Can you provide an example of a firm refusal?

An example of a firm refusal is, 'Not on your life,' indicating a strong disagreement.

How can understanding these phrases improve social interactions?

Knowing when to use 'can,' 'could,' and 'may' enhances communication by ensuring appropriateness and politeness in various situations.