The Biggest Mistake Intelligent Men Make With Women
Summary
TLDRThis video script explores the common mistake intelligent men make in relationships with women, focusing on the importance of emotional attraction in the present moment. It discusses how men often expect women to appreciate their deeper qualities without first creating a connection in the here and now. The script highlights the differences in attraction between men and women, emphasizing that while men can be instantly attracted to physical appearance, women are more focused on how they feel emotionally. It also touches on the evolutionary aspects of attraction and the traits that make men emotionally attractive to women, such as confidence and emotional strength.
Takeaways
- đ§ Intelligent men often expect women to appreciate their deep, intellectual qualities without realizing that initial attraction is more about immediate interaction and feelings.
- đ€ Men tend to be attracted to a woman's physical appearance first, whereas women prioritize how a man makes them feel emotionally in the present moment.
- đ The script emphasizes that a man's success or depth of character is not the primary factor for a woman's initial attraction; rather, it's his ability to create a positive emotional experience.
- đ The speaker suggests that societal and historical roles have influenced how men and women approach relationships, with men expected to be providers and achievers, influencing modern dating dynamics.
- đ It's highlighted that women are attracted to men who display confidence and emotional strength in real-time interactions, not just intellectual prowess or future potential.
- đ« The script refutes the notion that women are solely interested in rich and successful men, stating that attraction is more about immediate emotional connection and potential.
- đĄ The importance of understanding and accepting the differences in how men and women experience attraction is underscored as crucial for successful relationships.
- đŹ Communicating on a deep, intellectual level is valued in long-term relationships, but the speaker stresses that initial attraction relies on more immediate, emotional interactions.
- đ The speaker encourages men to display traits that are universally attractive to women, such as confidence and social intelligence, to enhance their appeal in the dating scene.
- đ The script concludes by promoting the speaker's program, Master Attraction, which aims to teach men how to make a strong emotional impact on women to foster attraction.
Q & A
What mistake do intelligent men often make when it comes to attracting women?
-Intelligent men often expect women to be attracted to their intellectual or deep qualities without engaging in superficial interactions like small talk or flirting, which are important for creating initial emotional attraction.
Why is it important for men to understand the difference between their 'deep down' self and their 'here and now' self when interacting with women?
-Understanding this difference is crucial because women prioritize how a man makes them feel in the present moment over who he is deep down. Men need to display traits that create immediate emotional attraction.
How does a woman's attraction to a man differ from a man's attraction to a woman?
-A woman's attraction is more focused on how a man makes her feel emotionally and his ability to create a connection in the present moment, whereas a man's attraction is often more visually driven and immediate.
What role do ancient attraction instincts play in modern dating?
-Ancient attraction instincts still influence modern dating by prioritizing traits such as a man's ability to provide and be a strong partner, even though societal roles have evolved and women are now more independent.
Why do women need to feel attracted to a man in the 'here and now' rather than just appreciating his deeper qualities?
-Women need to feel attracted in the 'here and now' because emotional attraction is created throughćœäžç interactions and feelings, which are essential for building a connection and relationship.
What does the speaker suggest is the key to making a woman feel attracted to a man?
-The key to making a woman feel attracted is to display traits such as confidence, emotional strength, and the ability to create sexual tension through flirting and assertive behavior.
How can a man demonstrate his potential to a woman without already being successful?
-A man can demonstrate his potential by showing traits like ambition, initiative, and the ability to make progress towards his goals, even if he is not yet successful.
What is the importance of a man being able to handle social interactions and create excitement in a relationship?
-It is important for a man to be able to handle social interactions and create excitement because it shows emotional intelligence and strength, which are attractive traits that women look for in a partner.
Why might an intelligent man struggle to find a partner if he only focuses on his intellectual qualities?
-An intelligent man might struggle to find a partner if he only focuses on his intellectual qualities because he may neglect the emotional and social aspects of attraction that are crucial for forming a connection with a woman.
How does the speaker suggest men can improve their attractiveness to women?
-Men can improve their attractiveness to women by understanding and displaying the traits that create emotional attraction, such as confidence, social intelligence, and the ability to flirt and create sexual tension.
Outlines
đ§ The Misunderstanding of Intelligent Men in Attraction
The paragraph discusses the common mistake intelligent men make when it comes to attracting women. It highlights that intelligent men often expect women to be attracted to their inner qualities and intelligence, overlooking the importance of creating a connection in the present moment. The speaker emphasizes that women prioritize how a man makes them feel emotionally, contrasting with men who can be physically attracted instantly. The paragraph also touches on societal and historical roles, suggesting that women are drawn to men who can demonstrate their potential and capability in the present, rather than just their intellectual depth.
đȘ Emotional Intelligence and Social Interaction
This section delves into the importance of emotional intelligence and social skills in attracting women. It points out that women are not only looking for physical appearance but also for signs of confidence and the ability to handle social interactions. The speaker explains that women test men to see if they can maintain their composure under light tension, which is a form of excitement for them. The paragraph also addresses the misconception that women are only attracted to rich and successful men, arguing that women are more interested in a man's potential and emotional strength.
đ The Importance of Present Interaction in Relationships
The paragraph focuses on the maintenance of attraction in relationships, emphasizing that attraction is not just created but must be sustained through ongoing interaction. It discusses how men in relationships should understand that women's attraction is based on current behavior and emotional connection. The speaker advises men to display traits that are attractive, such as confidence and assertiveness, rather than expecting women to be attracted to their inner qualities alone. The paragraph also addresses the automatic, instinctive nature of attraction and how it differs between men and women.
đ Balancing Deep Connection with Immediate Interaction
The final paragraph discusses the balance between a man's deeper qualities and his immediate interaction with a woman. It explains that while women do appreciate intelligence and depth, they first need to feel attracted in the present moment. The speaker argues that once the initial attraction is established, women become more interested in a man's deeper thoughts and qualities. The paragraph also stresses the importance of understanding the differences in how attraction works for men and women and the need for men to create an emotional connection in the here and now to maintain a successful relationship.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄIntelligent Men
đĄEmotional Attraction
đĄPhysical Appearance
đĄSmall Talk
đĄFlirting
đĄHere and Now
đĄSexual Tension
đĄConfidence
đĄInsecurity
đĄEmotional Dominance
đĄAttraction Traits
Highlights
Intelligent men often expect women to be attracted to their inner qualities rather than surface interactions.
Men tend to prioritize physical attraction over getting to know a woman's deeper self.
Women value how a man makes them feel in the present moment over his deeper intellectual or philosophical traits.
Small talk and flirting are seen as superficial by intelligent men but are essential for women to feel attracted.
The importance of a man's actions in the present, rather than his potential or future ambitions, in attracting women.
Ancient attraction instincts still influence modern relationships despite societal changes.
Men are biologically wired to seek physical attraction, while women look for emotional connection and stability.
The role of confidence and emotional strength in making a woman feel attracted to a man.
How a man's ability to handle social interactions and create excitement affects a woman's attraction.
The misconception that women only want rich and successful men, debunked by global mating preference studies.
The necessity for men to understand and adapt to the differences in how men and women experience attraction.
The importance of a man's emotional intelligence in creating and maintaining attraction in a relationship.
How a man's approach to interaction can make a woman feel girly and desired, enhancing attraction.
The rarity of men who can display emotionally attractive traits, making those who do stand out to women.
The shift in a woman's interest from immediate emotional attraction to a deeper appreciation of a man's intellect and character.
The need for men to balance their deeper qualities with the ability to create feelings of attraction in the present.
Mastering the art of attraction involves understanding and displaying a range of traits that women find attractive.
Real-life success stories from men who have applied the principles taught for attracting women.
Transcripts
if a man is intelligent he'll be used to
understanding things very easily in life
and being right about most things in
life but when it comes to women there's
a mistake that intelligent men make that
causes them problems throughout their
entire life when it comes to women and
many intelligent men never figure this
out and I'll talk about this mistake in
terms of single men and men in
relationships with women so as a single
man an intelligent man will often make
the mistake of wanting women to want him
based on who he really is deep down to
appreciate how intelligent he is how
philosophically intelligent or
academically intelligent he is how much
he knows about life or who he really is
deep down because who he is on the
surface is a man who has to interact
with other people and get through life
and he has to talk in a certain way and
behave in a certain way but who he is
deep down is someone different entirely
he is a man of substance he is a man of
depth there is really a lot more to him
and he wants women to really know that
side of him and see that side of him and
like him because of that and as a result
he may see small talk and flirting and
having a fun conversation with a woman
as superficial nonsense right I don't
need to engage in those sorts of things
women should know that I'm a great guy
who I am deep down is amazing and women
should just know that but the
intelligent man forgets to realize that
when he looks at a woman he can find her
instantly attractive based on her
physical appearance and he doesn't know
who she is deep down and he can start to
have that love at first side experience
because men place the most importance on
how a woman looks but women place the
most importance on how a man makes them
feel and that is emotional attraction so
while a woman will feel attracted to a
very deep introspective and intelligent
man she needs to be able to feel
attracted to the version of him that is
in the Here and Now first right so
there's the deep down version of you and
then there's the version of you that's
in the here and now it's about how you
make her feel when you're interacting
with her right now it's not about how
deep you are how intelligent you are how
amazing you are or could be it's about
how she's feeling right now and the way
that a woman works is like a mirror of
how the world works so for example a man
may be very intelligent he may have Big
Dreams and Ambitions he may have ideas
that could change the world that's all
great but what is he doing about it in
here and now is he actually doing
something about it is he making progress
on that and doing something about it or
is he just a guy with a lot of ideas a
lot of thoughts and some wasted
intelligence wasted Talent right who is
he in the here and now is he able to
make something happen in the here and
now and it's difficult for some men to
come to terms with that because a woman
doesn't really have to do anything and a
man can find her attractive she can
literally stand there and say blah blah
blah blah blah blah and a man will want
to have sex with her anyway so why does
a man have to be able to do something
why does a man have to be able to create
something in the here and now when he's
interacting with her one of the reasons
is how our attraction has developed over
time and if you look back into human
history it has always being the man who
is the bread winner the man who has to
go out there and make something of
himself the man who has to be strong and
Achieve something and women have been
the ones to stay put basically have kids
take care of them make some food be a
nurturing presence and so on now of
course in today's world women can get a
job they're out there working for the
most part but that doesn't mean that the
ancient attraction instincts that have
developed over time have suddenly gone
away our instincts have remained and one
of the instincts for example is
regarding food even though for most of
human history it wasn't easy to have
enough food there is so much food
available now but the instinct to eat a
lot of food and stock up and add some
fat so you can survive times where there
isn't a lot of food hasn't gone away and
a lot of people really can't control
that part of themselves where they feel
the need to eat lots of food right their
instinct is saying eat eat eat and if
they have a lot of weight on their body
and they don't eat for 4 5 hours 6 hours
they feel really hungry and their body
is pushing them to eat more food and not
lose any of that that fat that they have
stored even though they don't need that
fat even though they could survive of
very limited food for quite a long time
just using their fat stores and drinking
water and just getting enough nutrients
but the body's instinct to push the
human to eat enough food store enough
fat is still there it hasn't gone away
just because we have supermarkets or you
can use an app to order food to your
house the instinct is still there so
with women the instinct to be with a man
who is able to create something in the
Here and Now who is more than just the
deeper side of himself is still there
she still wants to be able to look at a
man as being someone who can handle
himself in a social interaction who has
emotional intelligence who is going to
be able to interact with her and if
she's playing a little bit hard to get
if she's adding some light tension into
the interaction he's not going to fall
apart he understands that women will
sometimes add in some light tension to
test guy to see how strong he is and
other times women will let it in because
they want some excitement in the
interaction they like the guy and they
want to make sure that there is a bit of
a spark between them and the guy rather
than it just being neutral and flat and
then there's just nothing there because
a man's attraction to a woman Works
differently he doesn't need her to say
or do anything in order to want to have
sex with her he can just look at her and
say yes he doesn't need her to be able
to create some sexual tension in the
moment be able to to use some humor be
able to handle the tests of her
confidence that he's trying to put her
through right I'll challenge her now and
see how strong she really is is she
strong enough for a guy like me can she
protect me is this a woman that I can
get behind in life because she has her
crap together emotionally and mentally
in almost all cases a man is not trying
to find that out about a woman he looks
at her he finds her attractive
physically and now if she's just
friendly and nice then fantastic he'll
have sex with her in most and in many
cases he'll get into a relationship with
her because of how his attraction works
right it's not about trying to find a
woman who's going to be able to make
something of herself in this world are
you going to be able to go out there and
handle other people and Achieve
something big in life are you going to
be able to do that so I can stay at home
and give birth to babies and take care
of them right the man isn't wired like
that a man's attraction is wired to make
him look for a physically attractive
female who is healthy and can have kids
even if he doesn't ever want to have
kids that's what the system of
attraction in his body is driving him to
do to find a woman to plant his seed and
that's one of the reasons why men are
the ones who check women out and they
can instantly have the thought in their
mind of yep I'd have sex with her it's
just very instant and of course if it's
going to be about a relationship rather
than just sex then the man will want the
woman to be nice and friendly and warm
and intelligent and all those great
things but initially a man doesn't
really need anything but a woman does
right she needs to be a to interact with
a man and find him emotionally
attractive she's looking for traits that
suggest he is a confident competent man
who can go out there and interact with
other people or interact with the world
and make something of himself he has
some potential right it doesn't mean
that a man needs to be successful in
life if a man needed to be successful in
life in order to get a girlfriend then
no guy at high school University or a
guy working a casual job part-time job
or a low-paying job will be able to get
himself a girlfriend or get sex no one
will be able to get anywhere so it's not
about a guy having to be successful
first instead what women look for is a
man who has potential and that was
proven in the largest ever study on
human mating preferences which included
37 cultures from around the world these
days on YouTube there are certain videos
that get posted saying that women only
want rich and successful men and you got
to grind and become successful first and
then you'll get a girl and so forth but
those are naive guys who just don't
understand what's going on they haven't
really thought about it and realized
that hang on a second guys at school got
girls guys at Uni get girls when they
don't even have anything yet guys who
have a part-time job or a casual job get
girls guys who work as a waiter or a
bartender get girls guys who have a
low-paying office job get girls they
don't think about that they just think
well look women like rich men and you
know if you want to get girls you just
got to make it you got to be rich and
then girls will like you and prior to
then they're not going to be interested
in you because they're just interested
in the top 5% a men that's all they want
that's all they go for no one's got a
chance even though guys all over the
world get with women when they're at a
very low level in life in terms of
success and they just have a normal job
and they're just trying to figure life
out and get somewhere in life and they
may never become successful but the
woman feels emotionally attracted to the
man she's in love with him she wants to
stay with him so I mentioned that I'll
point out this mistake that intelligent
guys make in terms of relationships as
well so what often happens for men in
relationships is that they will want
their woman to really appreciate who
they are deep down right I'm a really
deep thinker I've got great thoughts
about this or I've got great thoughts
about you right he's got great
intentions with her he's such a good guy
he's a good provider he's helping around
the house maybe he's being really nice
to her he's listening a lot he's there
for her emotionally he does this for her
he does that for her deep down he's such
a good guy and she should want him
because of that or she should just be so
amazed by him because he has such
complex thoughts and he understands so
much about the world politics and so on
yet the reality is that attraction is
created in the here and now and it
continues to be created in the here and
now when you're in a relationship right
when you're single and you walk up to a
woman you create the attraction based on
how you're approaching the conversation
and interaction with her in other words
are you being insecure or are you being
confident are you being passive and just
going along with with what she wants to
do or are you asserting yourself at
times are you letting her see that
there's a guy in front of her that has a
bit of a backbone that is being a good
guy when he's talking to her but he's a
bit assertive he's strong he's not
someone who she's just going to walk all
over likewise are you a guy who's just
going to have a neutral conversation
with her like a friend or are you a guy
who can have a neutral conversation can
talk about serious things but can also
add in flirting can also create sexual
tension with flirting you have the
social intelligence to understand that a
woman's attraction Works differently to
a man's attraction you're not expecting
women to be as simple as a man where a
man looks at a woman just says yep okay
good to go right women aren't that
simple because they're looking for
something else for men what are his
traits what sort of guy is he and when
you display the traits that make women
feel attracted they naturally feel
attracted to you because attraction is a
reaction to attractive traits it's not
something that women can turn off it's
something that automatically happens
it's an instinctive reaction when you
display confidence women automatically
feel attracted to you because of that
likewise if you display insecurity women
automatically feel turned off it's just
an automatic instinctive reaction so the
thing is when a guy is in a relationship
with a woman he has to understand that
she's not the same as him and she needs
to feel attracted in the Here and Now
based on how he's interacting with her
and that doesn't mean that a man has to
put on a big show for a woman and be
very entertaining tell lots of jokes and
always be trying to do things to
hopefully make her feel attracted
instead he just needs to relax about it
and display the traits that are
attractive rather than displaying the
traits that are unattractive and it
doesn't work the same way for women
right a woman can be shy or insecure or
self-doubting and a man's not going to
say well now I don't want to have sex
with her because she's not very strong I
need a woman who's emotionally stronger
than me I need to feel like she's
stronger than me I need to feel like
she's the more dominant Force a man
isn't looking for that sort of thing
he's not going to think that way he's
not going to feel that way unless he's a
very small percentage of men out there
who want a mother figure sort of woman
of course but the absolute majority of
women out there want to be with a man
who is stronger than them emotionally
and this is why you'll sometimes see
women get with men who aren't very
intelligent the guy's a bit of a doofus
right but he's stronger than her
emotionally he's very confident and she
feels attracted to him and she goes
along with that and an intelligent guy
looks at him thinking what does she see
in that guy why doesn't she like me and
the thing is she would like the
intelligent guy so much more if he was
more confident than her if he was able
to interact with her and create some
sexual tension in the here and now which
is what women need they need to be able
to feel that based on the traits that
you're displaying such as you flirting
with her you being more masculine and
making her feel girly in comparison to
you and if you don't do that and you
just want to have a neutral conversation
with her or you want her to really like
you and appreciate you because you're so
intelligent that it's just not going to
work it's like a woman being physically
unattractive and saying to men just like
me because of how confident I am well
men don't place a woman's confidence as
the most important thing that they're
looking for so that's just not going to
work that woman can stamp her feet and
complain all day and say that men are
wrong they should like her because she's
so confident even though she's not
physically attractive but it's just not
going to work likewise a man can be
physically attractive but be emotionally
unattractive to a woman and a woman
won't want him and he'll be like well
what's wrong with this woman I'm better
looking than the guy that she's with and
he doesn't even seem as smart as me
what's going on here well that man is
able to create feelings of sexual
attraction in the here and now when he's
interacting with her so she then gets
with him because emotional
attractiveness is the most important
thing to most women it doesn't make
sense to a lot of guys but it's how it
works that additionally it's also very
rare that a woman will come across a man
who can display a number of the traits
that are emotionally attractive to women
for example it's very rare for a woman
who's physically attractive to come
across a man who doesn't doubt himself
around her who doesn't feel insecure
when she isn't being reassuring of her
interest in almost all cases when she
meets a guy she will notice that the guy
is doubting himself that he's feeling
nervous and unsure of himself because
she's not being reassuring of her
interest and and therefore she feels
emotionally stronger than him she feels
like the more dominant Force emotionally
and that's not attractive to her and the
guy may have big muscles right he is
obviously physically stronger than her
but she feels like he's weaker than her
emotionally all she has to do is give
him a bit of a look and it makes him
feel nervous and makes him doubt himself
and from that she just can't feel
attracted to him and finally another
thing I'll point out is that women do
appreciate a deep thinker an intelligent
man an introspective man and so on but
they need to be able to feel that
attraction first after you get to the
point where you have sex with a woman
when you're single she will then begin
to become interested in the deeper side
of you but initially she's interested in
the side of you that is about the Here
and Now who are you in the here and now
and how is that making her feel then as
you continue on in a relationship if you
are the sort of man who is emotionally
attractive she will fall deeply in love
with you and she will love the fact that
you are intelligent that you're a deep
thinker that you're introspective that
you understand a lot of things about the
world she'll listen to it she'll talk to
you about it for hours she'll be
fascinated with all that sort of stuff
and she'll like you more as a result yet
it's important to understand that that
alone isn't what a relationship between
a man and a woman is about it's not just
about the deeper side of you there's
also the Here and Now how are you making
her feel in the here and now are you
understanding that she's a woman and she
doesn't always just want to have an
intelligent logical conversation with
you she's a woman and she wants to feel
girly in comparison to your approach to
the interaction she wants to be able to
feel your emotional dominance at times
she wants to be able to feel your
emotional strength she wants to feel a
bit challenged by you in the moment
rather than you just being nice and
reassuring and intelligent and wanting
to have logical conversations with her
because you don't really need anything
else from her other than her being a
good woman to you looking good and okay
fine we're all good right you don't need
her to show that she's really strong and
tough emotionally you don't need to see
that from her but just because you don't
need that it doesn't mean that she
doesn't need that you have to understand
that attraction does work differently
between men and women and if you don't
understand that and accept it then
you'll experience problems with women
your entire life right you'll be
interacting with women and you'll feel
disappointed that they really aren't
appreciating the deeper side of you or
your deeper intentions how good of a guy
you are or how amazing of a guy you are
deep down they're not appreciating that
and you want them to yet the thing is
women will appreciate that they'll fall
madly in love with that side of you if
you know how to make them feel attracted
in the Here and Now by the way if you
enjoyed this video and you would like to
learn more than 100 ways to make a woman
feel sexually and romantically attracted
to you in the here and now then head
over to master attraction.com at Master
attraction I teach you all of the traits
that make women feel sexually and
romantically attracted to you and even
if you display five traits then you're
going to be so much more attractive than
men who are displaying the opposite of
the attractive traits you're going to
stand out so much more but if you
continue learning and you're able to
display 10 15 or 20 traits then you
literally become irresistible to women
only recently open Master attraction and
here's what members are saying already
two of the members of the Mac that's the
master attraction Community which you
get access to when you're learning from
the lessons went out to meet women
together and this member picked up a
cute blonde and it was the first girl
that he'd ever picked up at a bar
another member went out and used the
techniques that he'd been learning just
in the first month of the lessons that
you'll get and he kissed six girls in
one night and got three phone numbers
another couple of members met up and had
all sorts of fun with girls all day all
sorts of things were going on there and
three other members caught up and they
were approaching Non-Stop and getting
various good results they were saying
they managed to get a phone number and
one of the guys overcame his approach
anxiety another guy used the technique
that I teach in the first lesson on
confidence and it resulted in his yoga
instruction really wanting him and him
having to basically do nothing but ask
her out and he then hooked up with her
that night and finally another guy used
the technique that I teach in the first
lesson on confidence and he noticed that
women were getting closer to him than
usual they were showing him interest and
giving him what he called the look and
this is what happens when you use the
technique women feel magnetically
attracted to you and it's taught in the
first lesson on confidence at Master
attraction alternatively if you want to
continue learning from me on YouTube
right now watch one of the videos on the
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