What happens when you don't give a narcissist the REACTION THEY ARE LOOKING FOR

Summary

In this episode of 'The Narcissist Code,' Lee Hammock, a self-aware narcissist, discusses how narcissists and toxic individuals often thrive on the reactions they elicit from others. Hammock explains that when these individuals don't receive the expected reactions, such as pleading or anger, they may become enraged or attempt to manipulate the situation. The video emphasizes that not giving a narcissist the reaction they seek can be a powerful tool, as it disrupts their control and can lead to their own unraveling. Hammock also touches on the importance of staying calm and composed when dealing with such individuals, as it can throw them off balance and potentially lead to their own emotional exposure.

Takeaways

• 😌 Not giving a narcissist the reaction they expect can be a powerful strategy.
• 🔍 Narcissists often thrive on the reactions they elicit from others, especially in conflict.
• 🚫 When you don't react as expected, narcissists may become angry or try to manipulate the situation.
• 🧳 Narcissists might use threats of leaving or ending the relationship to provoke a reaction.
• 🤔 They may accuse you of cheating or having someone else if you don't respond as they anticipate.
• 🤯 Narcissistic rage can be triggered by a lack of reaction, which can lead to intense outbursts.
• 💔 Staying calm and composed when confronting a narcissist can make them question your commitment to the relationship.
• 🛑 The 'breaking the shelf' moment is when you decide you've had enough and are ready to end the relationship.
• 💬 Narcissists might try to 'love bomb' you or tell you exactly what you want to hear to regain control.
• 📅 Lee Hammock is hosting a workshop on healing from narcissistic abuse on September 14th, 2024 in Washington DC.

Q & A

What is the main topic of the video script?

The main topic of the video script is about how narcissists and toxic people react when they don't receive the reaction they are looking for, especially in situations where they are confronted with their wrongdoings.

Who is Lee Hammock?

Lee Hammock is a self-aware narcissist who hosts a YouTube channel called 'The Narcissist Code' where he discusses topics related to narcissism and toxic behavior.

What is the significance of not reacting to a narcissist's provocations?

Not reacting to a narcissist's provocations is significant because it deprives them of the energy they thrive on, which is often derived from the reactions they elicit from others.

What is an example of a situation where a narcissist might provoke a reaction?

An example situation is when a narcissist is caught in a lie or doing something wrong and instead of addressing the issue, they threaten to leave or break up to provoke a reaction from the other person.

How might a narcissist react if they don't get the reaction they expect?

If a narcissist doesn't get the reaction they expect, they might become angry, accuse the other person of cheating, or even try to 'love bomb' them to regain control of the situation.

What is meant by 'not giving them the reaction they're looking for'?

This phrase means maintaining composure and not displaying the emotional response that the narcissist is trying to elicit, such as anger, begging, or pleading.

Why is being calm and not reacting considered a superpower in dealing with narcissists?

Being calm and not reacting is considered a superpower because it allows the person to maintain control and not give the narcissist the satisfaction of a reaction, which they often use to manipulate the situation.

What is the term for the moment when someone decides they are done with a toxic relationship?

The term used in the script for the moment when someone decides they are done with a toxic relationship is 'breaking the shelf moment'.

What is the role of the audience's reactions in the video content?

The audience's reactions, such as subscribing to the channel and turning on notifications, help the channel reach more people, which in turn allows the content to educate and help a broader audience.

What is the significance of the phrase 'mental heal is out, mental illness is out'?

The phrase 'mental heal is out, mental illness is out' is used at the end of the video to encourage mental health awareness and to promote the idea that mental health struggles should not be hidden or stigmatized.

What is the upcoming event mentioned in the script?

The upcoming event mentioned is a workshop on healing from narcissistic abuse, which is scheduled for September 14th in Washington DC, co-hosted by Lee Hammock and Nia Renee.